Due May 2020 (Thread 4)

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@Mrshouse92 I cant wait to get to the half way point.

Sorry been quiet been really busy. Had gender scan today and got stitch thursday

Hope everyone is doing ok alot of scans j have seen glad to see so many

@november90 I'm sorry you had such a horrible time, I dont get why people are in that profession if they have such a bad attitude and don't want to help. When I had my 20 scan last time I had to.go back again as they although they could see the chambers of the heart they couldn't actually see the valves, all was fine second time round, I hope you get your appointment through quickly snd its better next time round for you

@november90 thats horrendous! Are you in the UK? Can you contact PALs to ask for advice on how to go forward?
I also don't understand why people who have this type of attitude get into these professions, on my first 12 week scan the sonographer had a horrible attitude and made me feel really uncomfortable.

@november90 I’m so sorry you had an awful time, unbelievable that someone in that kind of job could be so insensitive. I don’t know if this is any consolation but I’m sure if they did have any concerns they would have checked them out there and then, just a shame they didn’t do more reassure you that everything is ok :( No one should be made to feel bad about being concerned about their baby’s health x

Thank you everyone!
The 20 week scan is SUCH a milestone and I was so looking forward to it. Any other situation I would report the midwife but I know I'll just feel so self conscious and I embarrassed if and when I have to go back into day assessment and it will just give me even more anxiety :( my mum told me she would pay for me to have a private scan bless her, but with Christmas and new year I probably wouldn't get in much sooner then before my next nhs scan which is the 2nd of jan!
Me and DH just had a row about it so today has just been absolutely shit!!! :( not how I thought I'd be feeling this evening :(

@november90 that’s appalling behaviour, definitely put in a complaint. Can you book a private scan In the meantime for reassurance? I think that’s what I would do. I didn’t have the best experience at my 12 week scan but the 20 week was much better. My baby was in the wrong position as well but I was given time to try and get her to move around which she eventually did. Did you not get asked to try going for a walk or jog around?

So sorry November- she’s sounds awful.

I’d also be tempted to report but can understand why you don’t want to.

Hope you feel a bit better - it’s crappy but another week isn’t that long to wait. Sending

@november90 i'm so sorry about your day. anxiety isn't helped with ppl being unkind. to be fair NHS staff are human and they make mistakes. They r not all good but the system isn't always kind towards them so every now and then you get one that is fed up and burnt out. having said that it's not an excuse and i would speak to the manager - just say she was unkind at time of distress and maybe she is having personal problems and need help her self ( this way you are being kind towards her and it won't be perceived as u complaining ) ... it's a good thing that the baby has 4 chambers - that's normal. I also tend to read too much into body language and the awkward silences. please have chocolates or anything comforting for today and tomorrow after hopefully a restful night you call the maternity department and ask to speak to a manager about how u feel and ask nicely to go for another scan with a nicer personxxxx hugs

Hey lovely ladies. It’s been ages since I’ve posted anything on here, time just seems to have flown by.

@november90 I’m so sorry you’ve had such a horrid experience, especially just before Christmas. Scans can be so tricky to look at the chambers and valves, with my DD I had to go back several times the same day to try and get a good look because I was going on holiday and needed reassurance before we left so spent the best part of 4hrs at hospital going in between patients. So hopefully they just didn’t have time to do that with you and you’ll be fine.

I am now 18+5 and feeling movement here and there but nothing constant. Trying not to freak out or anything. We have a scan tomorrow to check babies heart then proper 20wk scan on the 31st. Can’t wait to find out sex. Hoping above all that everything is ok tho.

Aww thank you everyone! It's so nice to read all this support and has made me feel so much better ❤️
My mum bless her has booked me a scan tomorrow. I just want to put this horrible day behind me and enjoy seeing our little baby again tomorrow!
I've just got everything crossed we can see everything and get some lovely photos ☺️

Hi all. I had a private scan today (im lucky as my family member owns a private scanning studio) They done some 2D and 3D photos for us, they also found out the sex (but we didnt) and they’ve given us a confetti cannon to pop on Christmas day which will have the colour pink or blue. Heres the photos. I also have my NHS gender scan with the hospital tomorrow for full checks. We’ll be asking them to keep the potty shot hidden for us. Baby was kicking and wriggling away on the screen today, wouldnt keep still. Yet i couldnt feel a thing, still! (He/she is camera shy and hiding their face with their hand😂) x

