Due in June - TA your baby WILL be here soon!

[bumperlicious]

Just in case we get locked out without realising!

Just got back from my walk. Am in my 'lounging in the house' clothes (ie baggy tracky bottoms and t-shirt) and T&G in spiderman and sportacus outfits. I managed to see 3 people I know .

Boys are having toast for dinner due to this morning's vomming incident.

TA, don't lose heart. You've done so well and been so strong. It's not your fault, some babies just take longer to cook than others. You are doing everything right with the monitoring and not taking any risks. I really hope it happens for your soon

Hang in there TA, like you say - there's not long to go whatever happens (induced or not!)

Thanks DKMA

You know what though, am feeling rather ambivalent, don't tell DH But right now I feel so exhausted I am just to the point of not even caring anymore.

I am not in the least broody/maternal, I hope to god that I bond ok or feel the love or something cos right now I honestly am beginning to wonder if it's all worth it, I am not even excited about meeting him/her.

Am I awful? Is this normal?

TA...after the few weeks that you've had it's no wonder you feel the way you do! Don't worry about the bonding, it will come.

With DS I felt such a rush of love when he eventually made it into the world, but it was different with DD. I'd had such an awful pg with the depression and anxiety, and when I finally got to hold her, I just sat there looking at her not really feeling anything much. I was more concerned about whether she was OK or not, and was worried about Down's. After a few days/nights of time alone together in the hospital I fell head over heels in love with her, but it's a different sort of emotion that I had with DS. Intense all the same, but different!

Thanks Daisy I was hoping you were around.
My Mum actually said something similar, she said it was about 10 days before she felt much for her first.
It's odd - I don't want anything bad to happen to LO, but I feel very 'distanced' from him/her. I am hoping it (the bond) comes - I feel sure it will but I am not expecting straight away.

I do feel bloody guilty though, like a bad mum before I am even a mum {blush]

TA, I went through similar feelings with DS1 - he was 9 weeks prem and I felt terribly guilty that my body had let him down. He was also in scbu for 6 weeks (we couldn't cuddle him for the first 2), so it was difficult to bond. But it did come so don't feel guilty for feeling that way, the baby is just not quite ready to come out yet.

TA...I'm fine with advice for other people, it's my own life I can't quite get a handle on, LOL

Thanks Annobal. I think it's better to air these guilty feelings/worries etc.

I have said to people in RL that I have felt ambivalent and they look at me with abject horror, and I feel ashamed for saying it!

What helped me actually a while ago was familiarising myself with baby clothes and blankets etc, the practical and physical things needed to look after a baby - trouble is it has been so long since I 'got them ready' as it were I think I have slipped back into negative feelings.
Perhaps I should go upstairs and play clothes for a while!

You must have got a good grip on your own life for you to give such sensible advice to others...perhaps sometimes it feels like you aren't in control but really, you are so helpful!

My mother is a therapist/counsellor. You could charge you know, she makes £45ph!!!

LOL.....I need a career change, so maybe should train as a consellor.....t'would be a case of physician heal thyself I fear!!

PMSL - look at this thread - mine would be Chrystal Sapphire... (NOT on our shortlist)

Sorry - this thread

Charity Chardonnay or Storm Kai.... ooh I'm liking them

where is everyone?

I am Brooklyn Jordan or Chantelle Candice .

I am pleased to say none are on our shortlist. If I HAD to choose one, it would be Candice.

Just back from a trip to M&S where I was aked if I was having twins. I met my friend there who confirmed that I am a funny shape - she says it looks like the baby is coming out through my mouth! You still can't see I am pg from the back and there is a huge ledge under my tits. I've put on less than two stone so I am convincing myself 'it's all baby'.

Hi TA - glad ur ok. I hope ur normal about not feeling the love for ur baby coz then that makes me normal. With my DS 1 I kept telling every1 I couldnt wait but when the birth happened Iwas really off him. Wasnt even bothered about holding him and it took me about 6 weeks to feel comfy with him! WIth all the other DS's though I knew it was normal for me so didnt worry although it didnt take me as long to bond with the others. Dont no if this will help you or not. Hope so.

I found it hard with DS4 as he wasnt planned and it really threw me. He's 7 months now and I still look at him sometimes & think - How the hell did you happen!

Doggus - yes there is a church in Donny thats converted into a nightclub.

mine was on my list...Sapphire Donna! Don't think DH will let me have Sapphire though.

but I like the name Keanu!!

Doggus re the 2 stone gain. You're going to have lost weight overall once you give birth! Damn.

TA - also - mother nature is a wonderful woman who 99.9% of the time takes care of things

DKMW - still getting ur show? how you feeling?

I hate anyone that has gained less than 3 stone.

I was a 16 pre PG. I am now a size 20 maternity. WTF.
If it's not a 12lb baby I am going to be farkin fuming.

Evening all!!

My cunning plan re. weight gain is to not know how much I weighed before getting pg. Therefore I have no idea how much weight I have put on! Very sly plan methinks!

Hope everyone has had a good day, I've not caught up properly yet, so sorry if I've missed something!

Just skimmed the posts!!

TA it is perfectly normal and I know how you feel! I was so excited about my dd being born and I was all ready from 37 weeks. SO at 42 weeks I was completely past excitement and into boredom and indifference! I was fed up and felt sort of resentful about what the pregnancy had done to my body. When she was born it was all so quick I couldn't hold her at first because I was shaking so much and I really struggled to bf. It was all so overwhelming and I really wondered what the hell I was going to do! Then after the first couple of weeks (after moving house that is) I sort of settled and completely fell in love, she is so beautiful and every day I feel so lucky to have her. She is the most wonderful little girl and I can't wait to have a wonderful little boy!!

Sorry if that was a bit gushy and long winded, but I'm sure you get the picture!!