June 2019 - Part 6!

[Kescilly]

Welcome to the middle of the second trimester, ladies! Apologies if anyone has been left off the list!

Kescilly, 1st baby, due May 29th

rollerskaterdata, 2nd baby, due 30th May

Sassehmonsta, 2nd baby, due 31st May

Torsz, 1st baby, due 31st May

PeachPotato, DC2, due 2nd June

Fee1234, 1st baby, due 3rd June

Stellarfox, 1st baby, due 4th June

Fiona1619, DC2, due 4th June

Ksjourney, DC2, due 5th June

Mummytomollyandbean, due 6th June

MadeInCornwallx3, DC 3, due 7th June

SK17, DC1, due 7th June

ExcitedMama, DC2, due 8th June

Fabuluce, DC2, due 9th June

Silversister, DC1, due 9th June

Chocomalt, DC2, due 9th June

annihall, DC1, due 10th June

lstef, DC1+2!, due 10th June

Bimbabo, 1st baby, due 11th June

Diamondbutterfy, DC3, due 11th June

Heebyjeeby99, DC1, due 11th June

CrazyCowLady, DC1, due 11th June

KoalasAteMyHomework, DC2, due 12th June

Toasterstrudle, DC2, due 13th June

Napssavelives, dc3, due 14th June

Kimbishop86, dc2, due 14th June

Toomanyflatwhites, dc2, due 14th June

Blondcat, dc1, due 14th June

emily1511, 1st baby, DD 16th June

hexagon01, DC2, due 16th June

R4ch4el12, 1st baby, due 17th June

HoneyPea, 1st baby, due 18th June

2countries1bump, 1st baby (girl), due 19th June

Spargle, 1st baby, due 19th June

Curlypasta, dc3, due 20th June

Holly257, DC3, due 21st June

WeeBean, 1st baby, due 21st June

Bigonesmallone3, DC3, due 22nd June

Pigriver, DC2, due 22nd June

mindthechaos, DC3, due 24th June

Socktastic, DC2, due 24th June

Reastie, DC2, due 24th June

thedocisin, DC2, due 24th June

MauisLeftNipple, DC4, due 24th June

LauralovesLuke, DC1, due 25th June

Coastergirl, 2nd baby, due 26th June.

JBCG 1st baby, due 28th June

Thanks for the reassurance re birth plans! It will give me peace of mind just to lock that down.

I can so identify with the stress. I’ve had to make two of my team redundant in the past six weeks, and one has been signed off for the remainder of their notice period, and I’m trying to sort my maternity cover and have had to change my whole plan as it was originally dependent on having a much bigger team!

We are also trying to move house. We have a three bed and my partner has two children. One doesn’t live with us, he’s away at uni and stays maybe a couple of nights a year, whilst the other is four nights a week including every weekend.

My partner is adamant we need to move so everyone has a bedroom each and that his teenage boys can’t share in the interim (even though the room already has two beds and the older one almost never stays).

we’re running out of time to move and I feel like I’m missing out a bit as we haven’t got any nursery space to decorate or organise. Currently all baby stuff is in my car or squashed in our wardrobe and there’s a ban on buying the big stuff til we have more space.

We’re just not going to buy and move into a new house in 13 weeks and I’m getting more and more down about his refusal to see that and to make some space!

Hey ladies been lurking for a while but decided to join back in. Summary since my last update sickness lasted till 24 weeks - hence radio silence as I had to batten down the hatches for my own sanity. Then work was mad and had to travel for meetings. Then felt quite well until this terrible anxiety/stress has hit. I'm actually glad it's not just me feeling this! Surely it must be partially hormonal? I mean things are stressful with work deadlines, mat leave handover/training, car may die and so we're looking for a new one, living upstairs as downstairs is a building site, having o spend mat leave savings on build as we're finding hidden issues (sigh). But still this stress feeling is overwhelming.

@imtakingabath I did the same kg hypnobirthing course and to be honest I thought I might get the positive birth company deal as it was so cheap and it’s always good to go over things, but then completely forgot last night! I’m just reading through the book now so I’m sure that will be enough with practicing the relaxations. I’m getting my mum to record a couple of the other relaxations from the course notes to mix them up a bit! Also using the app called headspace to get myself a it better at getting in the zone as my mind does wander

I’ve not noticed leaky boobs except I did notice very small patches in the inside of my bra so I must have leaked a tiny bit!

