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Due May 2005?

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cab · 28/08/2004 19:56

OK I know it's VERY early days folks but someone's got to start this thread sometime. Due date between May 4 and May 9. Any other takers?

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fisil · 06/10/2004 19:13

Hi Raggybaggy (and all the other newbies that I've been too ditsy and pg to remember to say hi to!). You sound like you've had a really rough time. If your dr is providing you with notes then they must feel that everything is alright. In my experience they are brilliant at looking after pg women. Boss coming round seems a bit odd. Will you tell him/her? Is this your first?

Mirage · 06/10/2004 19:24

Congratulations Raggybaggy.I'm sorry to hear that you feel so lousy.Your boss has a real nerve coming around to check up on you.

I'm afraid I'm feeling pretty miserable tonight.DD is poorly so I had to take her to the Drs this morning.Before I left,he asked how I was & said that I must be feeling grotty at the minute.I replied that other than being a bit tired & bad tempered,I felt fine.He looked a bit surprised & quickly said that he remembered that I'd had very little in the way of symptoms with dd & no m/s at all.

Being paranoid,I then came home & worried all day about my lack of pregnancy symptoms.But I suppose that I worried with dd too-every time I saw the midwife or Dr,they'd ask me if I'd had any m/s & each time I said no,I'd get told how m/s was a sign of a healthy pregnancy.Yeah,that really helped my stress levels.

I'm not wishing for it-it sounds truely horrible,but sore boobs or some kind of sign that things are going ok would be a help.

It will be judgement on me if I start suffering now,after all my moaning.

logic · 06/10/2004 21:33

Congratulations Raggybaggy!

Mirage, I am hardly feeling sick at all now either. If you were the same with dd then don't worry too much. How many weeks are you now?

I am feeling tired too. We started controlled crying last night with ds and I'm amazed at how effective it is but we still had to listen to him scream for an hour before he put himself back to bed.

Sorry to bring up a depressing subject but I've just found out tonight that one of my friends has lost her baby at 16 weeks! She is one of our antenatal group and there are 4 of us still pregnant which must be awful I am starting to panic a little bit. I don't get to see a midwife for another week. Last time round, I borrowed a doppler ultrasound from a friend so I could listen to the heartbeat at any time. I want to hear the heartbeat now but I can't really visit the midwife just for that. Just another 7 days...

Brighteyes · 06/10/2004 22:14

Logic thats really sad news.

I have been so focused about getting to the 12 week mark and assuming everything will be ok after that. Heres hoping we all have smooth and uncomplicated pg

northstar · 07/10/2004 09:00

Congratulations raggybaggy and welcome
Sorry logic that your friend has lost her baby, it seems way too often that we hear that sad news doesnt it
I am nine wks today, had my mc at this stage so will be glad to get the next few days over.
I had a quick lurk over in due april 05 it was quite enlightening as the lucky girls seem to be recovering from ms and generally feeling a bit better and that gives me hope!!!

ToriH · 07/10/2004 10:11

Hi Raggybaggy and congratulations. I'm fairly new to the thread too. Just wanted to say that my pg is proving to be pretty unjoyful too. Hopefully it's just hormones and things will brighten up. Four friends have lost babies recently and I've been very involved in supporting them but also feeling like a traitor as they don't know that I'm pregnant. I think I'm due mid May but like you won't find out until scan beginning Nov. I know it's easy to say but try not too worry too much about work, I did with my first pg and when I eventually broke the news everyone was overjoyed. As for jokes I'm all out at the mo, sorry!

logic · 07/10/2004 14:18

I am so angry! I phoned the surgery today to make my booking-in appointment only to be told that the GP that I saw weeks ago didn't do any of the paperwork to book me in so I don't exist on the system. Aaarrgghh! Apparently there is a 4 week wait on midwife appts! I had to rush down to the surgery to fill in forms that they could easily have done themselves and I've managed to scrounge a booking-in appointment at the partner surgery with a different midwife for next week. Hmmm. It turns out that the GP was a locum who has since gone - and to top it all, I seem to have been given an info pack for the wrong hospital. Progress is a wonderful thing...

northstar · 07/10/2004 14:30

oh logic poor you. I'm not sure on the procedure there as i am in ireland. My gp filled the forms in yesterday for me and told me if i didnt get a hospital appointment before i was 20 wks to let him know! That seems like forever to me.

Can you not "jump the queue" because you are not in the system due to somebody elses incompetence?

Brighteyes · 07/10/2004 15:12

That's terrible Logic, not surprised that your so angry.

