Due March 2008 - we'd give in to our cravings, but we're probably asleep

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Welcome!

3madboys i totally understand how you feel!
With the anniversary coming up and the same week it is understandable that you would feel upset. I have spent alot of the last week crying and think it is a mix of stress and pregnancy hormones.

Dont worry about wasting peoples time. Hope you get to see someone to talk to and start to feel better soon x

HQ- that unfortunatly depends on the lady and no mannor of other things with DS I didn't need maternity bottoms till about 26 weeks ish or there abouts - tops was 20 ish weeks. how about getting some loose flying (don't know the name sorry) tops they sell them, in primark for a few quid - then as bump grows you can still wear them. and for bottoms not v stylish but leggings/elastic waists?

good luck lcy - hope all is well.

3mb - no not silly at all, I firmly believe that that's what m/w's are there for to put our minds at rest. not all m/w's think the same but your fears are perfectly normal. hope you to get a scan today

Crossed posts

Thanks all - off now so will post later

thanks guys, i have booked a taxi so that i can get to the hospital early and go and see them in the early preg unit i have a friend looking after the older two so i will only have ds3 with me. hopefully i will see someone nice, no doubt i will burst into tears

if you do you do 3mb - it's nothing to be ashamed/upset of good luck

Good luck lcy and madboys just get yourself in there don't let anyone fob you off. No-one can understand your stress unless they have been through the same and even then everyone has different ways of dealing with things. I think if it was me i would like something even just a chat.
Our doctors won't even see you until your after 8 weeks which you can kind of understand but it makes me feel like i'm waiting for something bad to happen..if that makes sense?
Now then Hqueen i'm normally an 8 and bought my first pair of mat trousers at about 3 months, they looked ridiculous and i wasted 30 quid in the process! After than i bout everything in the next sixe up from Primark..had to do some digging but managed to look pretty fash all way through..if you have to do maternity wear try Dorethy Perkins they were good that they didn't make you feel like you were wearing a tent

dam, i just phoned the early preg unit and they are closed today the woman i spoke to said that i should go back to my gp, who was useless and just told me to wait and see my midwife, but thats not for another two weeks i am in tears now

the woman on the phone said as i have had a miscarriage previoulsy and as i may have been in contact with somoeone with slapped cheek that i shoud be referred to the arly preg unit, but my gp says no in tears now.

I think madboys you could just go at 9am tomorrow morning and don't go anywhere until you see someone. You shouldn't need a referral.
Sometimes people just don't have a frigging clue it's all by the book and no-one can go to the loo without someone bloody inteferring!
Sorry i'm on one went to Lloys yesterday and Boots this morning for anti sickness pills i was given from hospital when i was pregnanat with ds, i feel exactly the same this time and it is getting me down already so thought i would try my luck, but no no-one would give them said i have to go back to my gp. Thing is the GP will just turn round and say it's a natural reaction and medication is no good for the baby however they soon gave me it when i camped at A&E and threw up all over theier bloody floor
I don't understand why they are so reactive and not proactive!
Sorry for the rant
x

Hi there, I'm new to this board but thought I'd post to say hello. I'm due on 7/3/08, having had 2 miscarriages before. I also have a 20 month old son (he came between the MCs). Got a BIG positive when I did my test and my lovely GP referred me to the hospital for an early scan in view of my history and my age - I'm 44. Went for the scan this morning and they saw the fetus and a heartbeat but she said that it's very small. She measured it at 6 weeks, when I reckon I'm 7 + 4days, and she's said she wants me to go back in a week to have another look.

So I'm feeling a bit down, I'd thought that seeing a heartbeat was a very good thing, but she's made me feel that it isn't and that I might still lose the baby. I've spoken to my brother (usefully, he's an obstetrician!) and he's said that a heartbeat IS good but that the CRL measurement is very small, so that I should be realistic. I really thought that I'd get a definite sense today of whether or not the pregnancy is viable but I feel as though I'm just back in limbo for another week.

Sorry to whine on the first time I post. Will try to cheer up now!

Oh Rach, try not to worry a week is a long time and you will end up going spare agonising until next week. I don't think we can really ever be sure when we conceived etc i have already had to cancel my m/w appointment for yesterday cos they won't see me before 8 weeks and still don't think i will be 8 weeks next week!
Maybe you are 6 weeks no one calculator is the same as another that's why they let you go over 2 weeks isn't it?
I know it's easy for me to say so just keep talking to people and hopefully you might find some comfort in this
xx

Dear all,

May I join in? Have my first appt with a GP tomorrow, but got my BFP on Thursday - I guess I'm around 5/6 weeks now ... This will be my first, and it wasn't exactly planned(!) but following the initial shock, DP and I have decided we're pretty much thrilled (none of which precludes odd bouts of blind panic, naturally .. ). I'm totally new to this, so can anyone tell me - will the GP be able to let me know when I'm due? And will he then refer me to a midwife? I am greener than grass, as you see ...

