June 2019 - thread 3

[pollykins151]

Just starting a new one folks. Thread 2 was nearing its max 😊😊

Hi all, have to say goodbye to this group. Had my first scan today (private) and my EDD is 20 May not 8 June! I think what I thought was my last period was actually implantation bleeding so I must have conceived in August. Slightly worried now I have even less time to prepare for this baby than I thought I had!
Anyway good luck in all your pregnancies!

Wow that's a hell of a surprise Curlyrebel! Good luck! Xx

I can’t help I’m afraid JBCG but glad you’ve got another scan soon to check!

I can’t remember who was asking about vits, but we get Healthy Start vitamins in Scotland which are folic acid, Vit D and Vit C. They’re tiny, so really easy to take. Most chemists stock them, but you need to ask for them.

@Fabuluce - I think it was you that mentioned squatty potty..? - I discovered this in my last pregnancy... works a treat! We use a wee step that folds up flat when not in use 😂

Holy Moly curlyrebel! All the best! x x

9 weeks today! Still feeling sick and tired, can anyone remember when we are meant to start feeling better? Can’t rememwbr with DS1 and DS2 was vomiting 3-4 times a day until 20 weeks. This feels like more standard pregnant sickness, feel crap but not throwing up so I’m hoping it’ll resolve soon 🤞

@Napssavelives I think for me I had one improvement at 12 weeks then again a bit later I felt more energised - but then I didn't even puke so perhaps I'm not best to answer!
Uuuurrr I think DD is trying to kill me. Ever since I found out I was pregnant her sleep has been AWFUL (she wasn't ever long-term sleeping through the night, but did seem to be getting that way) but last night was the worst. She was coughing so much and I was up with her from 12.15 and don't think I slept until 3.30, and that was on a foldout chair bed on her bedroom floor with her laying with me (coughing in my face 🙄). Had several nights last week of long wakeup times too and she won't accept DP, it has to be me - so am starting the working week absolutely wrecked 😩

I’ve been taking the pregnacare vitamins but my midwife said I didn’t need to take vitamins with that much in them.

I’ve come into work this morning and halfway driving down the motorway my vision started going a bit weird. It must be migraine related as feeling headachey now. Really hoping it doesn’t turn into a full on migraine as I often get sick with them. I wish I could take migraleve!

I've been getting the asda version of pregnacare - it's only £3.50 for a 2 month supply so much cheaper than pregnacare ☺️ then I just take separate omega 3 and iron (prescribed) tablets.

I am taking pregnacare but didn't realise you're meant to take it with your main meal. Always take it with breakfast, guess that's still ok?

Has everyone told their work yet about the pregnancy? I'm 9+5 today and even though morning sickness is getting slightly better I still feel awful at times and finding it hard to cope at work. Just really worried they'd fire me once I tell them as they're a really small company, very business focused and usually don't care much about any laws and regulations

I've also been taking pregnacare. I get a 10% family discount in local Morrison's which helps.

@annihall I've told my boss and my boss' boss, because I was working from home quite a bit for various appointments and I started getting quizzed about it, with the usual 'oh really did you get much done?' type of questions 🤨 and I come in late most days to avoid busy sickening commute with nausea.

As soon as I told them they were like oh work from home as much as you want!

I am just taking after breakfast folic acid and vitamin d as that was all the NHS says you need. I am also taking zinc with vit c as can help ward off colds and thrush and just started taking b6 to see if helps with nausea (not really noticed a difference yet).

Just been to the hospital to get booking bloods taken and give a urine sample and dropped off my maternity exemption form to the docs to send off. Feel like I have finally completed the booking process...
Three and a bit weeks to first scan (not that I am counting ).

@annihall are you in the UK? If they dared to sack you once you tell them I think you'd find you could easily get them massively in the sh*t!
I haven't told work yet as am ok apart from massively unproductive and struggling to come into the office every day because of tiredness but nobody seems to have noticed that yet! Trouble is that I was supposed to be starting a new role today (internal) but they had a fight over me and I have stayed where I am, supposedly with a promotion, but as yet that's not been finalised. Am really worried if I have to tell them before the promotion is officially sorted that I will miss out 🙄 but maybe the same applies as I said to anni above!

