June 2019 - thread 3

[pollykins151]

Just starting a new one folks. Thread 2 was nearing its max 😊😊

Hey! Sorry to hear you're all still so sick - I'm slowly coming out the other end and feel human quite a lot of the time. Had my harmony scan last week and have another one on the 4 and then my NHS one on December 6 at 13 weeks. Still so tired though... Slept about 20 hours this weekend so far.

@lstef my body is definitely changing too and I've been frantically ebaying for maternity wear. I'll need to buy another couple of bras again soon too :(

The one weird benefit is that for the first time in my life I have rock hard healthy looking nails rather than my normal soft peeling ones - small silver lining but there nonetheless!

@R4ch4el lovely scan photo. We must live quite near to each other as we are going to the same hospital!

@hexagon01
I have my 12 week scan that day too, although til be 12+3 if my calculations are correct.. what will u be..

@Mummytomollyandbean what a coincidence! We actually live in Bristol but DH’s aunt is a midwife at RUH and we want her to deliver the baby, plus we live on the right side of Bristol so it doesn’t actually take much longer to get there. Have you had any other children at Bath? Would be good to know your experiences there

Hi everyone. I’m new around here 🙈🙋🏼‍♀️
I’m 12 weeks today and having my scan today. Quite nervous but not sure why as I have a 5 year old son and I went through all of that while I was in my third year of university! I thought I’d enjoy pregnancy this time but I’m just super nervous something won’t be right at this scan. I’ll be relieved to stop lying to everyone and tell everyone my secret though! Hope you’re all well. I think I’m due June 10th. We’ll soon found out!

@Lotikins welcome! 😊

I have my 12 week scan today too (although I'm actually 13 weeks). Let us know how it goes!

Thank you! Good luck with your scan :) Mine is at 4pm! A lot of waiting around today...

And my scan is this morning too! At 9am same as you @fee1234!
Was feeling so sick yesterday evening with exhaustion and nerves, but then I was awake at 3.30am AGAIN, DD woke up falling for me just after 4 so ended up falling asleep in her toddler bed and having the most awful anxiety dream about abandoning her in a park while I went off to meet friends. In the dream it was hours later that I even thought about what I'd done and then was so distressed trying to get back to her, woke up at 5.30 with a completely dry mouth, heart pounding etc...came back to my bed and then slept and dreamt more stress dreams again! Gah!!
Just want to know everything is ok, it's been a looooooong wait since getting my BFP on 10th October 😳

@R4ch4el ahh that makes sense. Yes I had my DD at Bath, I didn't plan on it as wanted to have her at our local midwife unit but due to her measuring small I ended up at bath. I couldn't fault them at all and this time I've decided to just go straight to bath. Hope the experience is just as good for you!

Hi @toomanyflatwhites good luck today!

I have been having messed up dreams too.. I remember this from my first pregnancy and it’s awful! I have been laid awake since about 5.30 :( No idea what to do with myself!

Super nervous and excited about today. Feels like I’ve been waiting for today for forever as I’ve known since 5 weeks!

I told my friends last night as I wanted to tell them face to face and we were out for a meal for my husbands birthday. They are a couple and they were just super rude!? I was so shocked. The boyfriend said ‘well you’ve changed your mind’ and the girlfriend said ‘yeah, I thought you weren’t letting him touch you’. I came home and cried. I couldn’t believe it. I thought they’d be happy for us? We already have a 5 year old and although we didn’t tell them we were trying, they one is a planned baby. Maybe there’s an element of jealousy? Who knows. I was just a bit shocked and dreading tell anyone else now! I told them before the scan because I thought I’d anything goes wrong they’d be a good shoulder to cry on but maybe I made a mistake! Anyone else have friends react badly to the news? Xx

Oh wait @excitedmama that's so awful! People can be so strange - with DD I had a friend (who I also kind of worked with, can't explain without it being outing!!) who seemed too happy for me at first then went so weird that we ended up completely estranged - and she is our neighbour too, so it's super awkward. In her case I think it might have prompted a chat with her DP and she discovered he doesn't want children. You just have to think when people respond like that, it's about THEM not you, you don't know what goes on behind closed doors sometimes....so sorry you had such a bad reaction though, most people won't be like that at all!!

@toomanyflatwhites good luck! I've been awake since half 5 too excited / nervous to go back to sleep. Hope it goes well x

Hello to all and good luck to those with the scans today (& anyone else with scans this week!). Some lovely recent scan photos so congrats to all!
I haven't posted since the first thread, but been quietly here feeling sorry for myself, but slowly starting to feel better. I hope others are also starting to feel better and those that aren't hopefully soon! 🤞
I had the harmony test results back last week (NHS scan this week eek!), and thankfully all good. Did anyone else have or having the harmony test and found out or finding out the sex?

