June 2019 - Part 6!

[Kescilly]

Welcome to the middle of the second trimester, ladies! Apologies if anyone has been left off the list!

Kescilly, 1st baby, due May 29th

rollerskaterdata, 2nd baby, due 30th May

Sassehmonsta, 2nd baby, due 31st May

Torsz, 1st baby, due 31st May

PeachPotato, DC2, due 2nd June

Fee1234, 1st baby, due 3rd June

Stellarfox, 1st baby, due 4th June

Fiona1619, DC2, due 4th June

Ksjourney, DC2, due 5th June

Mummytomollyandbean, due 6th June

MadeInCornwallx3, DC 3, due 7th June

SK17, DC1, due 7th June

ExcitedMama, DC2, due 8th June

Fabuluce, DC2, due 9th June

Silversister, DC1, due 9th June

Chocomalt, DC2, due 9th June

annihall, DC1, due 10th June

lstef, DC1+2!, due 10th June

Bimbabo, 1st baby, due 11th June

Diamondbutterfy, DC3, due 11th June

Heebyjeeby99, DC1, due 11th June

CrazyCowLady, DC1, due 11th June

KoalasAteMyHomework, DC2, due 12th June

Toasterstrudle, DC2, due 13th June

Napssavelives, dc3, due 14th June

Kimbishop86, dc2, due 14th June

Toomanyflatwhites, dc2, due 14th June

Blondcat, dc1, due 14th June

emily1511, 1st baby, DD 16th June

hexagon01, DC2, due 16th June

R4ch4el12, 1st baby, due 17th June

HoneyPea, 1st baby, due 18th June

2countries1bump, 1st baby (girl), due 19th June

Spargle, 1st baby, due 19th June

Curlypasta, dc3, due 20th June

Holly257, DC3, due 21st June

WeeBean, 1st baby, due 21st June

Bigonesmallone3, DC3, due 22nd June

Pigriver, DC2, due 22nd June

mindthechaos, DC3, due 24th June

Socktastic, DC2, due 24th June

Reastie, DC2, due 24th June

thedocisin, DC2, due 24th June

MauisLeftNipple, DC4, due 24th June

LauralovesLuke, DC1, due 25th June

Coastergirl, 2nd baby, due 26th June.

JBCG 1st baby, due 28th June

My hospital has banned maternal request CS. My consultant appt on Tuesday is going to be interesting.

www.jack2.com/news/oxfordshire-news/pregnant-women-refused-requests-for-caesareans-at-john-radcliffe/

@Torsz my 24 wk is the week after next, so maybe I will ask!

@toomanyflatwhites I'm under Chelsea & West. I don't think I would chose an elective C section, I would like a VB if possible, but I still think that's appalling that they refuse to do it at St. Thomas . Don't know about C&W's policy. Surely it should be every woman's choice how she wants to give birth?? (But I suppose I haven't read their reasons...)

@Fabuluce - Ughh. The hospital's response in that article is so condescending and paternalistic "all requests are considered..." Requests?? Surely a woman's choices about how she wants/ feels able/ comfortable to give birth should be considered more than a "request" that ought to be "considered".

I’m terrified of childbirth but I’m equally scared of requesting a c-section. My midwife has definitely not discussed any of it with me, we barely speak before I’m out the door again! I wish I had someone I could just sit and talk to about pregnancy and birth.

Age at due date: 36
Predicted sex of baby: girl
Location: Essex

I would like a repeat section and have made the request to the consultant who seemed open to it. She's booked me into a birth choices clinic so that I "have all the information" before making a choice about VBAC or elective section. I've got another appointment with her at 36 weeks to give her my final decision. I'm 100% sure I don't want a VBAC because the pain of labour was so excruciating last time but will go along to the birth choices clinic anyway as a tick box exercise

That’s ridiculous. Another example of women being told what they can and can’t do with their own bodies. Shameful. I’m lucky that I’m happy to speak my mind without worrying about what people think of me.

@Kescilly my friend who is also preg but a couple of months further along has been doing hypnobirthing. She reckons it really helps with the fear around giving birth. I was thinking of trying it (apparently it’s a little expensive though..)

Age at due date: 38 (and 6 days!)
Sex: hoping to find out on 4th Feb
Location: Chesterfield (or thereabouts)

@Bizawit I’m going to look into hypnobirthing. I have a friend who said it was the best investment she made with her first. Think the course around here costs about £200. I also got a book out of the library without looking very hard, and it turns out it’s a hypnobirthing book, which is interesting. It will also be interesting to see if it helps with the hypnobirthing course and eventual result.

I found hypnobirthing quite helpful last time - the breathing techniques mainly. I ended up with a section for other reasons (infected placenta and baby who wouldn’t get in the right position) but I laboured until I was fully dilated and pushed for 2 hours with only gas and air and I was really calm for the whole time because of hypnobirthing/the stuff I did on my Daisy course.

