Due May 2020 (thread 5)

[sao81]

Carrying on from thread 4!

@Sunshine8888 beautiful xxx

@sunshine8888 awwww lovely photo- you can already tell she's a little cutie 😍 we are thinking of getting a 4D one- would you say it's worth it? I might have a look for deals/packages near here. Xx

How exciting girls - only a few more months and we will be seeing the first arrival pictures of our little ones on here!! Xx

@Sunshine8888 @Jemstar33 thanks, think I'll be making a couple of copies then! Don't even want to go in tomorrow I've felt so anxious all weeekend and broken sleep worrying about work it's so bad!

@mintbear I've struggled with the crutches too, as I was shown to use them more like walking sticks which makes it look like there is nothing wrong with me as I'm not hopping on them. I get quiet embarrassed especially in work as its such a big office so get people in the lift all the time asking whats up with me, sick of feeling like I have to explain myself.

I had a big baby shower last time, this time me and a few close family/friends are going for a meal instead. I can't afford to spend a fortune on room hire, buffet etc. My partner and dad paid for mine last time but I had to do all the running round as they didn't really have a clue. It's little things like that that make me miss my mum, but I'm rambling now 😂 so a quiet meal it is.

@GinUnicorn I'm constantly shattered! I see the midwife on Wednesday so hoping she has my blood results available 🤞 GTT in a week too

@sunshine8888 that scan photo is amazing! So clear xx

@May2311 we have booked in for a 4D at the end of Feb when I'm 27+5. The place we go says depending on placenta position its best to go between 26-30 weeks xx

Hey ladies. Not been on here in ages but followed the thread here and there.

I am now 25+4. Feeling ok, tho suffering with back pain (not as bad as some of you by the sound of it) but sciatica is getting worse as the weeks go on.

I have an anterior placenta do movement isn’t anywhere near as noticeable as my DD at this stage, have to pretty much lay completely flat to feel proper big movements.

Have a growth scan on the 27th, intrigued as to see if she measures big. My DD was 7lb3 born at 36+3! So expecting another big girlie haha.

@Sunshine8888 that’s a beautiful photo, her lips looks gorgeous and full. We were tempted by a 4d scan but as we never had one with our first I didn’t want to get one with this one, tho I’d love to know what she looks like already!

Thanks everyone!

@May2311 totally worth it for me as don’t have any more scans lined up and a 20-22 week wait to see baby just seemed so long!! They said it’s best to go at 28 weeks as baby is getting bigger all the time and fluid is decreasing so the quality of the pics gets worse after this. X

Ugh the indigestion is killing me. Not sleeping well at all atm! 🤢

@Sunshine8888 - great scan picture.

Our best 3d was at 23 week scan, had one last week at almost 28 weeks and baby had turned down so face was squashed into placenta so hard to get a clear picture. Its really a random chance if they are good or not based on position. All scans after 20 weeks are 3d here, and have every 4 weeks or so, so maybe we get a slightly clearer one at 32 week check :)

Baby here has now really ramped up movements, it's like he is a bongo drum player or spiderman in full on practice.

@Caspianberg this was a 4D scan - whatever that means!

@Sunshine8888 - ah yes mine was 4d also, but 4d just means the video, then 3d is the printed off picture.. When the video was on, he was hiding most face last week in placenta wall, face down, whilst chewing a toe and sucking his thumb... needless to say that blocked most his face!

The previous one before new year was far clearer. Here I will get another one at 32, 36, 38, 40 weeks. So will be interesting to see if they get clearer or fuzzier over time.

That’s great that you get so many scans. I had to pay for mine privately - we just get the two normal scans here at 12 and 20 weeks unless there are issues/concerns!

I have my diabetic test tomorrow and I'm so nervous about the fasting side of it! I get really hungry in the mornings and can easily feel shakey if I don't eat!
I was tested in my first pregnancy and was absolutely fine but I'm just so nervous and out fainting or going shakey! I can't wait for it to be over!!!

@november90 - mine wasn't as bad as I thought. Take a bottle of water with you as you can drink water in the wait, which reduced my dizzyness. Also take something to eat straight after so you don't get dizzy on the journey home.

A question re baby stuff to buy. Do babies ie newborns need toys like a teether/soft rattle etc or do they not use these until a few months old? wondering whether to add a couple to amazon order yet or not

@Caspianberg If it's ideas for people to get, then add them as you will have them when you need them. My son was a few months old before he started to grasp things properly.

@Caspianberg thank you! I know I'm over thinking it!

