September 2019 #13

[Stroan]

Oops, we filled up the last thread. Hope everyone finds this one.

For those of you that are getting induced or have been induced do you get a letter to confirm when ?
It was confirmed at my last consultant appointment on the 22nd that I would be induced on Sunday the 15th and that the ward will ring me when they want me to go in I just thought I’d have had a letter through or something to confirm ?
I’ve got midwife appointment next Thursday so can ask then but just wondered if it’s standard to get a letter x

@Dipsy77 no letter here, was told at consultant apt it is booked for 12 Sept but nothing in writing- I have to call labour ward at 8am for a time.

@Stroan glad to hear you are getting more settled, and yay for snuggles! I've been thinking of you, glad it's going ok!

@Dipsy77 no letter here either. The midwife filled out a form with my details and the induction date but I then had to hand this to reception and was just given a general information leaflet to take away.

I have just been giving a leaflet with date and time on for induction too
Everyone gets admitted same time

Well i had two pretty strong contractions around tea time. Since then, fuck all.

Well that's rubbish Decaf! Here's hoping you wake up in good strong labour...

Its very rubbish dusty! There goes my august baby!

I didn't get a leaflet and I wished I'd taken note of the ward because I would prefer to ring them than them ring me ! I'll double check with midwife Thursday re which ward glad to know you don't get a letter though

My mil messaged me this morning to ask how her little girl was, I assume she meant my baby. Phoned several times and tried video calling and messaging when I was in a lot of pain and on the verge of having a meltdown. Then got a rather curt thumbs up in reply when I did message her back.

@easterbuns you're MIL sounds like hard work. I would just tell her you are finding it a bit claustrophobic, you don't mean to be rude but leave us alone! You will get in contact with her. Once you do it's green light for her. Until then, she's stuck on red.

(What I recently told my DM as I was sick of the "anything yet?" Messages. As if I am going to have a baby and not tell you!!!"

No one has messaged me yet to ask. Last time i issued some sarcastic responses and people seem to have remembered!

Oh @Stroan I don't blame you for enjoying absolutely every moment. Let the boy snuggle on you alllll day long 😍

Haven't really got many snacks for me - most gd friendly snacks are not hospital temperature friendly - they all need to be in a fridge really I think? Plenty for after though mwah ha ha!!

Think I'm ok about it if that makes sense, just hoping I manage to get a semi decent nights sleep.

Sorry for those having in law issues - really is the last thing you need!

@Dipsy77 no letter for me either, although fairly short notice, we only found out on Wednesday.

Oh @IVEgottheDECAF Baby is teasing you!!

1st September... can't believe it's here!

@IVEgottheDECAF - anymore contractions over night?

@easterbuns1 and @Horehound my MIL and SIL are exactly the same! So OTT and constantly asking for pictures, updates etc. When Max was in the NICU they would message as soon as they saw I had been online on WhatsApp asking how he was. I tried to reason that they were just concerned but it was so frustrating to be hounded with messages when I hadn't been able to see him yet. MIL and FIL are over next weekend (until Wednesday 😱) and I am already giving myself a pep talk to stay calm!

Congratulations on the new babies. @Horehound your labour sounded incredibly tough - how is the recovery going?

All good here, not getting much sleep and still struggling to keep up with Max's insatiable appetite but it's nice to see him starting to chub up again!

Happy 1st september everyone!

No more contractions. Some cramping around 5am. Attempted to dtd last night that wont be happening again.

Good luck kyles!

Lovely to hear max is doing well happydays

I have a baby vampire. Her pattern seems to be to cluster feed from 11am to 4am (every 30 minutes). Only managed some sleep from 5am by bringing her into the bed with me, which then worries the hell out of me. Didn't have this with eldest as she tended to cluster feed 7-11pm ish and then sleep until about 3am. In hindsight that was heaven!

Please tell me this will pass sooner than later!

*11pm to 4am 🤦🏻‍♀️ think I'd be a shrivelled husk of a human being if she fed non-stop 11am to the next 4am lol.

Good luck today @kyles101. Hope the pessary does the job and you have a quick and easy labour. Will be thinking of you!

@BridgetJonesDaiquiri we've had a few days of this, but thankfully with better night's in between. Seems to be midnight until 4am, then he's zonked for a few hours. I should really come downstairs and watch TV because teeing to stay awake in bed is really hard!

Good luck @kyles101! Hope things are trotting along nicely already!

@BridgetJonesDaiquiri and @Stroan I reckon the only way to stay sane is to just bite the bullet and make the bed safe for cosleeping, even if you don't do it much. Otherwise the fear is just awful! That and bedside cots...

