Due May 2020 (thread 5)

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Carrying on from thread 4!

@123Pandy - try looking for something with underneath storage. I think various types have it. Ie even though ours is bigger, it comes with two large drawers underneath so we can fit all spare bedding in one, and all clothes for baby to grow into in the other. I think some bedside cots would have a shelf or drawer at least. If you need to to last a bit longer maybe look at a 'compact cot', and add baskets underneath, they last until around 18 ish months.

@rainminusbow we have no spare room either 😥 so we've just had a big sort out of our room to make some space! We have a bedside crib, nappy bin and will just be getting some cheap drawers to keep his babygrows/vests in. We've fitted another rail into our daughters wardrobe to hang his nicer things in!
@123Pandy we have a tutti bambini cozee for this time round, but will have a moses basket downstairs too for during the day until I'm more comfortable leaving him upstairs alone!

Anybody a car seat expert? I find this bit so confusing!

Our car is a Volvo v40 and has isofix compatibility and we have a maxi cosi pebble group 0+.... therefore can someone tell me which base I should be buying? Preferably one which I can use with the next car seat which baby will move up to?

Quite a capable person in general until anything car related is involved.. useless!

@helpasisterout

On Amazon someone asked a question about bases and Maxi-Cosi replied saying they recommend the FamilyFix Base or the EasyFix Base. Will you be using the car a lot? We didn't really (and my son absolutely hated the car anyway!) so we saved quite a lot just installing it with the seatbelt.

Planning on having baby in with us from the start so don't have a cot or anything. My son is still in with us (at 2.5) and we've just set up a single bed for him next to our (super-king!) bed on my husband's side, so we'll see how that goes. Looking at bed guards now, though I didn't get/need one with my son until he started rolling.

Also, we kept all his clothes in baskets on top of my chest of drawers. It was easy as he was only in vests/sleepsuits for the first 3 or 4 months, but we've carried on with the same system - though the baskets are a bit more overflowing now!

@AlmostAlwyn thank you for that! That's roughly the info I am getting via google too so will go to Halfords and get one organised!

I hope my baby doesn't hate the car too much as we live middle of nowhere and will be in it most days to get around!

I'm another with no spare room for a nursery. Glad to hear others are in the same position. We got given a changing table with drawers which is in lounge and upstairs have bought baskets to pop under crib/bed or where ever I can fit them! X

For those without spare rooms... not that I’m an expert as this is my first, but people keep telling me not to go mad buying furniture and things baby ‘needs’ according to what the shops will tell you. All they need is a safe place to sleep (crib/cot/basket/whatever) and your love 😊 You can buy fancy change tables and wardrobes etc and of course that’s great if you’ve got room for it but you won’t suffer (and your baby certainly won’t care) without those things. You’ll be fine!

We did go for the snuzpod because we liked the look of it (matches our bedroom) but I must say it’s probably not the most practical. We’ve picked style over substance on this one! But we have a Moses basket for downstairs which someone gave us and also a £40 cot in the nursery from Ikea for when baby is older. So the snuzpod was the one thing we’ve splashed out on.

No spare room here either. Baby will be in with us for the first six months then depending on her sleep we will look at moving her in with big sister. Would love a bigger place as I’m feeling sad about no nursery. With number 1 we were in a one bed felt so never really got to do the lovely baby room.

This one will be using the next to me cot we still have and I’m getting fresh sheets etc.

3rd trimester ladies!

Girl what's are you using for stretch marks?
I don't have any yet but my tummy is getting itchy now and I am starting to panic!!! I feel like it needs a good moisturiser! I had bio oil last time... but wondered if there are any recommended alternatives?

Hello ladies
Currently experiencing a huge surge in hormones and I've been in tears for most of the day, I've just had enough. Fed up of being sick, testing my bloods and not being able to walk. They've prescribed me codeine for the pain with PGP, it's there if it just gets too much but I really don't want to take it as it does pass to the baby. I feel like I've just taken my usual good health for granted, I feel so isolated. Husband is being incredibly supportive and I'm lucky to have him.
I hope this week is better, I'm 30wks but measuring 3/4 weeks ahead so im really uncomfortable. I wish i could enjoy pregnancy.

