Due May 2020 (thread 3)

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Carrying on from thread 2!

@helpasisterout I'm not Scotland but they took my bloods a week before the scan. When I arrived they had the results then the sonographer put the measurements and blood results into the computer and the results came up straight away. HTH x

@Helensss I was the same before my scan on Tuesday. By Tuesday morning I was in tears 😂 I have no advice but I think it's totally normal to be nervous lol

@kstann I take aspirin have done for all my pregnancies since my first daughter I had bad pre eclampsia with her so all pregnancies after I have had aspirin. I sure I gonna end up on lots of medication this time on iron tablets aswell as I am slightly anemic.

Congrats on all the scans!
@Sunshine8888 glad you've got all your results back and its good news.

@Raindancer411 I was put on cyclizine, like others have said they sometimes stopped me from physically being sick but I still felt sick. I've been better the last few days, thought I'd turned a corner but I've just thrown up my dinner (I'm 12+5) - when will it end?!?

As an FYI, I had bloods taken at the scan, I'm expecting the results this week/early next via letter - unless it's bad news and then they call you. I got given my nt measurement of 1.3 while having my bloods after the scan, but she said during the scan it was all looking good.

I'm looking forward to seeing more scan pics! Good luck to everyone and enjoy the experience

Congratulations everyone with your beautiful scan photos! I cannot wait for my scan next weeks but I am a bag of nerves. I just want to know everything is ok!

So I'm in a bit of a difficult position and I don't know what to do. One of my closest friends has been trying for a baby for 3 years... literally since I was pregnant with my first. She opened up to me as I have fertility challenges too (cysts of my ovaries and awful cycles)... anyway I haven't told her I'm expecting because when I found out she was just about to start he first try of ivf. It then got delayed a month and she's now in her ttw. My scan is next week and I feel really positive and confident she will conceive and I was hoping to tell her my news when she tells me hers. I haven't told her because it feels like everyone is making announcements at the moment and I know it's hard and although i know she'd be happy for me, I know it would be so difficult for her and I don't want to do that when she's going through all of this. But now I'm worried... what if she conceived but doesn't tell me? What if it doesn't work? If it doesn't work should I just leave it a couple weeks before telling anyone else (this is not a problem)?..... it's so difficult! I'm so sensitive to other people's reactions to pregnancy announcements. I spent a long time heartbroken as I never thought I'd be so lucky to be pregnant or have children and the announcements are like a stab in the heart 😩

@Moonstone12 thanks that really helps, I think the bloods I got taken were for antibodies, blood group and Rhesus factor, FBC, haemoglobin, hep b, syphilis and HIV so not sure from which of those tests they derive the combined result from with the scan but I'm sure I will soon find out if I stop being so bloody impatient!! 🙃🙃

Is anyone else's appetite starting to return to normal? I had a rough few weeks with sickness and not wanting anything to eat really but it seems just like that I'm ok?! Anyone else? Just got sore boobs now. My midwife said not to worry about symptoms going but I'm just so scared all the time x

@helpasisterout ah ok. I had those bloods taken at my booking and then a second blood test for screening at 11 weeks.

I know every trust in England is different so Scotland may also differ. As others have said they had there bloods taken after the scan and will receive results later.

Sorry I can't be more help xx

@november90 I really struggled to conceive it's taken 2 years with no luck until this positive, I was waiting on IVF when we found out. I have 2 best friends who are really struggling, one who was hospitalized due to her reaction to the IFV drugs... we have had other friends and family announce pregnancy after pregnancy and its heart breaking but still soooooo happy for them as I wouldnt wish the struggle on anyone.

She will be very grateful to have a friend that is considering her feelings in all of this, I have told these 2 friends privately and made sure they had their partners with them for support. It's easier than telling them in front of a group, as depending where they are there is no stopping a bit of upset. I have then given them some space and let them text me first, which they both did quite quickly. I never made a huge deal of an announcement with them either.

Sure she will be over the moon for you tho x

@mrsf1204 yes I was exactly the same, I'm 9+5, was really quite nauseous and a bit sick from 5 to 8 weeks, then nothing but sore boobs, constantly peeing and tiredness!! My midwife also said not to worry as it was totally normal... never thought I'd be wishing to feel sick!!! Roll on scan day!!

@Purple29 I'm so sorry to hear that you struggled for so long ❤️ but I'm glad you now have your positive and I hope you have the healthiest and happiest pregnancy! You deserve it!

