December 2018 Babies - Thread #5 - The Births

[MagicalCreatures]

Hi girls.
Here’s the new thread.
I’ll upload the spreadsheet again too.
Let’s get these baby’s out.
😘

@roomarmoset maybe I’m doing the bath too early - wonder if I moved it to 2030 that would improve things. That said I’m sitting in the spare room while OH has him and I can STILL hear him crying two hours later - so maybe we are far from a routine yet ☹️

@AGirlinLondon ugh I hear you. We are trying to do a routine so it's bed at 7 (we both remember it working with our first son!) but this one won't play ball. Is awake until 10ish when we feed him, then will go to 2/3, another feed and then around 6am is wake up time. I know this is good really as we do get a decent block of sleep but I feel so confused that he won't sleep at 7 as I swear big brother did at this age (6 weeks).

@kaytees you have described exactly our situation. We also are getting decent chunks of sleep but he seems to be getting way overtired by the time he finally gives in - he is fighting sleep for sure

Oliver has his "bedtime feed" around 10ish and goes to sleep properly around 11-11:30ish and is up every 2 hours for a feed sometimes he only wants a swig and then goes back off to sleep lol
He usually has a good sleep from 5 when OH goes to work until around 8ish tho so I can get a few hours sleep... I usually spend those couple of hours sterilising his bottles from night time feeds 😂
He kept making us laugh last night tho... we could hear his farts from the other side of the room 😂

He slept in his crib last night for the first time... he's been in his airflow nest next to me since birth (super anxiety about checking his breathing) lol

Unfortunately our sacrifice for a half decent night seems to mean she doesn't want to nap during the day... at all 😫😫

Bedtime here usually around 10pm too, though it varies - some nights he’s down at 7pm with big sibs and some nights it’s somewhere in between the two. I’m not fussed as, unlike the first two, he spends the evening hours smiling and cooing.

My oldest two both started going down at 7pm at 12 weeks, as if a switch had been flicked, and sleeping much longer stretches. So I’m hoping for same again!

Gosh, no routine yet for Brady but then we’re abit behind some of you. 4 weeks yesterday.
He now weighs 8lb 2oz. My tiny boy.
Your giving me hope though. That in a few weeks he might actually start having some sort of routine would be bliss x

Just catching up - how is everyone doing?x

Hey @Roomarmoset I'm good Oliver is good, he's sleeping from 11-3 every night now has a quick swig of his bokky and goes back to sleep it's getting easier 😊 he's up at 5 tho when his daddy goes to work so it's early starts for me and he's awake all day 😂 but the routine is helping me deal with things better (I love to plan ahead) he's 7 weeks old today how quick does it go!

How are you?

Anyone else feeling broody? I'm really contemplating a 2nd already! Am I actually going mad!

Oh I missed this one after being on all the others!!!

Baby Noah arrived via ELCS at 37+4 weeks on the 9th Dec a teeny 5lbs15oz- he's 9 weeks today and bulked up to 11lbs13oz!

No routine here and I swear my two older boys did. We're just about starting to settle into a family of five it's like he's brand new but always been here!

@lrwe he is gorgeous!! He looks so squishy and content there, Oliver is being weighed on Tuesday and I reckon he's in the 11lbs category this is him tonight...
And one in the car the other day he's a chunky monkey!

@December2018 that hat and those cheeks 😍😍😍

Aww what lovely photos!

We're doing okay, I'm not sure about being broody though 🙈 one is definitely enough for me at the moment.

I never thought I'd be excited about seeing poo but when Ava has gone a couple of days without doing one I get so excited 😂

Definitely not broody here yet either 😂 just missing how little he was really and knowing you don’t ever get those moments back is hard.
Having trouble with DH at the moment. Not pulling his weight. And being, quite frankly, just horrible. What is it with men!!!!
He is so childish sometimes and can be so nasty. I’ve contemplated going to my mums a few times x

The broodiness has left! 😂😂
Oliver has hit the crying all the time faze, just wants to be carried around, I've got super bad mummy thumb too so I'm wearing a splint and having cortisone injections in my wrist, it's that bad I can't even pick him up in the mornings my poor mum has to come round to help me take him downstairs until the pain eases a little!
Any of you other ladies had this before? It reallllllyyy bloody hurts haha

@MagicalCreatures I totally hear you about your OH... mine is a lazy shit!
I'm constantly picking up after him, I understand that he works 6-3 but he should still be doing his fair share of housework... no he goes the gym instead and rolls in at 7 and has a nice relaxing bath!
He watches Oliver for an hour or so at night so I can have a bath and "relax"
NO!! I end up doing the washing & cleaning instead!
They're selfish shits sometimes arnt they!