We’re just on our way back from a few days in Cornwall which we had as a babymoon. Lovely hotel, food and we took our dog. Had a pregnancy massage too which was amazing! Not looking forward to work again tomorrow but I’m feeling excited we are getting close to June now!

@stellarfox that sounds good about getting your mum to record other relaxations! I didn't get the positive birth company digital pack in the end, but I have bought the Freya app (also by the positive birth company) as it was only £2.99 - it plays the different tracks on a loop (unfortunately you can't choose which one to listen to), and you just hit a button to mark the start and end of contractions when you're in labour, which I think will be useful! Saves having to switch between different apps to listen to the relaxations/affirmations and record contractions.

I feel for those of you dealing with moving house. Our last move was hugely stressful and I didn't realise just how much it was affecting me until it was all finally over. That on top of pregnancy must be awful.

@imtakingabath sounds really good! I think you can buy more relaxation mp3s on the kg website. I’m also making a few Spotify playlists depending on the mood I’m in during labour! My yoga teacher plays the same playlist every yoga class which I might use as will associate with being relaxed (she’s a hypnobirthing teacher too!)

@dustyzest sorry if I'm being blunt, but I think you need to sit your partner down and tell him that you need him to focus on you and the baby now. You haven't got long to go - and the little one can arrive at week 36 instead of week 40... That's just around the corner! You need to be his main focus more, not a house move, and he'll need to allow you to nest and also, just enjoy the last few months of pregnancy! Moving is stressful at best of times, and got certainly don't want to do it worrying that you might go into labour in the middle of it! Also - two teenage boys can easily share a room, especially if it's occasionally!

Getting my 28-week growth scan today. Fingers crossed that my cervical fibroid hadn't grown. I really really don't want a C-section!!

Third trimester, yay!

@swiftfox I know I do 🙈 it’s so difficult as this whole thing wasn’t planned and the younger one has not taken it well (although the older one is thrilled), and if I say anything in connection to his children he almost automatically perceives it as me dismissing them or treating them as less important than our baby - which I’m not, but obviously it’s more important to me that we have the essentials than it is that the 18 year old has a room to himself on his occasional night’s stay (he usually comes for the evening then goes to his mum’s or gf’s to sleep).

The only stuff we have is the outfits and toys my family have bought as gifts. (When we brought one of the soft toys into the house the 13 year old tried to pull its head off and said ‘I just want to strangle it until it’s dead’ which I found a bit disconcerting but my partner told me I need to see it as a joke. Nothing is a joke though when you’re stressed and hormonal).

I think he kind of sees it as they are his children and his priority and this is more my thing and my priority, if that makes sense? I’m conscious I’m probably derailing this thread a bit! I just hope when she’s actually born and she’s a real thing to him that he will give her as much consideration as he currently gives to them.

There’s a lot stressing me out right now!

@dustyzest you’re right about not moving in 13 weeks if you are buying a property, I mean it is possible but then if there is a chain it may take much longer and there’s always a higher chance of it falling through. Are you currently viewing?
Buying/selling are two of the most stressful processes we go through and there’s no way I’d be considering it st this stage. I really hope you can get your partner to understand, it sounds like the older child really wouldn’t mind as he isn’t there most of the time anyway.
This is your first time becoming a mummy, nesting is part of the experience, don’t let the younger child and your partner ruin it for you xx

We are viewing and our place is currently on the market but apart from one laughably low offer at the start of the year we’ve had nothing!

It’s difficult as it’s his house, not mine (although we’d be buying the new one together) and he wants to sell. But we’ve put offers in on two places which have been rejected due to us not having an offer on our place.

I am super hormonal but I cried the other day when my mum asked me what our nursery theme was going to be! I know it’s a first world problem and lots of people don’t have them but it just hit home that we have nothing and I feel like I’m missing out on a big part of it!

Also thank you for being so nice! Sometimes I feel like I’m being really unreasonable and it’s hard to tell

I need help ladies..
How long do we leave it before seeing someone if we have quite severe diarrhea..
Started Monday morning, seems to be getting worse.
Feel drained..
Almost 27 weeks..

@Bigonesmallone3 I would see someone quite soon - I know in cases of food poisoning for example, dehydration is one of the main concerns, so you need to make sure to keep your fluids up, and I would definitely make a GP appointment and/or speak to your local maternity day care unit.

