December 2018 Babies - Thread #5 - The Births

[MagicalCreatures]

Hi girls.
Here’s the new thread.
I’ll upload the spreadsheet again too.
Let’s get these baby’s out.
😘

Morning ladies
I put the pram up in the corner of our lounge and Ava goes in there for naps in the day. We rock the pram a little and use white noise and it usually does the trick.

Thanks for the little baby bum advice, we watched it yesterday. We realised at some point that Ava was having a nap and we were on wheels on the bus part 8 🙈🙈

I have a doctors appointment this afternoon to discuss post natal depression. I think I just need someone to talk to as I've been feeling really low for some time x

@raysan1 I totally get it. That’s what I mean by do I need to cut myself some slack. I believe that interacting with them is what helps their development. Hence why I spend most of my day doing it but there are days that I have to get the chores done and then I feel guilty. And trying to fit all those things in in one day is tough and I realise that one day I didn’t do any tummy time and it’s like my world has ended. And then I think I’m sure there are parents out there that only spend a fraction of the time I do on their babies so I need to not be so hard on myself.
@Roomarmoset Im chuffed little baby bum is working for you too. It’s lovely isn’t it. I actually don’t even mind it. I sing along with him and dance with him to some of the catchy ones.
I read about babies not having any screen time at all but surely it can’t hurt if it’s just for half hour whilst I’m getting ready. And it is educational with all the colours and numbers.
I’m so sorry your feeling down hun. But amazing that your seeking help. That’s the biggest challenge, admitting it to yourself. You’ve already made a huge dent in your progress of feeling better. Let us know how you get on x x

Hey everyone. We had Casper's heart ultrasound this morning at the hospital. He was sooo well behaved, he didn't cry at all and spent the whole time smiling and cooing. I was expecting him to scream his head off but he was loving it. We have to wait for a phone call now with results which is really stressful but at least it's done now.

I just love the little baby bum on Netflix it saved my sanity yesterday, I've actually got it on now too 😂

@Athers666 I'm so glad it wasn't as bad as you thought hun, I think sometimes the thought of something is wayyy worse than it turns out

@December2018 yay to Little Baby Bum. I’m chuffed you all like it. And that it’s helping with motherhood. We’ve found that Brady likes the 5 speckled Frogs one. He really laughs at that.
@Athers666 well done hun. It must be emotional for you though, seeing your precious little bundle of joy having something so serious done. Glad he didn’t seem phased by it though. What a little trooper x

@roomarmoset , health visitor has offered me almost immediate 'listening service (not qualified counsellor), vs GP referrals up to 6 months. Thats Herts, maybe your area has similar?
It's really common to have PND, i know 2 people diagnosed and probably others i didn't know about. Hope you get some suitable treatment soon... take one day at a time till then xxx

Thanks all. Doctor said pretty much what I expected her to say, get out every day and try and get some time to yourself - easier said than done! I've got to go back in 3 weeks to see if theres any improvement.

I think it's hard when you see other mums with babies around the same age who are sleeping really well and they seem to be coping so well. I have a meet up on Monday with the ladies I met at the antenatal classes, I'm looking forward to it but dreading it at the same time, I don't want to hear how well everyone else is doing 🙈

@Roomarmoset I’m surprised you’ve got to wait 3 weeks to see if there’s improvement. It’s quite a dangerous ground to be treading on with post natal depression. I thought they took it more seriously than that.
I suppose they don’t wanna hand out anti-depressants etc if actually you might not really need them. But I’m sure you’ve already tried the obvious things to make yourself feel better.
I absolutely get what you mean about seeing other mums coping better than you. Remember my post from a couple of weeks back. Everywhere I look it seems other mums have it all under control but I’m sure it’s not really like that. They probably look at us and think exactly the same.
We all put on such a great act and don’t want people to think we’re doing a bad job and not coping.
Really we’re all just winging it. Nobody is born an expert at parenting. There’s no degree in it. I think it takes a much stronger person to put their hands up and say hey, this is the hardest bloody job I’ve ever had to do and I feel like absolute crap 90% of the time.
How is Ava sleeping? What’s her pattern like. Brady’s still isn’t any better really. X

@MagicalCreatures I think she wanted tablets to be a last resort. I'm hoping things will improve, it's all down to sleep I suppose, when we all have a good sleep things don't seem as bad.

Ava had her 12 week jabs yesterday and they went much better than the first. She was still a bit poorly last night but she was so tired she slept for 6 hours, the first 6 hours straight I've slept for in 3 months, sadly I know it was a one off!

Her nights vary but she seems to be in a pattern where she does between 3 and 4 hours then it drops to an hour and a half then one hour. We're supposed to be going to a comedy gig tomorrow, I bought the tickets months ago but I'm already panicking that if we get back home and in bed at 11 then we're likely to get a couple of hours here and there. Last night we were in bed for 8 🙈 I'm going to try and sell the tickets but if not I think we'll just go for an early dinner so we can still spend some time together.

