Due March 2020 - FIRST BABY in late 20's

[lonelyonee]

Hello!
Just wanted to start a new thread specifically for women who are in their late twenties & are having their first baby in March 2020! 🙂
Not trying to exclude anyone just think it will be nice to speak to women who are in the same sort of circumstances as myself. Plus the other March threads are pretty full!

Bit about me:

• due 28th March 2020
• 27 years old (DP is 24)
• was on the combination pill for 12 years
• been with DP a year and a half
• SO excited as this is both our first baby (DP's ex had a miscarriage @ 10 weeks a few years ago)
• feeling nauseous, boobs are killing, weeing loads & having cramps/pains.

Look forward to hearing your stories & sharing this experience with you! 🙂 xx

@lonelyonee honestly don't know how you're coping with still being in work I take my bloody hat off to you. I've been so lucky I havent had to work during this pregnancy especially now as I am getting aches and pains everywhere!

Haha I remember the midwife asking me that I had to go into a different room with her. I was like my OH is a total pussy he wouldn't hurt a fly 😆

I had a midwife appointment this morning and everything was fine, all my bloods came back clear and babies heartbeat was spot on again. Feel like I've been so lucky with this pregnancy I know some women go through the mill with it, must be a constant worry.
God I will enjoy that glass mark my words lol I can't wait to demolish a bottle of red wine after baby though ! 😆
When are you going on maternity? X

@HighOnStilts oh believe me I'm only here because we can't afford me not to be. I hate it. I hate the people. It's toxic and it's like being back at school. I am well aware I'm not liked at all, by quite a few people, especially by my manager which makes things extremely difficult and awkward.
Honestly feel like crying my eyes out today.
Aww good to hear! Mines Wednesday so I'll let you know how I get on.
Yeah me too I can't really complain, I know it could have been a lot worse and baby is doing well so I'm lucky.
Ahh I'm tempted but I also wanna EBF so 🤷🏼‍♀️
I break up 21st February... hopefully all being well. I'm counting down the seconds!!!

@lonelyonee oh my god really? That's horrible I'm so sorry you've got to contend with that. What do you do if you don't mind my asking?
I worked at Tesco for 8 years, money was great and I had plenty of hours but our store was going down hill and it the managers were constantly on our backs, I decided to take the plunge and leave as I'd had enough and I was miserable, but I do miss the money to be honest.

I'm breast feeding too and you can still drink, wont affect the milk supply but obviously you can't get drunk because you have a baby to look after lol.

21st of Feb will be here before you know it!!! Definitely let us know how you get on with your midwife appointment too! X

@HighOnStilts yep. I'd rather not say publicly as it would be very outing, I'm trying to remember my password so I can reply to your private message! (I only really use the app) 😂😂😂 more than happy to tell you that way.
Tbh money isn't amazing but it's decent for the role I do, although I do a lot of extra things which aren't necessarily in my job role (which also imo are not appreciated). I think a lot of managers these days have lost touch with what they are there to do, not much thought about how they deal with people including their own staff. Saw a great meme on Facebook which summed it up... if I can find it I'll post it.
If you can afford not to work especially now with baby on the way that's great! For us it's not an option... we need my wage as my outgoings are too high to subsidise on OHs wage alone. (We're going to struggle whilst I'm on maternity).
Exactly... I'm not a one glass kinda girl 🙊😂
I feel like it's going to drag because I'm so eager for it to come to be honest! ☹️ hope not though!

Ah yes this was it...

Replied to your message @lonelyonee!

I hope the rest of you girls on here are well @eskimod @jl2345 @jlo6308. Haven't heard from you in a while! X

@lonelyonee loving the meme by the way... it's so true! 😆

@HighOnStilts
Hahaha it really resonated with me for some reason... 😂😂😂

Yes any updates ladies? Hope you are well?

