Due May 2020 (Thread 4)

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@Mrshouse92 I cant wait to get to the half way point.

Sorry been quiet been really busy. Had gender scan today and got stitch thursday

Hope everyone is doing ok alot of scans j have seen glad to see so many

@herewego20202 it was me!

No just joking I was wrong with you too! Ha ha

I plan to breastfeed - I did with my dd. I am going to buy nipple shields in advance this time as I know how painful the first few days were! In my experience hurt like hell for the first 3 days then was fine and well worth the pain.

😂😂 @GinUnicorn well I think I've been wrong on everyones too.

@GinUnicorn and @Facevalue I really hope I can this time. I felt useless with the boys not being able too. My breasts are massive I'm usually a DD but I think they are easily an E or an F right now and get sore underneath.. I can't stand having big breasts and before pregnancy considered reduction. When I used to take my bra off they are like snooker balls in socks haha😂I'm going to look like those mother gorillas who sit there with their breasts nearly hitting their knees after all this 😂😂
But on a serious note yes I shall invest in nipple shields too

Now I'm laughing how it changed it to darling daughter.. my mother would disagree on that 😂

@Herewego2020 - this is my first and I am keeping an open mind about it and seeing how I get on when baby arrives. One of the key things that I am struggling with is that I really want DH to be involved in the feeding to help him build a bond with baby as well. Obviously for him to do that I'll have to express but upon reading/researching this seems to be even more time-consuming than straight to the nipple feeding! Does anyone have any suggestions/experience on expressing and getting your partner involved? Xxx

Honestly the best piece of advice I could give with breastfeeding is tune out all the crap. Some women can’t breastfeed. I highly doubt the child will years later be missing out on anything if it can’t happen. It’s so much pressure for something we really can’t always control.

With expressing etc personally I found it easier to just add one formula feed so I just mix feed from about two weeks but again I’d say just be open and try not to get too hung up on things either way.

@GinUnicorn pregnancy birth and anything to do with babies is completely personal and illogical. even the most logical person/ mum changes when has her own. i never cared about breastfeeding but having done it - i love it. if i couldn't do it i'd be disappointed but it's not the end of the world. the first 2 weeks were fine- i got nipple cracks etc later and i found nipple shields completely useless and hurt more.

honestly ladies don't be encouraged or put off by the comments. you will have your own experience and no one else should make u feel bad about it x all the best to all

@Herewego2020 if I actually produce milk this time round I will, but not putting pressure on myself as Last time nothing happened when I tried and I think thats partly what set off my PND. turned out my iron levels were nearly half of what they should of been, hospital had sent me home without waiting for my bloods to come back. Only found out at booking app for this baby that I'd never of been able to BF with iron as low, and should of had a transfusion, but thats another story 🤦‍♀️

Hiya, anyone suffering hemorrhoids (piles). I've been having it for a week now. Went to GP and got some prescribed Anusol. It's painful to tuck the piles back in after passing stools. I've read it's gonna be like this until baby is born. That means I have another 19 weeks to go!!! Any advice would be much appreciated. Thanks xx

I'm still breastfeeding my 2.5 year old so hopefully it'll help with the transition.

Try researching what local support there is for breastfeeding near you now so if you run into difficulties then you immediately know where to get help. Sometimes babies need a bit of help too! See how it goes after the birth

@May2311 honestly, there's so much a partner can do with the baby to bond apart from feeding! Bathing, massage, skin to skin time - giving milk isn't the only way and pumping just for that purpose puts lots of extra pressure on you when you should be resting as much as possible! Plus some people just don't respond to a pump. You could try a haakaa pump (or similar), which just collects leakage from the opposite side while you're feeding, which your partner could then feed by bottle (if baby takes a bottle ). I leaked milk from the other side while feeding for several months and it seems a waste to just let the milk go into a breast pad or muslin!

@Bigbear123 hey, sorry to hear you are suffering! I had them too, just one actually whilst pregnant with my son and then during all the pushing whilst giving birth I had about 100 (or so it felt!) Anusol helped and also eventually once they had softened I could push them inside (soz for tmi) but they never truly went away completely for me unfortunately. If they continue to cause you discomfort I would persevere with the Drs, I'm sure there are suppositories and things but wouldn't know if they are safe in pregnancy or not. Warm baths and drinking plenty and eating well to keep stools soft and easier to pass. Sorry not more help but you're not alone xx

@facevalue wise words. I think it’s just good to try and avoid pressure on yourself. Sometimes it works sometimes it doesn’t but it doesn’t. I hope it works out for everyone the way they want.

I didn’t have nipple shields last time so hope for me they help! Slightly fearful now that they did nothing for you it might be the same for me but we can but try.

@Bigbear123
Yes, you can use suppositories during pregnancy, I was prescribed them by the doc or you can just buy over counter.
Also doc gave me senna which really helped.

Mine was as a symptom from ondansetron anti sickness tablets, it was very painful. I'm now on a different tablet that has the opposite effect down there but it's not so good as an anti sickness.

Thank you everyone for your advice and support. both my boys were bottle fed and they're health I think it just upset me personally cause felt I was useless. Oh said the same as you all and said there is no pressure. He said try but if it doesn't happen don't get upset. I'm going to try that's best I can do.

@Herewego2020 wishing you all the best. It’s tough to be objective but your little one will be loved and have a great mum whatever happens.

Anyone here planning to get either the Bugaboo Bee 5 or the Babyzen Yoyo+? I live in Central London, no car, use public transport and our flat is on 2nd floor with no lift - so we have narrowed it down to these two as they are the most lightweight and easy to fold. Now just need to decide which one!

I have a Bugaboo bee 5 for my DD. It’s a great city pram - we had a tiny lift which it fitted so I’d definitely recommend

I'm hoping to breastfeed. But also for DH to give a bottle once per day after the first few weeks. i'm not planning to express for the bottle feeds, just formula. I figure if i want to use bottle to allow me time then expressing will take more time that just using formula when needed.

If I can't breastfeed direct, I don't think I will express either then. For me breastfeeding is more for convenience than anything else, so if it isn't I will change plans.

Just catching up on the last couple of days.

@123Pandy I am thinking of you, I hope everything is just fine and that you get lots of reassurance on Tuesday! ❤️

I am hoping to breastfeed for the first 6 months, then express when I go back to work. I hope it all works out but not planning to beat myself up if it doesn't.

My scan is on Wednesday when I will be 20+6, so close now!!

@woollycat We live in a first floor flat and just picked up the Ergobaby Metro - it's nearly identical to the babyzen yoyo+, but about half the price!

I will be 22+3 by the time I have my 20 week scan but that's the date they have me

@GinUnicorn @Jellybott thanks for the info!
I haven't seen an ergobaby in John Lewis, but we were just there this morning and played around with the Bugaboo Bee 5 - it was a treat! A bit pricey but I like that you can attach a bassinet to it.

For those looking at a small pushchair, the Cybex Eezy s twist + also looks good. Parent faces also. And decent price

www.naturalbabyshower.co.uk/collections/cybex-eezy-s-twist-plus/products/cybex-eezy-s-twist-plus-pushchair-lavastone-black-1

Guys has anyone had any jelly like discharge? It was clear, very small amount but now I am absolutely freaking out!!!!!

@november90, I thought clear or milky discharge was normal - I’ve had it the whole time and have to wear liners every day. I just assumed this was part of pregnancy - is it not?!

A quick question for anyone on second+ child and who used breastpads at all. Did you use disposable or reusable? any brands you recommmend? and I usually wear black bras, are black washable pads a thing? also, small boobed, so recommendations to suit would be great.