Congratulations to everyone else already on here!

good look rach, in my last preg i had an early scan and they estimated i was a week less preg than i thought, every thing turned out fine so fingers crossed for you.

the early preg unit isnt open till tomorrow afternoon now, and i have to be referred by my gp apparently, of course there are no app available with the gp, aghhhhh i hate this waiting game

Hello loveandsqualor - Welcome - I'm in the same boat as you, as it's my first and I don't really have a clue. Plus ours wasn't really planned either - not this quick anyway! We thought we'd have months to get used to the idea and weren't even really meant to start trying until this month...

I think I'm 5 weeks (remembered when my last period was so calced from there)but have dr appointment on Thurs where I'm assuming they'll confirm, and tell me what I need to do etc. Just do like me and bombard everyone on this board with questions - everyone's brilliant at answering, and also making me feel like my symptoms are perfectly normal etc. It's brilliant to have this board to turn to as we've not told anyone IRL yet.

HQ xx

Hi l&squalor congratulations and don't worry our's was planned and still haven't got an effing clue what i'm doing or how we are going to be afford another one but hey ho
Madboy can you phone your docs in morning and tell them you will sit and wait for a cancellation. They will soon get bored of you and get you an appointment.

My GP seems to be the only one who won't see me before 8 weeks and i think i am 6.5 weeks. This seems quite premature though considering i found out 2 weeks ago.
aone ggood link for pregnancy calculator?

Twas anyone got a good link for a pregnancy calculator...stoopid keyboard..stoopid work

www.bbc.co.uk/parenting/pregnancy_calendar/

hmmm saying 6 weeks can you find out when your only 4 weeks?

Thanks fitzfrodo and HolidaysQueen! Glad to hear I'm not the only one in the clueless boat ... Irritatingly, I can't actually remember when my last period was (plus, I was taking the pill when we conceived ) so working out when I'm due is proving a bit tricky!

Great to be able to talk to you all about it though, as we've yet to tell anyone and I can't really think about anything else! And as others have said, the 'coming up with excuses for not drinking' thing is proving tricky ...

oh and - symptoms-wise - sore breasts (I've had to buy a bigger bra!) and quite tired and hungry, but mainly, I'm thirsty all the time. All The Time. Is this normal? (sounds like a question I'll be asking a lot in the next eight months ...)

I'm not entirely sure what Normal is because my boobs aren' sore although i'm not sure if i'm comparing it to when i was breastfeeding last time as literally both boobs were agony until i fed ds????

One thing i found weird was last week my dh bought me a new handbag i'd wanted, as a bit of a well done for being fertile and letting me do it with you present and although it's leather, it smells really really strong and almost gave me a migraine by the end of the first day of wearing it.I eventually had to go to bed and try not to puke!
Can still wiff it now and it's by the side of my desk..pregnancy is sooo wierd

Interesting! Hooray for the present, though, of course ... Smells and headaches definitely feature for me too ... What a funny business it is!

Hi all,

love&s~ I'm really thirsty too!

Fitz~ if you google pregnancy due date calendar you should get loads

Rach~ as the others have said i have heard loads of people have the same thing and turn out fine x

3mb~I think you should camp out until you get an appointment. try not to worry x

Lcy~ hope all went well xx

glammarj & HQ & spugs & pip ~ditto on the dreams, really odd and one v.rude which didn't involve dh

Timmy~ congrats on your frends baby ahhh!

Lcy, how did it go?

Papaya - welcome

hiya, sory but i cant remember the names of everyone im replying to

i was 2 weeks less pregnant then i thought i was with dd1 so i would try to not worry (this comes from me who worries about everything and even did another test again today just to check!!)

As for doulas, my sister was mine, shes starting her training to be a midwie in september and has two dds herself. she was ace, kept me calm and focused and encouraged me to keep upright etc. i was really proud to have her as part of my birth plus it was the 1st she had seen which made it even more special. hopefully she will be present at this little ones as well

i to am debating the single/double pushchair dilema. dd2 will be 1 mth off 2nd birthday when dc3 comes and i really dont want a double (want a quinny buzz) but the general concensus is that i need a double. though may push my luck and get a buggy board.

Hello everyone

Well i am back from my scan - and we saw a heartbeat - it was amazing to see

Interestingly she measured me at 6 weeks when i am sure i ovulated exactly 7 weeks ago. However she said at this stage it is difficult for her to be exact and that we dont know exactly when sperm met egg . She told me that everything looked healthy and that as the baby and the sac both measured 6 weeks there was no problem (apparently more off a problem if sac bigger than baby). They couldnt work out where the bleed is coming from but they werent overly concerned. They dont need me to go back which i think is a good sign.

Me and DH are overjoyed - obviously 4 weeks is a long time till our proper 10 week scan (its not 12 weeks round here).

Thanks to you all for all your support xxx
I am going to read back through now and see how you are all doing