It's crazy how people think it's acceptable to act that was, isn't it @happydays00.
As if the first thing we should be thinking about us sending them a bloody photo.
Yesterday after I had ignored her requests she messaged DH if she had done something to annoy us..
I thinking replied and possibly called her when he went to the shops but I just messaged in the group saying it's all a but much. That we are busy, had midwife and visitors, that I'm still struggling with latch and thatbtaking a photo is not always on my mind when I'm just trying to survive.
She replied to say "no worries, you know how selfish us grannies are. Take care of yourself". Then first thing this morning she messages to say good morning and hope we slept well.
Ffs i want one day where she isn't messaging first thing in the morning or all through the day. Jeez.

My recovery is going well. I do have an infection and I got antibiotics from midwife yesterday. Think my tear is healing well, got midwife to check that too and she said it was all ok.
I managed a whole day bf yesterday and by move we had A LOT of wet and dirty nappies. So he's deffo getting enough milk. Then fed him about 11pm and then he didn't wake until 3am so another feed and then again at 6am so actually feel not too bad!

So yeh this is what happened:
Day 1 Sunday 5am contractions start, lost my plug, had my TENS machine and used baths.
TENS machine broke. Had a terrible night but contractions were about 8 mins apart and couldn't do much except take paracetamol. We were quite wires and didn't get much sleep.
Day 2: husband went to get me a new TENS machine.. thank God! Used that all day and also baths although baths slowed contractions down. Managed that all day and night up to 5am Tuesday. I couldn't take the pain anymore so messaged midwife, she came out and got me on gas and air.. contractions really ramped up. In the afternoon she did an exam and said baby was at an angle but confident he would turn as he made his way out..
Her shift ended about 3pm and she told the next midwive in had 2 bottles of gas and air left so shed need to sort more out.
Midwife left it quite late to organise. I had 1/4 tank left and she realised they aren't allowed to transport the gas in their own cars.she had to get another midwife out whilst she drove the work car to the next town 40 mins away to get more gas. During which time I ran out I think 1 contraction in after she left! I knew shed be at least an hour and half coming back and I basically went into myself. My own zone. .my husband said he thought i dealt with those contractions better than the ones i used with gas and air. Anyhpo, managed to get through that knowing gas and air qas on its way.
Right? Wrong! She came back with 2 smaller canisters but a piece of the valve was missing and they couldn't get it to work. It was about 8.30pm and they were trying to make washers out of rubber gloves etx and i was going out of my mind. I cracked and said I wanted to go to hospital asap and I wanted epidural as soon as we got there.
Luckily ambulance came within 15 mins and had gas and air in there. Got to hospital and the were really quiet. So got straight into a room and epidural given. Worked for 1.5hrs but they had given me too much and reduced it. I then started to feel a contraction and demanded a topup. I got it but it didnt touch me. Pain was back in full. They were concerned about babies pulse and their doppler wasn't working so we had to agree to them basically putting a corkscrew in babies skull to monitor him. I was back on gas and air. They then broke my waters. Later they asked.me to per in a bed pan. I couldn't do it but I felt the baby right in my bum and told them I wanted to push. I was told no, they wanted to monitor and obs the baby for 30 more mins. My husband said they actually did it for another 1.5 hours then finally let me push and he was out within 2 hours. Tore a blood vessel and lost 813ml blood.

But i had my baby! So from Sunday 5am to Wednesday 5.37am when he was born. Omg can't believe i did it!! :D

Wishing you all the best @kyles101!!

Thanks ladies, just waiting to head up. It's been a long morning!!

@Horehound you did so well, that's a full on birth. You win biggest pain in the arse MIL I know it's hard, but try not to let her irritate you, you want to be enjoying this time. You sound like you're doing so well with the BF, I hope I can do it too!!

Good luck kyles!

Horehound that sounds horrific! None of mine have been anything like that!

Oh @Horehound that sounds horrible. And then your MiL on top of that.... Good to hear bf is going much better at the very least.

Good luck @kyles101!

@BridgetJonesDaiquiri I think would be a human raisin with constant feeding between 11am and 4pm. Never mind 11am to 4am!

Yay September! One goal achieved! Next stop 37weeks! Had a hard day today though. Made the mistake of thinking about all the plans and stuff I wanted to do before baby is born. Didn't quite realise how having one nice meal out actually meant to me. And how much I wanted to bake a cake. Then I realised that I wasn't going to get to pack my baby bag and choose all the bits that go into it and promptly turned into a soggy wreck. Then baby refused to co-operate with the CTG so I was tied to my bed for a while. And now I'm on a fluid chart as it seems I'm not peeing enough. But not fluid restricted...yet.

Is anyone else itching? My legs arms and back are really itching it’s driving me mad! My bump is fine it’s really odd. I’ve looked up on the liver issue that’s related to itching and it says it mainly starts in hands and feet which I haven’t got but just wondered if anyone else is experiencing this ?