Due June 2020: Thread 5

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@gigitree you life safe just got a gorgeous pink satin one for £16! Thank you

Been really upset with husband today. We underpinned our house and added another floor and we rent it out to an ex colleague and his boyfriend. It has separate access through the garden. Husband has been working all week (at home but still not able to spend time with me) and today was doing garden all day as we are turning the garden into lawn. The tenant messaged saying he was bored as his boyfriend works in a supermarket and so could he help with the garden. He clearly didn't want to help with the garden, just chat to my husband. So he's been sat on all our garden furniture all day, distracting my husband, and husband has been sitting down having a chat and drinking wine with him between gardening. Just feel he's putting me at risk and spending time with the tenant he could be spending with me. To top it off, the tenants annoying dog that he never walks has been trying to barge through the gate every time I go through or jumping all over me. Tenant is buying a house but that's going to take way longer now so they'll probably still be there when I have the baby so I'm going to have to either not go in my own garden or have his idiot dog jumping all over me and baby every time. Sorry for the rant but feeling stressed with it all and needed to vent somewhere 😩☹️

Ahhh you’re welcome @Ginfilledcats glad I could help! I’m so pleased with mine!

Oh @peetieswie that sounds so frustrating and upsetting I’m really sorry! You rant as much as you need to!
So infuriating when a dog owner who doesn’t exercise their dog properly and then lets the dog pester everyone else! 🙄🙄

Thanks @gigitree. Just so upset husband is willing to put mine and baby's safety at risk just because the tenant is bored and wants someone to chat to. Particularly as I haven't seen anyone in weeks.

I totally understand @peetieswie have you mentioned anything to your husband?
I feel like men are just oblivious sometimes, it doesn’t make it any better, but I bet he just didn’t think. My husband is too nice for his own good sometimes and I feel like he’d struggle to say no to a friend/tenant if he were in the same position.
You should deffo say something to him, if you haven’t already, mainly because of the risk of him mingling with someone from a different household.

Got lots of bits out from storage (SnuzPod, Sleepyhead, and car seat) - all stuff we had from DD 3 years ago so gave everything a wash... SnuzPod mattress cover did NOT wash well though it shrunk  - so I'm going to try to order a new one. The SunzPod2 matresses are meant to fit.

DD has been all over and climbing into everything pretending to be a baby again so I will wait closer to the time before washing she sheets/covers. Hopefully the excitement will wear off and she will tire of them instead of climbing into them.

Going to try to work until 39w - I don't get paid maternity leave just SMP so will try to work while I can!

I have my OB appointment to discuss ELCS but I'm getting ELCS jitters - trying to weigh up major surgery vs possibility of further damage. I was certain before but now closer to the date I'm starting to freak out!

Urghhh @peetieswie that is so annoying! It's not your DH's job to entertain his boredom!

@LillianFullStop we got a new snuzpod mattress from online4baby. It was only £25, the other one had gone mouldy
not envy

@peetieswie i know exactly how you feel. Feel completely alone at the moment as i constantly have the 3 year old. Today dh was at home and i left them in the garden whilst I sorted the babies bedroom and just kept getting called every time he needed something. Urgh men

My personal feeling is that they’ll extend the lockdown until end of May and then starting lifting slowly. Allowing friends and family to see each other again (but mass gatherings like sport events, gigs etc still prohibited), start some sectors returning to work but keep schools and unis closed and encourage working from home for all that can. Shops/hotels/restaurants etc to then follow in June. I wouldn’t be surprised if it coincides with the last May bank holiday.

Thanks all. I did speak to him (or rather sobbed at him) and was upset on the phone to my mum so she's going to phone him tomorrow and back me up too. He did admit he hasn't been that careful but also made excuses and also seems to back up the tenant on the dog a lot 🙄. Hopefully mum backing me up will drive it home a bit as she's annoyed she can't see us yet he's hanging out with the tenant!

I've got the Moses basket and pram carry cot down and all cleaned and ready to go. Gradually working my way through washing all the clothes, muslins, cot sheets etc. I've my hospital bag half packed.

I finished for maternity leave on Thursday. I'd always planned to stop early, and with coronavirus, was especially glad (I'm a HCP, worked from home the last 3 weeks).

We've a good few weeks of lockdown to go I'd say. Can't see the schools being back this academic year. It has made me reconsider my birth plans a bit - leaning more towards vbac, purely to aim for a shorter hospital stay. In one way, it'll be good if no one's allowed to come and see you afterwards - I found visitors quite overwhelming when DS was born.

