January 2020 - thread six

[Missmonkeypenny]

Thread six for those of us due in or very closely around January 2020!

We found out we’re having a little boy today - due 9th of Jan! Hubby and I are over the moon, as his big sister

@SleepingStandingUp Thanks. I wondered if maybe it was a twins thing but I guess not! The OB said it's probably just one of the small veins in my uterus or my cervix bursting due to pressure of pregnancy. Hard not to worry though! Nothing since this morning so I'm going to assume all is fine. No pain.

@lifesnotaspectatorsport I think your right, I asked about the risks of bleeding etc as I’m a paranoid wreck.. and they said if there’s any little amounts it is probably just pressure on your cervix but to be checked but after a few times it’s more than likely same thing unless you’ve got some pain..

Aw your getting little popping? I felt a ‘swoosh’ last night 😂 but nothing I can 100% link to the baby! Hope your feeling better now after your scare x

Also I think brown is old and old blood isn't a worry unless theres lots or pain z

@Danimarie he's raised a good point there! I suppose maybe see how you feel when you get to scan? X

@lifesnotaspectatorsport was it really that apparent? 😂 in that case, I'm sure if it is a little boy we're having he will 'present' himself without us having to ask 🙈x

I went looking at prams with my mum...

And left with a secured order of a silver cross wave with every add on possible 🙈

I’m so weak willed shopping 😂

Hi!

I'm a bit late to the party but I'm due 25th Jan.

I'm 41 next week and this is my first child

I've had 6 early miscarriages before so this time I wasn't believing anything until the 12 week scan! Altho I was lucky enough to also have a 7 week scan where I saw the tiny heartbeat

So I'm o my now really believing this is happening

Welcome and congratulations Janey

@peanutbaba Ha ha, yes, by 20 weeks it can be! Better squint a bit at the screen if you definitely want a surprise 

@Janeypi Congrats! That's lovely news especially after your early losses. I'm 40 so you're not the only 'older' mum on here. This is my second pregnancy, had DS1 at 37, almost 38. Age is just a number!

@Soph43 Feeling fine, thanks, and the bleeding has stopped again. Now lying on the sofa and hoping for some more popping in my tummy

Thanks @SleepingStandingUp and @lifesnotaspectatorsport!

Definitely getting excited now, itching to go shopping! I'm determined to at least wait until the 20week scan tho... I'll definitely be finding out the sex. For me, there are enough surprises in store!

Hi all,

I'm due 23/01/2020 - my birthday is the 27th so hoping it will not be late (not that it matters). It's our first and want to keep the gender a surprise too

Congrats everyone xx

@Janeypi Just wanted to say hello and welcome - I'm also a first time mum at age 41, after a history of losses and failed IVFs.

It's such a miracle to be at this stage isn't it. I honestly didn't know if it would ever be possible and I'm so thankful everything's seems to be going well so far.

I've found it really hard to actually believe it's happening, so much so we haven't even dared tell anyone yet, not even friends and family, and we're 18 weeks now!

Time to start believing!

Oh wow @Botanica! Huge huge congratulations!

Its hard isn't it when you have a history of losses? For a long while my husband and I didn't even talk about it or refer to it or anything. Even after having the scan at 7 weeks.
I only told one friend before my 12 week scan but now all my nearest and dearest know. But tbh I had little choice as I was going on hols to France with my folks and there was no way they were going to believe I wasn't drinking because I was "on a health kick"!

I'm so glad things have been going well for you. Have you had many symptoms?
I've been lucky and only had bad tiredness (still have... Been in bed since 7pm!) But in some ways that's made things worse as I've had times I've doubted I'm still pregnant.

I think my history has definitely tarnished the 1st trimester for me. I've not allowed myself to be excited or talk about it, which is sad. How about you?

Congratulations @Janeypi .

I'm another 40 year old mum, has DS1 at 36 and now back again expecting a little girl.

Age is definitely just a number! Although I do take a bit of (lighthearted) offence at the NHS calling me a 'geriatric mum'!

