May-ish 2019 - thread 2!

[rosettesforjill]

Thought I'd get this started 7+5 for me today

I’m 10+2 today and I’m worried as my sickness has disappeared today. I know there is nothing to be done but wait. Next scan isn’t until 2 weeks tomorrow.

All of my symptoms went a few weeks ago @MynameisJune but last week’s scan showed the baby was fine. I know it’s worrying but as we get closer to the second trimester things should be easier in many ways.

I’m trying to remember when my MS went with DD and I can’t. I think it was around the same time when it started to ease. Once we’ve got past the 12 week scan (hopefully) then I’ll be a bit happier. It’s so much easier when you can feel them move!

Morning ladies so glad to read these posts i literally woke up this morning with the very same thoguht and worry. I'm 10 wks and really feel the almost all my symptoms have stopped in the last day or 2. I'm guessing it's normal but so hard not to worry!

Hi thought id join in 7w4d ish had a mc last sept will never know how far along and a mmc june this year at 11 weeks empty sac measuring 5w3d 3 scans and a very traumatic natural mc with only able to have 1 day off work. Very happy but extremely anxious and hopeless in a way. Had 6 week scan heartbeat and size fine and so the 8 weeks scan i was promised i was told i didnt need and that id have to wait for my 12 week scan. So in the meantime ive driven myself crazy trying to work out if im likely to have another mmc as that was worse and i dont want to be carrying an empty sac for weeks again x am i being irrational?

@Swisbest2 you might find more support here
Pregnancy after loss: spring 2019 edition (The Brexit Babes) 🐧www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/3325046-Pregnancy-after-loss-spring-2019-edition-The-Brexit-Babes

As others are in similar situations. I don't want to go in detail here because I don't really want to scare monger people. But it's my opinion (non medical) that these early miscarriages are more common than one thinks. I've had two myself. If I were you I would be very reassured that your 6 week scan matched your dates and the HB was present. In a lot of the cases of the mc's, stuff just doesn't add up (scans not matching dates by a long way, obviously extreme cramps and bleeding, etc etc).

Of course if you want to take matters in to your own hands you could go privately for a scan. Groupon has offers and I've heard people living more centrally getting scans for less than £50.

Symptoms naturally vary and all seem to drop off from 10 weeks (if you're "lucky"). There is a wide range of what is normal. You'd be very unlucky to have an issue a third time having already seen the HB.

I can understand your worries @Swisbest2 and I just keep trying to remind myself that the stats are always on my side, and it is the same for you. Can you speak to your midwife and explain how anxious you are and that you were promised an eight week scan, which you really need for your sanity? Otherwise, a private scan might help ease your concerns a little.

Just to bring up an old topic. I don't know if anyone else is mildly smirking that Meghan is struggling on her tour. Obviously wouldn't wish ill on her but even though she's got a full support network she's had to peg back her delightful royal engagements! Sorry, I know this shouldn't give me satisfaction but it rather does.

Wonder how many cucumber sandwiches she's puked since the start.

Tiredness is the only symptom I have had this pregnancy and I’d hate to be having to meet lots of important people and be polite and friendly. I’m sure she decided to ttc as soon as she got married but I wouldn’t have done the same if I had a tour on the other side of the world to get through!

About 9 weeks according to due date calculator how you all finding it? X

Thank you SurfingOwl.

I’m also experiencing less symptoms, which is good news! Sometimes I’m sure that I can feel little movements as well, but it’s unlikely at 12+1.

Sorry to hear about your previous losses Swisbest2, I hope this one progresses well When would you be due?

@SurfingOwl it's not impossible to cope with - we knew we were going to Hawaii while we were TTC. But I really don't recommend it....!

I thought Hawaii was a holiday! I hope you still got to have some time to relax and enjoy the beautiful scenery. I don’t mind long haul flights in pregnancy, or a holiday, it’s just managing to keep a smile on my face whilst working all day long that I’d fail miserably at. I’d really struggle with evening formal meals as well as I’d be fast asleep on my feet! Then again, maybe they have timed it well as I’m guessing she is in her second trimester now and theoretically out of the sickness and exhaustion phase.

4th june due date. Im new to mumsnet so ill find that other board thanks dont wanna brimg anybodies mood down! The only reason i found out about the mmc was because i booked a private scan as a birthday present to myself but i had had brown discharge since 5 weeks but kept getting told it was fine. So far nothing here up 2 cup sizes and strong nausea anytime of day but you know still very hard to believe this is going to last much longer. Hope everybodies coping with the symptkms and thanks for the comments all

I doubt you’ll bring anyone’s mood down @Swisbest2 so please don’t think that. Sadly a huge number of us have experienced baby loss and have our own worries about all going well, so do feel free to chat away with any concerns you have.

So tired today it's the first day I've felt things pile on top of me eve though the kids are still awake I just want to crawl into bed.
I know I can't but wish I could.,

Yes its a sad fact i wish more people would be open about it my dad told me that i was conceived after a mc but even whilst i was going through 2nd mc my mum still didnt tell me and asked why does it keep happening. That really hurt especially when my sisters have 8 eight kids. Shes also a nurse of all things. Hope to hear all your happy news as time goes by and be surrounded by some positivs stories 😁

*meant 😀

On a brighter note, will you be finding the gender out and have you thought of names yet?
I won't be finding out the agenda and have a girls and boys name already.

We'll find out if we can! I have no idea what we'll call it but we'll need a name ASAP after it's born as we have a holiday planned for July and will need to sort out a passport!

Sounds ambitious but exciting PP xx

@bumblebee39 tell me about it 🙈 we'd booked it before we found out! Big family holiday though so will have lots of support while we're there.

I'm glad rosettesforjill I took DC1 away at a few weeks old with my family and didn't regret it although I did spend most of the holiday breastfeeding and ignoring everybody!

@SurfingOwl it was - I wrote that wrong. I mean I knew when I booked it there was a good chance I might be pregnant, but I thought I'd be in the 2nd tri with the previous baby attempt! I should have actually been circa 18 weeks at travel. It was quite the surprise to have so quickly conceived again and ended up making the trip in the first tri.

I think Meghan is pretty bold doing it actually. We had our fair share of work meals to get through but because DH and I work together we get to go together which takes the pressure off but it's just constantly being fed food you really don't want to eat as well!

@rosettesforjill it's sounds lovely that you've got something planned for after the birth! Personally I think it's really important that life goes on to an extent, as long as it's reasonably baby friendly, because you don't want to be hanging around moping that you're now pinned to the home with a demanding baby. Or maybe that's just my personal fear!

We have also been invited on a family trip when baby would be 6-8 weeks, I’m not sure what to do yet. At the moment I think the extended family are just annoyed that we’re being so non commital and a bit distant about it (they don’t know yet....)!

Gosh I’m really sick of feeling sick. 12ish + 2 now and it went from being a bit better to just nauseous a lot again, quite fed up.