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Sorry all I am really behind in replying to the board! I’ve read it all but struggle to remember all the things I wanted to say in my reply...

@peetieswie I’m sorry to hear you’ve had a stressful day I totally understand and it’s even worse when other people just don’t GET why you’re upset. I hope he can see how it’s made you feel and make it up to you. Also it sounds like the tenant is slightly stressful to have around so fingers crossed his house purchase happens soon so he can move out!

I’ve had a slight stress tonight too. Got quite upset that the baby’s room is still a complete dumping ground. Have been trying to organise all of baby’s things - all myself I might add!!! I’ve made a Roman blind for the window, sorted all DDs old things, washed car seat covers and put it all back together, washed dried and sorted most of the clothes up to 3-6 months and made some makeshift storage (just out of boxes!) for now but it still doesn’t feel organised cause there’s so much other crap in there, some ladders that are DHs friend’s that we can’t even give back yet because of lockdown, the cot in pieces, it’s just really stressing me out. I know we’ve got time and in the grand scheme of things it really doesn’t matter at all but I just want to be able to get organised!! Had a little cry to DH about it and he said tomorrow he will put the cot up so at least that will be one step closer. I really want to buy a chest of drawers for the baby’s room (if anywhere is even still delivering furniture during lockdown) but we can’t really afford to spend anything unnecessary at the moment with the coronavirus situation. Never mind I’m sure I’ll get over myself and somehow find a way to get a bit of organisation going. It just feels quite shit that I’ve been working hard at organising all the things and it still looks and feels like a complete tip in there.

Next jobs:
More clothes washing
Wash pram fabric parts
Wash sleepyhead
Put snuzpod up
Put cotbed up
Recover glider chair
Pack hospital bags

Maaaaan that feels like a lot

Sorry to vent about something so silly. Hormonal perhaps! Is it too early for the nesting instinct to have kicked in?

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Oh and also I had a worry today as baby went very quiet for a while, but luckily I went and ate some biscuits and he livened up again. His movements were a lot less energetic through the afternoon and I stated to get worried again, but he’s making up for it tonight!!

I was on the verge of calling the hospital, but it’s an hour each way for us and we’d have to draft in someone to watch 3 yo dd which feels weird and risky at this moment in time.... then I had the guilt that I was putting off ringing them just because of childcare logistics.
Anyway in the end he is back to his usual wriggly ways so I feel relieved. An emotional rollercoaster day!

@UKtoSK YES i had tonsil stones. Arent the totally rank. I could taste them but couldn't find them. When I did there were 3. Could still taste for a week after though.

I anyone else getting chest pain when on their side? Or is anyone getting sharp pains in their boobs or nipples. Ive just had it this evening.
My H popped to my sister's this morning to collect Snooze pod, bouncer, Cocoona and tonnes of clothes, sheets and sleepbags. She had so much more but we couldn't take it all. All of which are in the garage except for the 0-3month stuff which I'll wash.
I got breast pads, maternity pads, nipple cream etc all on Amazon.
Also ordered a swiss ball as sitting is not so much fun anymore. Defo have a waddle now. Feeling much bigger, although Im all bump ive defo filling out at the sides.
Bambino loves music, we've discovered this week. Turns into a proper Tiny Dancer to My H and My amusement.
Have scan on Tues and hospital have called to tell me to come alone. I hope they'll allow me to take some pics or a video for H. Although there are signs saying no cameras.

@Magpiefeather this is exactly how i felt yesterday, my husband said the room looks fine. We still have 2 moving boxes from 18 months ago
Ikea and argos are still delivering i don't know what the delivery times are like

Ive also worryingly developed a cough and temperature. Been self isolating since lockdown except for maternity appointments don't know what I'll do if ive got coronavirus. Toddler also has an awful cough 😭

@AndddddHerewegoagain I’m sorry you’ve had the same feeling it has made me feel a bit less alone reading that though. Sounds like your DH is just as chilled about it as mine. I do think with a hormones raging and feeling the effects of the growing baby day in day out as pregnant women we do feel the urgency a bit more!

I think I’ll just have to bite the bullet and put a chest of drawers on the credit card. Not being able to put stuff away is really getting to me!

And so so sorry to hear you’re feeling ill and your toddler too. Hope you can take it easy and rest lots. If it’s any consolation I now know two people who have had the virus and both have had mild cases, even though one is an ex alcoholic chain smoker with several underlying health conditions and is over 50. Maybe it’s just a bog standard cold? Either way I hope you feel better soon.

