September 2019 #7

[easterbuns1]

I get nervous when it's so close to post 999..:

Twittle could your mum be trying to be all overly positive for her in the hope of her staying clean?

Families are weird though. I dont bother with most of mine.

@twittlebee it doesn't seem that your Mum is being very fair, which is always likely to impact how you feel about it.

I was a bit upset/resentful when my sister fell pregnant as we'd been trying for ages and she got pregnant on her honeymoon. Her husband was/is a complete tool and they are now getting divorced (2 babies and 4 years later) which everyone saw coming. My parents definitely over-egged it to make sure she was fully supported which was hard sometimes, even more so when she had her second within 18 months (I'd been made redundant so a second wasn't an option for us at that point as we have to fund our lives ourselves!). They paid for everything and did free childcare so she could go back to work, but that meant they weren't often available to even visit us and had no space for us to visit them.

It drives me a bit mad because they think they are helping her, but actually they are just making her life easier so that she gets away with making the same mistakes over and over. (Not saying her kids were mistakes, but things like not budgeting).

No don't worry twittle. We all need this thread for support.
I would feel the sake as you tbh. I think I'd feel put out if my mum went to some effort for one sibling and not the other. But id deffo make a comment like "oh, thought you didnt believe in them?!"

I'm just going to monitor any more leaking. So far not had any more. Everyone has gone on a 4 mile coastal walk so I've stayed back as doubt I could manage all the ups and downs and also concerned where I would wee. I'd definitely need to at some point cause I think they'll be walking a few hours. Husband went with them so I'm on my own now in Whitby. What to do!

Just picked up a Ewan the Dream Sheep for £3 on facebook.
Had been recommended one by a few people so thought it was worth a shot at that price!
Has anyone on here used anything similar in the past? Some people seem to swear by them. The deluxe one (this one is the standard) is £40 though so I thought I'd try a cheap one first!

Sorry to hear about people's experiences with consultants recently. They're very nice and understanding people on the whole I promise. It's all very doom and gloom, but it is their primary job at consultations to make their patients aware of any and all risks and that these risks are understood. The allotted time for these consultations is also far too short for everyone. I hope future interactions go better.

I had been miserable for no reason for most of the past week, but the combination of (finally) hitting 24 weeks, my husband feeling baby's movements for the first time and a bag of triple chocolate cookies has cheered me up immeasurably.

Loved Ewan. Helped me sleep. Not convinced DD cared. I definitely believe in white noise though.

@Megan2018 he didn't work at all for DS but did for many of the other babies in our NCT group. So £3 price is great!!

@Whisky2014 if you lay down for a while then get back up, does more trickle out?

Thanks everyone for the support regarding my sister etc. She s actually a step sister (my mum's fiance's daughter) so feel like that kinda hurts a bit too.

We have Ollie the Owl from Gro. Hes ok but his velcro is crap and he used to fall off the cot a lot and piss me off.

Twittle she might even just be doing it BECAUSE its her fiances dd then, showing him how much she cares etc? My mum doesnt know im pregnant, well she might i suppose we havent spoken in 18 months. My choice and i am so at peace with it

Sorry to hear there's a few of us having a shite time. I've not been on the thread much as I've been bloody miserable too and didn't want to moan but feel less guilty now I've seen everyone else's ills!

I'd very much like to hibernate til September.

Certainly do feel free to use this space to off load too easterbuns1 seems most (if not all) of us are 🙈 sorry to read you've been down too, hoping it lifts soon.

MW app went well, really like my new MW although she said they no longer measure at 24/25 week apps so have to wait till 28 weeks to see if I need to be concerned by how small my bump is. She was surprised I'm still wearing non mat clothes though. DS is breech too but she said there's no need to think about it until 28 weeks either. She also said that I'm perfect candidate for a homebirth too and that she has a birth pool and supplies etc all in her boot so I don't even need to look at hiring one!

Good news on the mw twittle!

