Due Jan 2008.......................Asleep on our feet..............zzzzzzzzzzz.....................

[MotherofZ]

Hello
am over here...!!!

def worth trying ebay lillyloo?

all this talk of curry is making me hungry... my DP cooks a mean curry (all fresh) so may start hinting... though to be fair on the poor fella he has been doing pretty much all the cooking since I got pg (yay )

Just wondered, is there a thread somewhere with everyone's due dates? Just wondered if anyone else will be curry-munching in earnest at the same time as me (jan 3rd)

Afternoon ladies

Lilyloo ? the things we talk about on here hey! I watched that programme, I thought all three methods were a little extreme but I certainly couldn?t have left my baby outside or left it to scream all night at a couple of days old re the wardrobes - how about ebay or your local paper? Always worth getting some money!

Chunkypudding ? welcome hope you feel much better soon. Speaking from experience, don?t just say nothing or avoid your friend, I had tons of pg friends when I lost my baby earlier in the year and I felt so lonely because they were all too scared to call or see me in case their pg states upset me. I?m really sorry for her; I hope time helps the pain and that she falls again soon. Ohhhh love Heroes

Hello Barristermum hope the trial goes ok, LOL at the tampon test!

Beller LOL it?s true what they say, sometimes people trying for a baby are just not having enough sex! I think I was a Spock baby, I remember the book! I just couldn?t not make eye contact or cuddle my baby, what?s the point of having one if you can?t lavish it with love ? the other extreme would be a bit limiting though if they baby was with you 24-7! Like your dream! I?m scared of Sylar too!

MotherofZ ? sorry you are having a low day DD will be right as rain when you get home! sending hugs! That sorry was a classic ? love the quote too! Do you think cooking Thai curry would help? That?s my speciality. I am going out for an Indian meal tonight with work

Mixedmama ? how are you? Totally agree with all you said about the programme, good for Mums to get exercise and fresh air too not stay inside worrying and peaking out of windows. My sis swore by that book that we can?t mention on MN but I was going to read The Baby Whisperer as I have heard good things about that.

Bettymamma ? see, it works I am now clenching too, if we all remind each other every so often, we?ll get the exercises in let me have your thoughts on The Baby Whisperer think someone was referring to their lady bits as a windsock lovely news for Skibump she and Goingfor3 are together again! hope it went well with HR.

Hey PCM good to hear from you, sorry to hear you are feeling sensitive and to hear your back is sore, mine is killing me today, makes me grumpy everything crossed for your sister hon. I know she?s been through a lot already. Like your names . We have decided Aaliyah Rosemary for a girl and Xavier John for a boy. We are having 2 middle names as my maiden name will be one of them. You keep well hon! yes, Lulubump is one of us have you had your 20 week scan yet hon?

Thinking of you Awen

Lulubump ? you sound lovely and excited interesting about the Italian food!

MIL called last night ? after much pussy footing she said she wanted to buy some things for the baby, told her that was lovely and fine and that she?s been more than generous already, then she started saying she?d wash them too and was going to get sheets and towels and this and that too and I just thought whoa!!!!! My baby, I want to buy these things and wash them, you can?t take that from me and what if I don?t like the stuff? (awful thing to say but I have to take back all the clothes she buys me, they are never me at all) so I told her that I didn?t think she should wash anything as we didn?t know what size the baby would be or what allergies it might have and that it would be an awful shame if all it?s clothes were neutral and that maybe she could buy some stuff when the baby was born and in the meantime, I promised I?d take her shopping with me to get baby stuff a bit later on. I didn?t want to be mean, but she doesn?t work and has so much time on her hands and I just have a vision of her buying it all and never getting a chance to look at things myself! Thanks for listening!!

No problem curry lovers!!! Will dig out my notebook tonight and will try and post a basic curry recipe (most other sorts of curries stem from this) and also the tikka masala recipe (which requries a bit more effort). I'll have to remember to a put a mild recipe on as I love extra fresh green chillies for a spicy hot one!

Hello everyone (hi chunkypudding)

I've just read that BBC 8 min birth and laughed out loud at the last sentence too. Lovely. A colleague has just said his wife delivered their second baby in only 30 minutes, but she needed a lot of stitches .

I reckon a curry and plenty of walking will bring on labour. I think my baby is going to turn up early, by about a week i think. I hope so anyway then i can have Christmas lunch with everyone a little baby and get out of all christmassy chores.

Lilyloo if you're in Yorkshire I might consider buying them from you! We're in need of furniture in anticipation of taking down our ghastly cream fitted cupboards!!

