Pregnant with second (or third/fourth/etc) baby, due in/around September 2020

[NameChange30]

Hi! Is there anyone out there who already has at least one child and expecting another baby in or around September 2020?

I would love to chat to other pregnant mums who have "been there, done that" at least once before...

I am less excited this time, since I know what I'm letting myself in for 🙈 But also very much looking forward to giving my son a sibling. He will be 3.5 when baby is born.

@Sipperskipper I know exactly what you mean, I'm so glad we've found out early. Funny how quickly you do get yours head around things though, feeling so excited now about a baby brother for my boy and having two sons. Suddenly can't imagine that it could ever be any different.

I'm so sorry to hear about how awful your sonographer was. I have my 12w scan tomorrow and am slightly dreading it. Hope I have someone kind. I'm also under the weather and in a take-no-bullshit frame of mind so they better be nice. Surprised re internal scanner, is that normal for 12week scan? Last time was so long ago that I can't remember it, and they used the one on my tummy at the private appointments (even at 8 weeks)

Hey ladies, sorry I've been quiet. Had really bad nausea and been signed off work for 2 weeks. Cant do anything just collapse on the sofa. Some days all I can do is eat beige food, and some days I cant manage anything at all.

Only 9w 2d so still 3w until my scan. It's really dragging. The nausea is making it so difficult to not tell people. Feel like I'm just having to keep myself shut in the house. DH is being amazing though. Doing so much around the house and all the nursery runs.

I know what you mean on the gender. We're really hoping for another girl. Not that we really mind, but we have all ths stuff for a girl already, and like the thought of 2 girls to play with each other. I'm one of 2 girls, and I think you just expect what you're used to. Might pay for an early gender scan

@Spark27 sorry to hear your nausea is so bad. I’ve only had it mildly and found it really hard.

@MamaB80 my c sec scar is a bit odd and made it hard to see. Plus I’m overweight which doesn’t help! Didn’t need it at my harmony scan or early scan, but Baby was in a tricky position. Plus this woman was just generally impatient with me. In the end she got all the measurements she needed from the abdominal one anyway, just had to press hard on my scar!

Oh @Spark27 it's so bloody tough. I'm struggling too, sickness had improve but keep getting waves of it. Sounds like rest and DH are helping though.

I'm solo parenting for 8 days now. I guess it will make time fo fast. I'm 12 weeks today but don't have scan till next Friday when DH is back. Just feel so knackered and agitated. Work is so busy which isn't helping!

How's everyone else? X

Evening all, sorry I haven't posted in a while. The thread disappeared from "threads I'm on" which is weird (especially as I started the thread 🙄)

I am 12 weeks today and I have my scan tomorrow!! Feeling anxious about it. Hope I can sleep ok tonight, first time around I slept terribly the night before my scan. This is my first scan as I didn't have an early ones. I'm freaking out about both scenarios, something being wrong and something NOT being wrong which means I'm having a baby

Sipper and MamaB belated congratulations on your harmony test results, wonderful news!
I know what you mean about wanting a girl, I feel the same and even though I know it doesn't mater (I love DS more than anything and can't imagine him any other way) it's still hard to shake.
I can imagine it's similar the other way around if you want one of each. Still I think it can often be nice for the children to have a same-sex sibling.

Sipper
Sorry about your bad scan experience I do think you should complain if you can be bothered!

MamaB
Good luck for your scan tomorrow, when is it? Mine is late morning.

Spark
Sorry you've been feeling so rubbish I hope it gets better for you soon, hang on in there!

Chips
Sorry you're struggling too Best of luck with solo parenting for the next week. Bet you'll be counting down the days to DH's return and your scan!

@NameChange30 good to see you back! Wishing you all the best for your scan today, do let us know how it goes. Will be thinking of you.

Good luck for the scans today. So exciting.

Thank you for all the lovely messages. I've woken up feeling ok today, so I'm going to tell myself that I feel fine and see how long it lasts. Hoping I can trick my body

Thank you both! Scan is done, all fine, one healthy looking baby in there. Feeling relieved. Also... shit's getting real!