@eskimod @jl2345

Hi ladies @lonelyonee @HighOnStilts @eskimod sorry I’ve been quiet, just been surviving work and day to day life at the moment, we were away last weekend with family, which was lovely, however has left me totally exhausted for getting through work this week! Also to top it off we’ve had a case of slapped cheek in school so I have to go for bloods to check my immunity, have a midwife appointment on Monday so they going to double up and check then. I’ve heard nothing in regards to health visitor, should I have by now?! I’m 30 weeks. Totally with you on the not kissing baby thing and especially the smoking thing @lonelyonee, I more or less gave an ultimatum to one of my family that they needed to quit smoking if they wanted to hold the baby, but it’s done the trick and they’ve not smoked for about 3 months now 🙌🏼 Sounds like your house moves are getting under way ladies, so exciting for you both and you’ll feel so much more settled and ready once your loved I’m sure! Have you ladies got a list of stuff for hospital bag etc? I’m planning on packing it in half term but so worried about forgetting something! Baby is definitely getting into some interesting positions now, I had one day where my tummy felt so tight and I’m sure it had its bum sticking right out around my belly button 😂

@jl2345 good morning lovely! Glad to hear you're doing well!
Am I going to sound dumb here but what is "slapped cheek"? Also, you should just get a letter through the post regarding the health visitor, they do state when they are dropping in on the letter but if it's not a suitable time for you, you gotta call them and rearrange.

I am slightly in panic mode now as my hospital bag is 30 miles away across the river Humber with my MIL lol. I can't really start packing it properly until I moved into the new house and I still have LOADS of baby stuff to buy! But to be honest my other half is really chill and said we'll get the less important things as we need them which is fair enough.

I think the main in your hospital bag is plenty of nappies/water wipes (I've got instead of cotton wool) plenty of sleeper suits/muslins/sanitary towels/FOOOOOD!!! Lol 😆

My baby is the same lol, definitely getting less and less room in there now, I have to keep moving her manually from under my ribs, it's not painful just feels odd lol. Sometimes my belly is lopsided when she's lying on one side, it's funny to see! X

Heyyy! @jl2345 @HighOnStilts good morning!
Ooo lovely that you could have a little getaway even if it's been tiring. Oh Christ! The kids in schools these days have bloody all sorts! It's seriously like a little microbe tray 🤢 hopefully you'll be all good 🤞🏻
Yeah I just got a letter although I've phoned to change address and re arrange but no response as of yet 🤷🏼‍♀️ May have to call again Monday.
Wow you're braver than I am. I'd have no hope with MIL with that, she already thinks I'm being ott about the hand washing thing 🙄 although my OH has quit now bless him... the struggle is real apparently 😂
Yep been told they are delivering the kitchen today, but no date on when it's being fitted which is a nightmare as we move in on Tuesday 🤦🏼‍♀️
Hospital bag wise mines sort of done...
so for baby you'll be needing outfits for baby (I've done 3 diff sizes just in case) including socks and mittens and hats + a going home outfit.
Nappies, water wipes, a cuddly toy, dummy, special blanket, car seat, Vaseline and cotton wool, nappy bags.
For Mom: a couple of nighties, going home outfit, lanolin, breast pads, maternity pads, big black pants, tena pants, a dark/old towel, wash bag inc toothpaste etc..., makeup bag (if that's your thing), flip flops, slippers, fluffy socks, nursing bras, water bottle, a 4 pack of lucozade sport, protein bars, phone chargers, camera, earphones/headphones, a few bits for dad (toothbrush, change of clothes).

Think that's everything. I'm thinking about doing it by having everything for me and OH in my suitcase (cabin size) then baby's stuff in his changing bag. But as I'm waiting for baby shower for the changing bag (friend is buying me one) I haven't done it like this yet. So it's just the essentials shoved into the case for now. I've not listed everything for ease but lip balm is apparently an essential for if you have gas and air.

