Pregnant with second (or third/fourth/etc) baby, due in/around September 2020

[NameChange30]

Hi! Is there anyone out there who already has at least one child and expecting another baby in or around September 2020?

I would love to chat to other pregnant mums who have "been there, done that" at least once before...

I am less excited this time, since I know what I'm letting myself in for 🙈 But also very much looking forward to giving my son a sibling. He will be 3.5 when baby is born.

In bed on your laptop?! Sorry mate no sympathy from me

Ah I'm glad you are close to your brother! It's a generalisation but the people I've met who have DS have been absolutely lovely

🤣🤣🤣 in fairness it was only for an hour yesterday morning. Been in the office rest of the time.

I think I'm starting to show already. I can't do my jeans up. Anyone else?!

Oh god yeah my trousers and belt have been too tight for ages! I need to dig out my maternity clothes already 😭

Hello ladies

Thank you for all your hand holding! What a rollercoaster.

All is good , feedback was that this baby has a 1/10,000 chance of any of the 3 chromosomal abnormalities they test for..so am very happy .

This one is also a boy. I will have two boys and one girl . My kids have also got one older half brother and 2 older half sisters so it balances out . I've just worked out that when my ds is 10, his brothers will be 0, and 30, his sisters , 7, 24, and 27 🤣. I think my head shall now explode !!!

I got the harmony tesr prior to the NHS one because I am 42. This would skew my NHS results and I wanted to have a more accurate diagnostic test. If I was younger I wouldn't have done it this way , I'd have waited for the NHS test. But its 400 well spent if it alleviates the overwhelming anxiety I was experiencing .

Hi!

I have a due date of 8th sep based on an early (7w) scan. I have a daughter who will be 3 in May.

I also feel less excited and generally a bit anxious about how I will manage. I struggled massively when DD was tiny (although love 18m+) so feel like I will just need to ‘get through’ the first months (which is pretty sad!)

I’m having the harmony test this Thursday, I had it with DD and just found it gave me (some) reassurance - I’m a massive worrier!

Reallady
That's great news, congrats!

Sipper
Hello and congrats to you
Like you I found the first 18m hard (for various reasons) so I have quite a bit of apprehension. I'm
Sure it will all be worth it in the end, just feels a long and difficult slog to get there!

Slipper and name change
I also had a rough time with antenatal depression and PND last time. I cant really remember a huge chunk of my daughters first year , I blocked it out because I was in an emotionally abusive relationship at the time. I'm with a new partner so I'm hoping I will have a better experience of the first 18 months too. But theres a big part of me dreading going back to baby hood, I'm out of practice and used to independent big kids !

Wow you've been through a lot Sounds like you're in a much better place this time. FWIW I think having a supportive partner will help a lot!

How are you all coping energy-wise?
Are people working (full/part time) and are there any SAHMs?
Do you have partners who are stepping up at evenings and weekends so you can rest?

I work part-time and I'm struggling with everything but I think my days looking after DS are even harder than work days. He stopped napping over Christmas (perfect timing 🙄) and he won't even have rest/down time apart from TV so the days with him are really hard. If it wasn't for the fact that DH works from home and been able to step in from time to time when I've been desperate, I don't know what I would have done. DH does more at evenings and weekends but he can't do it all and I feel guilty already.

I've been feeling utterly awful for the last week or so, like I'm running on empty, and have been crying a lot. Just wondering if this is normal or if there is something extra wrong with me!

@NameChange30, I feel similar. I work part time and the days at work are usually a bit easier, although I am constantly yawning. Fortunately my DD still naps for an hour or 2 at lunchtime. I'm not sure what I'll do when she stops.

Hubby has been helping out loads in the evenings and weekends, but then he did wake me at 0300 by snoring, so hes part of the problem .

I cant wait till I can tell people and explain why I'm so tired. Only 5 weeks until my scan....

I hear you. I work four days and have three year old on Friday. But tend to have to work at the same time, but I always take her out for a few hours and she's so tired she's happy to watch a movie and potter!

It's the housework and the relentless of it all. When DDs are asleep I just want to crawl in bed but tonight I've cleaned kitchen and done some washing. DH has stepped up and doing the morning school run as I can't face it with my sickness but he's a bit crap at cooking and tidying!

I know this part gets better and am clinging on to that!!!

I work 4 days one week 3 the next. But compressed hours. I decided to set up.a business on my day off and two weeks later got pregnant. So I'm now needing to dedicate my day off to the business. 5 day week once up and running..

I have 2 school.age kids , with a shit dad who does little to help. My new partner is awesome but works offshore so I am freaking out about how I'll cope with pregnancy , work and new business without him half the time. Never mind the baby stage 😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬

It's hard work working with the tiredness! I work 5 days a week but also busy in the evenings with clubs my kids do. My kids are older so thankfully self sufficient. I'm lucky that my husband does most of the cooking and we do have a cleaner once a fortnight,
My husband helps out occasionally with taking the kids to their clubs but most of the time it's down to me to do it x

Same here @NameChange30, I work part time (only one day though) and the days with DD are killing me! She also no longer naps. I’m fine in the morning but from about 2pm I start feeling absolutely exhausted, and very nauseous. I think it might be starting to ease though, thank god. I’m about 10 + 4.

Have the harmony test today.

When are everyone’s 12 week scans booked for?