@dustyzest you’d literally need to accept and offer tomorrow and have an offer accepted tomorrow to have even have half a chance of moving before the baby is born. Perhaps agree a date and if you haven’t accepted an offer then you do the nursery. Playing devils advocate you do have 6 months after the baby is born before it goes into it’s own room so there is a bit more time but doesn’t sound like there is much interest right now. The market dies down in July/August and the agent will probably start pushing for a price reduction. I’m sorry you’re feeling upset xx

@bigonesmallone3 give the doc a call in the morning, better to have some peace of mind x

Indigestion is leaving me alone the last day or so yippee but I think that's because baby has had a move round and I now have very mild period-type pain and movements have been different today (but still plenty so not worried as such). Wonder if we are having another growth spurt and I might need to rethink my wardrobe...again 😂

I'm assuming this ache is nothing sinister as everything else seems fine?

@Bigonesmallone3 yep I would speak to a doctor too, poor you 😢
@Dustyzest the situation with your step son sounds very difficult...from what you have said (and from my experience of how many dads are before their baby is born) it sounds very much like your DP is focussed on the children he has earthside and it's hard to give the same focus to their unborn child. The transformation once the baby is here is usually immediate and huge so hopefully this will help you feel much better and more supported rather than it's his children/your child (if you see what I mean). Also re moving, that must also be super stressful, but as the baby will be in with you for the first 6 months usually it does give you that extra window. We didn't have a "nursery" set up for our DD (and I never really understood that as a pre-birth thing) so don't feel like everyone else does it as I think many many people don't. It's hard though if you really want to and don't have the chance. We were definitely not ready home-wise when our first child arrived, and really we need to move or convert the loft before this one is born but likewise we live in DP's flat and he keeps stalling so nothing has happened yet (we're not even on the market!) and definitely won't happen in time for June!

Little update from me: currently sitting in the sunshine in the PIL's garden in France while DP and his Dad take DD to buy the bread. I complained so much when he booked this trip instead of an ACTUAL holiday but currently it's looking pretty good! I slept all night after an exhausting travel day yesterday and currently looking forward to being fed for the next week 👍🏻
On the less positive side, I've realised that although I'm definitely smaller than in my first pregnancy, now at 6 months my face had suddenly puffed up and I have been able to verify thanks to the PIL's longer-than our- bathroom mirror that I definitely have piles 😩 uuuuuuurgh am a bit horrified by what I saw!!

@toomanyflatwhites that sounds blissful enjoy the lovely French bread and sunshine!!

@fee1234 thank you! It's worth dealing with the frustrations of a week with the in laws for I think!!
And even more amazingly, DP came back from the bakery with pain au chocolat, he never usually buys treats!

@toomanyflatwhites that sounds so lovely - my partner and I never got round to organising a babymoon abroad, so I think we're just going to stick to the UK. I'm still looking forward to some time off work together to just relax though :)

Hey ladies,
I spoke to maternity in regards to my belly they were happy it was a bug and I should ride it out and keep my fluids up.
Turns out today although I feel drained still my belly has been better!
Thank god! I'm off to the Canary Islands next week for a little baby moon and I can't jeopardise my fit to fly note 🤦‍♀️..

Looks like we are going to need a new thread soon!.. third trimester 💃💃

Random question how are any of you reaching the bottom of the bath to clean it? My bump will just not let me bend enough 😳🤣

My DH usually cleans the bathroom (as I've been signed off work for the last 3 weeks) but I thought I'd give it a go as he has been working late and has been really tired this week. Apart from now being absolutely shattered and sofa bound, throwing up a few times and not reaching the bottom of the bath to clean it didn't go too bad 🙌🤣

@Bigonesmallone3 Babymoon sounds lovely. We are just going away for 2 nights to a spa not sure I could cope with sitting on a plane!

@Dustyzest hope you get the house situation sorted soon it must be a real stress.

@HoneyPea
We did a spa for my last pregnancy and it was absolutely lovely..
I have been craving a pregnancy massage so much..
My dd has only just turned 2 so couldn't bring myself to leave her for a spa stay..
I hope u have a wonderful time
So jealous

At the doctor's right now, having just gagged down the REVOLTING gestational diabetes drink.

Fingers crossed that I pass and don't have to do this again!

Also, my doctor has a posh office and a grotty Office (ahhh, the American healthcare system) and I'm at the grotty one because of scheduling issues.