Due May 2005?

[cab]

OK I know it's VERY early days folks but someone's got to start this thread sometime. Due date between May 4 and May 9. Any other takers?

cab, don't feel shy about saying what you said - after all, why do we have the tests anyway? We're fortunate in that we're both still young (well, we can more or less still claim to be in our early 30s!), which makes awful decisions like that easier.

Not happy about 21st Oct - can't belive I have to wait that long! And no, it's nothing to do with my earlier scan as that was a completely different hospital and they won't know about it (as well I know - I was already well into my mc with the other hospital before I got my scan dates last time!).

Yes northstar, it is only just sinking in that I'm pg. I was so sure that this was just an exercise in feeling crap and then losing it like last time, that I still haven't got my head around the fact. I stepped in to sort out a fight on the stairs at work a couple of days ago. It was only when I wa right in the middle of these strapping 15 year olds that I thought "shouldn't do this - I'm pg!"

Fisil if you're just going to be worrying non stop I think you should 'set' your own scan date on the calendar - one that will take the pressure off and stop you worrying. So, say at week 12 you could have a 'bit of spotting'.
I know I'm giving you your own advice back, but I really do think they underestimate the worry factor after previous miscarriages.
Alternatively make a list of things that they could do to help stop you worrying and go to the doctor now and ask nicely. Look stressed when you go - that should help.
Are you a teacher?

I know nothing about blood tests, just that i go for booking in scan/tests etc to hosp at about 20wks... Seems like forever and way way too late to tell me there is a major problem>

I'm not too worried about mc this time as i feel so different. I feel like i did when pg with ds - desperately tired and sick whenever i'm not actually in the process of eating or digesting some food. When pg and had mc had no symptoms whatsoever and looking back that was a bad sign for me.

I would say to you first timers enjoy every minute of your free time - relax, read books, get sleep and put your feet up (yes already). I was up about five times in the night with ds having nightmares, then he appeared beside my bed at 6.30am with a big happy face and a BOO! Plus a big stinky nappy - not the nicest challenge when suffering with ms!

has keepingqftm come out of the closet yet?

LOL at fisil, re: breaking up fight on stairs at work. I was imagining you working in a city bank or the like and having to wade in to break up an executive fight

ooops, yes, maybe should have mentioned that I am a teacher! Not many careers in which breaking up fights in the workplace is a common occurence!

Cab - lol at your advice - you clearly have a very wise mentor

Hello, can I join in please?

I am due on the 11th of May apparently.
I've known that I was pregnant for over a week but didn't have a due date until this afternoon - it required a blood test at the hospital - so I have been lurking on the ttc10 thread ever since.

Congratulations Logic.

Welcome to the ever growing numbers.

Sorry forgot to say -

ebbie best of luck. Fingers crossed that you'll be starting the due in June/July thread.

Hello Brighteyes, this is your first isn't it?

I remember those days - now i have to deal with morning sickness, back pain AND a stroppy, demanding, permanently sticky toddler who empties the cutlery drawer and torments the cat...not with the cutlery luckily but I suspect it's only a matter of time

Hi everyone & congratulations to you all!

Am on cloud nine, as got a positive test today. My cycle is erratic so I think I'm due somewhere between 18 and 25 May 05. Just so delighted to be able to have another baby. My little DS is 15 months and I am so excited at the hope of having a brother or sister to join him. Just bursting at the seams to tell people but know I cant for a while yet. Its great to be able to tell Mumsnetters!

Hi TuTu, Congratulations!

I know what you mean, you can tell people things on here that you wouldn't tell anyone irl...

I've told everyone about my pregnancy anyway though because they all know that I had a m/c before I had ds. Things like that don't seem to stay a secret! I have a little boy thats just turned two by the way

Hi Cab! I read about your intended visit to FMC and I just wanted to say that's where I went and I also had the CVS with both pregnancies. There is a one per cent miscarriage rate with the CVS but with Prof Nicolides it's about 1 in 500 as he is doing this procedure all the time. My nuchal scan results were good, ie low risk of downs, but I still wanted CVS and they did try to talk me out of it! Was pleased I did it as it set my mind at rest. Took Bach Flowers Rescue Remedy for courage.

Congratulations logic and tutu - good we'll have some more company on here.

It's getting harder to keep things quiet. A friend asked me directly tonight if I was pregnant - tried not to hear her at first - but then gave in. .
Was absolutely shattered and afraid folk at the party would notice no vodka in the diet cokes so came home early. (Usually love dancing but felt pretty dizzy every time I was up.)

