Yammer Grads

[SoozC]

Calling all up-duffed Yammers! Come and continue the swearing and the love on our pregnancy thread, and let us never forget how lucky we are!

Yeah booking appointment (i think) @wonkydonk87. At least its the first one ive had with the midwife! Seems like everyone is having babies around here as it was the earliest appointment i could get.. bit late at 10 weeks by hey ho.

Ive just been for a 25mins swim and i now feel exhausted. 🤣

I can't imagine having a male midwife.. think it might make me a bit uncomfortable.

It honestly doesn't bother me. I've had male doctors do several internal ultrasounds and a HSG on this journey already. Plus there's every chance the obstetrician will be male at the end.

I chose the male midwife because he holds sessions around the corner from my house on Friday afternoons, so it's super convenient for me!

It's my first day on maternity leave. Actually, it's technically holiday until the middle of January, but I'm done with work now. It feels super weird.

@Si1ver I was about to say.. hang on you had your baby ages ago? How come your only just on maternity? Then Isaw the holiday bit. My mind couldn't compute for a minute then! haha

I am struggling a little! Had a 1-1 with my manager yesterday and she was like.. how are you? I broke down in tears and was like. .. honestly im struggling! I know i need to work but i am so damn tired all the time. I think she regretting asking! haha Hormonal, sleep deprived woman in front of her. (God knows what i'm going to be like when the baby is born.. walking zombie for a few months i think!)

But she has said that I am okay to work from home next week! Which I am so relieved about. Maybe I can catch up on some sleep, seeing as I wont have my normal 3hr commute everyday.

Happy Christmas everyone!

@Pinkemi baby's not due until January, definitely haven't had it yet!

Do you think you can arrange to work from home one day a week next year? I worked from home every Wednesday and then used holidays to take Fridays off. It was the only way I could survive the long commute and stressful job. My Occ Health recommended this due to the pregnancy tiredness. Would something like that work for you?

HA! Sorry @Si1ver.. im getting you confused with someone else.

So i normally work from home anyway on a Wednesday.. which I am so grateful of! I think the issue at the moment is the first trimester tiredness is just taking over and with it being End of Quarter... the stress is just a lot at work!! I dont really have enough holiday to take every Friday off for the next 6 months. lol At least with being at home, i get an extra hour in bed.. and I can slob out in front of the computer and no one cares.

I was really lucky in that I work condensed hours. So I work full time, condensed into 4.5 days, which means that taking my Fridays off only used 0.5 days holiday for each one.

Maybe you could work from home Mondays and Wednesdays then? Definitely worth talking to Occ Health about.

How are we doing Yammers? All ready for Christmas? I'm doing the last of the wrapping and pining for the glass of red wine that usually helps me to do it. Listening to the radio4 programme about Rick Mayall and scoffing biscuits at least.
We're with the ILs for Christmas Day and I'm absolutely dreading it. Can't drink (usual coping mechanism!) and have a terrible habit of speaking my mind a little more openly atm

Lots of naps @WonkyDonk87, growing a baby is hard work. You'll need to lie down quietly.

We're staying at home this year and ignoring everyone. I'm really looking forward to it. No visitors, no one to cater for, just me the husband and the dog. It's my dream Christmas.

Not possible I'm afraid - SIL is struggling with infertility so we're on a strict ban from acknowledging my pg. Can I come to you S1lver? I'll be quiet and I don't eat a lot.

Not that I would talk about it obv (feel the need to state that before I get jumped on!), feel more incensed that it needs to be told to me, like I would otherwise have been a totally insensitive bitch

That's a tough one Wonky but also a bit unfair. Being sensitive is one thing, god we all hated the fertile feckers, but being to not even acknowledge it is a bit much I think. Naps are the way forward I agree!

Nice and peaceful here. Parents tomo afternoon, otherwise it's just us with DD nipping back and forth between me and her dads. Baby is sleeping pretty well mostly, so I'm not too fogged, and I've been ready for ages so not too stressed. I rather enjoy the food prep too thank god.

Waiting on Sooz. Anyone would think she had better things to do than updating us hourly, pfft.

Ha ha! I know, right? I checked as soon as I was awake. Glad MiniLimp is sleeping well, hope you have a relaxed and memorable Christmas

@WonkyDonk87 God yes come here. You just have to be nice to my dog and battle the husband for access to pigs in blankets.

I'm so busy pleased your boy is sleeping well @Limp. I had a dream that Sooz had her baby on Christmas Day and called it Jesus Yam last night 😂

Merry Christmas Yammer mamas. Yammers seem to be good at festive babies!

Hope your out-laws weren't too offensive Wonks and that everyone else had a good day. I'm off to bed with teeny limp shortly as DD has gone off to her dad and we are knackered.

He's a star, S1lver, we have the odd rough night but he's adjusting well and usually goes straight back down after most night feeds, never wakes his sister and is still unbearably cute. Chunking right up too, little scoffer.

Happy Belated Christmas Yammers!

Sorry for not coming online for days.. Christmas is normally a really hectic time of year for me!

So we told my family and DH's family about our news! It was interesting to see the difference in reactions.

However... bit of a downer was my Pregnant SIL almost nagging me about the fact that a) I was exhausted and didnt want to join in with the games and b) I refused to touch anything that had alcohol in it. (cooked stuff like christmas pudding.) She was like.. oh please.. the alcohol content is probably so small.. your being totally ridiculous about this. I have to be honest i was getting pretty . I just kept repeating " I would rather be careful than sorry."

It really annoys me how she just ignores most of the food do's and don'ts when you are pregnant.

Anyway.. I know i am probably being overly cautious.. but I said to my mum that quite frankly I would prefer to be like this and for things to not go wrong..

I'm sure its because it has taken us so bloody long to get here.. where as my SIL just looked at her partners sperm and got up the duff! ha!

Totally understand your reasoning Pink. Each and every one of us makes an informed decision about the risks associated in pregnancy, from crack cocaine to hot tubs. Your body, your choice. Alas, I suspect this is just the beginning and our decisions will be judged for evermore once the mini Yams arrive (vaccinations, childminders, grammar schools etc)

I concur, Wonky. Motherhood is generally a nice big guilt / judgement pile on, so may as well develop a thick skin now!

Pink ignore ignore. I suspect you'd have raised an eyebrow at me for my steak / Stilton and weekly glass of red wine, but as Wonky says most of us run an internal risk assessment on most choices, and your choices are not hers. If she feels fairly cavalier you might be sparking a second of self doubt with your abstinence which is making her comment. At least the enforced contact is done now ha.

Pregnancy insomnia has kicked in really badly this week. I'm exhausted, but walking up after three hours sleep and staying awake the rest of the night. I want to cry. Combined with a seriously upset stomach I look like actual death.

I have a midwife's appointment today to do a birth plan, then I think I might pack my hospital bag this afternoon.

You have my sympathies S1lver - insomnia is here for me too. I was up 3 times in the night for a wee . How many weeks are you? We're pretty close aren't we?

Just nearly 36 weeks now Wonks, I'm sorry I can't remember how far along you are though.

34 so not far behind you.

Sympathies ladies. I'm getting more sleep now than the last ten weeks of pregnancy, which seems mental. Remember rest is almost as good as sleep and try to get your feet up plenty.

Hey Yammers, I hope you’ve all had a lovely Christmas xx my LO is now just over 2 weeks old and luckily she sleeps quite well at the moment. I’m waiting for that to change though 😂

Hi ladies, I got a BFP today been trying for about 14 months which I know isn't that long in terms of yammers so I only recognise a few names here but I'd love to continue to join you ladies. I'm guessing there's a big variation in how pregnant everyone is x