@HighOnStilts slapped cheek is a type of virus but can cause miscarriage and complications (much lower risk after 20 weeks but still a risk) so better to be safe than sorry! Yes @lonelyonee they have all of the germs, especially since I teach the little ones (3-5 year olds).. just love it when they cough in my face 😐
Thanks for the hospital bag info, I’ll definitely keep that list to hand! We need to buy clothes, have a few bits but need some more of different sizes, baby shower is in a few weeks so going to wait until after then to see what is left that we need.
Great news about the kitchen, hopefully they’ll get it fitted ASAP for you!
I’ve decided to book onto a course of antenatal classes, they’re pregnancy yoga/hypnobirthing basdd so I’m intrigued to see what they’re like! They start the weekend after next so I’ll let you ladies know what I think 🤦‍♀️

@jl2345 no worries, I have done EXTENSIVE research 😂😂😂 I'm just DYING to wash all his little clothes and get everything together and ready now! But obviously the move is taking precedent over everything else right now so probably won't do that until we're all moved in and unpacked and actually have a kitchen?!
Also...
@HighOnStilts either of you sorted a name for baby yet? Think tonight we may have made a decision (finally!). Although as always nothing is set in stone, but I do feel a little better now we have a couple of options.

Tell me about it @lonelyonee I’m going to wash everything in half term week and can’t wait! Ha, names wise we don’t have a clue, we have 3/4 girls names we both like but no boys names that we can agree on. Ideally I’d like to decide on about 3 of each, then make up our mind once baby is here to see which suits. My job makes choosing names sooo hard though, something OH doesn’t seem to understand 😂

@jl2345 understandable when you associate names with kids who aren't exactly easy 😂 it's taken us a long time to come to our name but I THINK we're happy with it. Even managed two middle name ladies but that was a little easier as one was always going to be there and the other one was our other name choice. Still love the name Killian though, might lose my marbles when he's born and end up "accidentally" naming him that 🙊😂
God the uproar that would ensue... family members HATE it the knobs 😠☹️ only issue I had was the nickname thing but could have Killy, Kit, KP...
We just read loads of suggestions on Facebook posts, top 100, Irish names... that kinda thing for inspiration.

Hey ladies. All good here. No complaints really.
I've been beavering away trying to make wedding invites, getting them sent out and making other arrangements. Thought I'd make a good start on planning everything before baby arrives. We get married 25th July so baby should be about 4 months 😬
Chicken Pox has been an issue at our school, luckily not much of a risk at my stage. I'm counting the days until maternity. I think I'll go back for two weeks after half term and then call it a day. I'll be 37 weeks. I'm going to start thinking about washing baby clothes soon so I can pack the bag in half term.
We had our 4d scan yesterday, she has moved head down so hopefully she'll stay there! However she was being very cheeky and had her hands and feet in front of her face so we struggled to get a good image! I've attached the best image we got! We get to go back for a re scan on Saturday but it will be our last chance as I'll be 32 weeks. All measurements were fine and baby weighs approx 3.5lbs.
No names agreed for us. We can't agree on one we both like! It's very hard to name a child when you're a teacher! 😬😂
I had my health visitor appointment on Friday. She was nice, asked lots of questions and talked about breast feeding, safe sleeping etc. Told me about Children’s centre services locally. Got another midwife appointment on Tuesday so hopefully bump will be growing normally and baby will be head down!
Other half is getting excited but I'm getting nervous of the birth! X

@eskimod aww look at her little face! 🥰 hope you manage to get some good photos of her when you go next. Try drinking a fizzy drink and don't be afraid to poke baby, I had to to get little man to move his hand 😂
Glad you're well! Aww don't be nervous, you get to meet your baby soon!
Oh yeah, I imagine half term will be the perfect time for you ladies!
Very exciting year for you eh @eskimod ! 👏🏻

I've moved a load more stuff into the new house today... on my own and it's bloody killed me. It wasn't anything heavy but getting it all down the stairs and into and then out of the car was a lot 😴
Definitely proves my reasoning behind moving... those stairs are a joke!
Feel bad I can't help with the larger stuff on moving day so I'm trying to take as much as I can when I can before Tuesday.

