Due October 2007 ~porkers can't keep their snouts out of the feeding troughs!

[j20baby]

part zillion

Bluddi hell, FT - that is an amazing summary - I couldn't even begin to remember half of that!

blimey!!looks liek i missed quite a bit!!

how is lisa and pheebes now?

know what you mean about lo going quiet and then getting a whack!!mine does it aswell.

can sympathise with j20 and her dd,ive got a teenage dd and its no barrel of laughs atm!!think she started getting stroppy teenagery when she was about 9 aswell.....not fun!!

Mump, its what happens when you would rather live your life on MN or in Harry Potter world than for real!!! And I know I've missed an awful lot out.
As to the amnio and every other emoticon inbetween....Dh now says he doesnt see how he could possibly ask me to go through with the worst case scenario if the result is not what we hope for, in which case what is the point in risking the test?... but he hasn't taken the next step and told me to cancel it... He has 3 days to change his mind...until then it still stands because I promised I would... I'll let you know on Monday if it happened or not...all I can say is that the fear of the consequences of this is so bad that if we get through it unscathed facing childbirth will be a doddle.

Floria, I hope you get the result you want with the Amnio decision. When my MW asked if I wanted the screeening test for Downs etc, I refused as I knew that I would not be able to make a rational decision if it came back as high risk.

Buffy; J20s daughter is a clever little tyke she says things like "I'm sorry but my head thinks you're a cow"! I must admit it makes someone like me who isn't involved giggle and I think that in years to come J20 might look back on it and laugh too, but it must be horribly frustrating at the moment...and I know exactly what my mother would have replied (but it is frightfully unPC these days)she'd have said; "Well I'm sorry your head hasn't got a backside for me to slap for thinking such a thing, so yours will have to take the punishment for it!"

J20 ? sorry your hospital appointment didn?t go too well? Hope your test results are OK

Inzi ? hello! Bet you?re looking forward to your mat leave!

Pheebe ? glad GTT wasn?t too unpleasant!

Lisa ? well done on making a decision on your birth plan. I have to say I?m much more into the idea of an elective section at the mo (had emergency one last time) but still unable to decide! Think you have a very good attitude about it just being the one day and not the be all and end all too. Last time I wanted a water birth as well ? never mind eh!!!

Mump ? I haven?t found my ds to be more clingy than normal (I think he?s the same age as yours if I remember rightly ? there will be a 20 month gap) but over the past month he?s been a lot harder to settle at night?

Hello unicorn!

Dal ? I?m not really all there at work at the mo either. I think for me a big part of that is that at the moment I?m feeling too sick to really participate much which is really frustrating so I?m focusing on the reason why so I don?t get too depressed about it!

Buffy ? great to hear from you and fantastic that all is going well at the moment? Fingers crossed she stays put for a little while longer and you manage to get the rest you need?. Was going to CAT pebblemum tonight to check on how you were getting on but great to hear from you in person instead!

Floria ? I?ve been putting everything off too and I don?t even have the excuse you do. I have got a mountain buggy that I won on ebay and we have a cot but needed that anyway as ds1?s has fixed sides and I got to the point where I culdn?t reach in to get him out so needed one with a drop side anyway! Other than that have done nothing except talk lots about what we need to do! Not really sure why I don?t really want to get on and get sorted as this lo feels much more real than ds1! I think we probably don?t have much to do other than clear out the spare room that ds1 will move into once this lo takes over his room. No point even decorating it either as when we finally get on with our extension we?re getting the house rewired at the same time.

MrsFish hope you have a fab holiday!

And hello and big waves to everyone else!

Well I had a really weird dream last night ? I dreamt I was about to have this baby and when I went in and said I was supposed to have an elective section (which I haven?t actually decided on yet!) and the midwives told me that it wasn?t in my notes so I had to deliver vaginally. I remember being absolutely terrified in my dream and was begging them for a section! Do you think this is my subconscious telling me what to do?!!!

Anyway off to collect ds from nursery ? may be back later but to be honest I?m completely and utterly exhausted to might opt for a very early night instead! And I?m at a wedding tomorrow afternoon so if I?m not about tonight will be back on Sat?.

oh bugger, knew i should have skipped mw appointment

I am now measring 2 weeks behide dates and babies heart rate is thundering along a little too quick I have to wait to see consultant in 2 weeks. These were the warning signs of my placenta failiong last time, so am more than a littlw worried I could just cry right now. Bumpy is still moving so not panicing yet, but can just tell im goona worry for the next 2 weeks.
On the plus side im not showing any more infection signs and contractions havent returned

LOL, @ birth plan, dont think i have much choice really . MW also said i should prepare myself for C section, I was thinking, well kinda been doing that for weeks hun hehehe

Glad your better buffy, well as much as you can be. I had a tiny baby last time. Mothercare and tesco do a lovely range of tiny baby clothes, might be worth taking a look. I hope you manage to hold out aslong as possible. Good luck.

