Due May 2020 (thread 3)

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Carrying on from thread 2!

(Sorry, now 16 weeks!)

Thanks everyone 😊 that has reassured me! It is bizarre how people comment- I never really thought I would be that bothered but I suppose when our bodies are changing so much it is going make us feel a bit conscious! Xxx

Welcome @Linzapip I was 13+4 when I had my scan.... well, that’s what they told menu was on the day. I thought I was 12+4! It’s a long wait isn’t it, you’ll feel so good once that scan is done and you can relax a bit :)

My sickness subsided around 14 weeks and now at 16 weeks I’ve got my energy back and nausea completely gone. How have you been?

@sazzlerazzle i posted a while back about my recommendation for a pregnancy pillow. i'm assuming u didn't read that b4 u bought urs. i had the same as urs in my last pregnancy and i found it rubbish. i recommended the attached from amazon instead..

a few ladies worried about bump size being big .. truth is my sister had a huge bump from 6 weeks pregnant .. partly fat/ gas/ fluid/ uterus etc ... i now do have a bump .. in my first pregnancy it took ages before i showed a bump. please don't worry at all. if u can't help worrying then simply speak to your midwife and NOT google 😘

i am visiting family abroad atm.. i'm not cleaning cooking or washing / no house work ... i sleep and eat so much better... i'm feeling so much better... but i also turned 13 weeks so maybe i was going to feel better anyway 🤔 i don't know.

@Bumpingalong84 I'll be thinking of you tomorrow lovely. I'm sure you will be absolutely fine. I was so so nervous before my 12 weeks scan and I know how much you've been through before, I'll keep everything crossed all is ok for you - I'm sure it will be 💞

RE bumps, I started to look bloated from 8 weeks but now at 13 I certainly have a little hump coming out! Some days I feel MASSIVE! It's kind of cute though but I was also worrying I was showing too early!

Thank you #sazzlerazzle I'm a bit nervous as I'm having the combined test and I don't want to be any further on. I think 13+4 is leaving it a bit late as I was told I could only have the combined test up to 14+1 🤔 maybe I'm just panicking about it. I had.a miscarriage before back in May so I think I'm just being a bit paranoid about everything with it being the night before now.

@sazzlerazzle
Some of the weirdest comments I've had are from work colleagues.. I feel like people need training on how to react in an appropriate manner lol.
A simple 'congratulations' is all they need to say!
Also - bump touching has started. No. Just no. My mum warned me people would do this, I said 'mum, no one does that anymore (eye roll)'.. then it started!

Ah thanks @facevalue ! I must have missed that. The only thing is I’m very particular about my pillow (I have a Tempur memory foam pillow that I can’t sleep without!) Do you think this would would if I turned if upside and had my head where that gap is so I could still use my own pillow (if that makes sense??)

@Linzapip I can understand why you’d be worried, that’s totally normally. There are quite a few ladies here who have miscarried earlier this year and are having healthy pregnancies this time around, I’ve got everything crossed for you this time.

Even if you miss the cut off for the combined test, there are other things they can do to check x

We got our Harmony test results back, and everything looks good. Baby is low risk. We also found out we are having a BOY! It feels so real now that we know what the baby will be. I went out bought a few little baby grows. I was planning on waiting for clothes because everyone keeps telling me that we will get loads as gifts, but I wanted to buy some things too!

I am feeling a bit sad because I told my best friend that we are having a boy, and her response was "oh, I hope I have a girl when I am pregnant." Why are people less excited about a boy? I went home and googled "having a boy", and the results all talked about being prepared for the baby to be overly rambunctious, violent and gross. It has both freaked out and made me mad because boys can be sweet, caring, empathic and kind too.

Has anyone had a negative reaction from people when you tell them you are having a boy?

Hi everyone! I’m due 22nd May 2020 and have just had my 12 week scan 😁 I just wondered when people have told or plan to tell their employer and how they went / plan to go about it? It’s something I’m very nervous about

@rosewater20 congratulations on your baby boy! I find out a week tomorrow at my private 16 week scan we are hoping for a boy I have one of each and I would have ten boys over girls (and I can say that because I'm a girl lol) my son is the most caring funny loving person you could ever meet he loves his momma so much and he still cuddles up to me at nearly 13 he was never a boisterous boy more of a cheer leader than a football player loves to make people laugh and enjoy himself enjoy your boy! Ps I love my daughter with all my heart she's growing into a strong independent young woman she goes to college has ambition works part time and is so polite and well mannered she's a joy just so independent and sassy at times (just like her momma!) xxx

@Alh0510 I told my employers as soon as I found out due to the nature of my job (personal assistant to a young gent with additional needs) so I have monthly risk assessments and guidance/training as to what to do in certain situations my employers have been very supportive x

Thank you @Missmuck. Your lovely comment made me feel very happy. One of my good friends has two boys and they are both very well behaved, very sweet and kind. My friend who made the rude comment has never been pregnant before and so I would imagine that once she is pregnant she will realise that the only thing that matters is that her baby is healthy.

