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September 2019 Babies - Thread #3

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stroan · 13/02/2019 09:51

Hi,

It looks like we filled up the last thread before anyone had a chance to start a new one, so here we go! Hope everyone finds their way over.

@twittlebee could you possibly link to the Google Doc again?

@karigan195 so glad you were seen again and got a bonus scan. Lovely to get a bit of reassurance too, hope the next 7 days go quickly for you.

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ColdCottage · 28/02/2019 08:01

@Megan2018 thanks

IVEgottheDECAF · 28/02/2019 09:08

My main aim is avoid a back to back baby! Although i have since learnt it being fifth baby i am greater risk for an unstable lie. Has anyone had an unstable lie? I dont really fancy being admitted to hospital for weeks Shock

TwittleBee · 28/02/2019 09:16

Oh i Would also love to avoid a back to back baby this time! tbh though, I am convinced that having to lay strapped down to a bed for monitoring didnt help me with the pain, I was doing really well until I had to be monitored.

Sorry I have been a bit absent, trying to keep distracted from the thought of Monday's scan!

IVEgottheDECAF · 28/02/2019 09:18

My scan is monday too twittle

I wasnt told dc4 was back to back until i was bloody pushing!

Easterbuns1 · 28/02/2019 09:36

I've woken up today shutting myself about my scan tomorrow. Totally irrational but have convinced myself it will be same outcome as second scan on my last pregnancy (had heartbeat on first scan then nothing at second). Had a bit of spotting again earlier in week but didn't see any point calling as they would have probably said just to wait til Friday anyways. Actually dreading it list all excitement!

Megan2018 · 28/02/2019 09:42

@Easterbuns1
Same! I am also convinced baby will have died or stopped growing since last scan. I don't think this anxiety will ease until I can at least feel her move, then I will have some reassurance that she is still there. This is going to be a long 6 months...
Good luck for tomorrow.

IVEgottheDECAF · 28/02/2019 09:44

I can feel movement most days now which is reassuring but we still havent had the nuchal done so still have that worry!

TwittleBee · 28/02/2019 10:08

Yeah likewise here IVEgottheDECAF ! Didn't know until he was coming out!

Easterbuns1 oh no bless you, totally understandable you feel like that. All my fingers crossed all will be fine for you xx

IVEgottheDECAF · 28/02/2019 10:30

How long was your back to back labour twittle?

Dc 3 right way around was 5 hours start to finish

Dc 4 back to back also 5 hours start to finish.

If he had been right way around would it have been faster? And if so how fast could i be looking at now Shock

So many more worries this time ....

Astret · 28/02/2019 10:50

Really impatient for my scan next week.
So to take my mind elsewhere, does anyone have good suggestions for maternity jeans? I live in my denims constantly so I can't imagine getting through the summer without some.

IVEgottheDECAF · 28/02/2019 11:14

I have just been looking for mat jeans!

Found one pair. Should have atleast three....

Mine are newlook petite! Best fit for me

Easterbuns1 · 28/02/2019 11:26

It's crap @Megan2018 I told one of my best pals yesterday and he seems totally perplexed I hadn't told my mum and everyone else yet. If things are ok tomorrow then maybe I will feel a bit better about it all.

Most of my matty jeans are H&M, nice and soft, not to thick to wear over the summer and super comfy.

IVEgottheDECAF · 28/02/2019 11:31

Ok i have found 3 pairs of mat jeans, four pairs of leggings and a couple of tops. I have inhaled much dust.

Last pregnancy i bought couple bits from top shop and sizing was ridiculous. Outgrew it all by about 5 months.

DustyDoorframes · 28/02/2019 11:48

9in the mirror (online) used to be really good for ideas of nice non maternity stuff that would still work (all designer though, but useful for then looking for cheapo versions on the high street!). But they seem to have folded, argh.

I'm alone at work today and meant to be writing up a bit report. Yeah right. I can't concentrate at all... thankfully the phone keeps ringing which is a good cover story...

Karigan195 · 28/02/2019 11:50

@Easterbuns1. I have told everyone now. It’s kind of scary telling parents even as adults 😂😂 and am I the only one who thinks you’re basically just announcing you had sex and go bright red.

