Due Feb 2019 - we’re halfway!

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Thread 8, let’s do this...

Everything looks OK, she has a big tummy but apparently because they grow in spurts that can happen. Still in normal range. Oh, and it’s a girl :)

Netflix has some fab shows!! We've done the following:

Once upon a time
Timeless
Lost in space
The crown
The end of the fucking world
Star Trek discovery

Congrats @powkin!

@Powkin Congrats

@Thesnobbymiddleclassone I like once upon a time but haven’t seen any of the others so will have a look

I need something good to watch

I do like homeland and suits and the originals and I think I have some episodes to watch so may go back to those too 🤔

Not that I have hours to watch tv - I do work! 😂

@Thesnobbymiddleclassone - I liked 'the end of the world' one too.

@powkin - congratulations. I'm having a girl too x

20 week scan (done at 21 weeks) was so amazing! Seeing everything working in our baby girls little body is just mesmerising! Only dampener on it is that my placenta is sitting very low apparently, so I have to go back at 32 weeks for them to check it. I'm happy to do whatever is best for me and baby in delivery, and there's absolutely nothing I can do about it, but still just gives food for thought! Anyone else had this?

@fizzledays yep I'm in the same low placenta boat scan is at 34 wks. Shifts in 90% but a few risk factors reduce chance of shifting such as previous c sections.

I ate three tubes of Smarties this afternoon for no good reason!

I’ve been quite good this week (by my standard) and eaten less sugary snacks than usual so I’ll put it down to a Friday treat...

Baby all healthy happy and perfect
Cannot wait for our gender reveal tomorrow to find out if we're team 💙 or 💕

Ugh I'm so annoyed at MIL.

I was bracing myself for comments from eg unthinking colleagues when I announced I was having another boy, but everyone has been super happy and congratulatory, none of the stupid "oh you'll have to try for a girl" comments. Despite my initial "oh" at finding out it's another boy, I'm now super excited and happy (I think I was subconsciously holding back before the 20 week scan in case everything wasn't as it should be) so I've been in cloud 9 since Wednesday.

I got a message off MIL when we told her saying "oh great news, I didn't care what the sex was anyway I just wanted another grandchild". Which annoyed me as it's so badly put but she's not exactly the best with words over text any way so I just let it go.

DH saw her this eve and said she was saying things like "well you can't plan the sex" and "if you go in hoping for one you'll only be disappointed" etc. Which I am FUMING at. If I'd have been there I would've said something! I know I'm being over sensitive (hormones) but I just KNEW she would be like this, she has two boys and then a girl and has always made it clear she's SO glad she had a girl, how boys leave their mums when they get married etc but girls are SO close to their mums etc. Basically a really old fashioned view which I don't agree with at all.

WWYD? I'm so tempted to say something but I never see her any more as I work late on the day she looks after DS so DH is always home first.

Congrats on all the lovely scans 😍

@twiglet you should be able to send the form off and just say MATB1 to follow. I know that doesn't help with your other issues but my maternity leave form is due in the same day I could get my MATB1. They were happy to wait last time.

Congratulations to all those who had scans today!

@Lookingforadvice123 I don't understand that view either. What you do probably comes down to your relationship and personalities. I'm generally very unconfrontational so wouldn't say anything unless something was said to me or any dc. That's just me though. My mil and parents usually know they've crossed the line because I'm a crier.

lanalawr yes that's exactly what I think, MIL has always favoured SIL though (DH confirms this and he's not someone to take things personally, if anything he's too laid back) purely because she's a girl. The irony is DH and his brother are both decent people whereas SIL is a bit of a waste of space and spends a lot of her time bitching (untrue, pointless things) about people.

I just wish I'd been there as I would've said something to clarify that actually, we're overjoyed!

@Lookingforadvice123

Don't take it to heart. My mums says things sometimes (non baby related) that makes me question her mind.

It's being healthy that matters.

Also I believe it's usually the males gene that decides the gender so throw that back lol

Congrats to everyone on the scans. Mine is on Sunday and i’m itching to see my little boy and be reassured everything is still ok.

I went shopping with my mom today as she wanted to buy him blankets as it’s cold out in the sticks in February. TKMaxx had lots of beautiful and very soft ones for very reasonable prices.

Also I got a few sale items in Debenhams from some Ted Baker & Jasper Conrad - so worth a look if anyone likes those brands. The sale is online too though I think some things may be more discounted in store.

Love the scans it's made me excited for ours ❤️

Defo favouritism already as OH just got
Home and baby has instantly started kicking 😂

@Lookingforadvice123 We have only told a few people the sex, influential my mum and MIL. DH has two boys so MIL knew DH wanted a girl anyway (we are having a girl) but my Mum wanted me to have a boy. There are not as many boys on my Mum’s side of family etc.

When I told her it was a girl (excited, DH and I were over the moon but would have been either way) she said “U wanted a girl”. It was by text as she was at work and had texted to ask but I was a bit upset by her lack of excitement. I think maybe she realised as she tried to make up for it later but it is so obvious she wanted it to be a boy! It’s my parents’ first grandchild so I’m sure they’ll be so happy when baby is here but she annoyed me...

She also seems to take it upon herself to decide who she wants to tell 🙄

If you have a c section do you have to stay overnight?

@Baby160P yes typically 3-4 days but depends on how people cope with the pain.

@Baby160P Mose people I know that had s planned section only tend to stay in one bight round here. If it was an EMCS then possibly a few nights but there is no set rule. I'm having an elective and they told me all being well should only have to stay in 1 night.

Night not bight!!!

I had an EMCS and was in for a week but this was in part due to DD being in NICU. Elective this time and I’m hoping to be home within a day or two.

AliceRR that is super annoying and quite rude!!!! I don't understand these people with their "favourites" or preferences. How do they even know what the child will turn out like?! My sister is the complete opposite of a girlie girl so if that's what my mum was hoping for (which she wasn't) then she would've been so disappointed!

Thanks though your message made me feel better to see that other people's relatives are rude too! I had a nice little moan over WhatsApp to SIL about it (BIL's wife, NOT DH's sister!) as she knows how annoying MIL can be (eg she blatantly favours my DS over theirs who is the same age, it's so bad) so I feel better now and am willing to let it go. I just hope she says something again when I'm actually around so I can put her right, politely but firmly!

I'm hoping for a planned section too. My sister had one and was in for one night. I do think it just depends on how you're doing but I'm hoping for as little time as poss. I had to stay in for a few days last time but that was a natural birth (long story but ended up with an infection and sitting with a drip) x

I have a glucose test too, slightly worried about not being able to have gaviscon. Hmm.
I'm lucky both sets of parents have been very supportive, mum came with us for the harmony test, when we told her we are having a girl she literally said I told you so at the scan 😂. The sonographer thought it was too early to tell but not mum.
I'm so smug this morning slept through 10-6.30 for the first time in months and possibly for the last time in years.
I'm on antidepressants and have been told I will have to stay in a couple of days, I was worried about this but was talking to friends on Thursday who were really positive about staying in a few days as you get more support and help with feeding etc before you are left on your own with a baby. Feeling much better now.