@December2018 you poor thing. Ditto!!!!
I would actually be better if as a single parent coz I would save atleast an hour a day picking up after him and not doing his washing.
My DH goes to the gym 5 times a week before or after work (depending what suits him that day) and he’s gone for 1 1/2 hours.
He has even been at the weekends which we specifically discussed he wouldn’t do anymore so that I get some time and we get family time together but he has walked out the door saying he doesn’t care whilst I’ve been in tears. I love him but I hate him for how he’s made me feel.
Other scenarios include him getting angry because Brady cries when he holds him and he only settles for me. I said what do you expect when you only see him 2 hours a day because the gym, amongst other things are more important to you.
He literally can’t wven cope with him for 40 minutes in the evening whilst I have a shower and dry my hair and out the washing away. He brings him into me as soon as I get out the shower and plonks him on the bed, goes back into the living room and carries on watching tv.
Don’t get me started on night feeds.
Why is it that men think, just because they go ‘out’ to work, that their sleep and time is more important.
Is it not dangerous for me to fall asleep holding my son on the sofa because I’ve only had 2 hours in the night.
They’re a joke x

@December2018 yes I had mother's thumb with my eldest, made worse because I didn't wear my splint to pick him up because I couldn't bend that way. Luckily it was in my non-dominant wrist (well except for everything baby related) and within hours of the cortisone injection the pAin had gone!

@MagicalCreatures... men!!
My OH is brilliant with Oliver, just doesn't seem to understand that it's hard cleaning & washing when I've got a little squiggly to contend with, as soon as I leave the room he knows and starts crying or wiggling about, I mean even if he came home and just did the dishes and gave Ollie a bottle & nappy change when he gets home from work while I had a coffee with both hands I would be grateful and wouldn't mind him going the gym or whatever but he Doesn't 🙄

@lrwe the cortisone injections arnt doing much if I'm honest, it eases for a day or two and then kicks off... my wrist is actually deformed now

Aha! My app logged me out and I didn't realise, then took me ages to get back in. Sounds like you guys are all mostly doing well... the frustrations with OHs are real though. Mine is generally good but ohhhh it pushes my buttons when he's been out for a run / been doing stuff on his laptop and not paying attention to the kids and then offers 'helpful' suggestions if the baby won't settle etc. SILENCE!! I have to remind myself that once he sleeps through I'll be more tolerant.

Baby is doing well, he's proper chunky now! 8 weeks already...He has to be assessed for tongue tie but hopefully that'll mean his breastfeeding speed picks up a bit soon. Will try to attach a pic as I'm shameless and love seeing them!

Ps @MagicalCreatures I would totally go to your mums for a few days if it's an option... gives you some breathing space and a chance for husband to realise the clothes don't wash themselves (I definitely think mine thinks they do, I have a plan to one week just not wash any of his stuff and see how long it takes him to notice... being awake a lot means I have time to create such plans)

@kaytees OMG!!! He is just beautiful!
Seeing them smile is just the best feeling in the world isn't it!
He looks so chunky & healthy 😍
Oliver is 12lbs now and is nearly sitting up... cute but not when I've got hold of him and he throws himself forward, I have to be like lightening so he doesn't fall lol

And I think the washing plan is brilliant!
I might have to try that myself

Look at this cheeky face!

@kaytees awww gorgeous. Look at him. What a sweetie. Yours too @December2018 they’re so cheeky.
Brady weighed 9lb 4oz on Wednesday. He’s 6 weeks today. They’re getting so big these babies. I don’t like it 😩
At this rate I think going to my mums or asking my husband to leave is going to be a certainty. I have come to realise he is the most selfish person I’ve ever met. I’m heartbroken by his behaviour. Last night I laid in bed and cried. He speaks to me like dirt. I can’t even be bothered to explain why. I’m exhausted x

Sorry to hear that @MagicalCreatures have you talked to him about how you feel? My husband does 24 hour shifts and I definitely struggle. I find Ava gets very distressed when she can't poo, it's horrible to see.

We have our first baby free night next weekend, we have a wedding in Leeds (we're from the Midlands). I'm very apprehensive at leaving her but at the same time I'm looking forward to having some time just us. My mother in law loves babies and is very excited about having her overnight. I'm sure we'll be phoning every hour 🙈