Good luck those having scans today 🤞

@R4ch4el We must be near you too as we’re the right side of Bristol for Bath, but I’ve gone with St Michaels as it’s closest but this is my first so no experience anywhere!

@excitedmama That’s really a shame they reacted that way. I would imagine they are jealous - could they be possibly trying themselves and finding it difficult? Don’t let it get you down, it’s fantastic news!

Re dreams I actually had some nice dreams last night, one where I was looking at prams and another featuring Idris Elba 😂

@excitedmama that must have been really upsetting for you. Do they have children themselves? Do you know if they've been having fertility challenges? From personal experience I know pregnancy announcements can be very painful (I've never been rude though - just gone home and cried as it was our issue not theirs) and also I know people who've chosen not to have children get really cross when their friends got pregnant because they know that change is coming and not of their own choice. It can be hard when people are so rude but it's their problem, not yours. I had a couple of close single friends be really rude to DH and me when we announced our engagement and I know it was there problem not ours. Still hurt though. Sending hugs.

@Bigonesmallone3 I’ll be 12+1 so close! Seems like an age to wait but at least it’s next week now.

Thanks so much @fabuluce for your lovely message.
They have told us in the past that they’re not too fussed about children and enjoying going out for meals and to the cinema whenever they want! (Obviously have never heard of babysitters haha) So yeah it was a bit of a shock because we already have a son so not much is going to change really.. she is really good with my son too so it’s not like she hates children.. who knows. But like you say, their issue and not ours! Doesn’t take much to say congratulations though does it... :(

@excitedmama I'm sorry they reacted like that. Perhaps they are struggling themselves? Still, no way to react to your news. Perhaps they will realise and apologise. I had the opposite happen to me, we told our friends who have been trying for 2 years. They were so good about it and so happy for us. She was asking me questions but I feel like I was too honest with my answers and now I feel terrible and I'm kicking myself. She is so lovely and I just feel like my answers were rubbing it in. I'm sure I'm over analysing it, I'll arrange to see her again soon.

On a brighter note.. Good luck to all those with scans today, looking forward to any scan pics put up today! X

Hi lstef - yep we're very close! I'm due 16th June based on an early scan I had, 18th based on LMP so not sure of official due date yet! Scan is 7th December but I'm trying to change hospitals to one nearer so that might change.

Good luck for scans today fee1234 and toomanyflatwhites!

Excitedmama - I know that would have felt awkward and upsetting, but I would honestly not surprised if your friend reveals a struggle down the line - whether it's an ongoing argument about one wanting kids, or perhaps a miscarriage or a fertility battle. The comments about not wanting children strike me as a defence mechanism. No excuse for being unkind to you but perhaps caught them off guard. I hope they apologise down the line. I found pregnancy announcements very difficult when I was struggling after two mcs and was never rude, but would keep my distance a bit.

Good luck all scanners today! X

Hey all,

Sorry haven't been active much on here. Haven't been feeling too great down with a cold and had a lot of family around 😭 which was exhausting as hell!!!

I love all the scan pictures and glad it's gone well for you ladies.

I've got mine later today and I am feeling a little nervous as I have had a sudden loss of symptoms in the last few days. Boobs don't hurt nausea gone tummy and mood feels better. I know in most cases it's a sign of relief but I can't help but worry.

Can't wait for 12:30 today 😢

@sk17 I feel the same! Some days I don’t feel pregnant at all :( Excited but nervous, I have to wait til 4:10 today! Good luck xxx

Had my scan this morning along with bloods for harmony test - and all looks ok thank GOODNESS! Can't really believe there is a baby in there!
Forked out for the Harley St testing and so glad, they are amazingly thorough and so reassuring. Measurements put me at 11+4 (I thought 10+6) but let's see what the NHS scan says next week as I know that'll be my official dates. So relieved!!

Just back from scan, dating exactly 13 weeks. Baby was facing down so she got me to wriggle my hips to make it get into position! NT measurement was 1.6 but will get results through the post.

Morning all! Good luck to all those with scans and tests this week ☺️

I somehow forgot that DP's dad is coming to stay with us for a few days tomorrow 🤦🏻‍♀️ he is helping us move .. which means I have an evening of frantic packing ahead of me after work tonight followed by 3 days of hosting. As I'm sure you can imagine .. I'm very excited ...

Hope everyone else has much more relaxing weeks than me!!

Glad everything went well @toomanyflatwhites and if their dates are correct it could mean you're out of the first tri nearly a whole week sooner than you thought!! xx