Megan2018 · 28/02/2019 11:52

@Easterbuns1
I think it will feel real once I have told everyone - but in practical terms I probably won't be able to do that until next weekend as I don't feel it is something I can say to my family over the phone - so will need to engineer a visit. They aren't local to me so even the logistics of seeing them unexpectedly without arousing suspicion is causing me angst!

But I do hope that after scan I will feel a bit better - even knowing the sex since yesterday has made a difference. But I want to "see" her again I think to connect it all up in my head.

I can't bring myself to look at clothes or anything pregnancy related until after scan - I even run out of the vitamins on Monday, but I won't buy any until after scan as everything seems tempting fate. Which is madness I know. I have gone completely irrational!

Karigan195 · 28/02/2019 11:52

Ladies don’t discount normal clothes either. Went shopping for maternity gear. Didn’t find any but did find stretchy very forgiving and beautiful tops from apricot (look in new look) that will stretch with bump. Look for empire lines, floating tops, one I found has an overlying back on a floaty top with a stretchy vest u derneath. Love it. Perfect for the job and £5!

Megan2018 · 28/02/2019 11:54

@Karigan195
Were they pleased?

I am ridiculously worried about what people will think. Mainly because for years I said I didn't want children and it feels like a huge backtrack on my life plan! It's like I am embarrassed to admit I changed my mind. So silly.

Karigan195 · 28/02/2019 11:56

@Megan2018 I don’t know. I chickened out and sent an email. 😂😂 I’m a total coward. Written responses so far positive

Megan2018 · 28/02/2019 12:04

@Karigan195
haha!!

DH will email his mother as they are low contact (she lives abroad and they aren't close). She will go one of two ways - either radio silence or start demanding we pay for her to visit us (she pleads poverty).

I really want to tell my parents asap as don't want to tell friends before them - but I am genuinely worried about causing a heart attack or something as it will be such a shock. So really think we should be there! I'm thinking of pretending we've brought something on ebay near them and so casually phoning up to say we are passing through and can we pop in for coffee....

TwittleBee · 28/02/2019 12:04

well I think mine might have been a bit different because of how my waters broke Pre Term IVEgottheDECAF but I was in early labour for about a week and then in established labour for just over 48 hours with a pushing time of 6 hours before they intervened with an episiotomy and forceps - was very close to being a EMCS due to having sepsis but luckily DS was close enough to be reached by forceps.

I have had to dig out my Mat Jeans now but not because I can no longer fit into regular jeans but because somehow both my fav pair of jeans got holes in the same knee in the same week! I do want some new mat jeans though as my old ones are way too big for me, lost a lot of weight since my last pregnancy.

Just want to further point out what Karigan said! Dont restrict to mat wear! Find super comfy clothing that would do you for as long as possible as you'll probably find yourself appreciating them post birth too! Loose shirts and blouses were my love post birth as meant great access for BF but also loose so hid my post birth belly well.

Karigan195 · 28/02/2019 12:15

@Megan2018 why don’t you invite them for a meal? I can’t hide it anymore so had to tell. My parents live other end of same village so I’ve been having to carry a lot of big items in front of my stomach recently. This bump is now too big to hide! But I’ve started week 15 today so baby is now 10cm crown to rump :)

Megan2018 · 28/02/2019 12:23

@Karigan195
They won't come without a reason - they are a 1.5hr drive away and we already have events in the diary for them to come up my birthday in a few weeks and then again for a family lunch for Mother's day too.
My mum doesn't drive outside of her town and my Dad still works so he won't want to make an extra trip up in the same month.

That'd be fine - but it means not telling anyone else until late March and I'll explode if I have to keep it a secret that long. They are both on social media although not regular users but I couldn't guarantee someone wouldn't let it slip and they'd be really upset to be last to know.

So I either need to phone them - or just turn up semi unexpectedly. It is just bad timing really!

Karigan195 · 28/02/2019 12:26

Hmmm difficult. eBay option it is then. Maybe ‘I will be in the area so do you want to get coffee and cake?’

DustyDoorframes · 28/02/2019 12:43

Or just say you've gone some lovely news and you are coming over to tell them! Might help soften the blow if you really do think they'll keel over in shock...