Due in Sept '07 - new thread (ish) until we can think of a good thread name, because we didn't notice the message counter and oops we've run out of room for messages!!! Am lost, here alone, come and find me.. HELLLLOOOOO

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Oooh this bad Boxer has just farted and it STINKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Blimey have we reached the talking about maternity leqave stage already! I'm due 25 Sept and have another 10 weeks before I leave.That's forever! But think I'd rather be at work than at home with my 2 DD's!!!!!!! At least I get a rest here and people make me tea and go to the post office for me etc!

Hi sep mums to be,

I did join i think? a while back but got caught up with stuff, you know. Not too late to join?

Due sep 30th but according to midwife i should be prepared for an earlier appearance, as dd came on edd and i went from 3cm dilated to birth in a scary but i suppose nice 3hours!!!!

nice to meet you all....

hello all

just caught up with the thread and now I want jelly babies too, and I'm muchos jealous about maternity leaves starting already!

I'm 28 weeks today and have another 8 weeks left at work... I've just counted. Is anyone else starting to feel knackered? I am hoping it was just cos I've had a cold, I was determined not to get third trimester exhaustion... hmm maybe jelly babies will help.

Anyway, I'm off home shortly (via the jelly baby shop) ...

(and sorry if I've just made everyone else want jelly babies)

and welcome back Buddhamummy!

Really pleased for you tink about your GTT, I know how worrying it is - I've got mine on Monday. I'm absolutely dreading it. I don't know what I'll do if I fail again.

On top of everything else going on my h and I have seriously fallen out. I think its irrepairable. Feel like I've reached rock bottom. Sorry to be so miserable, just tell me to snap out of it, or slap me with a wet fish or something.

Sorry buddhamum, that wasn't a very nice welcome from me. Good to see you and welcome back . I'm not usually such a miserable old cow (I hope).

Kinki - snap out of it! I'm sure it is not irreparable, you need to talk to him and sort it out, please don't despair you have enough on your plate

Welcome to the newbies

Thanks Mrs F

Don't apologize kinki, i think arguments with DH/P always feel hundred times worse when pregnant. I have been off work for about 6 weeks now with what doctor called "peri-natal" depression. Never heard of it until now and never experienced anything like it! Like post natal but right in the middle of pregnancy! but on the mend now and back to work next week......but goes to show how powerful these old hormones are!!!

Just felt very silly as didn't realise what GTT stood for, had to search it out on mumsnet. and me a nurse too DO'H!

Is it done at a specific date? haven't had MW appt since initial one and next one i will be 29 weeks. Is this ok? can't remember from last time?

i am much bigger this time but thought just because stomach muscles never recovered

Glad to hear you're coming through the other side of that buddhamum. Couldn't have been very nice for you. Don't suppose you're looking forward to going back to work though. Hey, sounds like you might be in for a super quick birth with this one.

Aw Kinki, sorry to hear you're having troubles... like mrs F said, talk talk and talk some more, I'm sure you can work it out!

Not really looking forward to going back, as its kind of felt like a very early maternity leave, but i work with such a lovely bunch its great. have asked dh to get me jelly babies on way home. off now to do tea, speak soon x

h doesn't do talking unfortunately. He's depressed and he can't cope with me being pregnant or with me being ill. He won't get help for himself. Just blames me for being a 'crap wife' for everything. He's packed his bag, but I don't know yet if he's really going. (Totally understand how you've been feeling chattyhan.) I'll try to rise above it all. Tomorrow's a new day and all that.

BMum, GTT is usually done at 28wks, so if you've got to 29wks with no-one mentioning it, you've probably got away with it!

Kinki - I'm sure his hurtful comments are a by product of depression, ignore them if you can. Is it clinical depression or is he a bit down about the baby and finding it all a bit overwhelming?

MrsM, he's got overwhelmed each time I've been pregnant. I don't really understand why, I do try to though. He is depressed and is on ad's. Every few weeks he goes into a really dark mood where he gets very nasty. Usually I can cope with it, but I'm finding it a bit hard lately and a bit too personal. If I didn't know better I'd say he gets PMT.

Hiya TinaLC

I probably did see you in Mallorca! Did you see any other pg ladies? I am also 27 weeks (today) so we could have compared bumps!

love to all.

You poor thing... does settle more once the baby's born? It's not much comfort now, but if he does it does mean that you have some light at the end of the tunnel. Is he seeing someone regularly for his depression (counsellor/therapist etc)? If so, is it worth talking to them about anything you can do while he's feeling this way?

He did see someone for a while and he got better (after ds2 was born - it took about 18mths though). You're right there is light at the end of the tunnel. I have to see my doc every week (because of my chest) so will be seeing her tomorrow. I know she can't talk about him, but I think the time has come that I tell them how depressed he gets. He seriously needs help.

I feel so awful bringing such a downer to the thread. I'll snap out of it and be back to normal next week hopefully. I'm going to have an early night, I just feel completely done in.

Thank you MrsM

Don't feel sorry for bringing a downer on to the thread, this is what it's for. I definitely think talking to your gp would be a good idea, I know she can't talk about your dh, but she may be able to offer some advice and support. This is obviously one side of his treatment that needs addressing, it's not good just prescribing ad's and leaving someone to it (not that I'm suggesting that's what they've done, perhaps they have no idea he's having these feelings)

I hope you can get some help and support soon.

xx

Kinki - don't worry, as MrsMar said, thats what we are all here for, support during the ups and the downs

Thinking of you Kinki - my dh finding it tough too. Big hugs from me on their way

oh kinki, I've just read through your recent threads and am so sad for you. You sound like such a strong intelligent and resilient person. It also sounds like you have been through SO much over the years, not only coping with your illness but your DH's depression also. I don't really have any profound words of wisdom, only to say that if EVER you need to chat/vent whatever, we're here for you. I do know that living with someone with clinical depression is extremely tough, my step dad was really bad for a number of years. He has got through the worst of it with the aid of ADs and cognitive therapy.

Was your argument to do with your pregnancy? It does seem from what you were saying that he develops pregnancy associated negative/anxious thoughts. It's not fair that he says hurtful things to you. How awful. It really doesn't help that he's one of those men who don't talk. FGS, you're not a mind reader. Has he ever packed his bags before?

Oh love, I hope you manage to have a good sleep tonight and DH has a bloody good think and sorts his head out a bit. I know it's not that easy.... BUT SENDING YOU AN UBER MASSIVE ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((HUG))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

PS has he ever had cognitive therapy?