June 2019 babies - part 5!!!!

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2nd trimester for all the lovely June mummies out there! Yippee!!!

I had the worst cold before Christmas, pregnancy really does make every little illness seem worse doesn’t it.

I’m starting to be a little worried about gestational diabetes (almost certainly unnecessarily). I had been starting to feel more normal again but since Friday I’ve been feeling incredibly fatigued, occasionally nauseous, but mainly thirsty. Way more than usual pregnancy thirst. I’ve drank so much and my wee was so dark this morning it was like I’d not drank for days. I’ve been downing glasses of water but it’s not touching it. I don’t have any other reason to think of GD except my last baby was very big (almost but not quite 10lbs). The reason I’m worried though is that my aunty got GD, which then became normal diabetes, from which she died of complications. I know it’s probably normal pregnancy stuff but it’s really on my mind.

@hexagon01 I'm pretty thirsty a lot at the moment but doesn't sound as bad as yours! Perhaps its worth a call to the midwife or GP depending on the best one in your area? Even if you just leave a message with your concerns. Do you have a midwife appointment coming up otherwise?

Thanks @KoalasAteMyHomework, I can’t decide if I’m being way OTT (probably that). I’m seeing my midwife on Tuesday so I’ll mention it then. I’ve drank so much today I feel a bit queasy from it!

Hi all just joining the group! This is my first baby and due 11 June. Found out at an early scan we are having a little girl!

Is anyone else still feeling very unpregnant (sorry to those suffering). I worried all through first trimester as no symptons and due to previous early miscarriage. Now I'm almost 18 weeks and still have no symptoms, no bump and no movement
I'm struggling to believe anything is in there and if it wasn't for the 3 scans and missed period I just wouldn't have a clue!

I'm an anxious person and would just love a sign that she's in there!

@hexagon01 is definitely bring it up at your next appointment if you’re concerned. But try to remember that for most people, it’s easily managed and does not mean long term problems.

I have several risk factors so I feel certain I will get it, but I’m trying to manage my own fears of that diagnosis.

Can someone add to the fb group pls?

Just catching up! Thank you for the words of reassurance - you're all lovely xxx

@hexagon01 you must be feeling very anxious and I hope that your midwife can put your mind at ease - I'm assuming they test regularly for this? They want to do the best they can for you and your baby and that includes a reassured mummy xx

@hexagon01 if you are seeing your midwife Tues then definitely mention it. Don't feel silly, they get asked much more sillier stuff than that! Do you have to take a urine sample? I always have to at mine as standard, so perhaps they'll test your urine as a matter of course anyway. Let us know how it goes

Urrrrrr - second night in a row of insomnia, woken by DD at 1.30am, was in be bed with her until 2 and still awake now at 3 (though she cried again and came into our bed 15 mins ago, so I had to stop watching series on my iPad at gang point!!). Bonus is - I have been lying in my back to watch the iPad and getting very definite movements! I have been feeling something the last few evenings when I'm laying down with DD putting her to bed but this was the strongest yet, felt almost like swooshing and some flipping around - so that's the little bonus of laying awake when I'm back to work in the morning....

Happy new year all! It was a busy Christmas and New Year so I haven't been on for a while, how is everyone feeling?

I'm 16 weeks today and the last time I felt/was sick was last Saturday. Felt great since then (apart from starting with a cold on Friday) The only problem with not feeling sick is now I don't feel pregnant and can't feel any movements yet which is a little disconcerting as a FTM. Is it normal to feel like this at this stage? X

@toomanyflatwhites insomnia is the worst, I suffer from it when not preg but during my first trimester I was so tired I slept beautifully. Now it's back 😬 seeing my doc tomorrow as it's driving me crazy, not sure what they can do though as my normal tablets are a no no. Do you normally suffer or just preg related? Movements are awesome too, my little one really gets going when I've got up at night to pee and I'm trying to settle 🙄😅

@Curlywurly3 most websites I read say FTMs first start feeling movements between 18-22 weeks on average. Different for everyone of course but you've got loads of time yet! Please try not to worry, I know it's hard though. It's great you're not being sick anymore, enjoy the second trimester glow! Apparently I'm skipping it this time round as I'm still tired and still being sick at nearly 20 weeks ☹️ by 14 weeks with DS1 I felt awesome!

Hi all, hope you're all well!
I just dropped off my 5yo at school today and heard a little girl shouting his name as I walked him to class.. I nearly burst into tears, she was so cute! Anyone else feeling super emotional?
I'm feeling super nervous about my 20 week scan (next Wednesday) because we all (my son and husband included) want a girl so badly but I just know my luck. I'm so worried about disappointing the boys and getting upset at the ultrasound and sounding really selfish and stupid because the sonographer has to give such worse news sometimes don't they and I just need to be grateful? I keep telling myself this but I can't seem to get rid of this overwhelming sadness and worry that I'm not having a girl. So stupid I know, so many women here have lost so I should be thankful.
Anyone else feeling this way? :( x

@excitedmama - yep, Ive got twins growing and two boys is the least preferable option, I really want a girl (one of each would be my preference). I know eventually I will adjust if its two boys but since we arent planning on more DCs I wont get another chance to have a girl.

I really strongly believe any and all feelings are valid, and yes there are people who get bad news and lose pregnancies, however there is still space for feelings about gender preference and anything else, in my view.

I am trying to focus on the health side, I just really hope they are healthy (the first thing I want to know is if their heartbeats are still going strong), and if not, we will deal with that too when/if it comes to it. I have my anomaly scan Wednesday too.