@lonelyonee @eskimod @jl2345 so lovely to be reading your updates ladies!!! Omg your scan picture @eskimod is gorg!! My baby is head down and like you, hoping she stays like that!! Still a chance the little buggar might turn but hoping theres not enough room for her to do that now. I feel huge and really I'm not even that big, but I got so upset last night as I couldn't get comfortable in bed so cried like a baby instead 🙈😩

We've decided on a name, Scarlett Mary Joyce (Mary being my nanas name and Joyce being his nanas name) we decided on the names long before we even fell pregnant and thankfully we were both in agreement from the off!

Hoping for a moving date tomorrow or Tuesday, I'm done with waiting now and just want to get in and decorate as well as getting the kitchen fitted... all before baba is due! Arghhhhhhh!!!!! X

@HighOnStilts @eskimod @jl2345

Quick update as I've been AWOL (house move).
I'm absolutely exhausted... struggling to get through the day, can't nap when I'm home as too much to do (not that I could anyway with noisy kids next door) & can't sleep at night as can't get comfy/baby keeps moving around. Absolutely at the end of my tether 😭
3 weeks, 1 hour & 45 minutes til I break up from work. HURRY UP!

In other news baby is still head down and is measuring well! Midwife appointments every 2 weeks now!
@HighOnStilts I also cried like a baby last night because I was so tired and couldn't sleep... OH thinks I'm going crazy 🙄 did you get your moving date? I'm just so bogged down in bags and boxes and stuff that needs to be done I can't bear it atm 😭 need someone to come in and sort the whole house out for me... in my dreams though eh!

Oh @lonelyonee and @HighOnStilts I feel for both of you so much, we moved house 2 years ago and I said never again, never mind when pregnant. It’ll be so worth it though when you’re all settled for baby’s arrival. Had my 31 week appointment on Monday, baby still laying sideways, next growth scan a week on Friday so hoping it’ll have turned but probably not as it’s been completely awkward at every scan/appointment I’ve had so far 😂 just wanted to ask you ladies about midwife appointments, in my notes I have a tick list of stuff midwife should be going through like baby led feeding, breastfeeding, birth plan etc but my midwife has literally been through nothing with me. I’m normally at least 45 mins/1 hour late going in, and when I get in she checks my urine sample, takes my blood pressure, checks baby’s heartbeat/rate and feels it’s position. Then asks if my mental health is ok and whether things are ok with my other half. It’s always so rushed and feel like she can’t get me out of there fast enough. Should she be going through everything on the list with me that’s specified for each appointment?? I also have to remind her every time I go how far along I am, that I’m having growth scans, why I’m having growth scans, etc as don’t think she bothers to even glance at my notes before hand 😐 just wondering what your experiences are?

@jl2345 it's really hard I don't think I realised how much work it was going to be! Especially with no time off work to do anything ☹️😴
Yeah that sounds pretty normal tbh, exactly what happens at my appointments! I'm only ever in late though if the person before me runs over which has happened a couple of times but 🤷🏼‍♀️ think maybe they'll mention labour and birth plans in the next couple of appointments maybe? Either way I'll be writing one down and popping it in my folder.
I also mentioned about the health visitor and my midwife said it's not that important prior to having baby so not to worry about sorting another appointment if I don't want to.
Still might give them a ring again and see what's what.

@lonelyonee @jl2345 hey ladies!! Oh I've had a very stressful few days let me tell you 🙄 was supposed to exchange contracts on Tuesday and the bank didn't release our funds (even though, after about a million calls they assured us the money was out of the account and it was just a waiting game) turns out it hadn't even been authorised and was waiting in security. Talk about fuming! I was livid. So much so that my other half is changing banks now. ANYWAY... money plopped into the solicitors account on Wednesday and thankfully no one in the chain pulled out and we exchanged. But now my OH is back at work and we can only get down to the house this Weds/Thurs to start decorating. Fortunately we have a month in our house until our tennancy ends so it gives us enough time to get the new house in order before we move furniture AND ourselves in but I am stressing like a good un' as we have so much in the house to box up and like you @lonelyonee I'm actually so tired now and starting to ache everywhere so it's going to be really tough.
My OH said hes going to die in this house it was the most stressful thing he's ever done and I think hes quite disillusioned by the whole thing.

