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Calling all up-duffed Yammers! Come and continue the swearing and the love on our pregnancy thread, and let us never forget how lucky we are!

Sorry that meant to read struggles with DS!

Honestly this is totally normal @pinkemi you've just been through IVF and that's shit and awful. You'll be feeling mega bloated because of the drugs and hormonal and crap. Please be kind to yourself. Tell your husband that he needs to give you a break for a couple of weeks while you level out. Then retreat to the sofa a cry and hole up for a bit. You will feel better I promise.

This is a massively vulnerable time and you need some extra support.

Hey Yammers... just checking in to see how everyone is? I am trying to be good with my eating.. lost 1/2lb this week which im looking at as "better than nothing!"

My son Alex was born too soon, early last Thursday morning at 17 weeks 5 days. We miss him already. Good luck to everyone, will be leaving and not sure when I might get to return.

That's still showing change Pink, don't knock it! Pretty ok over here - have discovered the u-shaped pillow and sleep is possible once more!

@BGDino I'm so sorry. Words can't encapsulate what I want to say. I'll be thinking of you today 💐

Oh Dino, that is heartbreaking to hear. I am so, so sorry for your loss. Alex is a lovely name. Thinking of you and your family at this time.

@BGDino I am so sorry.

Oh Dino how utterly heartbreaking for you. I'm so, so sorry. Please take care of yourself and remember that we're here if you do want to talk about Alex at some point.

Loads of love.

BGDino I am so, so sorry to hear you have lost your boy. Hard to offer any comfort lovely but we're all here thinking of you and sending you strength. Alex is such a lovely name, crying for you here. Look after yourselves as best you can.

@BGDino i am so so sorry.

Please know we are here for you. Xx

Oh Dino I don’t have the words 😢 I am so, so sorry to hear about your beautiful son Alex x please take care of yourself and know that we are all thinking of you xx

Just checking in with you all... Is everyone prepped for Christmas yet? ( I am so unprepared its actually funny.)

Had my first "foot in mouth" moment over the weekend where i said something and then regretted it. Thought I had gotten away with it as the friend never said anything at the time...but this morning she skyped me with a flat out "Are you pregnant?"

I told her that she was making a mountain out of a molehill... which hopefully she wont be too mad at me when in like 3 or 4 weeks time i go.. surprise!

Feels wrong to confirm it with her when I haven't even told my family yet. lol

Ha. What did you say @Pinkemi?

I'm pretty good for Christmas organisation. We're staying at home on our own, which helps. All the present shopping is done though and the wrapping. My parents are collecting all the gifts from us this weekend and dropping off the buggy/travel system.

I finish work on 20th December so I can just chill out after that, hopefully.

How's your planning going? Are you telling family at Christmas?

I apparently made too much of a fuss over this cake that she made.. it was a special "Keto" cake.. and as I dont follow the keto diet i was querying what was in it.

Anyway it looked like it wasn't properly cooked so i said something about how i wasnt a fan of raw eggs (or something like that.. I honestly cant remember what i said exactly.)

Anyway apparently the comment I made just stuck with her all weekend and she decided to outright ask me today!

So.. planning wise it isnt going great! I haven't even managed to get my Christmas decorations up yet. I still have TONS of people to buy for.. and had a panic this morning when I realised how close Christmas now is!

But yes.. we are deciding to tell family on Christmas day. :) Trying to work out if I will be seeing my sister at all over the festive period.. and working out how i can tell my mum and her at the same time. (I dont want her to be upset if my DH's family are told before her.. )

I was thinking about writing out a Christmas card to my mum and DH's mum saying something like "Happy Christmas Grandma! " And see if the penny drops.

Technically by Christmas day i will be 11 +1 weeks so im "hoping" its okay to tell them then.

After feeling pretty bloated and lazy.. I was browsing Youtube videos and came across this workout:

Seeing as it looked pretty low impact I thought why not..

I'm now feeling pretty depressed as my fitness level has declined rapidly! I feel pretty tired.. but also very glad that I did it. If you ignore what shes saying (coz it can get a bit annoying at times) then it's actually pretty good. I might try and do it at least 3 times a week!

That's good. I'm glad it made you feel better.

Honestly I've done very little exercise until my third trimester. I've not felt up to it. Now I'm atleast walking the dog and swimming regularly again.

@si1ver I always thought the whole fatigue in the first trimester was just my friends not wanting to exercise. But do i sympathise with them now! By gosh i do! I keep having to go to bed at about 9pm because I can hardly keep my eyes open. My DH is like.. really?!

But I have read somewhere that doing a bit of exercise should help with this.. and im sure you have said it to me in the past (or someone else on this thread.) So.. i thought why not!

Have another early scan on Sunday and im so excited to see our bubba again and see he/ she has grown. (just hope its good news. ) Didn't think that before I booked it.. ah well.. positive thoughts!

I think what mostly got me off my bum today was the fact that I was reading on my Ovia app that some women start to show at 10/11 weeks because our wombs have grown to the size of a soft ball (i think thats what it said.) Anyway I looked at my tummy and just felt sad. No bump.. just fat...

I would regularly be in bed at 8.30 in the first trimester. Just embrace sleeping, because it gets much harder later on, when you have to sleep on your side and need to pee every couple of hours. I've also started snoring like a wounded hippopotamus, so have to contend with my long suffering husband prodding me awake trying to shut me up.

Try lying on your tummy (on the bed obviously) that was the first time I felt my bump. My stomach muscles and layers of fat hid it to about 18/20 weeks. It's very definite now, but weirdly when the baby moves and lies transverse it looks less pregnant. Whereas my friend who's a couple of weeks ahead has a perfectly round bump all the time regardless of her baby's position. Everyone's different.

So my scan was fantastic! @Si1ver you were right.. Our little Blob now actually looks like more of a baby. He/She was dancing around in there. It was so magical! I can not wait for the 12 weeks scan now. haha If i had more money.. Id be booking these scans in for every month!

So midwife appointment on Wednesday... What can I expect? I am really nervous about her taking my weight measurements as I know my BMI is above 35 now. Am I meant to have filled in some of those notes before hand?

also.. random thought I had today.. Can men be Midwives? And if they are.. are they called MidHusbands?

There are definitely male midwives, still called midwives I think.
Is it your booking in appointment Pink? Expect to do a wee in a cup, have some blood taken (so have a good drink of water beforehand so your veins are nice and plump ) and to be asked a lot of questions. Mine was between an hour and an hour and a half I think.

Oh yay! I'm so pleased it was a good scan for you. My husband cried during our ten week scan 😍

My midwife asked me how much I weighed But has never actually weighed me. They'll take a full history of your and your husband's family medical, talk to you about birth choices, measure CO2 to check you're not smoking, take some bloods, get a wee sample etc. They'll also check that you're in a happy relationship and that you've not been coerced into having a baby.

Glad to hear that your scan went well @Pinkemi !

I have a male midwife and he's still called a midwife.

How do you feel about him @Hopeislost? I always thought I'd be happy being treated by either sex, but after I had a very rough exam by a male sonographer during a miscarriage I've changed my mind and have been requesting female led care.