@AndddddHerewegoagain with those symptoms, I'd phone and let your midwife know (or call triage). I think at our stage of pregnancy we should let them know. I'm sure it also says on the RCOG guidelines that you should inform your maternity hospital. I hope you are OK. Look after yourself.

We had a cot and single bed from Argos delivered a couple of weeks ago. The delivery drivers said they're classed as key workers as they deliver essential items like washing machines etc. So you should still be OK with shops like that.

We've pretty much finished the nursery. As we don't know the sex, I'm leaving getting things like curtains, cushions etc until I can personalise them more. We have painted it light grey and have a grey black out blind already so curtains aren't essential just yet. I'm very much a planner/prepper and couldn't cope with leaving getting organised til late. Just my personality! So nursery, bedding, cot, crib, pram, car seat, bouncer etc all ready to go. Have made a start on my hospital bags. Plan to have them both done within the next couple of weeks.

Hope everyone has a nice Easter (if you observe it). I've already eaten half an egg! I figure if I can't get away with that when I'm heavily pregnant, when can I?!

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Thanks @Magpiefeather and @APD1981

Had a heavy chest for a couple of days and today my temperature has started to go up. Will keep a track on temperature and phone out of hours later. Not sure theres much they will do unless symptoms worse. Hoping its hayfever!

@Magpiefeather I'm feeling exactly the same, I just want to have everything ready now! So far I've painted the office room and removed all of the junk! Moved the spare bed (which I'm sleeping in right now) into the office room. I now have the nursery emptied and planning on cracking on with the painting next week.

@AndddddHerewegoagain I hope you feel better soon.

Happy Easter! Hope I'm not the only one already scoffing way too much chocolate!

@AndddddHerewegoagain Sorry to hear you're not feeling too great. Hopefully it's just a regular cold/cough, but try to rest as much as possible. Hope you feel better soon.

@Magpiefeather My nursery is also still a dumping ground. I'm hoping to get it cleared this weekend and then put together cot in order to figure out how big a chest of drawers and wardrobe I can fit in the room. Hoping I haven't left it too late to order furniture. I was planning on using Ikea.

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You ladies always make me feel better! My 'nursery' is currently my office as having to work from home so not been able to do as much sorting as I'd like as still need my desk and we only have 2 bedrooms! Will have to put the cot up after he's born I think. We were hoping to move ASAP but corona stopped all those plans so now trying to sort all the junk. Have a 'tip' pile in the back garden under a tarpaulin that will easily fill a skip soon! Still not washed and prepped anything and half my stuff is at my mums house! Argh! And breathe!! Still got a few weeks left to prep 😬😬 Baby clothes, nappies and hospital bag are the next on my list!!

Also, gap have a big 40% sale this weekend so just bought some nursing dresses and tops if anyone else is looking for those! 😍😍

Sigh. I'm bleeding again. 7th time this pregnancy. This time there was a string of bloody mucus in the toilet. Wondering if it's some of my mucus plug or just my ectropian cervix again. Hubby and I did some 'stuff' this morning (not penetrative) so hoping that the discharge is just from that and the blood in it is from my cervix.

I've phone maternity triage and she said just to keep an eye on it if it gets worse. Baby is moving normally and I don't have any pain at all which are good signs.

I'd been nervous about doing anything with DH for a while because of these little bleeds but we were missing being intimate like that. Had to just tell him that I don't think I can do anything again whilst pregnant because I find the blood too stressful to deal with. I get scared going to the toilet with what I'll find. I feel bad for him but I just can't risk it any more.

@APD1981 feel for you that is really stressful try and relax maybe lay on sofa with your legs up or in bed and just take it really easy ? It's understandable that it puts you off sex because you link it with something negative my husband not really fancying it now she moves around so much but we do maybe every fortnight but every time afterwards her movements are so much less and it always makes me paranoid so it's definitely not as fun as usual. X

In triage once again with reduced movements, the monitor was reading fine but I only felt him once. Seeing as this is my third episode since 28 weeks I have to stay in overnight to be monitored, midwife has said if he starts moving more and I'm happy with his movements I should be able to go home so hopefully he gets wriggling! Up here by myself as boyfriend wasn't aloud to come. Will be a long day/night by myself! Atleast I'm in the best place possible to monitor my little man!

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@newbyxx @APD1981 hopefully everything is fine x .
I've been having a stressful afternoon too. Hadn't felt him for a couple of hours as I was out and about however usually when I stand still for a while I'd feel him but not today. Came home had cold water and fizzy drink and some food, he started to move a bit but much lighter and quieter than usual. I think I counted about 10 movements in the past hour but will keep on checking... :-/