September 2019 #13

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Oops, we filled up the last thread. Hope everyone finds this one.

@BimbleBamble, @challengeyourreality PM'd you both about the facebook board

@easterbuns1 congratulations on your little girl!

We are terrible at names, have had a boys for ages and then OH adds extra and im like Noooooo, do not do this! and if its a girl we dont even have a frontrunner, OH will be relying on me caving on the name he wanted last time and my reservation still stands.

Im just debating weather a tour of the birth center next week is worth it, its an effort to get to, already on a scan a week and the chance of us getting to go there has seriously diminished by the breech and size. Had to book the tour in April its so popular!

Dyra! Dont say that! I dont want to go over!

@easterbuns1 congratulations! Love the sound of the dimples. So excited to meet my little girl.
DH has a boat race with work tomorrow so will be out all day, hopefully won't go into labour whilst he is on the water (and I am with 2 dc alone)!

I'm glad I'm not the only one without a definite name! I thought DH & I had agreed on something but he's become unsure & now his uncertainty is making me unsure!

I'm very fed up now & sore today. Had to go to the pharmacy yesterday to get more anti sickness medication (thanks neverending hyperemesis....) but ended up having to park very far away. I'm on crutches for SPD & as I walked past the parent & child spaces (all full), noticed one was taken up by a car full of young guys who had decided to sit on the bonnet of the car blasting music. I ended up tripping over my crutch & stumbling as I walked past & they laughed at me I now understand the rage of some posters when people inappropriately use these spaces now! 37+4 and c section at 39 weeks so counting down the days...even if the hospital are double booking people so have warned me it may well not happen on the day planned.

And huge congratulations to everyone who's had babies so far!

I'm doing ok @DustyDoorframes. It was confirmed this morning that I'm definitely not going home until a couple of days after baby is born no matter what. The plan is to wait until Wednesday at the latest to induce, dependant on bloods and BP behaving. Today's bloods were fine, but this evening's blood pressure readings are starting to show an upward trend. Not high yet, but I can see my dosage of labetalol being increased tomorrow. Fortunately I'm on the minimum dosage atm, so there's plenty of scope to increase it.

Managed to get baby to feed from me for a whole episode of "working moms". (20 mins or so)
What I noticed was:
The suckle was not sore at all, but light flutters with lots of breaks. I was expecting the sucks to get harder as time went on?
Before i got him on, my breasts were really full and almost going hard when I decided to wake him and feed. (I guess all my power pumping has paid off) so I pumped from left breast whilst he fed from right.
How do I know how much he drank though?! I think because Ive pumped and bottle fed for so knew exactly how much he was getting.

@Horehound is there a reason that you think he wouldn't be getting enough? I'm not a medical professional but I have accumulated 4 years bf experience and I have always been told if they are gaining weight and are healthy then they are getting enough.
Also from my own experience, feeding was only ever harder and painful when my milk was increasing - so initial suction was hard (first few days), then at different growth spurts.
All I can advise is try not to over think it. Everyone experiences it differently, it's about how your baby reacts and thrives. Sometimes they will want more, sometimes less. There is no official amount that's good or bad per feed if they are doing well on it.

@challengeyourreality no not particularly but I'm just worried he won't get enough and lose weight. From pumping I know he can eat 50 to 60ml but if i bf i obviously dont know what hes getting. Will keep an eye on his nappies I guess

@Horehound Sounds like he's got the hang of it! They tend to feed more efficiently off the breast than from a bottle. I mix fed initially and mine was much quicker on the boob. My friend's baby never fed for more than 10 mins. She was just super efficient. Keep an eye on the nappies and they'll tell you if he's getting enough.
I found the KellyMum website is quite helpful for BF support. Get yourself on some FB groups too. It really helps to know all new mum's worry about how much their babies are getting.
I'm kind of dreading all those worries about feeding and whether baby is getting enough. It's quite a stressful time. So much easier when they can talk

Morning all

39+2

No more cramping overnight or this morning so far

My pelvis feels like someone stood on it most of the night though!

Glad baby is getting the hang of feeding horehound!