MamaB hope yours goes well too

Haha. Congratulations x

Hello! Hope everyone is okay. Had 12w scam this morning, didn't have to do the blood tests due to having harmony which was a relief. Baby doing great, he was a bit calmer this time. So lovely to see him. 12w and 1d, due date 9th Sept.

Sorry to hear about those of you still feeling unwell. I seem to have escaped morning sickness but have never in my life experienced this level of exhaustion. This morning I cried at the thought of having to leave the house. It will get better, right? I sound pathetic but I'm normally someone who can't sit still so this is all very different and frustrating! Okay enough if the self pity, sorry!

@NameChange30 congratulations, glad scan went well! I think we might be due date buddies, what date did they give you today? Not that it'll mean they come o. That date if course!! My son was 41 + 2. How about you?

@Spark27 so glad to hear you felt better this morning, really really hope this is a turning point. How are you doing this afternoon?

@Sipperskipper did you complain? During my first pregnancy I had a bad experience. Complained via PALS, heard nothing back which was so disappointing but I also wrote down exactly what had happened and put it in my maternity notes book. Next time I had a consultant appointment she came across it and after that I noticed much improved treatment. It would be worth noting it in your book at the very least I think. Just my thoughts!

@chipsarelife good luck with the solo parenting. Hope it flies by!

Yay, congratulations to you too!

My due date is now 5th September (which means I'm 12+5 today). Based on LMP it was the 9th but I thought it would most likely be brought forward as I have short cycles and know exactly when I conceived

Sorry you're feeling so exhausted and demoralised. FWIW I don't think you are at all pathetic! I've felt much the same for the last 2 months. Pregnancy and the first trimester especially are bloody hard work. I can't believe we basically grow the whole baby in the first 12 weeks and then they're essentially just fattening up / finishing touches for the next 6 months!

Oh and my son was born at 41+4, I was starting to worry about induction but went into labour naturally in the end (I did have sex in desperation and labour started hours later!)

I'm told that subsequent babies tend to be born at a similar gestation or slightly earlier so I'm mentally preparing myself to go to around 41 weeks. We'll see.

I spoke to a doula today which has made me feel calmer about things to come, I am going to book her I think. (First birth was not great so want peace of mind of a doula to support me second time.)

Ps thank you Spark

Great news @NameChange30! My due date is also 5th Sep now, but will have a section at 39w. Hoping I can push it forward to Tues 1st Sep, but will just see what happens.

I will complain I think. I’ve always felt so well looked after during pregnancy (even during the shit show that was my last labour!) but she was just so unpleasant. I’m an HCP so I fully understand the pressures etc people are under, but it really is no excuse.

@Spark27 I hope you continued to feel better today. I’m definitely finding it harder this time around. No dozing on the sofa whenever I need!

Ah so we are due date buddies
Hope you get the c section date you want.

@Sipperskipper I definitely think it's worth complaining. Esp if you're still thinking about it days after the scan. It clearly upset you and if that's the case they need to be aware of it. It's not on at any point, esp when pregnancy can be such a vulnerable and emotional time.

Thank you for all the lovely comments ladies. I had a bit of a blip yesterday afternoon- it kind of felt like everything flipped in my lower stomach and I immediately had a very upset stomach, but was fine after that. Today I seem to be ok. Was awake from 0300-0600 (damn pregnancy insomnia), but then hubby let me sleep til 0900. I've been pretty good all day. Felt a bit sick when getting hungry or if I'm stood up for ages, but I'm learning how to manage it, and it does seem less. I'm hoping I might have turned a corner. Got to take DD to toddler dance class tomorrow through so we'll see

How's everyone doing?

Hi @NameChange30 and everyone else. Just checking in. I'm delighted to say that I've finally had my first day of not being on my knees with exhaustion by midday! Really desperately hoping this is the turning point. It's so nice to have felt like me for the first time in ages (and less irritable with son and husband as a result so I'm sure they were glad too).