We’re doing a hypnobirthing course end of Feb so I’ll let you all know how it goes. I’m more scared about having to have a csection than giving birth as I really don’t like the idea of having surgery. Really hoping the hypnobirthing will help me feel calm going into labour, whatever happens!

Age at due date: 29
Predicted sex: Male
Location: Northampton.

Baby will be here mid-may. I'll stick around.

Another here terrified of surgery - so am hoping for VB as long as leading twin is head down - I think my consultant said if leading twin is breech then she would "advise" a section. I'm not sure I heard that right though (i.e. if I have a choice or not). I am also scared of induction because of the risk of interventions - so I want to go into labour naturally so all the hormones are working as they should - oxytocin etc. The thought of struggling with BF scares me (as in not being able to) - personally I don't want to feed formula if I can help it, and that is more likely to be a struggle if c section or preemie or whatever.

and given all this the twins will decide for me and I might just have to go with the flow and hope for the best!

@Bizawit - I bought the positive birth company (hypnobirthing) digital pack a couple of days ago when they had it on promo - it has loads of videos and mp3s - full price is £35 - I can't afford a £200 course, and nor can I really afford NCT classes. I havent watched any yet but heard good things on MN and other places.

@Kescilly I'm flat out terrified of every single way this baby could come out of me. My friend on her second baby recommended I read Ina May Garten and "The Positive Birth Book". I found them both so horrific that the made me cry for hours and gave me nightmares.

I'm pretty much resigned to being scarred for life by this whole experience I can't get my head around how so many people aren't scared!

I hope you find someone to listen to you - I can't believe your midwife isn't more helpful.

@allfurcoatnoknickers me too if I'm honest. I was looking at newborn clothes the other day thinking "something THAT size has got to get out of me 😱" but I guess it's too late now and people generally try to go back for more so it must be worth it...

Giving birth is definitely the most intense thing you will ever do, it won’t be pleasant but it’s also different for everyone and lots of people do have positive experiences. I know some of these people! My best friend had the dream water birth - I don’t want to downplay her experience and say it was perfect, birthing a baby is always messy and scary and hard but she shows that it’s not all horror stories.

@istef I have another friend who vaginally delivered her twins and is still breastfeeding them 15 months or so later. And on the other hand I had a c section and breastfed my son until last month when he was 19 months - it was a difficult start but we got there. Just to give you some positivity :)

@Heyha Glad to know I'm not the only one! I honestly didn't give it much thought before being pregnant, but this entire pregnancy has been so difficult and unpleasant that I've lost faith in my body and the whole gestation/Labour/Birth process.

I think I've only been asked about birth because of having had a c-section last time. I don't recall having any opportunities to discuss it last time until I went to my consultant appointment in a state and begged! I was expecting a real battle but they really listened. I was honestly terrified of the surgery too, but it was definitely the lesser of two evils for me.

Hey guys! Place marking 😊

I also love a stat - so please geek away!

My particulars are:

Age at due date; 35
Sex; Girl
Location; Cornwall

See I'm the opposite in some ways @allfurcoatnoknickers I've had such a straightforward pregnancy so far I keep thinking I can't possibly keep being this lucky, so something is bound to be unpleasant later on. Irrational I know!

I'm pretty worried about the birth this time too.

Last time I was induced owing to hypertension. One they broke my waters though, he was out in 40 minutes. I thought it was a breeze and did it all on gas and air. DH didn't want to tell me much... turns out it was so quick because I transitioned from 2cm to 10cm in a matter of minutes, Ds heart rate went down to 19 and he had to be suction cupped out of there! (He had the biggest rounds at bruise on his head for a good 3 weeks)

So I'm expecting this time.round I'll either be induced again for similar reasons or it will go on forever and because it was so quick and "easy" last time, I won't know what's hit me!

I wasn’t too worried about the both after having 2 very straight forward delivery. Both pretty quick then the midwife said 3rd labours can be longer and more tricky. Not helpful!

Age at due date: 29
Prediction of baby's sex: surprise/team yellow
Location: Cumbria

Hey 😄checking in. This thread moves so fast, can't keep up 😂

Age at due date: 33
Prediction of baby's sex: girl
Location: Cardiff

I woke up with a sore throat so I’m really hoping I won’t end up bedridden for weeks like I usually am.

But in the meantime I am planting myself in front of the TV and entering in everyone’s data. Please let me know if you have updates or want to add in your information!

Also thank you to everyone offering reassurances and suggestions on how to deal with the fear of childbirth. I did look into hypnobirthing but it is too much money for something that might be useless. I might look into that online version though!