As for midwives I'm with you both, I see a different midwife each time which is shitty to begin with. I've had no prompt about birthing plans etc but to be perfectly honest I'm not arsed now. Going in with an open mind I just want her here safely. I'm giving birth in Hull but we'll be at the other side of the river by then (should she stay in me til im full term) so its a case of, when labour starts my other half will have to rush home, 35-40 min commute back to Hull to the hospital hoping she doesnt come in that time knowing my luck I'll birth in the car 😆 and then go into hospital. Thankfully if they send me home we're just staying at my mums who is only 15 mins from the hospital. Oh it's all fun and games!!!!! 😆

Oh @HighOnStilts sounds like a stressful few days! We bought a new build which meant no chain etc so was much less stress, dread next time we move though as I don’t think I’d want another new build so I know all of the financial side gets more complicated 😩, great news that you’ve got it sorted though and nobody dropped out! You’ll be amazed once you set to it how quickly everything seems to be packed up/sorted. Oh goodness, they gave me a choice of two hospitals, Lincoln which is 20 mins or Mansfield which is nearly an hour away, I’m going to Lincoln as the thought of an hour journey whilst in labour really stresses me out 🤦‍♀️ My friend had her baby in the car as she didn’t make it in time so it’s something I genuinely panic about 😂 how’re you ladies finding day to day life? I’m finding I now have to consciously make no plans for a Saturday to give myself time to rest/recharge from the week 😩

@HighOnStilts @jl2345 slow on replies atm due to the move and all the shit that's come with it so bear with me!

@HighOnStilts glad you managed to get it sorted in the end! Sounds like a right nightmare, so annoying when you have to rely on other people for things to happen. Kinda how I feel atm with being pregnant I've been unable to do as much as I would like moving (although admittedly I've done more than I should).
You have time to get everything ferried over and do any DIY you've planned then which is good. Try to spread it out as best you can, we couldn't do it like that really as we only had the van for one day so it sort of had to be done that day and that was it.
Tell me about it. The first trimester tiredness is back with a vengeance although now there are extra issues 🙄😂
Can't believe you see a different one every time, that's quite bad I think! Exactly as long as baby gets here safe doesn't matter. Although I am going to try my very best to be calm and relaxed and do things as naturally as I can.
Oh Christ 40 minutes? You're probably gonna end up just going straight to the hospital then just in case. I'm glad mines only 10 minutes away if there's traffic.
@jl2345 definitely best to go for the closer one, you just don't know what's going to happen & much better for your peace of mind. Day to day life would honestly be a struggle in itself, add on top of that stress of the move, money worries and just being so head fucked about the house not being right and I'm absolutely destroyed. Oh and work 😂
Plonk on top of that I wasn't able to nap at all this week due to the neighbours kids banging around and I'm a bit of a mess in all honesty! Hoping as the house improves I'll feel a bit better and more relaxed. There's just so much to do!

In better news baby's travel system came yesterday... I built it all up at my dads and just brought the car seat and base home with me. Might have a little play with them today see if I can get it in the car easy. Attached a photo 🥰

Hope you ladies are well. & you @eskimod x

Hi ladies @lonelyonee @eskimod @HighOnStilts how’re you all doing? How’s the moves going?
Had my second growth scan on Friday, baby has jumped from 45th to 85th percentile in 4 weeks 😂 these things are barely ever accurate anyway!
Also had my baby shower yesterday which my sister organised, we went for afternoon tea in a little cafe with a few friends and family and it was so lovely!
Not much longer now everybody, feel like we’re on the final straight 🤦‍♀️