Welcome @Janeypi I've just turned 42! I'm sure there was another lady on here a couple of weeks back who was older than me but haven't seen her lately.

I'm having bub no. 2 in early Jan. I'm sorry you had to go through so many losses. I had two before having my daughter just after turning 40, then another early loss late last year. I know what you mean about it affecting things - I've never managed to get back that lovely innocent joy I had in the initial weeks of my first pregnancy. Still. Here we are - still going strong!

I can definitely feel bub now - more so the last couple of days. I'm bigger than I was this far along with DD - I didn't want to tell anyone until after the 21 week scan but it's been impossible to hide the bump for at least 3-4 weeks now

@Ceejay19 and @karryk... so good to know I'm not alone! :)
Congratulations to you both.

@Ceejay19.... my mum had me when she was 36, and she was called geriatric then! No one has dared to call me that... yet ;)

@karryk that's exactly it, the loss of the innocent joy. But you're right, here we are and going strong! you're a few weeks ahead of me so I'm not feeling anything yet (although I do feel like my insides are being poked sometimes!) and tbh I don't think I'm really due until early feb, despite the oficial due date being 25th. My little one grew about 4 mm during one scan! :D

I can understand not wanting to tell anyone and tbh I think I might have waited until my scan at 20 weeks too if it had been a choice. But your bump must be some reassurance too... especially if he/she is making their presence known!

I'd just like the tiredness to wear off a little now!

Hello, can I join you all?

I’m also expecting my first child in my 40s. Baby was conceived a month before my 42nd birthday, and I’m at 16 weeks now!

I’ve only recently started telling people. I too couldn’t believe that it would work out after having a couple of early losses - but things seem ok so far.

Had lots of morning sickness in weeks 7-14, I felt like I had flu for 2 months! However that seems to have passed and I feel much more energetic now.

Haven’t felt the baby move yet, but I think that tends to be later in first pregnancies. I will be amazed when that happens.

Hello @karryk, really glad to hear that things are going well with you!

Hi @turquoiseturtle!

Congratulations! Seems like there are a few of us in the over 40s club!

So glad you're feeling better now, that must be a huge relief.

I was just reading up on baby movements this morning and apparently it can take up to 25 weeks for first timers to feel anything :(

Will you be finding out the gender or leaving it as a surprise?

@Janeypi Thanks for that info about movements, that should save me some worry if I don’t feel anything for a while.

I haven’t decided yet about finding out the gender to be honest. They won’t tell you at the NHS scans where I am (though I imagine you might be able to see for yourself...) I might keep it as a surprise, but would also quite like a head start on deciding on names! What are you planning to do?

@turquoiseturtle I'm not sure if they tell you here tbh, but even if they don't I will go private and find out. I want to be able to decide names (the OH is refusing to enter the name game until he knows the gender!) and, for me, I think there's enough surprises without that too .

I'd also really like to start some shopping and kinda feel I should know the gender first, although a lot is neutral I know

Hi there, joining in late! Expecting 2nd baby on 2nd Jan 2020. Not finding out the sex as I like the idea of the surprise! 💙💕

Hello @turquoiseturtle so happy to hear things are going well for you!

I didn't feel much other than a few pops and tickles with DD at around 17 weeks - only after 20 weeks did I start get stronger movements but it can be even later than that. I'm 17 weeks now and only just getting a few tickles and pops every couple of days so think this one is following the same pattern.

Hello! Can I tentatively join? I’m due 11th January currently 17 weeks.
I avoided joining a group til now as last pregnancy I had to have a TFMR at 20 weeks as I can’t quite bring myself to imagine this is going to work out.
Our 16 week scan (heart scan as previously loss was due to a heart defect) found a very trivial/borderline amount of excess fluid around the heart which could be nothing, could be something. Luckily my bloods for infection came back clear so just got to wait for the 20 week and the 22 week heart scan now and hope it’s sorted itself out/not become more of an issue.

I hope it’s okay me joining late and I’m not gatecrashing anything. Going to have a read through now :)

Of course you're very welcome Bella, sorry to hear about your loss and hoping you get good heart scans