@NameChange30 How lovely to have a doula! Please could you tell us a bit more, what does she do, how often do you see her, etc. I did Hypnobirthing last time which helped me feel in control (or as much as one can be in the situation!) and plan to do it again although it might have to be an online course this time as we have very little in the way of childcare options at weekends. Did /is anyone else doing Hypnobirthing or having a doula? Or anything else as added support?

I'm 13 weeks today. Anyone else feeling like it's suddenly going really quickly? Think it's since we've started telling people.

Also had my follow up scan to the Harmony (last scan until 20 weeks!) which was lovely. He was having a jolly good stretch for himself in there - so blinking cute!!

Hope everyone else is well X

Hi, how is everyone?

I'll be 14 weeks tomorrow, thought the nausea and exhaustion had eased but I was sick at work yesterday and felt awful Here's hoping it was a one-off.

@MamaB80
Glad the exhaustion has eased for you! Lovely about your follow up scan too It feels a long wait to 20 weeks now doesn't it?!
My doula also does an antenatal course with a focus on hypnobirthing, I did her course in my first pregnancy and that's how I know her. After the birth she kindly did a debrief with me (which is usually just for her doula clients). So I have known since then that I would probably ask her to be my doula second time around. Her main role is to support and advocate for me during the birth, she will attend the whole thing and will be on call 24/7 from 38-42 weeks. She's meeting with us twice before the birth and has offered to come with me if I have any consultant appts and would like here there, then she will do one postnatal visit. Plus we can go to her antenatal classes if we want a refresher about anything.

Can I join? Will be 11 weeks tomorrow and expecting second at the end of September/beginning of October, DS will be nearly 3.

So far only side effects are tiredness and bloating (and I'm always tired and bloated!) so part of me is finding it really hard to believe I'm actually pregnant. I think I'm particularly worrying because I thought I was pregnant in the summer and then wasn't, so this time I've already done four tests (one to check first one, and two because of spotting). Scan is on 19th and I just really want to get to that point.

Hope you're all feeling OK.

Yay, @prettygirlincrimsonrose we're scan buddy's. You're a day ahead of me as I'm 11w on monday. I also have a DD who will be 3 pretty much same time as new one should arrive (current EDD is the same as her birthday!)
How have you found the wait to the scan? I think its torture

@Spark27 it's really frustrating, I just want to find out if everything's OK. Hope you're not feeling too bad today.

How do you think your DD's going to find it? DS is very sweet but incredibly energetic and likes to drag me round to do things. He also has a definite preference for me over DH which might be a challenge. I'm looking forward to having another baby but DS has got to the stage where he understands a lot and can be negotiated with, plus things like bedtime being fun and pretty straightforward. Bit nervous about disrupting it all!

@prettygirlincrimsonrose, I'm hoping she'll be ok. We're going to tell her once we've have the 12w scan (19th) and know all is ok. So hopefully she'll have enough time to get used to it. She likes routine, but once you explain something to her in a way she understands she pretty good at accepting it.

I'm trying to get her out of the habit of being picked up loads. Mostly because shes heavy, but also because I know it will be more difficult as we go on. Shes also starting on the idea of being potty trained so I'm hoping we can get that sorted over the summer.

I'm sure it will be really difficult/tiring/there will be loads of jealousy, but hopefully it wont last too long

@Spark27 same! I know in the grand scheme of things it won't be long until they can play together but there's definitely going to be some tough bits

Good luck with potty training, and explaining about the baby. DS doesn't talk much so I'm not sure what he's getting, but I've started to mention a baby and a few little brother or sister to plant the idea.

That sounds like bliss. My little girl does not shut up. Ever. She is constantly talking from the minute she wakes until she goes to bed. Everyone comments on it. I swear the 2nd one will hardly talk cos they wont be able to get a word in edge ways. Its sweet, but I always say to my husband 'imagine if we had a quiet one'

DS makes plenty of noise, just not many recognisable words! Also sweet but I'm looking forward to being able to chat to him.

Any thoughts on finding out sex? We did last time and told people we didn't know, can't decide whether to find out again or leave it as a surprise.