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Rainbowdays · 26/07/2007 09:40

I am a little nervous about starting this thread as I was previously on the March 2008 thread but m/c'd. But I got my bfp this morning and although still faint it is clearly there.

Anyone else coming to nervously join me?

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dolly1 · 29/08/2007 15:11

I've read that too Scorpio - so 8w can't come quick enough. Glad to hear that you're telling friends and sharing the happy news. That's how it's meant to be but I just can't bring myself to yet for fear of having to 'untell' them.
On a more positive note I've booked my NCT classes which felt like totally tempting fate but I know how quickly they get booked up so I didn't want to miss the boat.
Has anyone else booked up yet?
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loisstella · 29/08/2007 15:19

Dolly - thanks so much for your feedback on the birthcomapny... I'm seriously considering changing the appointment. It's terrible they got you all so worried when it looks like nothing is really wrong at all. Don't they know anything there? They should have dealt with you a lot more carefully. Makes me very . Poor you.

scorpio1 · 29/08/2007 15:21

im not doing antenatal this time (3rd baby) but i did with the first (NHS) and found them really useful

dolly1 · 29/08/2007 15:22

Thanks Loisstella - if it weren't for the support of people on here I'm sure I'd be going even more mad than I am!
Now that's just my experience of them and you might be fine, but personally I would say go to the fetal medicine centre instead. I would hate anyone to feel as worried as I do now.
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lemonaid · 29/08/2007 15:25

I'm not having classes this time (second baby) but did both NHS and NCT last time and they were very worthwhile. I am vaguely wondering how I'm going to meet other mothers of babies the same age this time around if I'm not going to any classes, though -- I'll need all those "meeting up for a coffee" sessions to keep me sane! I guess I ought to sniff around the rest of my NCT branch and see what else is on. Or perhaps there are special second time around classes...

dolly1 · 29/08/2007 15:41

Lemonaid there are special second time round classes - refresher courses they are called. And my branch offers postnatal classes too - not sure what they entail though? Suppose something along the lines of 'now the little things here the hell to actually do with it'!
Not remotely worried about giving birth etc but quite scared about afterwards when I have a little human being to form into a normal well adjusted person!
Thinking of getting a maternity nurse to help me through the first few weeks of chaos! Anyone else had/considering one?
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lemonaid · 29/08/2007 16:08

I had NHS postnatal classes last time and TBH the main point of them was, again, meeting people with DCs the same age. We did cover things like baby massage, first aid and home safety, weaning and so forth as well. But I gather from a friend I met there who's just had her DC2 that they've been abolished due to cutbacks now.

ToastAddict · 29/08/2007 16:16

Going back to the Gaviscon thing - if you can't stomach the liquid, the tablets aren't too bad. There are mint ones and lemon ones which I find much nicer than the aniseed gloop!

Re: NCT - this is my first time - how soon do you need to book? I'm only 6+3, do I really need to be thinking about this yet?

loisstella · 29/08/2007 16:20

I e-mailed my NCT trying to set myself up for classes etc and nobody responded!!!!
Are they very bureaucratic or just not e-mail savy or am i unlucky?

chipmonkey · 29/08/2007 16:20

Goodness, I haven't been to an antenatal class in 10 years! Rang my consultants secretary today ( In Ireland, tends to be very consultant led here) and have been offered a nuchal fold scan. Have never been offered this before so clearly this is because of my advanced years (38)! I agreed I would have it but am a bit nervous now!
Hi kiskidee! Am only hiding out here since yesterday. Was MyMILisDoloresUmbridge for a while!
Looks like I'll be hauling the breast pump out again!

dolly1 · 29/08/2007 16:26

Toastaddict - book asap - they get really over subscribed. Especially the evening classes for couples. That's the one we're going for as dh is really keen to be as involved as poss - even wants to come to my two hour booking appointment with midwife!

Loissetella - chase them. Depends on the branch but make sure they know you exist. I think they are just a bit slow. Mine only got back to me today - a week after I emailed them. Are you going women only or couples?
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EllieG · 29/08/2007 16:43

I ain't booking anything til I know the baby is safe and well. Sorry, but am far too supertitious. And the more you do the worse it feels if everything goes wrong.