@november90 I’ve got some burts bee stuff I’m using. Feel horribly big this time compared to last one

@mintbear oh babe i really feel for you. i suffered the same with my first and all i can assure you is it will disappear as soon as you have baby and it will honestly be so so worth it. codeine won't hurt baby you are not taking it everyday so please don't just suffer. glad your hubby is supportive but he won't know how it feels ( no one will unless they stood in your shoes). i've been hormonal too cried yesterday for an hour then felt a little better for it.

this is my second pregnancy and it's so much better this time- you next pregnancy might be so much easier so it won't all be bad- each pregnancy is different with each baby x

@november90 you made me go examine my belly in the mirror- no stretch marked here but i didn't get any with my first either. it's honestly a genetic thing all you can use it a simple good moisturiser - i recommend nivea extra dry and e45 extreme moisture i did also have biooil ( someone gave me as a gift). any moisture just put on every morning and night. goodluck x

@november90 I’m starting to get the itch now too! I’m 31 weeks and no stretch marks yet but wonder if they’re coming. I’m using Nuxe oil in the morning and a stretch mark oil from Cowshed at night, both of which were gifts at Christmas. But anything to keep your skin hydrated will do.

november90 I'm using stretch mark oil from kit and kin. I believe anything that moisturises the skin will do but I'm using this one because I absolutely love the smell and find that massaging it in is like a mini pamper. I do have previous stretch marks from shape/weight change in puberty but I'm 31 weeks and none from pregnancy yet.

@mintbear Sorry you are going through this. I feel similar- still suffering with nausea/vomiting, badly anemic and now limping as a result of hip pain (underlying cause is arthritis but weight/posture have triggered it).

I had a couple of weeks of feeling okay but apart from that pregnancy has been a miserable experience. I've found that allowing myself to have a moan and wallow occassionally actually helps. Putting on a brave face constantly just wore me down.

I just fainted at work 🥺 completely out of the blue. Luckily i was at my desk and colleagues pulled me up. At the maternity day assessment unit now, hoping all is well with baby. Anyone else has had fainting in pregnancy?

@woollycat Not fainted but I came over all light headed and legs felt weak and I had to sit on the floor. Apparently was told it's not unusual to feel like that but that was all they said to me.

@woollycat yeah it’s happened to me at work too, it was really embarrassing 🤦‍♀️ Mine was because of low BP. Hope you’re ok let us know how you get on x

@woollycat this happened to me last week at the hairdresser too just felt it coming over me managed to put my head between my knees and then have a cold drink of water! Horrible feeling coming on all of a sudden but I had been checked the afternoon previous as I had experienced a decrease in my movements to usual patterns and everything was absolutely fine so I am sure you will be too but take care and go easy tonight! X

@woollycat I've been feeling pretty light headed over the past week or so. Apparently is normal as our BP drops x

@Raindancer411 @CharlieB93 @helpasisterout thanks for your replies! They listened to baby's heart and did some other checks and all looked fine. They were not concerned about fainting and said it can just happen. I do hope it was just a one off!

@woollycat omg I hope you're ok!! It must've been really frightening for you, do look after yourself.

So we have our couples counciling consultation tomorrow and I'm feeling really stressed about it all. I just really want to deal with all the issues and use this opportunity to have someone mediate the conversations so that I can tell him how he's made me feel and how o cannot trust him now, even to walk out on our children! But I just can't prepare my words in my brain. We've only spoke in person about it twice and I'm nervous. I'm nervous he'll convince the councillor it's all my fault. We're not going to reconcile as I don't want that right now. I just want him to be more supportive to me and be able to move forward as I can't deal with this energy spoiling my babies birth.

I'm rambling! But I just needed to!

I'm also seeing the midwife tomorrow as they want me to have a wellbeing check. I'm really hoping they tell me the baby has turned but I doubt it as I feel like I can feel the head upwards! 😩

@woollycat Glad all is ok 👌

@woollycat just catching up now I hope you are ok! Try to get some rest, plenty of water and eating regular xxx
@november90 try see it as the counsellor isn't there to take sides, but is there to help you both get your point across and see things from each others point of view, and hopefully that will help! Don't worry about saying too much either, he needs to know how you've made him feel whilst caring for one child and carrying another! Good luck for tomorrow, for that and the midwife - I'm sure it will all go well xxx