Sugar i am surprised you didnt bash them with said crutches!

Dyra hope your managing to sleep in there!

@Horehound nappies are definitely a good indicator.

Ha decaf same here - feels like my pelvis is going to crack open like a book when I try and turn over. Also woke twice in the night with completely locked knees and needing to pee so couldn’t walk properly - kind of squat walked to the loo 😱
And OH is back (so labour can happen now!) but I haven’t shared a bed in 6 weeks and he wakes me up if I involuntarily move in my sleep to ask if I’m ok (!) So I’m writing this from under the spare duvet on the sofa 🤨🤨

@easterbuns1 congratulations!! Hope you’re both doing well!

@RonaldWeasley oh that’s good that you haven’t had to go in too often! movement is still an issue for me, I obviously have a quiet baby who has quiet days but my immediate thought is that something is wrong which is getting really exhausting! Been having some horrible nightmares as well which hasn’t helped. Anxiety is massively ramping up as I get closer to the finish line so trying to keep myself busy as much as possible!

@IVEgottheDECAF ditto to the cracking pelvis! Feels like it’s splitting apart!

Ouf @Dyra , I hope you are managing to get some rest! And I guess you technically were in the building for your last day at work?? Hope that labetalol keeps going its work! I had a v similar story with my first, but it was caught at 40 weeks, so we just induced after a couple of days. (Which was super easy actually, I had a brilliant induction. Didn't even need any pain relief, and I'm not usually some kind of warrior)

@Horehound that's brilliant news!!! Often a feed will have fluttery parts and deeper, more slow and rhythmic parts- but especially a lovely long sleepy nighttime feed might well be very fluttery. You mentioned spotting him swallowing so you know the signs to look for (little movements near the ears, for instance) but they might not show very much. You kind of have to trust him to help himself to enough, and he will. Hard though, especially when you've been seeing it so clearly! Once he's more on the boob and less on the bottle wet nappies are a very useful sign (he might not poo very often, or he might poo loads. They can digest pretty much the whole feed sometimes so no poo! I was told 5 in one day to every 5 days is normal pooing for a BF baby!). Kellymom is a brilliant web resource, I second that!

Well ladies, enjoy getting some sleep before your new babies arrive. I had about 2 hours of broken sleep between 12-5pm and then gave up and slept with DD on my chest until 7am. She's fine sleeping by herself in the day but wants to velcro at night. My boobs are humongous and rock solid this morning as milk has now come in, so that's good news anyway. DD seems to be a little milk fiend. @Horehound I've no idea how much she takes in a feed as pumping isn't really equivalent to how much a baby can drain the boob. Don't sweat it, if he's happy after a feed and gaining weight, he's getting enough. It's one of the perks of breastfeeding that you don't have to worry about quantity - boobs will just adjust to his needs 

@sugarsprinklesrainbowdrops your post made me so angry, those absolute feckers.

@Dyra hope you're coping ok in the antenatal ward. As with @DustyDoorframes I can second having a v quick and easy induction this time round - and that was at 37 weeks.

To any one trying to hurry things along/have quick labours, I second the dates eating theory! Ate 4 big ones a day for about a week and a half.

@easterbuns1 congratulations and hope you're recovering well! Can't wait to see a pic.

bridgetjonesdaquiri I'm with you on the no sleep. The twins are tag teaming me, I just get one settled and the other kicks off. They are extremely noisy overnight too especially Alex. Not sure whether it's gas or something else.

Hi all! Can I please join?

I was due on 26th August but it's looking more likely I will be having a September baby.

1st baby, no complications. No real niggles. Getting frustrated now...

Welcome @Snowflake9!

If anyone is interested, I've just seen that the Positive Birth Company have their new postpartum pack (advice, videos etc) for £10 today instead of usual £39 with code "HERO". I bought their hypnobirthing pack and absolutely loved it, so tempted to get this new pack as well even though it's #2 for us.

@boodles101 I cannot even start to imagine how little sleep you must get with the two of them! Hopefully your toddler sleeps well and your DH is pulling his weight.

