December 2018 Babies - Thread #5 - The Births

[MagicalCreatures]

Hi girls.
Here’s the new thread.
I’ll upload the spreadsheet again too.
Let’s get these baby’s out.
😘

I just put it on my phone lol he's mesmerised by the balls, when I'm changing his nappy I just stand my phone up next to him and he will turn and look at it (usually screams changing his nappy) it's great 😊

That’s really cool @December2018 I’ll try that later when Brady is having his funny 3 hours.

How is everyone doing? I'm struggling, husband is working tonight. I've been out with Ava for a couple of hours and she's been fine, as soon as we get home she starts crying, I feed and change her and give her cuddles and she just starts crying uncontrollably.

I'm sat in the bedroom in the dark trying to get her to settle. She's finally dropping off after giving her a dummy but I feel emotionally drained 😢 when does it stop being normal to be so emotional? I seem to be okay when my husband is here but when he goes to work I feel like it's so much harder.

Casper is grumpy tonight too. Just cries and cries unless he's feeding. So draining and soul destroying isn't it? Rest assured you're not the only one having the same problem x

@Roomarmoset oh hun. That’s exactly what I’ve been struggling with. I just didn’t expect it to be like this either so didn’t prepare myself at all.
All the time I’m out with Brady, he’s fine. Nice and quiet/asleep. And all the time I have visitors, he’s quiet/asleep.
When I’m On my own with him or even when it’s just me and my DH, he screams and cries the vast majority of the time. It is emotionally draining. There is no reason for it either. Other then colic.
I do find myself feeling stronger each day though. And I cry less and less too.
People say the baby blues Only last about a week but I believe it’s a lot longer.
Sending hugs x

Have you ladies read about the fourth trimester?
www.google.co.uk/amp/s/sarahockwell-smith.com/2012/11/04/the-fourth-trimester-aka-why-your-newborn-baby-is-only-happy-in-your-arms/amp/

Honestly, everything will be SO much easier at 12 weeks. I think things get a bit easier at 6 weeks, and then again at 8 weeks, and then by 12 weeks they aren’t really newborns any more and are so much less full on.
Roo give yourself til 12 weeks at least. It’s so exhausting settling a distressed baby, especially in the evening when you know you have a long night ahead. X

Thanks ladies, having other people in the same boat really does help. My husband was worried about me so he phoned his mum, who then phoned me. I ended up on her doorstep in tears, made me feel like such a failure but I needed help.

Back home now and she's nice and settled (for now!), think I just needed a hug and a cup of tea!

Thanks @mrsmaggiemistletoe I'll check it out x

Casper slept quite well last night! He did a four and a half hour stretch! Also he did a huge poop in the night after not pooping at all yesterday so I'm wondering if he was so cranky yesterday because he maybe had a bit of tummy ache or something? Also last night he slept in his gro bag which may have helped him stay settled for longer. Anyone else using on of those? He looks so cute and funny in it, like a mermaid or something 😂

@Athers666 Casper you little dude!!!
That's fab! You feel so much better when you've had a few block hours kip too don't you
Oliver gets cranky when he's struggling to poo, have you tried the leg cycling with him to make him go?? And massage his tummy in a clockwise motion that helps, makes Oliver fart like a trooper! 💨
There are lots of help babies poo videos on YouTube.... my search history is shocking 😜

And all hail the growbag!!! Stops Ollie pulling his dummy out and poking himself in the face and waking himself up 😂

@mrsmaggiemistletoe I really wish I’d read that before I’d had him. I feel awful for not realising that he just wanted to be close to me. Rather then feeling annoyed that I couldn’t put him down.
After speaking to a really good friend today that I haven’t seen since Xmas, I now finally truly realise just how hard I was being on myself at the beginning. Thinking I should have been a super mum by getting out the house when he was a week old and wearing a full face of make up. She told me today that the trouble is, people don’t like to say they are struggling or finding it hard. That’s why we all think we should be doing better then we are like ‘everyone else’. Which is exactly what I was saying to myself. She just admitted she didn’t leave the house at all till her little one was 2 weeks old. I now feel quite amazing knowing I went to Asda when he was just a week.
Think I might write a post about it all because I really wish someone had been brutally honest about it all before I’d given birth. So I knew what to really expect rather then the Fake show that everyone seems to put on.
@Athers666 that’s great news about Casper. Go you!!!! I bet that stretch of sleep felt amazing x x

WARNING!!! Bad joke alert!!!

This was Brady at 8am this morning x

@athers666 good boy Casper for the sleep!!! ☺️

Ps yes to the gro bag - definitely made a difference to us. I also have our bedroom warmer now (have binned the gro egg, it was freezing with that!!) and he sleeps much better when Cody

Aw magicalcreatures. I think there is a lot of truth in what you say. I was very lucky in that my two close friends who’d had babies before my first told me that the first weeks are very very hard. So I actually expected it to be worse than it was and was kind of pleasantly surprised. But I was also lucky in that my community midwife pretty much told me everything that’s in that blog post on day one or two, she encouraged me to co sleep and saved my sanity.

How are you all? So yesterday I went to a second hand sale thingy for babies and got a BabyBjorn Mini sling for a fiver. 75 quid new! Anyway Casper likes it and I can now do things hands free! I'm so chuffed. I have another sling we bought new but it's so complicated to set up and he doesn't like it anyway. But this one is much smaller and I can get him in it easily and he falls asleep! No more lugging laundry around in one arm with wriggling baby in the other arm fussing!

@Athers666 a fiver!!!! That's fab!
I do love a good bargain, I think I'm quite lucky Oliver has taken well to his crib and has frequent naps in the day now, I've found he's gotten a lot easier this last week, he's 6 weeks old today and has started bringing up his own wind now which has been a godsend lol

People used to say to me " ohh it gets easier once they hit 6 weeks"
And I never used to believe them haha...
But it's very true! X

Snoozing like a gooden! 😍😊

Aww Oliver dude I love your hair! Well done for the good napping x

Can't say the same for bedtime tho... he's nocturnal I think he's half bat 😂 XX

@Athers666 how are you? You finding things easier now?
Is Casper starting to settle into any routines yet

I'm pretty good thanks. Casper sort of has a vague routine now, but some days it gies out of the window lol. He naps quite well in the mornings usually but tends to be grumpy later in the day but refuses to drift off. Hopefully the new baby carrier will mean he'll nap a bit more. At night we still have good nights and bad nights really, last night he woke at 2am and fed but then stayed up until half four! Ughhh. But, he then slept until about 8am which was quite nice.

Can I do a bit of a poll - is ANYONE’s baby going down in the evening before say 10/11pm? I keep reading about babies doing 7pm bath and bedtime, and then waking at 11 as if it were a night feed. We haven’t got a bloody chance of that right now - has anyone else? Ps our bub is just coming up 8 weeks so this might be a bit early for some ladies x

@AGirlinLondon
Hey, Ava is 6 1/2 weeks old, we're trying to do a routine (optimistic I know!). She has a bath at around 8:30 followed by a bottle. During the bottle we turn the lights down low and when she's finished I do some burping and cuddles. She then gets swaddled and goes in her moses basket and I put Ewan the Sheep on, and turn off the lights. Since we've been doing that she usually does straight to sleep (usually around 9:30) and does a 4 hour sleep and wakes for a feed. I'm not sure how long it'll last but it's working so far!

@agirlinlondon Nope! Not here! 🤣