Due in December 07 - look at that bump!

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She's got her new husband and his son and all his family round for dinner so she's not on her own.
Its just she doesnt listen to what i say, ive said we want the time on our own and i know for a fact she'll be on the phone every 5 minutes and wanting me to take the kids round, or she'll come knocking on my door.

Hi guys.

LOL at Miss Polly had a Dolly song - glad it isn't just my DD who's obsessed with it! Still scares me when they come out with whole songs and the right key etc - she's only 2 !!

Buzzy - with DD I menasured around 3 weeks bigger from 28 weeks or so. MW reckonded either LO was big for age or lots of water. No-one mentioned having to be induced early or CS though - just let me go along as eveything else was fine - unconfortable as it was being that much bigger at the end of the day surely LO is better of inside until they are ready? DD ended up being 7lb 14oz and so most of the size was down to water in the end. I'm sure your MW will be monitoring things for you though but having ended up with a CS - after DD got stuck after 19hrs I'm definitley for VB - I'm intrigued by those of you out there wanting a CS - I had such a horrid recovery that however painful
VB is I just can't see it being that bad long term - would love to here other views?

Waiting for my replacement to arrive to do handover for next few days then that's me finished

Fifi can you pop by and visit her before you go home, so that you can leave when you are ready rather than feeling like you have to tell her not to come / leave etc.

Fifi - pretend you didn't hear the doorbell??

Not really, we've said she can come up on xmas eve before ds goes to bed so she can see him and leave his presents etc, but we've made our plans for xmas day and tbh i dont want to change them.
I suppose we'll just have to close the curtains and lock the door and hope she doesnt come up

Thats my plan Amani, phone off the hook and batteries out the doorbell ]grin]

Fifi - we done that a couple time after DD was born - she was born just before Xmas, so we had lots of family taking advantage of the Xmas holidays to come and visit DD. Got too much and exhausting - so we pretended to be asleep and hadn't heard the doorbell!

Wish I had thought of that. I had ranndom (and I mean random) members of DHs family ring the door and I would be expecting my mum or something and DH was back at work turning up - didnt know what to do with them. Will certainly be ignoring this time, plus I can check out of the window first as they have to come through the intercom, but they so wont make the effoort to travel to my house now.

Fifi - how about trying to let all friends/family who might drop in know what your "visiting times" are? You could set 2 hours aside as being the only times you will be ready for unexpected visitors? Or you could do a sign to put on your door -"Shhh - baby asleep and so are we - please come back another time"? Not tried it myself but am lucky enough to have relatives who call first (even my mum who lives 5 minutes walk away!)

Cazzybabs-not when you have one contraction on top of the other as i did! There was no break between them!

Beanstermummy - I had an elective c/s last time and this time am planning a VBAC - however this morning was wondering if I am making the right decision. It would be so much easier to know WHEN the baby is coming so can plan proper childcare. Not sure what I will do with dd if I am in labour for a long time at home (as no doubt even if I go to hospital will only be sent home). Even if my parents are at home too, she will still probably want to play with me/make me read her a book/make other demands on my time etc. This is one thing that is really worrying me.
HOWEVER the main reason for not wanting another c/s is to be able to recover quickly afterwards, as I will have dd to look after as well. I did not really find the recovery period too bad last time but maybe that was because it was elective; also I have nothing to compare it to.

Wizzska - am shocked, horrified and disgusted at no-one giving up their seat for you on the tube. I think I would just ask - I am feeling so stroppy at the moment I would probably take great pleasure in embarrassing someone into giving up their seat for me.

fifi- another option is to have 'your' christmas on a different day- so you can have a family day with no interruptions. I would tell alternate families you are at the other family for the day or say you are visiting friends.
Like the visiting time idea, though housemum- but some people seem to think that they are the exception!

Beanster - yes, it is annoying and I'd love to shout at people, but doing it twice a day, 5 days a week, you kind of lose your fight.

Are we getting to that time when the birth is looming and beginning to seem real? I'm questioning all my birth plans too. Now am on the verge of bottling out of a home birth.

hmm, not really thought about visitors, good luck fifi, can you call her when you get back from your dads wishing her a happy xmas before you go to bed!!! no matter how early it is - sleepless nights and all that guess I'll cross the visitor bridge when it comes to it, although don't think many will drop in unexpectedly. I'm also convinced that baby is now breech, lying in bed sure I felt the cricket ball up under my ribs and all the kicks have been right down below, but I guess MW will confirm next week. Getting my head round a section and I'm ok with it.

Claraq - I had a VBAC last time - things did go on a bit as my waters broke on the Friday but in the end I was induced on the Sunday morning. I was not in "established labour" but was having contractions all Saturday - still managed to spend time with DD1 watching a new video, as I was there for her but without having to be constantly entertaining her. DH took care of the food for her (my appetite was pretty non-existent - I think I just had fruit and toast). Poor DD spent Friday night at her auntie's just-in-case, then Saturday night as well! Obviously it was easier for us as she was nearly 10, but then still disruptive for her. It would have been nice to have a definite date to work and prepare for, but the recovery was so much quicker. Definitely on for another VBAC this time.

Yeah, my mams the exception, if i say come between 3-5 she would come at 6. And she never rings first she just turns up and walks in, and isnt happy if she comes when ds is asleep coz she cant see him then.

(and loving Captain Jack Sparrow advert at the mo) drool...

wizzska- i am so with you. I get a seat on the way in, but not on the way home. Do bear in mind that the seats by the door clearly say 'please give this seat up to someone who is less able to stand'. If your ballsy enough i would go for the direct approach- I am leaeving work at 4 and taking paperwork home in order to avoid this.

wisska - I have to say I'm not shocked that no one will give up their seat, I took a train south when I was about 24wks last time, I'd reserved a seat and when I asked the guy to move out of it (very politely) because I couldn't stand up for 4 hours he was very stroppy and said someone was in his reserved seat so it was a free for all, I said I'm sorry but I'm pregnant and I need the seat and he said (I kid you not) 'prove it' luckily I was visiting my best friend so I offered to show him my scan photos as well as pointing out my (admittedly) small bump - he rather begrugdingly moved but only because an old guy next to him said something like come on mate don't be a prat...

housemum - visiting times are a good idea, we couldn't pretent not to be in or asleep ds would give the game away!
I don't mind unexpected guests if they only come for an hour or so its dh's family who drive for a couple of hours and want to spend most of the day with you - I made sure they did their own lunch and cups of tea but really you just want the house to yourselves and to know when they are leaving!

wizzka - I'm getting cold feet about home birth - something reassuring about having been to hospital before and I keep imagining the worst

We were given the option of having christmas as just the four of us this year but I decided I'd rather not as I think if we do it will be too much of just another day, plus i'll be stressing about dh lying in while I'm up with dd and baby, trying to get dinner cooked etc. We are going to my parents instead so at least that way we can arrive/leave when we want, have dinner cooked for us, have others there to entertain dd so we can sleep etc. We will then probably go to the big xmas family get together on boxing day, but again, for me that's preferable to sitting at home and luckily with my family, although there are hundreds of them, I can just say I'm going for a sleep etc and they won't be bothered.

new thread here

sorry this is better here

I'll just keep quiet about births than shall I???

I m bound to have a difficult one this time!

I went to see the midwife today - eveyrhint find. Heard the heartbeat - don't know how fast it was! It is in the right place LOA! And all is set for my homebirth. My BP is slightly up, but then it always is.

It was parent's evening tonight at school - I am soo tired and get very very wet cycling home and still no hot water.