@rosewater20 i'm currently similar irritating judge-y comments. Because i already have DD i get family members saying " hopefully it's a boy this time" 😳 i know they think one of each is "nice" but two of the same is a blessing too ! i get irritated and protective over my unborn child- whatever gender they r born or choose to become as adults 😘👍🏼 i am happy to look after and love any child of any gender, disability etc this world breaks my heart sometimes

@facevalue You are right that It is such a blessing to have a baby regardless of what gender the baby is. I just saw on Instagram that Hilaria Baldwin just had a miscarriage at 4 months pregnant and it just instantly made me so grateful to be pregnant and have the baby be healthy so far. It is a reminder of how fragile pregnancy is at every stage.

Omg girls I'm so glad that you're having this conversation about gender because it's something that's really bothering me at the minute.
So first of all I know gender disappointment is a thing, and I feel for the people who have them feelings. Nobody choices to feel like that and I can only imagine it to be torture... so I do have time for those people and I'm not being judgemental at all.
But saying that, it really upsets me that having one boy and another on the way, there is a general sense of more celebration around baby girls. My sister has a girl and is expecting her second (most likely a girl) and she is so open about not wanting a boy and how she couldn't cope with all the boy things etc and how she could even say that when im having my second boy. Like it's almost a negative thing. How could you even say that out loud?! I've told people I'm expecting a boy and it's almost like a passing comment.... I'm over the moon and trying to imagine my life with two boys and I feel like a lot of people are almost disappointed for me! It's such a shame that people can be so shitty over something like this!

... after this pregnancy I would LOVE to have more children... I just want a big healthy happy family but the pressure of others around me making stupid, ignorant gender comments almost puts me off the idea as I don't want my 3rd child to be an opportunity for people to put pressure on me to 'have my girl'. I'm genually happy either way! I just want a happy family 💖

I hope my rambles make sense 🙈

Hey ladies. Been wide awake getting myself worked up about my scan today. Can’t believe the day is here now.

God some people really are so tactless and insensitive. I really don’t understand people sometimes 🤦🏻‍♀️ When I was pregnancy with my DD I was desperate for a boy, I’d always said if I could only have one child I’d want a boy. When she told us it was a girl I sobbed i was so happy she was healthy it didn’t matter what she was. I’m the same now. I am desperate to know but it doesn’t matter what they are.

Thank you @mrsf1204 💕 I’ll keep you updated. Feels like a massive day. I can’t wait to be able to tell out little lady ❤️

@Bumpingalong84 good luck for your scan today. I am always like this for all my scans. I am booking private gender scan next week for reassuance and to find out what I am having before my stitch on the thursday.

Hope all is well with everyone.

I am finding my boobs are getting worse by the day. At beginning it was just my nipples were sensitive now my boobs ache so much.

Im so sad to read what people hve been through/going through in terms of gender. We are lucky to even have the babies never mind what sex they might be! It didnt matter to us at all so we kept it a surprise til the big day! (An easy way to keep people off your case) I was so happy to be having a boy, id be terrible at doing a little girls hair and having been one of two sisters I am well aware what the hormonal teenage years might bring!!!! I also secretly hope to have another boy this time, 2 the same for me is more of a gift than one of each but thats my OPINION. Having said that, if they tell me im growing a pink one then I will shout it from the roof tops, I will love her with everything just like my boy because she is MY baby. That is half of me and half of the person that taught me how to love in the first place.

Boy or Girl both are a blessing and Im pleased for anyone whose just pregnant in the first place!

@november90 I had a friend who had 4 girls said boys were horrible and she would never want a boy I actually think this was said because she had all girls a very opinionated person and after 28yrs of friendship I realised a toxic person I thought I needed in my life I no longer did I feel much better now we are strangers, I also have 2 friends that have had 5 boys each (both lost a child) and are in their elements burg said it would be nice to of had a girl but just happy for healthy babies, my partner had a daughter who's nearly 5 she's a handful in many ways to say the least and he would love to have a boy and is certain this baby is a boy- I am too but obviously won't know until we see a widge! He's also happy just to have a healthy baby like myself too x

You're all absolutely right! A baby and a family are blessings and what we are all doing it for. I don't think there's anything wrong with having a gender preference, or not having one. It's when people are rude about it when I get upset! I love my little boy with every single inch of me and more... and for some reason I take it really personally when I hear rubbish comments being made about bringing a boy into the family as I honestly still count my lucky stars every single day that he came into my life! It's a shame that SOME people cannot see the bigger picture!

Morning everyone, so last night I can only describe this pain as stretching in my stomach and then today already, I'm having slight pains which feel like pulling, does anyone else get this?? I'm 12 weeks tomorrow xx