@november90 ive also just read up. Thats awful. She shouldnt of had an attitude at a time you feel anxious as it is. Definitely report her. Id have actually confronted her myself because i felt it embarrases people in professions when they are confronted by a client and know they are on the wrong. They get a shock. However i can imagine you just felt uncomfortable and upset. Get her name and make a point next time you go that you refuse to be seen by her and request someone else, im sure the ward manager will start asking questions. Dont let it burst your bubble. Some people just hate their jobs and rather than changing it, they stay bitter and treat people like shit instead. Dont settle for anything and if you want things checked further then absolutely challenge it! X

@november90 so sorry to read about your awful experience yesterday. I hope you have a much more positive experience at the private scan today so you can at least relax for Christmas. Try and not get too anxious as from what you have said baby was just not in a good position to do the checks that they needed to do- when she had mentioned about the heart it is probably just that she could see the 4 chambers but again couldn't do the full checks because of baby's position. Let us know how today goes! Xx

@Niki93 lovely scan photos! Glad all is well xx

@Niki93 aah gorgeous scan photos mine is in an hour, will post when I'm home! Xx

For those asking about movements, I was 19+ weeks at last scan and baby was moving loads on screen but I couldn't feel a thing. Then gradually over the last few weeks and days I have felt odd flutter. The last 3-4 days he is now full on kicking/ punching that I can feel several times per day. 22 weeks here tomorrow.
Have next scan 30th (organ screening they do here)

I am 18+5 and have been feeling occasional flutters that I now recognise as baby movements for the past week or so, every day. My scan is in 2+ weeks, still a while to go!

I'm 18+6 days and haven't felt anything 😔
Can't wait for the 20week scan just for some reassurance

So here's our little munchkin! All ready for the big reveal tomorrow. Been told I have a low lying placenta so need to keep an eye on it as they couldn't tell for certain if its covering my cervix

Hi ladies. We had a cardiac scan today due to DD having a small issue with her heart which has resolved. All is well and got a little look ahead of our 20wk scan next Tuesday.
We were asked if we’d like to know the sex, and we have another little girl on the way, beyond excited and emotional 💗 my DD is buzzing and so nice to spread some extra festive cheer to our families.

Hope everyone is having a lovely Christmas Eve.

@Bumpingalong84 aah congratulations! Its nice to have that reassurance for over christmas so.you can completely relax isnt it!

@sao81 Lovely! Bet you’re excited for the big reveal tomorrow. We’re doing the same at our family Christmas tomorrow too. Keep us updated.

Merry Christmas to everyone and their bumps! Have a lovely day tomorrow xx

U@sao81 I got told the same thing today at my private scan! She said it's slightly low but could move. Feeling a little anxious, has anyone heard of this before? Here's a little image of our baby boy. I am so in love and feel so connected to him already ❤️
Merry Christmas everyone!

Just popping on to wish you all a Merry Christmas! FTMs enjoy the peace and anyone with kids, let the chaos commence! 🤣 I got the best Christmas present and it came a whole day early, this baby is kicking away so strong I can feel it on the outside. So different to my previous where I had an anterior placenta! My scan is 5 days away so gonna enjoy the festive period and try to relax a bit! Lots of love to you all xxx

@Niki93 I'm so excited I bet you are too!

@november90 she said to me its low and at the front but I have a really long cervix so couldn't see if it was covering. She explained that as your bump grows the placenta usually moves up, so to mention it to hospital at my next scan as they may book me in at 32 weeks for a scan to check position. Do you feel better after your scan today? The pic is fab!

@sao81 oh that sounds quite positive for you doesn't it. How do you feel about it?
She said mine was only slightly covering it but had it been a nhs scan she would have to note it. I have my repeat 20 week scan next week so I'll have to see what they say then! I'm just going to keep everything crossed it moves.
I feel a lot better. She checked everything other then all of the heart details which is what I was worrying about. She said he equipment couldn't pick up as much details as the hospital machines but everything appeared to be ok!
I can't believe how much of a worrier I am becoming! I promised myself I wouldn't do this to myself again after my anxiety in my first pregnancy but I really struggle switching off from off eventualities!
I love the photo! Yours is beautiful too ❤️

@november90 for me its a logical explanation for the bleeding I keep having, which has reassured me in a way. By the way things are going I'll have every pregnancy problem possible 😂 hypermesis spd and now possibly placents previa! Will try and not worry too much until my scan on 7th Jan, they'll tell me.more than as it'll be an NHS scan rather than private.
I'm glad you're feeling better about it all! It's hard not to worry i think I've worried more this time round than my first for some reason. Sometimes just the tone of someones voice can set you off so.I completely get how you felt yesterday