July 2019 very early days

[edinburghlass1991]

Hi I thought I’d start one
This will be dc3 and I have dd6 and ds2 Edd 6 July 2019. Wish I was 12 weeks already!

I'm truly shocked at your DH's! Both of them! What the hell!?

@ratherbeshowjumping you aren't being hormonal or 'psycho' please don't think you were. Your DP was wrong and you were right to call him on it!

Oh Holly I'm so sorry for your loss. I have no words as I just wouldn't know what I'd want to hear in your situation. I wish you the best and hope you comeback with a new successful pregnancy soon xxx

I'm so sorry @Holly5633 take care of yourself.

I'm shocked at the husband's! My dh doesn't get away with that sh!t haha

I now have my booking in appointment and early scan booked so that's fab, such a weight lifted!

showjumping and Onestep2, that's out of order DH behaviour and you were both right to call it out. And I totally know the one about not eating on principle, done that myself recently! 🤦‍♀️

Just found this rainbow bonnet (fourth one) and I'm a little bit tempted...

wearmybaby.co.uk/product/leopard-spots-baby-bonnets/

It's a matter of willpower now. Hahaha

He usually gets dishes and floors done but apparently his team in fifa was too good today. Not buying that shit. Get the housework done.

I heard the washing machine get out on and hear him in the kitchen.... if he makes food and doesn't bring me anything i swear to god am filing for divorce in the morning. Lol

Ahahaha I could have written that myself. For his sake, I really hope he does!

New here 👋🏻 5+3 EDD 7th July 2019. Anyone else just find out?

Welcome @ohmybaby

Insomnia kept me awake till 12:30 and just as I was drifting off DS was super unwell 😷 My house was quite literally a shit show 🤦🏼‍♀️
Only just finished dealing with the aftermath - got him bathed, settled, bed stripped and every hard surface disinfected which was horrific considering my current levels of constant nausea 😫

Oh no @snailorswoft! That sounds horrific! I'm really struggling to deal with the poop from DS at the moment and that's contained!

(Hopefully you won't get sick too! 😟)

snailorswift not snailorswoft stupid thumbs

Uh-oh. DH is "ill"

Aww birthday twins! Nice to meet another new year baby! SnailorSwift !!

Rant sounds very justified ratherbeshowjumping hormones or not tbh!!!

@ratherbeshowjumping how are you feeling today? Did your DH come to his senses?

@onestep2 did DH make you food or do we need to find you a solicitor!?

@snailorswift you poor thing!! Hope you both managed to get to sleep and today is a good day.

@ohmybaby hi and congratulations! I got an extremely faint line on Sunday. So faint that DH thought I had actually finally gone mad by announcing to him that I was pregnant based on a line that he couldn’t see! I did have implantation bleeding though so I was totally sure that I was! It’s the best feeling isn’t it!? I still can’t believe it tbh.

@ratherbeshowjumping sounds familiar, although DH has stepped up since the news....... let’s hope it lasts! Recommend reading up on the domestic load or watching the Ted talk from Dr Libby Weaver on the subject. It really helped me to frame my argument with my DH when he said I was similarly “choosing” to get jobs done round the house. In the end I just stopped. Sat down when I got home, told him I was too tired to cook. He got the message pretty quickly.

In other news, yay babies!! It’s my first and I’m so thrilled but feel very nervous about it all. No history of MC but fell very quickly (within 2 months) so can hardly believe my luck. Any first time mums to be here? And if it’s not your first time at the rodeo, any tips/stories on how it’s going for you this time round?

Morning,

How are we all this morning?

Well I've been up since 4:50am as had to take DP to the station and I am still freaking out that my symptoms have stopped Not helped by me saying I was cold last night in bed and DP then said "you shouldn't be cold, you should be hot", then he told me he was worrying all night that I was cold when I shouldn't be. I mean, I did warm up and was quite sweaty at one point.
But know I'm worried about that because he was worried about it!

My boobs don't hurt AT ALL anymore.

Please hand me a grip and make Saturday hurry up.

*now I'm worried, not 'know'

Welcome ohmybaby and congrats! I don't really have any tips haha. Guess just take it easy this first trimester if you do feel rough, for most people it goes by the 2nd trimester but can come backbone the 3rd so be warned! Oh and certainly get your labpur bags packed asap, handy to have them fully packed early in case you pop into hospital for a check up or baby comes early (I was foolishly under prepared, my DM had to grab more stuff as didnt expect to stay in hospital more than 1 night!)

