September 2019 #10.

[Karigan195]

New thread so we can leave #9 as a type of condolence book for little Roy and Twittlebee. Sleep in peace little man

31 week appointment done. Measuring further above 95th line than last time, if this continues at next appointment i will be sent for a growth scan.

Picking things up is horrible. I just swept up and then realised there was no one here capable of brushing it on to the dustpan and putting it in the bin! So i had to do it myself. And then have a sit down

I was sick this morning. Dc4 did a rancid poo and my stomach could not cope with that first thing in the morning!

My toes just no longer exist to me. Neither visible or in touching distance.

I suspect baby size and position is a lot to do with it. I also didn't feel this bad (physically!) in my first pregnancy despite being heavier and less fit before that pregnancy.

I also find that most of the things I have to pick up off the floor are as a result of the first child, so that definitely doesn't help.

That is one thing I am treating myself to this time, monthly pedicures. It is heaven. My feet were a bloody state last time because I could be bothered and I couldn't reach 😂 so this time I'm treating myself. So worth the money!

But bending down, that is another matter. I have very dexterous toes thankfully, so I can pick most things up with my monkey feet! Dd is 3.5 and always willing to pick things up for me bless her xx

If I completely ignore everything I've ever been taught about manual handling, I can pick things up off the floor.

Sciatica has started to hit now, so my bending days are probably drawing to an end. All my joints click when I roll over in bed now as well.

I'm also feeling the knackeredness - really struggled this weekend, felt like the first trimester again. And now is the time that DD (27 months) has decided she'll give up her naps for good - just spent 30 mins trying to get her to sleep unsuccessfully, so now we're snuggled up watching a Disney film, which thankfully she'll chill and watch, but would rather she (and let's face it, I) had a decent nap. Thank goodness she goes to nursery 4 days a week, I'm sure this makes me an awful mother but really not sure I could cope with toddler and newborn 24/7.

Need to go to John Lewis to pick up an order of baby stuff in a bit but the very thought of packing up and leaving the house is making me feel absolutely shattered.

@PumpkinPatch000 my commute is causing me issues, I'm around an hour each way in the car and I just want to strip off sat in traffic! So hot sweaty and uncomfortable. Could literally pull my dress up over my bump. Am down to three days in the office a week, cant wait till it's two!

@Moraxella I was the same with DD and red meat, particularly roast beef and gravey type meat. I never really went back to those but could stomach a steal after a while!

I had a mega energy burst this morning, picked up some baby bits, DDs birthday gifts, took her to the splash park and did loops on the slides, best I've been in months...now I want to crash out!!!

I am so, so grateful not to have a commute. Am honestly in awe of those still managing the tube.

I was in for the first of my two CTGs and scans for this week and unsurprisingly the monitor picked up the contractions I knew I was having yesterday. They've been constant today too which they explained is due to the excess fluid applying more pressure in my womb. I've really struggled to work today, especially to try and ignore contractions whilst on conference calls etc.

They said that hopefully the contractions won't send me into labour but I'm really concerned how I'm going to manage another 4 weeks with pretty much constant contractions and also surely at some point the contractions are going to send me body into labour or break my waters?!

My commute is 50 mins plus (usually an hour) - although schools break up here on Friday so from next week it will be much quicker so hooray for that.
I love my car though so not finding it too bad yet and the air con is brilliant. The tube would not be pleasant though, hats off to those managing a train/tube commute.

I have literally zero motivation at work though - I am usually really conscientious but I am definitely doing the minimum now. I just don't care which is really odd!

I've got 3 full weeks including this one, with 3 short weeks in between so hoping I'll survive. Only 25 more "get ups" to go! I am scheduled to have my last day at 36+1.

Had a pretty shit day today. Was working from home this morning when I took another funny turn, feeling really nauseous, so had to go and lie down and got fuck all done. Went to my midwife appointment at lunchtime and was told "probs just one of those things", and then they couldn't get a vein to get my blood sample. Three HCP's and seven attempts before it worked. There were tears!

I was really weepy in the class then as they were discussing labour and the three stages etc and I kept thinking about how sore the backs of my hands were, and if I couldn't deal with getting bloods done how am I going to get this baby out. Bump is measuring along the 90th percentile and I'm only 5ft 2.

Luckily DH is being very sympathetic. Not only has he suggested Wagamama for tea, he didn't even have a go when we came home to another baby related package

I have an hour commute both ways. But it's 4 bus rides total and never especially packed. Yay for starting and finishing after rush hours. Major kudos to those having to tube/train/car still.

7 weeks to go now.... Can't bloody wait. Nearly have it all rostered so I'll soon know how many shifts exactly I have left to go.

Oh @thecraicdealer that does sound like a rubbish day.

Firstly, you will cope fine getting baby on because all sorts of other things will be going on and our bodies are incredible. That doesn't mean they didn't hurt your hands trying to get blood today though, is it normally tricky for you? Could be related to you feeling funny earlier?

