sleeplessness, toothache, hip pain - the joys of being due August 2007 !!

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Now that's all out of the way in the thread title we've all got to head down the "things can and will only get better now" ok?? All ailments stop and nothing but good things will befall us all.

Right.

Not just - imagine large head passing through small hole - you'll be a (bit!!) bruised - the arnica is supposed to bring out the bruising and get rid of it faster (I think)

Morning -
Good to see Itchnscratchy (hope you are not any more!), Pink and Washersaurus back on the thread. Itchy you must be nearly packed are you?

Our names are Miles Finlay George (boy) and Isabel Margaret Grace (girl).

I wanted to leave the list with a bit of flexibility ( I don't name my cats before I meet them after all ) but my DP can't get his head around any girls' names other than Isabel, and still wants to name a boy Gabriel (non-starter for me). Are all men useless with girls' names?

hi Kite, your names sound perfect. I also like Mila for a girl and dp prefers it to Isobel which for some reason makes me want Isobel more!!
Which reminds me, I've been wanting to ask you all if I'm the only one with zero tolerance for dp these days?? I'm sure it's all the hormones and the ups n downs of feeling heavily prgenant but I have to really bite my tongue to keep from being horrible, he just constantly annoys me! If he passes the kitchen without asking if I need something i'm thinking "selfish b**!!" and if I see him stretched on couch I want to explode at his insensitivity when i'm in desperate need of relaxation/ massage/sleep/
or just attention! I know I'm being totally irrational so I try and keep it to myself but he can see I'm tight lipped and annoyed!! Is this normal??

gabriel is a gorgeous boys name too

I think it is hormones itchy. I have some days where everything seems so awful I want to scream and the next I will be in a blissful calm over the fact that I am so close to having this baby. My DP has had his own problems but when I say I am really really tired I want sympathy and extraordinary appreciation for the fact that I am carrying this baby and it is sometimes tiring and annoying... and instead I often get "I am tired too"

Oooh we could change the thread to an ... and pissed off with DP title... mines just chuckles when I heave myself off the sofa and says look at that tummy.

He's already planning on removing himself from the scene of birth with DS, so he doesn't have to deal with any "mess".

they just don't understand - perhaps it's because I know I went on about "pregnancy not an illness" - and here I am, with crappy hips, heartburn, varicose veins, piles......... and yet I still get the housework done (after a fashion)

I think they think maternity leave is a big holiday. I'm expecting a list of things to do... mind you, if i didn't keep peeking at the computer i might get more done!!

Hahahah yes, like when I was getting up every feckin' half hour to go for a wee in the night and was almost in tears with frustration over it and DH said tetchily "You're really disturbing me keeping on getting up"... I obviously responded:

a) calmly and patiently
b) apologetically
c) at full volume "OH, I'M DISTURBING YOU AM I ?"

exactly! totally with you on the needing extraordianry appreciation! As I'm hobbling about in my tent or struggling to turn in bed I expect he should be overwhelmed with appreciation and awe but he's just not voicing it right!

TT - LOL, I also get "do you have to make the bed bounce so much when you have to get up??" Yes, I do and you know what it is because because I am twice my normal size!!!

I get all the complaints of too many pillows in the bed and he's too hot and he used to sleep better when he could curl up with his arm over me..and do i need to flush in the night.. oh poor poor him!
Everynight when I'm traipsing back and forth to loo I do think thank goodness I can go back to sleep now, not looking forward to the night feeds. Esp as b/f so dp will prob keep sleeping. It could drive me over the edge

I found i slept between feeds in a different way to the whole getting up for a pee thing. not to say it wasn't exhausting, and i did fall asleep a few times mid feed - but the first few you are so chuffed at this little person, you don't notice!

I used to get so tired when feeding DS that occasionally I just used to go to sleep with him attached to my boob . I can honestly say that there was nothing more annoying than having to sit up in bed feeding in the middle of the night listening to my DH snoring like a train!

ooh yes - the snoring thing... and then DH would get up and "gosh, DS had a good night, i didn't hear him once - did he sleep through?".....

ah, I'm sure it will be just amazing to have a tiny new babe to attend to. I saw my friend yesterday she has a 2 week old, he's sleeping for no longer then 2.5 hours day and night and she looks like the living dead but quite cheerful!
Another friend also with 2 week old has no problems at all baby rarely awake other than to feed.
Today I feel like I'd definitely swap aching n waiting for my newborn Isobel

On the arnica/tea tree oil/ how to deal with bruising etc topic a while back - the Active Birth Centre do a comfrey and calendula mix that you add to the bath with fresh garlic. It is supposed to be hugely soothing and healing.

Obviously I have not tried it yet, but when we were there on the Sunday of our course, some new mother's husband turned up at ten am with her request to get some PRONTO after a few days following her birth.

Hi everyone, why does it always take me ages to catch up on the thread?!

Everyone has picked really beautiful names. We're still happy with Logan William, but I'm trying to think of a standby girl's name just in case the sonographer got it wrong (happened to my friend's brother).

DP has been really good but I'm still getting irritable with him. My back was killing yesterday and I needed a massage and he acted like it was such a chore, grr. But he's great, does most of the housework and I feel such a bitch when I have a go at him. You're right growing, half the problem is I've spent the last six months telling him I'm perfectly capable of carrying on as normal!

Someone I know had their baby last week at 26 weeks, she's pulling through so far and has gained a bit of weight but still a tiny little thing. Makes me realise I need to sort out my hospital bag just in case.

Good tip kite, wonder if we could pick some up at the yoga class?

For all of us !!!

katybird, I cannot get a pregnancy massage from mine either - he seems to think that bit of the class was about him being birth partner, and not DP!

Maybe we could convince them that they need to practice the massage techniques before the birth, so we don't scream at them when they get it wrong.

I think now you can actually start to see the bump dp is getting better, as in "don't lift that" and "you can't walk all that way, I'll take you" and "why don't you have a lie down for half an hour?"

He doesn't help much with housework yet, the place is getting in a bit of a state to be honest I need to blitz it but don't have immense amounts of energy.

My biggest gripe at the moment with dp is that despite inheriting a new kingsize bed we are still having bed sharing issues: My toothache, hip ache, spd and getting up for a wee. His snoring, asthma/hayfever: violent coughing fits and wheezing all night long.

(I can't get him to take his asthma pump next to the bed, he'd rather suffer and keep me awake) The coughing fits wake me up and then I can't get back to sleep because of toothache so I have to come downstairs and try to sleep on the 2 seater sofa. grr.

Then he gets up and says he's sooo tired despite having four more hours sleep than me.

Men.

sleep resentment - me and dp had a talk about this yesterday! I hate the fact he sleeps more than me already and I can only see this will get worse when the baby arrives, I'm definitely starting with the pump and bottles from birth before any habits become established

bananabump - maybe you should tell him either he has the pump next to the bed or he sleeps on the sofa!

I wasn't too sure about expressing milk regularly but now I see the advantage, itchy! Sounds much more appealing.

Oooh how I tried..but no matter how much milk I expressed DS would not drink out of a bottle (he never did). DH and I had lots of fall outs about sleep or lack of; am expecting the same this time around

Sorry have I murdered the thread with my negativity . It isn't that bad honest