December 2018 Babies - Thread #5 - The Births

[MagicalCreatures]

Hi girls.
Here’s the new thread.
I’ll upload the spreadsheet again too.
Let’s get these baby’s out.
😘

Well for me Oliver usually wakes at around 5:30-6 when daddy gets up and ready for work, we will usually lounge in bed and watch tv/little baby bum for half an hour to an hour, I'll take Oliver downstairs after a top & tail wash and dressed and I've changed his nappy
So about 8 I'll get downstairs, Oliver has a bokky and then on his playmat for a bit while I do laundry,cleaning etc...
I'll take Oliver out most days just for a walk or shopping centre if not it's just play time with mummy 😊
He might have a little nap at about 1-2 ish I sometimes manage to feed myself at this point 😂
Daddy gets home at around 3 and has Oliver for an hour so I can get showered and then it's just playing/tummy time or cuddles until 6:30, then it's bath time and in pjs, upstairs where we dim lights and he has his last feed in his crib usually between 7:30-8
I just go with the flow most days tho nothings set in stone, only main routine I stick to is bedtime routine has to be exact time every night
Oliver feeds on demand so I feed him whenever he wants some bokky haha! Could be all times of the day

Anyone started spoon feeding there little babba yet?

@MagicalCreatures I don't bath Casper every day either as it dries out his skin so more like every other day (or if he's covered in an explosive poop that the wipes can't handle!)

I do bath Ava every day as she really enjoys it. It's about the only time that she's awake and not crying.

Phoned the doctors again, just had to drive for half an hour to get her to calm down and she started screaming as soon as I walked through the door. It's relentless 😔 she never seems happy 😔

I'm not doing great, yesterday was an ok day but today we're back to no sleep and a screaming baby xx

Received a letter from the hospital. Casper's heart scan came back normal thank goodness. His bloods showed a vitamin D deficiency so have to double his dose.
@Roomarmoset I really feel for you. I hate those screamy days. They kill me. Hope you're ok x

@Roomarmoset I've had a screaming baby day today too! I feel emotionally & mentally drained on these days, I sat and cried for an hour before it gets too much sometimes

@Roomarmoset so sorry to hear that. It’s draining isn’t it. What did the doctor say or have you booked another appt?
Brady is doing this thing at the moment where he has a tantrum after every feed. Even though he doesn’t have colic anymore. He just gets really stressed out and throws a fit. He keeps waking up from he’s naps crying aswell. Like real little sad sobs as if he’s had a horrible dream. I’m thinking maybe it’s his teeth playing up because he’s definitely teething.
@Athers666 fantastic news hun. I bet that’s a weight lifted.

Also, are your bubbas holding their heads up yet. I know Brady is a couple of weeks behind most of yours but he’s still not quite there. I don’t think I’ve been doing as much tummy time as I should be ☹️
And I feel awful because a couple of times I’ve been trying to hold him with one arm and he’s flung himself back. It makes me feel sick. I’ve obviously caught him and he’s not seriously hurt himself but he’s bent back and I’ve been so worried. I feel like a shite mum 😢

Wish I'd noted the dates but i can tell you what amber can do now at 16 weeks?
Holding her head (most of time before 2 months, 100% before 3 months)
Rolling to her side from back, just ths week.
Grabbing toys on purpose, this week.
Kicking legs in swimming pool, today.
She can wriggle about on her mat and do a 180° while I'm not looking.
Babbling long 'sentences with one or 2 syllables... been getting more consistent over 2-3 weeks.

Nowhere near sitting or pureed food. Can't entertain herself for long and cries when i leave the room. Up 2-5 times at night and fights daytime naps.

I think there's huge variations but most end up at same place by, what, 18 months?

@MagicalCreatures your far from a shite mum your amazing!!! Don't be too hard on yourself, every baby is different, my friends baby is a week apart From Oliver, where's Oliver can hold his head up quite well, her little man can't,.. buuut her baby is rolling over whereas Oliver isn't even close, Oliver laughs a little bit whereas her baby does propper belly laughs 😂
I think each baby develops differently in there own time but as @raysan1said they all end up doing pretty much the same by 18 months ish
And Oliver has flung himself backwards plenty of times I think that's just one of those things, it's is scary when he does it thou

Ohh and Oliver has started startling awake during his naps too, and the screams the house down, I noticed after his 1st lot of injections his startle reflex came back pretty bad... then disappeared again, only happens now and again when he's napping in the day (I've got more chance of seeing a unicorn shit rainbows than Oliver nap at the moment)... 3 days with no naps!!! I can't move lol

Casper rarely naps but...I've found something that sends him to sleep! An electric breast pump lol. I'm trying to boost my milk supply by pumping between feeds and it makes a rhythmic whirring noise which has sent Casper in to a deep snooze haha.

Haha it's amazing what makes them tick isn't it!... Oliver loves it when I make fart sounds 😜

.... on another note! I'm really craving a few glasses of wine,(I'm not going too) I made a promise to myself & Oliver I wouldn't drink alcohol when he is around me, my mum used to be an alcoholic when I was growing up and the idea of me even having a shandy around my boy makes me shiver!
.... I'm on the wine gums instead!... I'm so rock n roll 🤘😜🤘

Love wine gums!