I have just seen that Cosatto are bringing out some new models and designs (prams)! My hope is this means they reduce the two designs i am currently looking at but dont want to pay £££ for!

27 weeks today and baby is the size of a bunch of bananas apparently (vague!)

Ok so I rang my midwife unit and told them what happened. They told me I need to be seen and wanted me to come in. I said I'm on holiday in Whitby so I'm now currently laying on a bed in Scarborough hospital!

Hopefully you are seen quickly whisky!

I am glad you're being checked @Whisky2014 hoping that everything okay xx

I'm sure it is ok. I can feel baby moving alot. They said something about a speculum and pooling. There's a girl starting Labour, she's contracting every few mins and jeez, it doesn't sound fun. She was tiny too. Poor girl

I wasnt sure if my waters were trickling during a previous pregnancy but at 8+ months, i went to get checked over and they swabbed me and did a trace for a bit

Hope it’s nothing @Whisky2014, good luck and let us know how it goes. At least you’re still in the UK so standard of care should be similar and they should be able to pull up your notes.

Hope everything’s ok Whisky.

Keep us posted @Whisky2014
I'm sure all will be well but it definitely pays to be checked out.

I guess this is why they tell us to be glued to our notes!

That's me out now!
They did a test for amniotic fluid and it was negative. The Dr said there were signs of thrush and the speculum was coated in a white discharge but I've not had any itching. When they discharged me I asked if i did have thrush and the midwife said she didn't think I had and that it was just white watery discharge.
The speculum was excrutiating though, I'm so worried about giving birth now!

So that's that. I'm free :)
I did get annoyed went my husband sent a photo of the group all having beers and stuff on their walk. Like, I know I told him not to worry but ffs maybe not drink if your wife is in hospital.
I'm just a grump because I missed out. He also sent a photo of them all petting a horse and I'm jealous of that too.

Humph. I've also not eaten since breakfast but I don't want to go In to Whitby on my own :( they all had chips and stuff on their walk.

@Whisky2014 glad everything is ok. I'd be completely the same if dh was off galavanting and stroking ponies without me too. Even though I would have told him to go too - poor men!! When is he back? Make him go into Whitby with you too if not too long... if not, take yourself, I love Whitby, it's been too long since I've been. How long are you there for?

@TwittleBee I'd be upset at my mum for that too - in fact I'd just outright ask her why the difference in treatment. Although I suspect there is overcompensation for a)step and b) addiction...

I popped into boots the other day and got some mini bits for changing bag so as not to be lugging around full sizes. Am also going to have 2 - both cheap but one backpack for sling and for dh to carry and then a really pretty girly shoulder one. Also for ease of grabbing when in a hurry - in theory we should always have one good to go. Saw a good tip somewhere of keeping spare nappies and wipes in the car too, again, so you don't have to lug around but not too far if needed.

Currently sat in the garden trying to convince myself I really should go inside to do some ironing...

@Whisky2014 so relieved that it isn't fluid leaking and I know it's obviously frustrating you've missed out now but it really is always better to get checked. Can you take a drive to get some nice food for yourself? Must admit I'm pretty surprised at your DH sending a photo, surely he should have seen the insensitive side to that!

I think you, and the others who mentioned it, are right about it being an over compensation @kyles101 . It does wind me up, she always demands things from our parents and just gets it.

It is lovely here. We arrived yesterday and here until Saturday. It's a friend who has a holiday home here and it's his 30th so we've all come to celebrate. DH is back now but were all out for a fancy meal tonight so doing want to spoil my appetite for that.
I've had a pork pie and bag of crisps from our car snacks. Uft

Sorry I'm a misery guts!

I would be the same. Telling him to go because you know that’s kindest but totally jealous inside. You should have seen me when my DP went up in the mountains with another woman even though I told him too! Glad everything is ok!

Ooft karigan, I would have found that tough!

Better now, we all sat outside in the sun having drinks, me non alcoholic beer, having laughs etc. Just getting ready for the dinner now. Feeling happier :)