September 2019 babies?

[abi2790]

Do we have any September due dates yet?

This one came as a big shock for me. I had my coil out on 30th November and must have conceived pretty much straight away. Considering it took quite a long time to get DD, the BFP was a big shock!

This one will be my third!

Sorry to lower the tone a little...but what’s everyones thoughts about dtd in early pregnancy?
DH and I got a little frisky last night, and then he stopped it and said “maybe it’s not a good idea. I don’t want to stir things up in there”
I can’t really remember from previous pregnancies as I was too busy either sleeping or throwing up!
Are you guys avoiding until the 12 week all-clear?

@MyBreadIsEggy
Not deliberately avoiding but up to date I’ve had a stinking cold and have zero sex drive. DH is also a bit weirded out by the shock of the BFP. So no action here since we found out 2 weeks ago. But I’d be happy to when I feel better!

I don’t believe there is any risk, GP said it can sometimes cause a bit of bleeding in some people, but not dangerous bleeding.

thanks @Megan*

With the other two, I find it hard to believe we didn’t have sex at all for 3 months So if the itch arrives again before 12 weeks, I’ll reassure DH that it’s fine to scratch it

Totally fine to DTD if the mood takes you. DH and I only did it once or twice last time though! 😱

Can I make a slightly selfish rant?

Went to my nephew's second birthday party today. In SIL's kitchen cupboard when making tea I saw boxes of pregnancy vitamins. She also declined the Prosecco. Obviously this doesn't mean she is PG, she could be trying. But our DSs are 5 weeks apart (our due dates were the same week) and I was hoping that this time, since this pregnancy has been so hard won for us after our MMC last year, that I'd be able to have a moment for just me and the baby. Last time it was all about "our pregnant DILs" like we were cattle or something. I just wanted a moment on my own. I know it's a selfish thought but I can't help feeling like this 😞

On a more positive note I've been feeling rough with nausea! For me this is good and reassuring! 🤪

@ButtonTum, I’d feel the same way.
Obviously nothing you can say or do and at least you’ve had a bit of warning and can practice your shocked and delighted face when she tells you. I expect she might feel a bit similar about your pregnancy, although undoubtedly pleased for you.
Also, I’m very sorry about your MMC. Sending you lots of love and luck for this pregnancy x

ButtonTum
What a weird situation to be in!
Kind of upset about having to share your thunder, but happy at the prospect of another niece/nephew too

Hi all! I haven't been able to check in for a while, good to see so many lovely updates. And sorry to those who have had not such a good time.

Had my booking in on 7th, MW was lovely. She's booked me in for a dating scan next Friday, mainly because of the previous MMC and I'm just worried it'll happen again. So I'm counting down to that!

Symptoms wise... everything has hit me like a train. Exhaustion like I've never felt it before! I'm in bed by 8! Dd hasn't been sleeping well for weeks but has settled down recently so fingers crossed I can start to get some decent sleep! All day nausea is just amazing... 😞 I'm never sure if food will help or not so it's like Russian roulette eating my dinner! DH is being amazing though, making sure I get more lie ins, doing more than his fair share of house crap.

And swollen fingers! Rings are off for now. We still haven't told anyone. I've been so tempted to tell my lovely boss. We are putting plans together for projects in August/September which (all going well) I won't be around to oversee. But I'm just holding off until my scan next week. She was amazing with my MMC last year but no point in telling her until I know all is (or isn't) ok.

I'm finding it so hard to relax because of the previous MMC. I thought I'd cope better but I can't help but worry.

@LaBelleSausage and @MyBreadIsEggy Yeah I hadn't got as far as thinking about how she'd feel. We aren't that close so it's not like we'd disclose anything until it was out in the open with the family. I guess I need to wait and see and practice my shocked face yes!

It was funny when we last announced actually, a summer BBQ had been arranged at PILs to announce their pregnancy unbeknown to us, but we got in there moments before 🤦‍♀️😂

@Florencenotflo Glad to hear your MW was so lovely and sorry to hear about your MMC we well. Have you had more than one? In my area I've been told they're don't send you for early scan unless you've had 2+ 😞

@MyBreadIsEgg I'm carrying on as usual, I get grumpy as if I don't

Easterbuns1 I’ve told DH that everyone on here and the nhs site says it’s fine.
His response? “I don’t want to stir it up!”