From my first experience, I personally wouldn't bother with any toys until baby is here, just because they won't be needed them for the first few months. Sensory toys are helpful though... but again you won't need them straight away. Things we used early on was a disco light, which he LOVED, little rattles and a sensory foil mat. That really was it! Oh and his little chair rocker. The foil mat was an absolute LIFE saver!!!! I can not recommend them enough 😀 but we literally used nothing else and it just took up room!

There's no harm in being prepared if you're excited, but nothing you desperately need to begin with.

@Lifesforlivingandloving how was your appointment?

We had our cardio scan with the cardiologist who spent a good 30 minutes doing a detailed heart scan and relieved to say she said everything looked good. During those 30 minutes she did not observe any extra or missing beats either. She said they can come and go and be completely benign. So so relieved ❤️

Sorry to moan about work again but I just need to have this rant and get it off my chest, I've had a really awful day I can't stop feeling shakey I'm so anxious. My manager pulled me on Friday after our team meeting for asking a question which she said undermined her, as theres been a big shift around in our office and she kept it from our team. I've went in today and shes been really off with me but being overly friendly with everyone else, so i asked her for a quick chat to try and clear things up. She has said some things which is making me think she is investigating me or putting in a grievance. Long story short, I feel terrible now I've came home from work in tears I really don't want to go back, but im worrying all of this is having an impact on the baby. Idk if its just me being really hormonal but the thought of going back is making me feel physically sick, am I just overreacting?

@november90 lots of water and snacks for afterwards! If you can, stay home for the rest of the day as I remember feeling pretty crappy after my one, I have one next week and dreading it

@sao81 you are not overreacting! She is to the situation!

I finally spoke to my managers today as my doctor has signed me off with stress after the last few months of pressure I've been under. It was a really hard, honest conversation and I cried the whole way through it. But they have dropped the review, and are leaving it until after I go back, and they are advising I just go in a couple of days a week over the next 3 weeks until my mat starts. I feel bad that I'm leaving them in the way I am but equally I have to put myself and the baby first. It says it all that I came home at lunch time today and for the first time in weeks I slept - all afternoon - I feel a sense of relief but also so embarrassed. I feel like I've failed for not being this together career women like I've always been but equally I know I need to be kinder to myself. I'm pregnant. My emotions are high. Extra stress is not ideal etc. But I just feel like I've let myself and everyone down.

@woollycat

Ours was near enough identical to yours
She spent around 30 mins looking at all the different parts of the heart and it's formation and found nothing at all wrong ( phew)
She said she observed no ectopic beats the whole time either
She said at times these things can come and go throughout the pregnancy and if it's noted again she will do another scan but she's more than happy for now x she said there is no reason for these things just baby being baby! Lol x
She was so lovely at explaining everything and she even took 5 close ups of the baby's face and printed them out for us - rhis was lovely reward after a worrying weekend
So glad things are all well with you too! X

@Lifesforlivingandloving amazing, sounds identical! Very happy for both of us 😇☀️❤️

@mrsf1204 they should never of put you under that amount of pressure in the first place! I'm glad you've finally been able to speak to them honestly and it sounds like they've taken it on board. Don't worry about how you've left things, you're doing whats best for you and the baby. My dilemma is that I don't qualify for department maternity pay until 1st week in April so I've been trying to stay in as long as I can, but after today im debating getting signed off until then. I've cried that much my little girl scooped me up and went "its ok mummy" which has broke me even more. I keep getting tingling in my face and I know its the stress of work, haven't felt baby as much either so just going to stay off now until it blows over/mat leave starts

@sao81 I totally think that's the right idea. You need to look after you and baby! And your little girl. Take care of you.

If only I could practice what I preach haha!

I just feel embarrassed that's the only word for it. But we are all human. And sometimes we crumble. And I've been crumbling for some time. You're right they shouldn't have put that pressure on me. But apparently it was issues going back pre pregnancy?! That weren't raised with me to this extent pre pregnancy... I'll get over it in time I'm sure it's just all a bit raw right now

@mrsf1204 it sounds like they've tried to find reason to be arsey without making it about pregnancy to get away with it, which is so wrong. I think when you're pregnant every little thing seems so much worse and upsetting, its hard to switch off especially when you want to carry on as normal! I'm exactly the same, I give advice but can never take my own, even when I know I'm being illogical

@sao81 it's hard isn't it. I've been so illogical for months. I just run away with stuff in my head. I feel like a failure but I know I'm not deep down. I just need some time I think