ToastAddict · 29/08/2007 16:48

EllieG - know how you feel. I'm not usually at all superstitious but now I am so worried about jinxing it.

Maybe it's different in other areas but I just looked at my local NCT (Nottingham) and they don't seem to accept bookings til 12 weeks.....

lemonaid · 29/08/2007 16:49

With DS I booked NCT classes the day after my 13 week nuchal scan and got the last place on the daytime course (evening course was already booked).

You never really do know that the baby is safe and well things can go wrong at any point. You go from worrying about early miscarriage to worrying about incompetent cervix/PPROM to worrying about cord accidents to worrying about birth trauma to worrying about cot death and meningitis and then you start worrying about traffic. Sooner or later you have to take a leap of faith (not suggesting that that should be at any particular time you have to do what feels right to you). When pregnant with DS after my first miscarriage I thought there would come a magic moment when I stopped worrying, but it didn't happen.

EllieG · 29/08/2007 16:52

Oh dear. Am off to take some more prozac

ToastAddict · 29/08/2007 16:57

I feel that by buying a Pregnancy book, and joining this thread, and telling close family and friends, I am actually being quite positive in my own small way. Certainly can't help those small private optimistic daydreams of the future But having had one miscarriage, there's always a doubt there, isn't there?

But I can see what you mean, I'm sure that if all goes well and I get past the risk of miscarriage stage, I will start to worry about all the other joys you have mentioned!! And sometimes you just have to stop letting the worry take over the enjoyment of it all and sit back, do the best you can and accept that whatever will be, will be.

EllieG · 29/08/2007 16:58

I think I will relax after the 12 week scan -I'm not much of a worrier, but that will be a big milestone for me, after going for it last time and the baby having died. Once that's out the way I will tell everyone in RL and breathe a bit easier.

dolly1 · 29/08/2007 17:09

Ellie I am the biggest worrier in the world so I know how you feel. And I think Lemonaid is right - if you are predisposed to worrying then the list is never ending.
I am having accupuncture to try and help me relax!
So usually I wouldn't want to tempt fate and book something like NCT but I know if I don't do it early I will miss out completely as by the 12 week scan I know the classes I want will be full.
If you do want to go to nct I would say take the leap of faith lemonaid suggested and book but you have to do what feels best for you.
Sorry if you've already posted this and I've missed it but have you had an early scan? Might help reassure you and let you enjoy it all a bit more.
In saying that my early scan made me worry more! You can't win can you?!

EllieG · 29/08/2007 19:51

I could have an early scan dolly, but the GP said there wasn't much point as could still all go wrong anyway, so unless I got really anxious to maybe just wait for the 12 week one. Is a very long wait though....

Am feeling a bit crap this evening. Had a rubbish day at work and went to gym and have put on 4 pounds since found out PG and DP and DSD are annoying me and all I want to do is eat chocolate and cry

EllieG · 29/08/2007 19:54

And flippin DP is watching a programme about Kylie cos he fancies her and I feel SO fat and yucky and I want to yell at him even though all he's doing is watching TV and I know I'm being very unreasonable

sonya2580 · 29/08/2007 21:25

Hi all im due the 8/9 of aprill
im still scared that something is going to happen

hopefully i will be going for my first scan soon

V1KK1M · 30/08/2007 08:39

Hello,

Can anyone confirm whether it is OK for me to eat Yougart? I haven't read anywhere that it is not OK, but I was just thinking with soft cheese, soft ice cream and mayonnaise being out the window I didn't know about yougart.

Any help would be good.

Also for those having Private scans I just had my appointment on Saturday cancelled witht he Baby Ultrasound Company in Mill Hill - very unprofessional! Thankfully Baby Premier has managed to fit me in on Sunday

EllieG · 30/08/2007 08:48

Hello - yoghurt is fine I think - I've been eating a ton of it.

lemonaid · 30/08/2007 09:38

Yogurt's fine -- good source of calcium and protein.

babywhiting · 30/08/2007 10:09

hi all i've just come from the may thread cos just worked out my EDD is infact 17th april.
i have 3 dc already so this is my 4th!!!! yep scary anyone else expecting theyre 4th??

well i live in kent and am 30 ...yes i know i'm old!!!

so i hope you will all welcome me with open arms to your thread!!!

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