Politely reminded him I’m growing a baby not an omelette

@BridgetJonesDaiquiri it's nothing to worry about in kids, but it is definitely something to worry about for you- I came into contact with it in my first pregnancy and developed parvovirus, which can stop the baby from growing (I may be remembering the complications wrong, as it was 15 years ago, but I know that I was scanned every 4 weeks to check DDs growth, and induced at 36 weeks, because I tested positive for the virus).

Link is below to NHS, suggests getting in touch with your gp, and if someone else can be primary carer until the virus has passed I would definitely suggest it. I hope I haven't worried you too much as I'm sure everything will be fine, but you should definitely get checked up.

www.nhs.uk/common-health-questions/pregnancy/what-are-the-risks-of-slapped-cheek-syndrome-during-pregnancy/

@MyBreadIsEggy please tell me the omelette comment was purposeful because of your username?

Hadn't even thought of not DTD, DH is overjoyed to not be using condoms anymore so we're not holding back. Although rubbish sleep from the 1yr old has put a dampener on my enthusiasm.

I'm the same Florencenotflo 😔 previous "period" was a MMC D&C to not sure on dates and full of worry. I might take my MWs offer up on an early scan.

As for DTD, we've done it a couple times since but I am sooooooo tired that we haven't had chance to do as much as we were when we were TTC

It genuinely wasn’t a correlation with the username - just a funny coincidence

@buttontum I totally get how you feel about SIL.

Last time, I was pregnant at the same time as my sister. DD and my niece are 22 hours apart! I got so fed up of the comparisons especially as my sister breezed through it all. And she wanted my Mum at the birth and I didn’t, so that caused a bit of upset.

This time, I’m due around the same time as my cousin. I don’t have anything to do with her (very long story) but she’ll be furious when she finds out!

@KnobJockey Thanks for your reply. Did your DD have any issues in utero? Or was she just induced early as precaution? Yes I suppose it’s a case of getting on their radar and if I do have parvovirus, being monitored closely. Really hoping a) it’s not what my DD has and b) I’m immune! Did you have any symptoms yourself?

@BridgetJonesDaiquiri it was found in me as I started bleeding lightly at 17 weeks, so they ran various blood tests and found that, I'd probably had it since about 14 weeks. After that point, I had bleeding about every 4-6 weeks, which might not have been related- I could still have been having 'periods' of a kind. When scanning and measuring from 20 weeks her head was slightly small for my dates and the rest of her, and at 36 weeks they thought it had stopped growing, so better out than in. Her head was slightly small when she was born but no problems- most babies heads measure quite large compared to their body, hers was more in proportion, but no issues. She just wore small baby hats for a little while!

Oh @stroan I bet you were hoping for more of a gap between DD & niece!
I guess looking on the bright side it will be good for the kids that they have cousins close in age 🤷‍♀️

@bridgetjonesdaquiri I had an exposure through work at around 22 weeks.
Most people are immune so GP will do a blood test to check. In the meantime I would minimise contact with your LO if that’s at all possible.
You’re probably immune and it’ll all be fuss over nothing but beSt to be sure.

@buttontum I’m just glad they have different birth dates and we can celebrate their birthdays separately.

It’s taken three years for them to play together, for a while it was just stressful. DN was quite hands on and DD hated it. They adore each other now though.

Speaking of gaps, anyone who has DCs already, what’s your age gaps?
My mum and my sister think we are totally nuts for having DC3 when we’ve got 2 young DCs already.
Dd is 3.5, DS is 2 - there’s 17 months between them.
Dd will be 4 when DC3 arrives and DS will be almost 3. Personally I don’t think that’s a mad age gap!

DD will be 3y9mo.

I really wanted a much smaller gap but I was made redundant on mat leave with her and it took me a while to find a permanent part time job so that I could afford another mat leave. She’ll be great but I can’t help but think they’ll never be at the same stage or able to play the same games.

One positive is that I’ll be off on mat leave the summer before she goes to school so she can have a whole summer off with me.