ChickPea thanks for that - useful to know. I will be getting Prof nic too. What's the bach stuff? Just out of interest did you have to travel far? Not sure if I should book into a hotel for the night or fly straight back (won't know re the cvs until the day) mmm??

Northstar that seems weird that they aren't going to check anything until 20 weeks??? I definitely couldn't cope with that, but then as my g.p. pointed out patience is not one of my virtues.

congratulations logic and tutu and welcome!

Ds is 20 months, so we're in fairly much the same boat, tutu. I remember last time being really careful not to carry anything heavy. The rule this time seems to be "don't carry anything heavy except a wriggly, self-opinionated toddler". Yesterday he was doing a whole drama-queen act because he'd fallen over at nursery and was claiming to be unable to walk!

Cab - know what you mean about the vodka and cokes! We are off next weekend to our 3rd wedding and 4th party since we found out - and I'm not even 8 weeks yet. I keep having to come up with the old driving excuse. Wedding next weekend is laying on minibuses back to our B&Bs. So I'll have to play the "ds is tired and needs to leave early" card.

Hi fisil - I know what you mean. I spent almost the whole of my first pregnancy lying down and being very, very careful. I've just got to get on with things this time. Ds has suddenly decided that he cannot possibly walk upstairs any more and has to be carried which is lovely. He has also discovered that he is supposed to be terrible at this age . It's so strange - one minute he is my lovely angel and the next, some sort of frothing, hitting maniac!

Wow, I was feeling so sorry for myself with my m/s and feeling so tired. Didn't even consider how difficult it would be coping with a toddler as well. Really admire you ladies.

Congratulations to Tutu.

Brighteyes - make the most of it
No, it's lovely really. I didn't want too big an age gap but I don't want two in nappies either.

I can't wait until my 12 week scan. It's still really exciting. I've got the Miriam Stoppard book out again and I found that the Best Friend's Guide to Pregnancy was really good too if you want something funny to read!

At the moment, we are considering whether or not to have an extra scan at the Create Health clinic in London (the 3D one) but the hospital that I booked into last time (and hope to get this time) was so good that we can't really justify it! They gave us loads of time and pictures and told us the gender.

I'd second the Best Friend's Guide - I have dusted down my copy too! I didn't realise you had a toddler too, logic. How old's yours? (the answer is probably only two posts down, but humour me, I'm pg!).

I wanted two really really close together, but it wasn't to be. But 2 and a bit years will be fine for me.

Brighteyes, yes it is harder doing all of this with a toddler in tow, but then again you have the knowledge that it is all possible because you've done it all before. The obsession is less and confidence that there is an end to it all is greater!

Fisil - ds was 2 last week.

I will certainly worry less this time, probably because I'm too tired! I won't be down to the doctor's every time they sneeze and I know that the first 12 months are the hardest but it gets better. You're right though, you know you can cope because 1) you have to and 2) you did last time...

I have to admit to being a bit more worried about labour this time. With ds I had a wonderful birth experience and I wouldn't change anything but I do wonder how much of that was down to luck and blissful ignorance. I know how much it hurts this time! You don't necessarily want to read that last sentence, Brighteyes

logic - I was just saying exactly that to dp! Last time I went into labour with a completely open mind and had a very positive experience. This time I will have a standard against which to judge!

fisil - just popping in to say CONGRATULATIONS - I have just noticed your posting on the October thread. I had been thinking of you and am delighted everything is going well.

Well if I wasn't scared before I am now!!!

I have no doubt the end product will be worth it though

fisil - and the standard is "Ow!" am I right?

The only thing I really regret is not using my TENS machine enough. I kept rationing it and turning it down after every contraction. By the time the pushing stage came along, it was still only on number 6! Then when they put me on the bed, I dropped the controller and endured the rest at that same level. I've got to laugh about it now though...

Hi, me again.

Wondering if you can give me any advise on when I may look obviously pregnant. Looking to keep it a secret until Christmas (I'll be 20 weeks). We want to tell the whole family at the same time and Christmas is the only time we all get together.

Am I being a bit optimistic trying to keep it quite till then or will I get away with it with very baggy winter clothes?

Depends on your size,are you quite petite?I started showing straight away but only had a bump...Then at 4 months i was huge...

Hi Ebbie. I'm a little overweight but am only 5ft and got a small build.