L

also just wanted to post a link to update of my sisters hubby Peter, who some of you know (well kinda)

www.mumsnet.com/Talk?topicid=138&threadid=362422&stamp=070726172643

feel slightly better that i am not the only one feeling a little 'distracted' from work!

Lisa - have all fingers and toes crossed for you! Hope the next 2 weeks flyby with no more contractions for you!

FT - my thoughts are with you also.

everyone else - there is still have lots of time to get organised! i think picking things out and deciding what to order is the hardest part - after that it all comes together!

oh Lisa, sorry it didn't go well, i have everything crossed for you too!

FT-that was an amazing summary, maybe somone should do a round up of the news once a week, to keep those who don't get chance to be on often, to catch up (am not offering btw, can't even remember what i've written the day before) dd is 7, i think someone else has a 9 yo old monster, sorry, dd, and i did actually find it quite amusing when she said her head was saying i was a cow, i also have said to her, after she's been going on and on and on that her head talks a load of bollox(sp) she hasn't been too bad the last couple of days but she is grounded so hasn't been interacting with any other children, which usually set her off, also, she hasn't been with her dad for 2 weeks due to us being on hol, and he normally makes her worse by not disciplining her.

buffy-great to have you back! hope lo holds on for as long as possible for you, good to hear your house'll be ready in about 6 weeks but make sure you rest! hopefully it will be all decorated for you to move in will it?

mump-i finished the nursery ages ago, when i hads the energy keep meaning to pack my hospital bag so its ready, but just can't be bothered atm.

mrsfish-i'm having to lay down a lot and have a nap in the afternoon, i'm ok till about 2pm and then just flag, its so nice being able to put a dvd on for dd and go to bed for an hour, without having to worry about the school run

sorry everyones still working, feel very sorry for you all, tbh i don't know how your all managing!

i had an antenatal appointment today and had protein in my urine again(i did yesterday, but the consultant ignored it) so my gp has sent a sample off to the lab to check for an infection, and he gave me a spray for my ear infection, although i can't work out if its actually my gums, will see how i go with the spray.

i tried wallpapering today and only managed 3 pieces and then was knackard, my friend said your meant to get a surge of energy at about 36 weeks, so here's hoping.

i lose track of when everyones due, so can we have a quick update? can't be bothered to look for stats thread

sorry if i've missed anyone

J20baby due 3 Oct 30+1

WELL!!!!
GOOD NEWS!!!!
I'm nearly crying I'm so relieved; DH got home tonight and said he has been doing a lot of thinking during this business trip as he had a lot of time in airports and on planes with nothing to do BUT think about Mondays amnio, and he has told me that not only does he think that he can't put me through a termination at this stage but he doesnt think he can manage it either; he has finally had a look at Robyns picture and realised that at 17 wks she wasnt a foetus but a baby, so this LO at 30 wks and a live birth, would be even more difficult to cope with....
I must admit I told him months ago when he agreed to deferring the amnio from 16 wks to 30 wks in order to save risking another healthy baby that if he still wanted the amnio when we got to this stage and the result was not what we wanted and he held me to the promise of a termination that he would have to go through every step with me and hold the baby as it passed away from lack of special care...and would also have the fall out of a mentally deranged wife to cope with...(I was distruaght after losing Robyn because of the 16 wk amnio and needed to shovel down antidepressants like sweeties)
... So he has told me to phone the hospital tomorrow and cancel Mondays amnio!
I cant express how thrilled I am!
But better pull myself together...I've got a pupil arriving in a few minutes....just had to share with you all!

FT - what fantastic fantastic news! so so so happy for you!

Oh FT thats wonderful news
I hope you get the healthy baby you so want.
Hugs
L

FT - That is wonderful news.

I had my MW appointment today, still measuring big, 32cm when I am only 29+4, but she seem s to be growing well I was measuring 30.5cm at my last check up a fortnight ago.

DD decided she wated to come home tonight rather than staying with her grandparents so that was our plans for the evening out of the window.

I am off now to call hospital about the water birth class and then going to have a bath and an early night.

I have started the birth plan thread, if you want to fill in its here: www.mumsnet.com/Talk?rn=80221&topicid=2290&threadid=362609&redir=80221

FT - that is fab, so happy for you, must be such a relief, and i'm sure everything will be fine

winnie-i measured at 31cm yesterday at 30 weeks, don't know how it works, but wouldn't have thought you where that big, how do you feel about it?

am off to look at birth plan thread

Morning everyone

FT - thats fantastic news. I'm sooo pleased for you what a relief and well done for allowing DH to come to this decision on his own. What a supportive marriage you 2 must have

Buffy - lovely to hear from you and that you're (relatively) OK. I guess you and possibly Lisa will be the first 2 to pop then

Morning everyone else, hope alls OK.