Sorry everyone's feeling a bit down today, sometimes it just gets like that - I was terrible last week, feeling really negative until beanie had a really active day and every little kick and squirm cheered me up

I watched the bringing up baby programme last night and I have to admit I haven't stopped thinking about it since - I didn't think a baby programme would affect me emotionally so much. I don't get gooey over other peoples' babies, or baby programmes on the TV, but the thought of only being able to cuddle my newborn for 10 minutes a day, and the father having no contact at all brings me to the edge of an emotional breakdown. Having said that, I think there is a lot to be said for establishing a routine, but to assume that a one-day old baby is manipulative and "just doing it for the attention" makes me really angry. Of course they're going to cry - they've been wrapped up all warm and cosy with constant motion and warmth and reassuring noises for the past 9 months, then gone through a horrendous ordeal (childbirth) and then brought into this world that is very different to what its used to. If the same happened to communicative adults they'd cry!

Sorry I'd better stop before I get myself wound up!!

I've heard a lot of good said about the Baby Whisperer book - any recommendations here?

Also (bless him!) DH has just sent me a slightly panicky email saying "what books should I read about being a good Dad??"! He had a dream last night about me giving birth and taking the baby home and having our own baby, and I think that coupled with the TV programme last night has really changed him - literally overnight! Its ever so sweet

Also just picked up 2 huge bags of baby clothes from his boss - its got everything from blankets and baby gros to smart outfits and snowsuits!

Ooh I love curries (went off them for the first 3 months!) its taken us about 3 years, but we've finally learned how to cook a great curry without using a jar. I don't know what you'd call it in terms of dopiaza, jalfrezi etc as it usually has mushrooms, peppers, lots of green chillies, tomatoes (fresh and tinned), spinach, onions, garlic, ginger, sweetcorn, and occasionally baby new potatoes. We usually use beef or lamb as the meat base but always end up with about 3 times as much veg as meat!

Mmmm I'm really in the mood for a curry tonight, but we're going round to FILs for a home cooked meal...unfortunately he's not known for being a great cook and the sight of his kitchen has made me want to vomit on occasion. Put it like this, the last time we went to see him he had slug trails all over the grease caked to his fridge. [shudder emoticon]

Hopefully we can persuade him he doesn't want to cook and go out for a curry instead!

Naetha not far Rossendale Lancashire. We often travel to mil in Horsforth Leeds takes about 50 min down m62 then m66. Would only want a nominal amount, let me know . You can always come and have a look if you want.
Will look up gumtree never heard of it.
Have also registered on freecycle so if it comes to it will just have to get rid but will try and sell first as all counts can put towards some new bedding for baby like
one
What a good idea about the curry recipe. Am about to make pizzas with the dc's so could move on to curry if it's successful!

Good afternoon ladies. Ive had a lovely day today. Took ds3 for his first morning at nursery this morning. He took his jacket straight off and went and played with the play doh. No probs with settling him
I had my 24 week check up at 10.45 and I saw the mw who delivered ds4. All is well with bean and my mw said no way is baby big and to enjoy my extra scan tommorrow.
Picked ds3 up at 11.30 and he didnt stop chatting about nursery. Treated ourselves to lunch at Morrisons as a treat.
To top it all just as we stepped in our front door it started to rain.
Lovely.

Naetha - when i'm feeling down as soon as i feel a little wriggle or kick it soon gets me smiling again.

I think i must have a very lazy baby as he/she mostly wriggles and so far no painful kicks. I expect it won't last...

Lol - small world - I work in Horsforth!!

my email address is elliethackray@googlemail if we can take this conversation further without hijacking the thread!

D'oh that's .com btw - I'm terrible for leaving sentences unfinished, or sending emails without putting really important information in them!

Naetha is it .com or .co.uk

whoops x post just sent it.

Naetha ? I?m shattered, feel like I?ve been drugged. Also feeling sick as I?ve eaten so much crap today. It?s just as well we don?t remember being babies isn?t it! I bought my DH the Haynes baby manual www.amazon.co.uk/s/ref=nb_ss_w_h_/026-4363332-6694049?initialSearch=1&url=search-alias%3Dstripbooks& field-keywords=haynes+baby+manual&Go.x=11&Go.y=10 DH is enjoying it! my DH left in a huff after 5 mins of watching last night, I think it was making him cross and emotional!!

Gingeme ? sounds like a good day all the best for tomorrow?s scan

Gingeme - thats ounds so great i think my DS will love nursery - he loves running around.