Hard work indeed, growing a baby , raising kids , career. Tfi Friday!

Slipper keep us posted re the harmony. I had a terrible time with anxiety as those 1p days drew to an end , feel free to vent on here.

DD seems to be going through some kind of regression. Bedtime is a pain again, and shes waking earlier and screaming. Great. And how come even though I'm not drinking, and I'm going to bed earlier than normal, I still feel terrible when I wake up. This is not fair. Surely I should be leaping out of bed, a vision of health!

My EDD is currently 29th Sep so my scan isn't until 19th Mar. Feels forever away

Thanks @Realladymarmalade - the (quick) scan was all good, baby moving around like mad! Should get the results within a week. Worried but trying to think of other things.

When is everyone planning on telling their other children? I’m thinking after 20 wk scan, if all is ok there.

@Spark27 my three year old has turned into a terror. She's really disobedient and not sleeping well. I've just had a meltdown over her behaviour and it's not even 9! Luckily they're off for a sleep over tonight with family and I'm over the moon about a night sleep!

@Sipperskipper that's great the scan went well. I would like to wait for 20 weeks but I don't think I'll get away with it! Three year old has already asked if there was a baby in me as my tummy is getting bigger 🤔 I don't have my dating scan till 13+2 so will probably not get all the blood results till 14 weeks. I kind of want to tell them to as they've been a bit rough with me and they think I'm always tired and poorly! Ideally I would wait for 20 weeks till I knew all was good but I guess if it's not we would cross that bridge when we come to it.

Hello everyone! Hope you are all well. Between being busy and exhausted (but a good combo!) I've not been able to get in here in a while. Just having a little catch up now.

I had my harmony test and scan this morning. Results will be emailed to me in 5-7 working days so all going well just before my nhs 12w scan which is next Thursday. Fingers crossed!

The scan this morning was wonderful!! It's 3 weeks since I had the initial viability scan and the baby had grown so much! 10w and 5d according to measurements (rather than 10w according to LMP). Also wonderful to see so much movement! I had a scan at around this stage with my son however he was always so chilled out in there!
And from what I think I saw between the legs I am convinced we are having another boy (we have one son). Our son has been asking for a baby brother so I guess it'll make that whole thing a bit easier!! We won't know for sure until next week but from what I saw it looked pretty clear!

So all us good here and I just need to get through to next Wednesday for results. They said they phone if it's high risk so here's hoping for no calls.

@chipsarelife and @spark27 I wonder if the bad nights are an age thing? My three year old is the same at the mo. He's been waking at 4:30am to start the day and it's killing us. I've brought him into our bed from the middle of the night which seems to help but god, I didn't think I'd start co-sleeping at this late stage!!

@sipperskipper I'm with you on the Harmony wait. Reaching out and holding your hand. Hopefully you'll get results a bit earlier. They said it could come as early as 5 working days this morning. Doesn't having a baby just feel like waiting for one thing after another?!

I'd also like to wait until the 20w scan before telling son but he's already started asking questions. I'm just not making a big deal of it with him and brushing it aside for now.

@realladymarmalade congrats on your wonderful Harmony results! So delighted for you. And congrats on a boy!

Re the work /sahm question, I work Monday-Wednesday. Love the balance and usually by Sunday I'm ready to get back to the office! That said I am very very much looking forward to maternity leave. Yes, it's no holiday but think I'll need a year to adjust to juggling two kids before I can throw work back into the mix. Love Thursdays and Fridays off with my boy but have been struggling a bit recently with pregnancy tiredness. Husband is great and they head off for days out at the weekend which gives me a break (although it's actually usually when I get laundry or done other housework done!). I do envy those with extended family around but then again mine would probably drive me mad if they were close by!

Got to go fir now. Look forward to hearing your news ladies, and keeping everything crossed for our Harmony results @Sipperskipper x

Excuse all the typos!!

Just had our harmony results, all low risk, thankfully. We are having another little girl!

@MamaB80 have you had your results yet? Today was day 6 for me.

@Sipperskipper congratulations! So so delighted to read that you're low risk! I have been checking every day and thinking of you. That is such wonderful news!
I'm on day 4. Nervous but thankfully have been so busy and tired that the days do seem to be passing quickly enough. I missed a call from a number I didn't recognise the other day and was terrified listening to voicemail. Thankfully it wasn't the clinic!

All very quiet on here, hope everyone's okay? Just coming on to report low risk results from my Harmony test! Do so relieved. And we are having a......nother boy! It's a strange one. Overriding feeling is of utter joy at the low risk results. However this is our last baby and the thought of never being a mother to a daughter is discombobulating. It just takes a bit of getting used to I think.

Ah @MamaB80 that’s wonderful! So relieved for you. I sort of know what you mean - I love the idea of 2 girls (and reusing clothes!) but my sibling is a brother, and I sort of assumed that I would have a boy! In fact I was pretty convinced this was a boy until the harmony. I think the good thing about finding out this early is that there is a long time to get used to it.

Had my NHS 12 week scan yesterday, all fine. Pictures are terrible though (thanks c section scar!) and the woman that scanned me was awful. I have some pelvic floor issues after DD, and she really ‘told me off’ for not fully emptying my bladder (whilst I was laying with the internal scanner in me!). Think I will make a complaint as I felt so vulnerable, and she was absolutely vile.

Hope everyone else is doing ok?