@excitedmama I'm with you there too - I'd be absolutely thrilled to have a girl and I think I'd got to a good stage where I was excited about either when we went for the gender scan, and when they said it was a girl I was so happy. Now I'm doubting it, and I'm worried that I'll be upset if they say boy at the nhs scan, whereas I should only be caring about health!

Obviously health is my number one priority but I can't pretend I don't care about the gender too...

Gender preference is a funny one. I remember being 1000% convinced DD was going to be a boy and at my 20w scan they told me girl and I had to mentally adjust.

This happened again with DS except in reverse.

For me I absolutely and truly had no preference but for me I’d been so sure to have the opposite presented as fact did make me have a mental “SCREECH! GEAR CHANGE” moment.

That’s why I’m not too harsh on gender preference per se but the only time it’s really pissed me off is when a lady I know was genuinely gutted out about her DC2 being a boy.

The woman had had 3 miscarriages plus one of those was lateish. I just could not get on board with her palpable annoyance the baby’s sex wasn’t “right”.

Hello! May I join, please? Due on 19 June, so 16+5 today (will update the list in a bit).

I’m also a person with a gender preference. When all’s said and done, I know it doesn’t matter at all, but I’d really love this one to be a girl. I’m hoping to find out at my next scan - I also really want a boy, just not this time, so finding out it is a boy would give me plenty of time to change my preference before the birth!

This baby was a bit unexpected - we were just starting the IVF process. I really wanted a May or June baby, but was definitely of the opinion that it could come any month it wanted if it would only come. So I’m already delighted that it looks like I will get a June (or at least early July!) baby: if it’s also a girl, that would be amazing.

But DH seems like he was such a sweet child that I am definitely up for seeing what his son turns out like, and we might not be able to have another. So I’ll just let myself feel what I feel, and update my feelings as they become less useful!

@Torsz I have to keep reminding my husband that our private scan might not have been totally accurate! He was so excited when she said that we’re having a girl. I thought I wanted a girl, but I overprepared myself for the possibility of a boy and now it feels weird to switch gears.

I’m worried about my scan on Thursday because of medications I’ve been taking (or not taking) in early pregnancy. Just hoping for the best.

Hi @Heebyjeeby99 we're due on the same day! I have been sick as a dog the whole time BUT like you I have no bump (still in normal jeans) no movement and only a couple of lbs of weight gain.

I often wonder if there's a baby in there, or whether I just have a really bad case of Noro

@excitedmama I do understand where you're coming from. I have 2 step-daughters, 2 nieces, 2 sisters...in fact my whole family is girls! So I was really hoping for a boy. I found out at a private gender scan last week that I was having a girl - the first thing I said before they told me the gender was 'is there a heartbeat', 'is everything measuring ok' and when they said yes, I can honestly say I was so relieved I didn't actually mind at all! And now I'm really excited about having a daughter, even if she will get all the hand-me-downs like I did as a child! I thought I'd be disappointed, but I'm not so hopefully once you know all is ok, even if it is a boy you'll be excited and relieved too.

Hi @allfurcoatnoknickers. O really, we in exactly the same boat then (minus the sickness....sorry you're dealing with that). I got told by the MW last week that I might have an anterior placenta and not feel movement until 25 weeks...for an anxious person this was not ideal news!

Yes I've defo gained a little weight, but I just look a little more plump, not pregnant. I'm only 5'4 so had expected to pop early...but no signs at all...

@Heebyjeeby99 I'm barely 5'3, and started at a healthy BMI, so I thought I'd have a very pronounced bump by now...not so much. I just look like I've been at the Tacos.

I'm sorry you're feeling so anxious. I know it must be hard. I'm a Brit, but in the US, so get tons of monitoring, and although sometimes it can be excessive, at least I have no time to worry.

Welcome @Spargle - we were also just about to start ivf, lovely little miracle babies!!
If it helps, my dh was an absolute nightmare child which I think is part of why I'm hoping for a girl 😂

@Kescilly good luck on Thursday - got everything crossed for you 🤞 it's funny isn't it - I really want to believe the gender scan is right but i know it's much more likely to get it wrong when they predict a girl so trying not to get my hopes up... and I know that whatever happens, we'll love it more than anything and wouldn't change a thing! So here's hoping for healthy above everything else...

@rollerskaterdata thank you for your reply and sorry you are still being sick :(

@allfurcoatnoknickers and @heebyjeeby99 I'm 16 weeks and also the same, no bump, too early for movements and as my sickness has now gone I really don't feel pregnant at all! I feel like I should feel SOMETHING like a few pains here or there! If I sneeze lying down I do get a sharp pain actually and also if I get too cold I feel like someone has attached crocodile clips to my nipples... I'll hang on to that ;) x

@allfurcoatnoknickers I'm in the UK and an 8 week wait between scans is excruciating! I've had 2 private scans to get me through...

I think it's worse because I had a m/c 2 months before this pregnancy so I'm constantly expecting the worse! Just trying to stay calm and not overthink every little thing...easier said than done.

Let me know when you finally 'pop'...I can't wait to actually look pregnant and not just chubs!

@Heebyjeeby99 @Curlywurly3 I look at the bump pics on the Facebook group with bewilderment. Why don't I look like that?!

@Heebyjeeby99 8 weeks seems like such a long time! I completely understand why you're getting private scans to put your mind at rest. Even if I don't have a scan, my consultant checks the heartbeat with the Doppler, so we both know everything is fine. Works out to a check in about every 4 weeks, although, I have three appointments in January because of my work schedule and the 20 weeks scan.