April 2019 part 3!

[Treaclepie19]

Hi all, thought I'd make us another :)

1st - shk238 (baby#1)
2nd - jellybeann (baby #1) Footymum81 (baby #2)
3rd - beekeeping (baby #1)/ Griffer (baby#1) / Monkerina (baby #2)
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7th - singlemummyto5 (baby #5)
8th - ashley992 (Baby #1)
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10th - sodababy2 (baby #2)
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12th - SPR1107 (Baby No.2), clared55 (Baby No.1) AlbaGirl8 (Baby No.1) Italianwifey (baby no.1)
13th - RosiePosies (Baby No.1), Shamofamockery (baby #1), ChocolateChipMuffin2016 (#2), WhereistheWit (#3)
14th - Dani7 (baby #1)
15th - Treaclepie19 (baby #2), Migmog (baby #1), hopeislost (baby #1)
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18th -Suzy39 (#2)
19th - SheRaTheAllPowerful (Baby no.3)
20th - donna474 (baby no1), 5tarlight (baby #1)
21st - Buttons28 (baby no 1)
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27th - Newrubylane (Babies nos 1 and 2!), autumn18 (baby#2)
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Has anyone had their 16 week midwife appointment yet? What happened? I have mine this week, my first with the community midwife. I've got a male midwife, which is fine, I just want to know what to expect!

@SPR1107 lol! My chimney sweep (it's the first time I've met him) asked when I was due, then said I was really big for 4 months! Like thanks, that really makes me feel better.

@hopeislost mine was pretty quick - blood pressure, a few questions, results from the first set of blood tests and then heard the heart beat! They said they don't need to do it anymore, but would if I wanted - who would say no?

Nothing exciting! Paperwork and a wee sample is all really

I’ve also had the round ligament pains, and it damn hurts to sneeze! Colleague at work is due the day before me and has had similar pains, we are similar size and build (approx 5”4, 9.5st pre-pregnancy) and her midwife told her it’s due to her small size, the muscles are doing more noticeable stretching and pulling to readjust for baby, so these pains are normal. Puts my mind at ease a touch x

@Hopeislost mine was really quick. Just blood pressure, chat about how everything was going and that was it. Done in 10 minutes.

I've got my 16 week app on Thursday, I am hoping it's quick as I'm going to take my 2 year old with me! If I remember well from last time all the midwife appointments, were quick and a bit of a checklist; blood pressure, wee check, have you done XYZ (flu jab, GD test, booked X appointment - depends on your care) and then how do you feel, OK bye! Almost the same at all the appointments and then towards the end, adding in have you done your birth plan/ belly measuring! The only long appointments I had were the scans.

So small amount of brown blood when wiping, I shouldn’t worry?

I've been bleeding constantly since 14 weeks @SheRaTheAllPowerful, currently 16 + 4. Have to wear a pad day and night.
Are you being sick still? What colour is the blood?
Bleeding is more common than expected in pregnancy, but unfortunately there isn't a lot anyone can do to help you until 20 weeks plus.... also, it's usually 'nothing'.
Pop a pad on, keep an eye on it, try and get some rest.
If it helps you, give your early pregnancy unit a call, and just ask them for some advice, as you can self refer there. But I think they would say to you, unless it gets a lot heavier and is bright red, then to just take it easy

Also sex can cause a bit of bleeding as everything's a little sensitive with all the changes.

I've been a bleeder in both pregnancies, it's such a scary thing to see

See I didn’t bleed last time, not had any sex my libido has disappeared since pregnancy
It’s brown so old blood so fro my googling I shouldn’t worry but it’s hard not to.

Yeah it is @SheRaTheAllPowerful. I'm obsessed with checking the colour and amounts all day every day.

I had a bit of bleeding the other week @SheRaTheAllPowerful but we'd had sex the night before so midwife thought it was just that. I called in a panic but they didn't seem concerned. They said to take it easy unless I was soaking through pads or it was running down my legs etc and then I'd need to go to A&E. But stopped after a day thankfully. Haven't braved sex since!

Actually - can I ask - how are peoples sex lives?! I'm really finding my libido had completely gone! Hoping it'd pick up in second trimester like it did with first baby but not so far!

Haven't had sex since we found out I was pregnant @sodababy2. With the bleeds in first pregnancy, we didn't want to risk it.. turned out to be the right decision. Don't know if DH agrees still 

@sodababy2 Libido gone walkabouts here too, was also hoping for a pick up in 2nd trimester but nothing yet. DH has been very good and understanding, but I WANT to feel like doing it as much as he does, I just don’t! :-( Maybe had sex 5 times at the most since pregnant - we’re nearly 17 weeks in.

I'm exactly the same @AlbaGirl8. I WANT to want to do it but I just don't. 17 weeks tomorrow and I think we've done it about 5 times too. DH being great but I know he's finding it difficult - we really TRIED for this baby and it took us almost a year so we were having a lot of regular sex!

@sodababy2 Yep is too! Wedding in June ‘17, then honeymoon in Oct ‘17, came off the pill right after that and had been trying ever since, so as you can imagine with all the celebrations and what not, we’ve always had regular sex, and it feels like it’s just gone overnight. I don’t want him to think “I’m pregnant now so I dont need to have sex”, that’s absolutely not the case. To be fair he doesn’t see it that way I don’t think, but we’re our own worst enemies for beating ourselves up over these things!

Doing better than me only twice since I found out would rather have an early night and a cuppa

We haven't risked it either. With the bleeds and then all this worry about baby being okay I've just not wanted to do anything else to worry me.

We haven't risked it. It took us a year and 8 month to get here, so we would rather not chance it. He's coping fine, plus it was a joint decision.

I’m probably bucking the trend here- but regular sex has always been really important to me. I’d feel like I was neglecting the relationship at a time when you need to be a really strong couple. I bled a couple of times after sex in the first few months but nothing since. Knowing that sex can do to hurt a healthy pregnancy helped me not to worry about it. No bleeding since and lots of great sex. I’d say get back on the horse ladies

*sex can’t hurt a healthy pregnancy

Good job you are doing it now BeeKeeping once I’d given birth I was even worse
My first pregnancy was high risk but I was doing it more than I am now, this time I am more worried. If you have a healthy low risk pregnancy definitely no harm in lots of sex they even say babies can feel you orgasm and get happy hormones.
I just feel too rubbish and have had some cervical issues, I’m older and have my worries of seeing this pregnancy through till term so I’d rather hold back until I feel safer and my libido returns.
Once baby arrives though the lack of sleep and any time to yourself/shower etc sex totally falls off the wagon for a while at least. Not saying this will happen to you but Don’t be hard on yourself or worry your relationship will suffer.
I rememer having sex for the first time after my twins were born I was on top and my boobs just started massively leaking milk, it was beyond disgusting and definitely wasn’t sexy

Yep you're right BeeKeeping, maybe once all these tests are done I may get back to it.
Except there's always a toddler in our bed so probably not :p

I know it's good for relationship I just really don't feel like it. I'm exhausted and feel really unattractive. But hoping that will change!