How is Brady sleeping? We've bought Ava's bath, bottle and bed routine forward from 8-9 to 7-8, it's only been 3 days so not sure if it's making much of a difference, it just means we're going to bed even earlier! People keep asking if I'm watching stuff on the TV and I say if it's on after 9 then no as I'm usually asleep 😂

@Roomarmoset it usually always is down to a lack of sleep. Id be doing really well then have one night where I’ve barely slept and then feel like the world is going to swallow me up and that I can’t cope.
Brady was doing exactly the same thing. Sleeping for a few hours at first and then getting shorter and shorter. He is out of that now and has just gone through a phase of sleeping 5 hours for the first stretch and then 3 and 3.
But has stopped that and is now just waking every 3 hours again from the time we put him down. So when I finally think I’m getting somewhere and things are improving, it goes tits up again. I feel like I’m fighting a losing battle.
For the last week I’ve been putting him into bed anywhere between 7 and half 8 depending on when his last nap and feed was. Before, I was letting him fall asleep on me and then putting him down because he wouldn’t go to sleep on his own. He’s getting better at it and I just persevere with soothing him by ssshhhing and stroking his face until he gets sleepy enough that he can fall asleep in his own. But I go to bed at the same time 😂 so the latest I’ve been in bed is about 9. I’m just so tired and I get anxious too about not getting enough sleep. I like to get a couple of hours in before I know his gonna wake for his first night feed. X

And the award for ‘the worst mummy in the world’ goes to.....ME!!!
I have given my poor little boy my cold. If anyone has any tips on how to clear flem from his throat when he’s laying down in bed, let me know. He spent most of last night gurgling and reaching on it x

@MagicalCreatures I have done exactly the same thing 😳
When Oliver went to sleep last night I put a little cushion under his cribs mattress so it was on an incline, and albas oil on a little bit of tissue in his crib near him worked wonders last night to help him breathe
Even thou colds seem like the worst thing in the world it helps their little immune systems get stronger

Still haven't had a call from the hospital with Casper's heart scan results. Been nearly a week now!
My hair has started falling out all of a sudden. And our washing machine has just broken down. Soooo depressed right now!

@Athers666 omg our washing machine broke this morning too 😳😳
My OH just pulled loads of hair clips out of the filter as we speak so hopefully that fixes it
I think hair-loss is quite common post partum, probably all the stress and sleeplessness haha!

Could you maybe ring the hospital and ask them if everything is ok? Put your mind at ease a little, big hugs xxxx

@december2018 Oh no, not yours as well! Not the one is it when you've got baby stuff to wash! On ours the drum wont turn at all so it's he belt or bearings or something. Anyway DH says let's just get a new one instead of repairing it as we've had it since 2012 and it's got mould on the rubber around the door which I can't get rid of. We can't really afford it though with me on mat leave! No wonder my hair's falling out!
In nicer news Casper has been making loads of cute noises and laughing x

@Athers666 any news on Casper yet?
@December2018 poor Oliver too. Is he better now?

Brady took his first ambulance ride to hospital on Sunday morning at 4am. Little drama queen. The build up of phlem got so bad that he was reaching. Ended up projectile vomiting milk and mucous EVERYWHERE!!!!
My husband just went into panic mode and dialled 111 and because he was under 12 weeks they sent an ambulance. I on the other hand stayed very calm. I’m quite proud. I bet I still ended up looking like the paranoid first time mum though.
Did you know that it’s protocol to now take any child under 1 into hospital if an ambulance has been called. Better to be safe than sorry I suppose, but my little man just had a cold 😳

Aw Brady! Glad he was ok though! How's he doing now?
We haven't heard back from the hospital about Casper's heart scan yet, over a week now! He also has to have a skull ultrasound in a few weeks time. We're trying not to worry and panic. He loves baths now and enjoys kicking his legs like mad and splashing. It's so cute! Only a few weeks ago he screamed his head off in the bath so this is amazing progress lol.

@Athers666 Brady is doing abit better. He’s not been under the weather in himself. Not got a temp etc. But is still very snuffly and Phlemy. I’ve not had a lot of sleep for atleast a week now and I’m starting to really feel it.
Why has Casper got to have a skull scan too?
Going away to dawlish for Mother’s Day with my mum, sister, niece and Brady. Gonna stay in a caravan for the weekend. Can’t wait. They’ve offered to help with the night feeds too so I’m gonna get my first break (husband doesn’t do any of the night feeds and never has)

Does anyone else on here wonder how the other girls are doing. We’ve not heard a lot from any of them since the babies came along. I know getting the time is hard.
But does anyone know how
Cakelaur
Stephisaur
Gemsie
RomPom are doing. There just the ones i can think of off the top of my head.

Not entirely sure what they are scanning his skull for, Dr just commented that he has a rather large head in comparison to his little body so they want to take a look. Just in autopilot really trying not to get too frightened and upset.

@MagicalCreatures it's hard work on no sleep too isn't it hun, I feel your pain! 😂
Ollie is still snuffly too he keeps waking himself up at night and he's got into a habit of taking his dummy out and throwing it out of his crib halfway across the room, trying to find a dummy in the dark is no fun 😂

I was wondering about the other girls too, not heard anything from them for a while (I miss them haha) I have to thank you girls tho you lot where my sanity thru pregnancy and these tough early weeks and it's great knowing I'm not alone x

@Athers666 I'm sure if it was anything too serious hun they would have got back to you by now surely, but on the other side of things they shouldn't be letting you wait this long for answers, just hang in there girl 💐

Wow was just reading back the early pages of this thread when we were all still pregnant! Seems so weird looking back on it now. I was sooo uncomfortable ans miserable at the end.

Rubbish day today. Casper has been super miserable and cried all day. I have no clue why?! Can't take him out as he screams in his pushchair and I don't feel like driving as I'm too tired. Hate days like this!

@Athers666 me too! But tomorrow is a new day, you sound like you deserve a bit of Netflix and a strong coffee, get Casper in bed with you and have snuggles.... snuggles always make me feel better after a shit day!
I put a few drops of lavender oil in olivers bath last night.... AND HE SLEPT RIGHT THRU!!!
It worked a treat! I feel refreshed and managed to tidy the whole house and do 3 loads of washing!... RESULT!

Apart from the winging he's doing now for no reason 😂