😂 our babies are weird.
I know what you mean about the alcohol. I have had a couple of kopperbergs in the last 3 weeks. 1 on Mother’s Day and one a few weeks ago but I almost felt really bad for it. I think because I didn’t have anything during pregnancy and was really strict with myself through my pregnancy (I checked the labels on everything) for things I shouldn’t have, it’s kind of drummed Into me that I’m not allowed it ever again 😂
It’s a weird feeling. It’s as if I still think I’m pregnant sometimes and like I have to be really careful x

Anyone started bickering more with their partners, me and my OH never argued before pregnancy and I mean never, but this past week I feel like everything he does irritates me to the core... I mean he's sat next to me while Oliver is in his crib on the PlayStation and has hardly said a word to me, I feel like having a baby is very much taking it's toll on our relationship, I know we will get through it but I can easily see how couples split up during these stressful sleep deprived months of parenthood 🙀

I still wouldn't change being a mum for the world though 😂😂
It's strange what we go through as parents, the old me would never let a small man poo up my arm and wee in my hair 😂.... ohh how times have changed

Well I've just got back from the doctors and I'm officially medicated. Here's to the next few weeks.... 🤞🏻

How is everyone doing?x

Aw Roo I hope you start to feel an improvement soon!
We sre doing ok but have to take Casper to the hospital tomorrow for an ultasound scan of his skull as they want to see why he has quite a large head in comparison to his little body. Dreading it x

it's not easy, is it, whether its mental health, relationships, or hospital visits! My latest is that I am having physio for pelvic floor and overactive bladder, haha. It's not complicated but surprising how little detailed info there is compared to the supposedly 10% who are affected.

top tip - there are 2 types of pelvic floor exercises (10 second hold and squeeze once per second).

OMG GIRLS!! I've had such a terrible night with Oliver, he was waking every 20-30 minutes, he's getting his bottom 2 teeth, I've tried teething gels, calpol and they don't seem to work... the days feel long when he's like this, I know he's in pain and there's nothing I can do it's horrible, I cried and cried yesterday and had to ring my mum in the end to come over... and as soon as she picked Oliver up he stopped crying... I've never felt so useless in my life I felt like walking out the front door

@Roomarmoset so sorry it’s come to that for you but hopefully things will now improve. My sister didn’t get help for a long time and she really regrets it now. You’ve done the right thing.
@Athers666 hope today goes ok for you all. Keep us posted.
@raysan1 urgh what we put our bodies through for these gorgeous babies at? You poor thing. I’ve been doing my pelvic floor like crazy recently. But then I had a bladder condition before childbirth so I don’t fancy the idea of my bladder ejecting from my body.
@December2018 I feel ya girl!!! Brady has been teething for weeks. And it’s at the point where he ferociously eats he’s fist, tantrums in pain and is keeping me awake all night. Every hour he’s waking me up. I’ve tried dentinox. Only works for 5 minutes. Got those teetha granules yesterday. Had a right laugh with those. I put half on a spoon like they say, put it up to his mouth, Brady breathed out and POUFF!!!!! The granules just evaporated into the air. Was very funny though.
Gave him calpol last night. He slept initially for a few hours before waking every hour again. URGH!!!!

@MagicalCreatures I think the 4 month sleep regression has hit us too which isn't helping the teething situation 😂😂
I can actually see them trying to poke thru! His smile is gonna look so cute with these 2 little pickle stabbers

Teething can FORK OFF!!!

Ultrasound went well. The sonographer couldnt see anything that looked untoward. We have to wait now for the consultant to have a look at the results but hopefully there's nothing to worry about like fluid on his brain or anything. Thank flip!

@Athers666 ohh I'm relieved to hear that hun... thank flip indeedy!

@Athers666 great news hun. I’m sure if anything was seriously wrong it would have shown up easily. Yay Casper!!!

So girls I need advice!!!

My sister in law (husbands sister) is a total b.i.t.c.h. We fell out a couple of years ago and she has continued to bully me and my husband since. Very cleverly though, so that her parents can’t really see it and still think she’s an angel. She’s the most jealous and vindictive person I’ve ever come across.
To cut a long story short... she was extremely rude to me one day and when I pulled her up on it and asked for an apology, she went nuts. Denied everything she said to me (to her parents) and made me look like a liar. My husband believed me obviously because he knows what she’s like. She refused to apologise and has since carried on doing things to me and my husband which have just been plain evil.
So the problem lies here..... I don’t want her near my son. When I am present, that is fine. But DH parents seem to think they are looking after him on a regular basis, and MIL regularly sees her and spends time with her. I do not want her around my son when I’m not around.
She has 2 children of her own, whom she stopped me and my husband having a proper relationship with. And when Brady was born, she bought him a packet of bib!!!!!
We bought her a £150 rocking chair when she had her first.
And on Saturday, she popped in briefly whilst we were at DH parents and she refused to even look at Brady.
So how do I tell MIL that if she does look after him, it’s without SIL around x