Secondly, the percentile chart should be customised to your body and circumstances if that makes sense? So it's tracking a slightly larger baby than other women with similar bodies have. But not in comparison with every other woman who has a baby? I don't know if I'm making much sense! Your 90th percentile baby isn't necessarily going to be the same weight and length as a 90th baby born to a 5ft11 woman. Also, standard disclaimer that if it's fundal height, there's lots of reasons for innacuracy.

Enjoy Wagamama!

They had to draw from the back of your hand @TheCraicDealer? All my sympathies. You could have the best phlebotomist in the world and it would still hurt like hell having blood taken from there. hugs

Yeah blood from the hand hurts!

But Wagamama! I could really go for one of them right now. Can’t go out for dinner though as we’re trying hard to shift the main debts before we need to pay for childcare :(

Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day.

I've got 9 days left at work, 7 in the office. I've mentally checked out though, which is hard as I really should stay engaged through the restructure process!

Maximum 51 days until baby is here too! That doesn't feel like many days 🙈

stroan o have 13 days left at work and max 56 days til babies. I have also mentally checked out and doing very little whilst there but it makes it a long and boring day! I'll take the break away from the ball of energy that is my son though!

I've got 19 working days left and also kind of don't care any more but I am very, very busy so I expect these weeks will fly in.

@Dennisskinnersmolotov yep, I'm eating them like sweets! It's weird, I've never had it before. I'd dont like it!

@boodles101 oh yes! Bored at work Vs child wrangling? No contest!

Will your DS be with you on mat leave?

I felt a little guilty that I was packing DD off to nursery so I could relax at home but now I don't! She'll have way more fun there. And thanks to extended free hours kicking in, it's all free too.

@TheCraicDealer was just going to agree with Stroan on the percentiles, your 90th is a smaller baby than another taller lady. So much is fluid and placenta, I know it's a worry but so much variation in what is being scanned, how its affected by babies position and who is measuring.

stroan he goes 2 days a week and I'll continue to send him as he really enjoys it there. Plus he'll probably need thentome away from the babies. He doesn't get the 30 hours til April, just as my SMP runs out!

This group is great to have, Just to know there are others feeling similar. I am so tired and irritable. On Saturday we had a.family day with extended family and we ended up on a forest walk of 3km. I didn't actually realise that's what we were doing until we were too far in and I ended up having about 6 very intense contractions afterwards and being sick. I know for some that won't be a long walk but for me it felt far too much. Yesterday and today I have had cramps around my bump and some discharge but my midwife says it's my body telling me to relax and recover - very possible with a household to run including 2 school runs... This afternoon I lay in bed for 2 hours and am now back in bed again. Feel so overwhelmed, need to get back into a.positive headspace so am hoping a good book.and an early.night can go some way to solving it and should also write in my diary as that always helps. Also doing the bare minimum at work, full on baby mode happening in my brain, know I won't recognise this mindset in a year!

DD's nursery is term time only, so I'm looking forward to having a few weeks with dd before baby arrives. But in September she goes for 3 whole days a week! She's only been doing 6 hours (over 2 days) since Easter. But like you said, she loves it, she does painting and football and trampolining! Way more than I'll be doing with her for the first couple of months. And we'll still have 4 days a week together to do things.

I've never managed to have blood successfully drawn from my arm, but they still insist on trying! Then the veins in both hands collapsed. I was quite stoic initially but then started thinking about how you need a cannula if you want any of the hard stuff during labour (which I definitely do!) and that set me off. Now have lovely bruises developing on both hands!

I've been very lucky so far, and tbf this was my first proper emosh day at nearly 29w. I know some of you other ladies have had a much rougher ride

@thecraicdealer that doesn't matter, you had a rubbish day!

Cannulas give me the heebie jeebies, I can't even look at them and was really scared of having one in labour. I chatted to the midwives about it when doing my birth plan and they agreed to cover it up with bandages for me (it was the thought of it moving around or me banging it - bleurgh). Anyway, as a result they also sent the most gentle midwife to put it in when the time came!

Which is a long way of saying that if you are worried about it, raise it and see how they might be able to help.

I've just counted how many days I've got left: 13-15 depending on a few things. I feel sick, there is FAR more than 13 days work left to do!!!! And the cover for the trickiest part of my job has stopped replying to emails AAAAAAAAAAAAAAA.

craic a rubbish day is a rubbish day, and you've had one! Bath and bed for you!

challenge 3km!!! I'm v glad to hear you are tucked up in bed now!!!

Ouf, happydays that sounds tough to deal with. Chances are the contractions will settle down, surely? Did the MW suggest anything that might help? (More rest/more water/divine intervention??)

Re nursery DC2 isn't due to start til
September, and we couldn't get her in any earlier. She's 3, so it will be free, but the timing is atrocious...

All this nursery chat is very appropriate for me today. I’ve got serious mum guilt. As I’m a SAHM, DS currently just attends two mornings a week as he needed the independence from me (and he does love it). His nursery has just confirmed he can start two full days from 1 August. I was pushing for it and it’s only until December when he’ll be back to half days, but I’m feeling loads of guilt for already having to put time with the baby first. Also a full 6 weeks before the baby is due! I’m sure it will be great for him and I know it’s best to have one change at a time when introducing a new baby, but mum guilt is just the absolute worst.