I hate the big announcements in person and putting people on the spot. I'd much rather just text people so they can absorb it in their own way! I never assume people to just be happy, because I've been there. When I found out about my cysts and fertility issues it was the same day my sister announced her pregnancy and obviously I was so happy for her but so sad for me! I think that's why I'm SO conscious of upsetting my friend! I just want her to get her bfp and that's why I didn't tell her, because I just wanted her to stay focused and positive but now I'm thinking... what do I do now 😬 I'm going to have to let the secret out soon (well if fingers crossed my scan goes well)... I'm just not sure whether I such wait until she finds out or if it might make it worse if she gets a bfn 😩

@november90
It sounds like she's lucky to have a friend like you!
It's not an easy decision to make when you're so close. I'm sorry I don't really have any answer. Maybe have your scan and then play it by ear, you might be able to judge it and do it when it feels right. Its still your happy time remember xx

I'm 12 +1 and my appetite has returned now and sickness has died down (although I wasn't saying that yesterday 🤨) seems to come in waves.
However most things I eat just sit on my chest and repeat on the burping is still horrendous! Ive decided bigger lunches and smaller dinners helps!x good luck to those with scans tomorrow xx

Yep @mrsf1204 I feel the same! I had a pretty ropey and sicky and grumpy and tired few weeks between week 5ish and week 10 but I do feel like I've turned a corner this week (think I'm about 11 weeks). Still feeling slightly sicky but I'm able to stay awake longer and eat foods I was totally off a few weeks ago! I think by this point of the pregnancy the placenta should be working so the baby isn't solely relying on you! I did read 1st trimester symptoms should ease after week 9 as well (typically) so don't worry, you're not alone ❤️ It was a similar story with my first too!

@kstann aww thank you that's so lovely of you to say! She's been such a good friend to me and so supportive and interested in my little boy which is just incredible when I think of her own fertility agony! I'm not sure I would ever have that strength and that's why reading people's stories on here literally nearly makes me cry. There's such crazy strength out there ❤️

Hi ladies, so many messages to catch up on.

So lovely to see everyone’s scan photos, can’t believe the 12wk scans have started and I’m sure will come in waves now 😊 so exciting. Still have to wait 2.5wks for mine.

@november90 I completely understand your struggle, it’s so so hard. I have a friend who’s just failed her first cycle of IVF, I had told her I was pregnant as soon as I found out pretty much, She knows me so well and she knew about our mmc in May. She has been amazing and I was heartbroken for her but she said to me that she never wants me to feel like I can’t tell her stuff. It is so hard.
When I was pregnant with my first, we did the whole social media thing, but we’ve said that will not happen this time. Feel like I was naive back then to peoples struggles, I’d hate to think someone will be sat on the other side having just had bad news, bfn and so on. I’ve had two friends who had miscarriages at the same time as me who are not pregnant yet. I feel like I’d be rubbing it in our faces. We will do a cute family announcement of some sort involving our little girl. But I think people will just find out from a photo of me with dd and a bump probably at Christmas or something.

Has anyone’s sore boobs settled, 9+3 and they are still so bloody sore! And the constant wee’ing is just irritating now!

@november90 i think you should treat your friends the same. fertility issues or not - you just send the text with the scan pic and say " hi, ☺️due May 2020" i can't quiet believe it and I know it's very lucky .. lots of loves and all the fingers and toes crossed for you babe xxxx ". you better tell her now because the likelihood that she's pregnant from first ivf cycle is slim ( might happen) better just say it and get it out if the way

i would not want someone to hide the news or treat me differently as that would be worst for me! i've had IVF with my first and now also ... i don't blame others and my heart sank every time i heard anyone is pregnant including celebrities x that's just a fact no ones fault ... happy and jealous 😢🥰😍😘

@CurlyJB88 @sazzlerazzle how did you get on?

@Helensss good luck today!! What time is it? Let us all know.

Also good luck to anyone else having scans today or this week. Xx

Morning @May2311 mine is actually today, eek!! I’ve just woken up from what was a surprisingly good sleep - I usually wake up at 4am!

Got the day off so will be keeping myself busy until this afternoon :)

@May2311 thank you! It’s at 11.45 I have to go into work before, not sure what I was thinking really, should have booked it off!!
Good luck @sazerazzle! 😬 xxx

Hi all. Sorry I've been so quiet again I have been so exhausted. Congratulations on everyone's scans and lots to love to anyone still going through troubling times.
I have my scan today, currently 12+3. Really apprehensive. I finally managed to pick and enjoy food from last weekend after 24/7 nausea since week 6 so I was so happy. I'm still struggling with fluids but making small progress. I'm still not sleeping great and really not loving my new sleeping times. I'm still really struggling with lower back pain which I've had since week 6, by the end of the day it's unbearable.
@facevalue I'm getting my hair coloured on Saturday, first time since beginning of July. I'm nervous about doing it but everything I've read and been told looks like it's safe.

Good luck for today @Helensss x

@helpasisterout.. hi ..I am sorry you are going through this. I am 11 weeks and the fatigue makes it impossible to work. I just have this tendency to keep feeling guilty.. n tell myself I am not trying hard enough. All this negative self talk makes it worse for me.

People at work have been understanding but I am having to take leave every other day. It's really hard.

Hi all 👋thanks for the new thread x

Thanks @Helensss you too!! Hope your morning goes quickly. To be honest I’m thinking I should have stayed in work to distract myself!! xx

@november90... Your friend is so lucky to have someone care so much and have such empathy.

My best friend recently came out of a bad marriage but she has always loved kids. When we were young.. she always used to say she'd have kids early and lots of them. Only few weeks ago we were discussing about another common friends pregnancy and my friend confided in me she feels sad and left out and is afraid it might never happen for her.

Now I am also in a fix as to how to tell her about my pregnancy. It's my first and she's my closest friend so I definitely want her to be a part of this. But I don't want to hurt her.