I had my booking in appointment with GP on Tuesday and had my first visit from midwife today. Patronising woman, don't know how I will put up with her condescending tones through the next 8 months aaaggghhh

raggybaggy · 07/10/2004 15:57

thanks everyone for the sympathy,it's cheered me up & made me feel a lot less isolated. This is my first time & none of my friends have had babies yet, so i really don't know what to expect!
My boss came round this morning & looked really shocked when I opened the door (it's amazing how ms can make you look so awful), in the end she was really sympathetic & apologetic -she even offered to run errands if I needed help!(Brighteyes, you must have been right in what you said about welfare visits! )

Here's a quick request - I don't understand all the abreviations that you all use (other than ms for morningssickness) e.g. dh dd ds ?? what are they short for? (i'm new to chat rooms as well!)

Brighteyes · 07/10/2004 16:16

Hi Raggybaggy, glad your starting to feel better about things. This is my first baby to and I'm absolutely terrified. MN has been a godsend for calming my nerves. Must admit that I think I'm becoming a bit addicted.

For an explanation of the abbreviations just look at the top of the page in the grey shaded area there is an acronym list, just double click on this and all will be revealed

myermay · 07/10/2004 16:36

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logic · 07/10/2004 20:18

They have found me an appointment with a different midwife for next wednesday which is good enough, I think.

Myermay - I don't know if the blood test is compulsory or not. I remember that they took a lot of blood on the first appointment. Do you really hate needles? I have decided not to have the AFP test at 16 weeks anyway if the nuchal scan is ok.

myermay · 07/10/2004 21:03

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logic · 07/10/2004 21:12

I'm sorry to hear that Myermay, it must be horrible . Since you had all the tests last time and know the details, I imagine that they shouldn't mind too much about skipping it...

I know what you mean about getting into a state. A while back I had to have arterial blood taken from my wrist and they told me it would really hurt and then said that they would be back to take the test in 10 minutes...I had 10 minutes of utter panic and was practically, no, completely hysterical by the time they did the test!

Brighteyes · 08/10/2004 16:37

Isn't it exciting seeing a June thread. Makes me feel like we are a little closer to having our bundles of joy.

Well my sister visited unexpectedly yesterday and stumbled on some baby books that I carelessly left lying around. So confessed all with my 6 year old nephew eaves dropping but not seeming to pay to much attention. Decided we had better tell my parents too, so we all went over to break the news. Nephew beat me to it by running up to my dad and saying "Guess what? Karra got a baby in her belly".

Didn't expect him to be happy about my pg because I have always been the career minded, ambitious one in the family. Took my breath away when he started to cry. My mother is over the moon too. The only downside to it all is everyone thinks I could be carrying twins. Large number of twins on my side of the family and severe morning sickness is apparently and indication of twins . Can't wait for my scan to confirm there is only one

logic · 08/10/2004 17:23

I'm so pleased for you Brighteyes!
Don't worry about the prospect of twins too much. I mentioned being scared of having twins to dh the other day and he said "ok, we'll give one away then" in a very tongue-in-cheek way which made me change my mind

Brighteyes · 08/10/2004 17:50

Another typically male response from dp - "well if its twins we can sell one on ebay" (Hoping that was tongue-in-cheek comment as well

myermay · 08/10/2004 18:42

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fisil · 08/10/2004 19:41

hear hear myermay. Ignore them. I suffer from tiredness in pg, and it annoys me that people equate tiredness with laziness and don't see the tiredness in the same way that they see ms etc. In normal life I get tired. When pg I get into a state where I can't think or do anything except cry. It comes on fast and it is completely overwhelming. I wish there was another name for it other than tiredness. Made ds' bum sore tonight cos I was snoozing on the sofa and left him with a pooey nappy for 1/2 hour.

logic · 08/10/2004 20:09

Sorry that you are feeling down girls
I understand about the comments though. My mother was the first person that I told about the pregnancy and she said "Thought you only wanted one, how are you going to manage with two?" etc.. which I thought was charming - not. She did however apologise a few hours later.

myermay · 08/10/2004 21:07

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logic · 10/10/2004 20:05

ok, that'll teach me to be smug. There I was saying how much less sick I felt and the gods of pregnancy have struck me down. I feel far more nauseous, tired and hormonal than before.

This thread is getting ridiculously big, how about starting another one cab?

myermay · 10/10/2004 20:14

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logic · 10/10/2004 20:34

hi myermay
I'm 10 weeks on wednesday, I think we are about the same stage aren't we? How are you feeling?
I am still scared that all is not well but I should get to hear the heartbeat on wednesday - hopefully.

As for names, we are stuck for a boy's name really. We have decided on John for a middle name whatever because it is dh's dad's name. The girl's name is sorted - Francesca Bethan. I recently bought a book of 94,000 baby names and only found one new name in there that we liked which was Alessandra.

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