@toomanyflatwhites yes I am in the UK, but I've seen them doing many things before that weren't quite legal and I'm worried they'd just find a different excuse other than me being pregnant so they don't get into trouble...

I do think the same law applies to you though with your promotion, however same issue being that they might just use a different reason not to give you the promotion so if you can I'd hold off telling them until it's all done

@annihall I know what you mean - it's not allowed but people find a way around it. Hmmm not a nice situation to be in 😢
With mine I have an email from them saying it will definitely happen but they don't know how yet (essentially I will be employed by a different department and they don't know how that works, as they've gone outside of the usual processes to make me stay!), and am in a big institution so I think the risk is small for me - but it definitely worries me!

Personally I’d never tell an employer until the legally mandated 25 week mark BUT I am aware that for reasons of a) sickness b) appointments and c) an ever increasing waistline this may not be possible.

I work for one of the “fairest” employees around and I have an excellent line manager but already I’ve lost out on a project as it’s due to fully deliver 25 May. I had to tell early as I’ve been pasty and nauseous.

I’m not due until 13 June. Fucks sake.

Paul I was bloody enormous by 25 weeks last time...can only imagine how anyone manages to get away with that! Though I did wonder about possibly just not saying anything official, even if it's bloody obvious 🤣
Sorry you missed out on that project, that sucks!

I'm hoping not to tell my work for AGES, I'm trying to apply for another role with same employer and could be Christmas before it's sorted. So crossing fingers not to get too big!!

@toomanyflatwhites

There is a guy who I work with who’s a blowhard and a misogynist and I am not saying a dicky bird to him - just to see how/if/when he asks.

Normally I don’t go in for this sort of schadenfreude but he’s a pompous arse. It will be nice to see him fight the urge to ask the obvious question.

@PaulHollywoodsSexGut I love it!!
I work with surgeons so they are massively un-PC and are sure to just ask me anyway!

I find it really awful that you missed out on that project. I would be having words with my management if I felt it was unfairly assigned. I had to tell my boss early because I am so ill and really need the teams support. In the same breath as telling him I said straight that I hope this does not impact any of the recent discussions we have been having about my position in the team and opportunities for advancement next year. Watch this space! I have definitely earned it whether I am growing a new human or not!!

Sorry I haven't been on here - screens making me nauseous! Just enjoyed catching up. Glad I'm not the only one chasing booking appointments, 9+5 today and yet to hear anything. I'm looking forward to my harmony scan next Tuesday. I'm not really up for/don't really have a regular enough schedule for antenatal classes so I'm kind of hoping yoga will be enough for friends. Besides, the ones my friends go to seem to book up by 14 weeks and I don't think I'd be confident enough to book them before 20+ weeks...

@annihall I haven't told work yet although I had an ectopic in the summer which they know about (nearly four weeks off) and look pasty as anything. They can ask me if they want! I only took a day off (with 'd&v') for my ERPC at the beginning of the year and would do the same again. They don't ask about the details of medical appointments, so I guess that's lucky. I was planning on telling them all in the first week of the year (when I'd be 17/40) if all is OK then; if I'm not showing I'll leave it longer. It's none of their business, I figure. One of my colleagues told everyone at 11/40 which (a) made her pregnancy seem torturously long to me when I had a miscarriage, and then what I thought was a miscarriage and turned out to be an ectopic; and (b) didn't speed up the process of finding maternity cover in the slightest.

Aaargh. My scan today put me back 5 days to 11+1. So I am very fed up right now. All happy and healthy just not far enough along to do all the scans.

Now sat in waiting room in ent outpatients with lots of baby's having 6 week hearing tests TINY THINGS.

My work is already advertising my maternity cover which is a bit daunting given that we haven't even had the 12 week scan yet!!
Nobody knows other than the head of my area, so they're just saying they've got permission to get extra resource for 12 months 😂

I’ve not told work yet. I’m 8 +4 today and with a proper little bump! This is child #3 so my body’s just relaxed into a 5 months pregnant look!
But I’m hoping to leave it til new year when I’ll be 16 weeks. I’m not actually working with my boss til then so he won’t see the huge belly!

This is child #3 so my body’s just relaxed into a 5 months pregnant look!

Ain’t it the truth @curlypasta

I thank goodness it’s the festive season so I can blame it on mince pies/cake/sweeties/whole game birds