Ooh Haynes baby manual sounds like a good one Think I'm gonna get the Baby Whisperer for myself

I don't know if this will help you MrsMac, but I've been feeling knackered for the last couple of weeks, and I thought I'd give this Spatone stuff a try, and it's like Miracle-Gro!!

Someone described it as "like little elves prying your eyelids open again" and I'd say thats pretty accurate! If you're short on iron it will boost your iron levels back up again without making you feel constipated

Lilyloo - just got your email, I'll have a chat with DH about it and get back to you tomorrow

No worries just looked on Argos and the childs wardrobe is very similair to
this
And the other two like this
Without the circular feet and only one drawer. The rest in similair style. Hope that helps

I have had both the baby whisperer, Tracy Hogg and the gina ford contented baby and def reccomend the baby whisperer. The Gina Ford drove me mad far too regimented.
Have just dug out my copy to try and read before baby arrives this time

I thought i was really staying on top of this thread this week as working from home but oh no you all just up the pace - well I cannot even aspire to be as good as mrsmc who does amazing catch ups.

Jaffa cakes are very low in fat so barely count on the calorie front.
Antenatal classes meant to start tonight now put off til next week ( 10 week course though) scan on friday.

Have ordered blue satin dress from topshop maternity - looks ok i think.

Have put on a stone, which is apparently fine - they say if you put on 4lbs in first trimester then about a lb a week in the second that is perfectly normal. If normal weight 2 stone gain, if under weight 3 stone gain and if very overweight 1 stone gain is what you should aim for - having said that my mum put on 3 and half with me had 3 kids after me and is still a 12/14 so i reckon much of it is the genes - so am hoping i have my mums - unfortunately i think i have my dads.

Dh and i ahve come to agreement about study hooray which doesnt include placing baby across scanner and fax and have also agreed when we might start looking at items. I think will probably make a list of what we want then try to buy it in the january sales - also some of the websites have good offers.

So for the next month we are still going to do nothing!!!! No vests, no furniture, no pushchairs.

Barristermum glad you not taking jan case. problem is there is always a great case you want to do looming in the wings I have just returned a 10 handed S18 ( sorrry grievous bodily harm) where hardly any evidence against me. Boo hoo. But have told clerks I am taking a year off - yikes that sounds soooo scary.

Also love Heroes and scared of sylar.

On the nappy front i reckon the throw away biodegradable ones seem to be the most environmentally friendly and have the added bonus of being very easy ( need to check cost implications though)

Perhaps the next meet up could be for a curry????

MrsMcJnr - Hope you feel perkier tomorrow! You have my sympathies about MIL, and I don't think you were too harsh at all, very tactful in fact! I told mine that she wasn't allowed to buy ANY baby things until I told her I was ready (she wanted to do a huge shop as soon as I told her at about 16 weeks, and it was way too soon for me).

Gingeme - congrats on DS behaving so well at nursery
Lilyloo - loved that Teddy's wash day bedding. Looks very cuddly.
Neuro - even if you don't have the baby before xmas, you could probably still get out of all the chores by pretending to be immobile (or who knows - by then, it may be almost impossible to get off the couch, so there won't be that much pretending!

HELP - my MIL has invited herself to come and stay with me for two weeks when I have the baby. She lives in the same city, so is this really necessary people? HOW, how, how can I get out of this??? Oh, and she asked me a very sweet (but really quite weird question the other day): 'What would you like to eat after you give birth?'. What she meant, who knows?? I told her I had enough problems deciding what to eat tomorrow, and that I'd let her know if I had any cravings.

She had also offered to come over and clean my house for me. Very helpful, but I'm feeling a bit territorial, OH, and she refers to 'our baby', and says 'we'll have out baby this time next year'. aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaargh.

OK, rant over, phew!

oops, obviously meant to type that she said 'we'll have OUR baby by this time next year'

nicky6 - that is such a cool idea... meet up for a curry. i have mentioned a meet up to the Dec thread as well...hope this is ok... shall we try and set a date.

gingeme done such a good job organising so i can do the organising this time if everyone is up for it.

Oh Lulubump - No! I watched a home birth programme and both her mother and his were there, in the room, in her face - that was way too much for me!!

I think you have to put your foot down with your MIL and tell her that you need life to be as normal as possible for your DD and the baby and that whilst you'd really appreciate her help during the day, you'd prefer it to just be your little family at night. Better still, get your DH to tell her, his Mum after all.

Where's PBirdy these days? hope all is ok with her