Had a weird day yesterday, got the results of my GTT, all clear as I knew it would be. But then my booking appointment at the new hospital arrived and DH got all funny about it and starte saying, well it only took 20 mins to getyou to the hospital when you had all that pain last week would have taken twice that to get to the new hospital blah blah blah I thought we'd discussed it all and he was 100% behind me changing but apparently not. We ended up having a huge row, I cried all morning (I very very rarely cry so he was really shocked!!) and cancelled the booking at the new hospital. Worst of all I really laid into him and told him I felt he's really let me down and that it was me having this baby not him and probably loads of other horrid stuff I don't remember. Thing is he's only concerned for me, getting me to the hospital as quick as poss plus he knows the other hospital and thinks they looked after us really well (not my take on it but then what would I know!). Oh well, its a done deal now. We've patched things up but if I'm honest I'm gutted I feel like the worlds been pulled out from under me and after having calmed down about the whole birth thing I'm terrified again now. Sorry for another long me me me post but just had to get that off my chest. Am going to see the mw and see if I can do another tour of Stoke hospital, maybe that will set me mind at rest.

Right DS wants his breakfast...his wish is my command catch you all later

Phee xx

Morning all!

Floria -That is fantastic news! Fingers crossed for you both...
Lisa -Fingers crossed for you too
J20 -Knackered feeling here too, can't muster up the energy to even clean the house let alone do the baby's room ( which still has the old kitchen table set up as a desk for me!)

WEll, was brave yesterday and took ds swimming by myself and we had a great time! He is so confident in the water it is great to see. Dh phoned il's to ask what time they were arriving today (friday) but they said they weren't coming as mil was too ill (she has a cold from 2 weeks ago) despite managing to get to sil's in Wales, staying overnight and driving back. I am relieved but upset for dh as they never make it down to us. I have said I can't go to their anymore and sit on their sofa and make polite conversation as if nothing has ever happened anymore but if he wants to take ds up then that's fine. It's the enequality of it that really bugs me, they will go to see his sister's but not us... Yet mil is always on the phone demanding to know when we are coming up/why so long? etc etc.
I saw my psychologist yesterday and she is happy with the way that I am atm and I have to say I do feel more of the old me is making an appearance these days.
Anyway ds is at nursery today so I'm going to try to clean up a little, thought the insentive of a mil coming to stay has now gone so I don't hold out much hope!!

Have a good day all

FT - that is excellent news, so pleased for you

Pheebe - Not so good news have you already cancelled the new hospital? surely if you are happier with new one you should put your foot down with dh, it is you having the baby afterall...

Went to see Harry Potter last night and had an Indian before it (yes we have an indian restaurant in our cinema ) so it was nice to get out. Did suffer with heartburn till 3am though Today will mainly be spent doing last minute washing, ironing and packing for tomorrow hoping to get a nap in there today too.

Well ds made me laugh this morning... I heard him rattling the door on his gate at 7am, but left him to occupy himself for 20 mins, then at 7.20 he started shouting me, so went to get him... he was stood there in his pyjamas, with a sunhat on, and his sandals (on the wrong feet) but all done up properly, clutching 3 books, he did look a funny sight that's what its all about at the end of the day isn't it God knows what it will be like when there are two of them running around

Well the day has started out a bit better here this morning, hope it continues. Have a good day everyone

MrsFish, was HP good? We're still trying to find time and a babysitter I expect we'll end up waiting til its out on DVD like all the other ones!
I know you're right about the hospital but I just took the path of least resistance. DH doesn't often express strong opinions and is usually happy to support me in whatever I choose. To be honest it just seemed easier to give in than put up with his attitude and probably his I told u so's when something proves him right! I just don't have the fight in me at the mo, pathetic really for someone who's run international projects worth 100s of thousands of pounds!!!
Your DS sounds like a peach Think he's about the same age as mine isn't he (2+10) or nearly fwee as he keeps saying . Mine has suddenly got very caring towards me, has to lead me by the hand everywhere and 'help' me with everything he's gorgeous and looking at him I know everything will be fine in the end
Right, time to face the world. have a good one
phee

Muppet i think we have the same mother in law we havent seen my inlaws in well over 2 years and they have bene to see us twice in the whole time we have been here (7 years). They moved away from us, not the other way round, and dh brother followed them there.
The monster in law is forevering texting nasty messages saying we dont care as we never come to visit, or call enough, hmmm 5 hour car trip with a 4 year old. sounds like fun hehe

Im off to our caravan today when dh gets home from work. its just for the weekend, but nice to get away.
Hope your all ok this am.

lisa

Pheebe - ds was two in June

Harry Potter was ok, a bit slow in places but it was done well, and was quite scary in places, made me jump out of my skin a couple of times Oh and Daniel Radcliffe is looking scarily 'hot' Surely I'm too old to have these thoughts about a boy??

LOL MrsFish well he is 18 now and legal... Did u see the pics of him in that stage show he did...WELL I NEVER. Trouble is, pics of him in the first HP film keep flashing in