@DustyDoorframes thanks f9r the info..didnt kkow about going days without poops! I'll check out that site too. He's currently on now so I'm looking forward (what have i become?!) To seeing his next nappy.

Hear hear to getting as much sleep as you can before baby is here. It's a killer.

Thanks for reassurance @BridgetJonesDaiquiri

Ugh my MIL is doing my head in. She is constantly asking for photos. End messages. I got annoyed at dH yesterday for hom sending a photo of me feeding looking a state and he sent another one of him with no shirt on and baby laying on him. She replied to say her colleagues all say dh is handsome. Wtf. Who shows others photos like that. I sent a curt message saying I don't want photos shown to all and sundry and a message to my husband and her saying stop sending photos of me looking a state. She replied to say she only shows FIL all photos and SIL some photos although yes, she had shown colleagues the one of dh.
I thought she'd have got the message i dont want to send photos a million times a day. Woke up today and she's messaged. Then asking for photo. Ffs. I just replied "no
Busy"

I know it shouldn't wind me up but good god. I've got more things to think about than that

Oh dear horehound she sounds ......... fun!

horehound my MIL is the same although thankfully she pesters DH instead of me. Funnily enough we are too busy to be snapping photos every 2 mins to send to her. I won't even go into the fact that none of DH have even messaged me to say congrats to or asked how I'm doing!

Bridgetjonesdaquiri yes DH has been fantastic, unfortunately DS is ill at the moment and getting his back molars through, worst possible timing. But I'd also rather it be now when DH isn't at work to help out!

@horehound I'd ignore her completely she will get the message! My own mum did my nut in other photos last time, just came round and snapped pictures for months on end nothing helpful. I'm grateful now for any of us together because no one else took them but urghhhh it was annoying.

@boodles101 oh that's something at least. I think my husband created a group of me, dh and MIL so I get included in all. Might leave the group ha! I told dh I wasn't happy but he's kind of sticking up for her saying she's just excited. I said I'm not snapping photos all day once he's back at work. She's just too full on sometimes. Usually he never contacts her, now it's opposite!
We've never heard a peep from his sister either. Dont think he registered that until I pointed it out and then he contacted her!

Pretty bad you'd husband's family didn't ask about you or congratulate you..as if you were just a vessel.
Babies bring out the crazy in people.

@BBell2 ugh god. Well, i just know when she comes to visit she'll be unbearable with it. And the last time we saw them she was taking pictures of dh secretly. It was so weird. I watched her do it pretending to do something else. Strange woman. So can only imagine what it will be like with a baby added to the mix. Thankfully they just come for 1 night next weekend.

I've been reading along but never seem to have two hands free to reply!

Congratulations to all the new mama's @easterbuns1 @BridgetJonesDaiquiri @Tefiti2 (really sorry if I've missed anyone)

@horehound it sounds like you are doing great, it's so hard to have faith in your body and your baby but it sounds like you are getting there.

MIL sounds irritating. Is it her first grandchild?

I was really worried about my in laws - they made me feel like utter crap when they came to meet DD (they live in Ireland). We told them they had to visit while we were in hospital or wait until we were ready. To be fair they were on their best behaviour and DH reined them in when they got a bit OTT. However, only DHs aunt has even acknowledged the baby so far. Haven't heard a peep out of his three siblings or any extended family since we announced the pregnancy. So, so hurtful.

@dyra not ideal but so glad they caught it and are moving swiftly. Not the mat leave you had planned but definitely for the best.

@kyles101 good luck with the induction. Have you got some good GD friendly snacks for your hospital bag? And non GD ones for afterwards?!

@IVEgottheDECAF you've made that baby far too comfy. Hope he's with you soon.

I can't quite believe we've had two weeks of this little boy. It's like he was always here. Still mostly content and chilled, feeding is getting better although he has a shallow latch that we are working on. Very close to having regained his birth weight after a big drop. And we're just more chilled out so it's much more enjoyable. He spends most of his day tucked up on me which is absolutely fine by me, he's my last baby and I'm not going to wish this part away this time.