So DS (17 mo) saw me rub in my stretch Mark oil (I'm aware it's pot luck and genetics but not jinxing it as used it for DS and had no stretch marks apart from on my bum and thighs, where u didn't out any oil!) and so now DS is rubbing it on my belly for me! This is too cute

@ohmybaby I also fell very quickly with my first when we actually started TTC. Second was a lot hard to get, but so far so good. I feel a lot more nervous after a number of chemical pregnancies, and a big awareness of what's at stake!

I don't remember feeling so sick with DS or being so tired at the start, but I had just started a new job so it was very time consuming. I'm sure DH has a different view of things! I also wasn't running around after a toddler all day, which I'm sure is more tiring than looking after 30 kids!

How are you feeling? I do remember being very excited with my first! It was really hard not to tell everyone I met!

Have people thought about whether they'd find out the sex when they're able, or whether they'd wait for a surprise?

Hi and thank you @SnailorSwift @twittlebee @babyl0ve!

@twittlebee all great tips thank you I think half of the nerves are down to pure information overload! I’m really lucky to have my mum on side (she’s a nurse, previously a midwife) and very no nonsense which I definitely need 🙈

Has anyone told friends or wider family outside their immediate family/DH? I’m 5+4 so it’s really early... tempted to tell my best friend but also don’t want to tempt fate!

@twittlebee we had a similar issue, we had bought a lot of the big baby stuff (car seat/crib/pushchair) in advance but in a way where you don't get them until just before baby is due and we had to phone up and beg them to get them in sooner for us. Then my MIL/FIL had to go and pick them up - we lived in West Cumbria at that point and the only decent baby shop was an hour away near their house. I think we got them the weekend before he finally arrived a month early.

We gave up buying baby clothes because we weren't sure how big he was going to be, so DH had to go to Asda the morning after he was born and buy tiny baby stuff which was still to big! He phoned the labour ward for advice on washing them 😂

(FYI if you do end up with a tiny/preemie baby Mothercare doing free next Day delivery on all their preemie clothes, it was a godsend for us!)

@laburna wow that’s fantastic! I can only imagine how tired you must be, toddlers are very hard work!! For a total newbie, what are chemical pregnancies??

I’m so excited but hormones all over the place... one minute so elated, the next scared and selfishly worried about stupid things... changes to my body, weight gain etc.

I’m team not finding out (!!) but my DH is desperate too. We’ll see if he wears me down by 20 weeks 🤞🏻

@ohmybaby it's basically an early miscarriage, they're called chemical pregnancies because they happen too soon for anything to be seen on a scan so usually before 5/6 weeks. Baby may not implant properly or there maybe an issue with the egg developing. It's a horrible term really, but used when all you have to show you are pregnant or ever were is a pregnancy test.

@laburna oh I’m so sorry, that sounds so sad must be very difficult to handle, especially multiple times. Everything crossed for you this time 🤞🏻💗 how are you feeling this time round?

@TwittleBee that is so cute that your DS is helping with your oil! So sweet! When did you say you are thinking of telling him? I keep still doubling over with these ligament pains and DD keep saying what's wrong mummy so I just keep telling her I have a tummy ache but that means she keeps telling everyone poor mummy is poorly... I've heard to try not to associate the baby with negative symptoms eg 'mummy can't do that because of my baby bump' or 'mummy can't do this because having a baby makes me feel poorly' so that they don't resent the baby before they even arrive but I can see already that's going to hard to do!

@Laburna I am definitely team finding out!

I'm actually feeling a lot less excited this time round to first time which is making me feel a bit sad that I'm not happier? I just feel guilty for falling so quickly and for people I know who are currently trying and struggling for IVF and am dreading telling them. Plus the missing the hen/wedding thing is still playing on my mind as I haven't told bride yet and I've just started a new voluntary placement that I've waited ages to do so they are going to be annoyed when I tell them that I can no longer commit once I get further down the pregnancy. Just feel like I have a lot of disappointed people to tell rather than being excited to tell people. I'm hoping that once all the awkward discussions are over then maybe I can just focus on peoples happy reactions instead but it's getting me down a bit during what should be a really happy time. Not to mention of course it's a bit daunting thinking about what's to come and how I will still have the energy to play and give attention to DD1 when I've been up all night feeding the newborn.