February 2019 part 4

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New thread ladies... not long until the first 12 week scans.... mines a week tomorrow!

Crampy feels today freaks me out

@Since2016 - we are seeing my parents, sister and his mum on the 10th - 12th but our scan is the 20th and we’ve decided not to say anything. I might just spend the weekend being sick so might come out but I really want to see the scan first and if there’s any problem to be able to deal with it privately first. I’m not sure I’m ready for all their thoughts and feelings and opinions!

@DragonFlew - not bad. Mine was 19 hours and I was induced too. I hope it's true what they say about second being quicker 😩

@Yakadee eek. On day 4 of being in the hospital and not dilating I had an EMCS. Not even going to test the theory!!!

@Since2016 - yikes - you're my hero! I'm wondering if I might end up with a section this time because of complications with my first? X

@Yakadee I bounced between the birth centre and the labour ward and had a failed induction. No way am I attempting it again! Have you asked for one? MW asked me and said she wasn't at all surprised I was opting for an ELCS. Generally they'll offer if you've had a traumatic first birth - I do think there's less fight these days.

Last night I felt so sick I couldn't bear the thought of trying to swallow my meds. So didn't take my cyclizine. And guess what... this morning I woke up and didn't really feel sick at all (normally I feel horrendous until I've had breakfast). So, I haven't taken my cyclizine today either. I had already begun to wonder whether it had stopped being effective for me (been feeling awful again and very sick mornings and evenings), but now I'm beginning to wonder if it was actually making me feel sick?! I haven't had one since yesterday morning now, and haven't felt any worse than normal today.. Will have to see how this evening goes!

@Since2016 - I did mention that I was concerned about how I'm actually going to be able to push this baby out (episiotomy, LOTS of stitches, an infection and physio) and she just said I wouldn't be able to labour in the birth centre! Plenty of time until D day I guess. If they think I can actually succeed at a natural birth then that's fine, I know sections are far from the 'easy' choice. Honestly, whatever is the best option to get my bub here safe and sound wins! (Even if I crap my pants about it until that day arrives lol) xx

@Yakadee hopefully your body will be a bit better prepared for round 2? I just never got past 4cm. Even with induction. So not willing to risk it (DD ended up in NICU). Always time to assess options. Besides labour ward you can still have water birth etc in most places I think?

@Since2016 - hope so! It is what it is, got to come out somehow! 😂 xx

@Yakadee what goes up! Must come down! 😂😂😂

@jeanzbeanz I think the cyclizine was making me more nauseous. Although I’m still being sick in the morning and have terrible nausea at night time it’s better than how I felt on the medication. Might just be that it’s getting better anyway but I did wonder.

@Since2016 - I know right! It's in there now lol x

Am I alone with suffering ear infections. This is the 3rd one I'm 10 weeks tomorrow.

Will book Doctors next week 😢

@Baby160P trying melting a little coconut oil and putting it in your ear. Always helps me

@somethingfromnothing that's interesting. Cyclizine definitely helped me when I first started taking it three weeks ago (went from being sick five times a day to just once) but I'm really beginning to wonder if it's been making me feel worse the last few days. Will see how the weekend goes sans cyclizine

@DragonFlew I'll give it a try! So painful.

Hi ladies, sorry for being AWOL but had a hectic couple days. Our baby has been diagnosed with Encephalocele, which is similar to spina bifida but happens on the brain. The skull hasn’t properly developed and some of the brain tissue is growing outside of the head. The chance of survival is 1 in 5 - however they think I would miscarry before the birth anyway. Sadly I have to have a termination, I feel devastated and heartbroken but it’s not fair to bring this baby into the world (if it even made it). We were told that if, by some miracle, the baby survived then it would be severely mentally and physically disabled from the neck down. It’s the worst case scenario. It will be a week or two before I can have the termination but after it, I get to hold the baby and say goodbye. Which makes me feel a bit better. We’ve decided that my body needs a break after this and we also need a bloody holiday! Feeling so rubbish but beyond thankful for my amazing partner. I just love him so much, he’s told me that tonight he’s buying me all my favourite chocolates and sweets then we’re coming home and I’m getting a hot bath and a massage haha. We’ll be okay, as long as we have each other. Just want to say a huge thank you for all the support you ladies have given me, it means so much and really does help ❤️ I wish you all the best of luck in your pregnancies 💕

So so sorry to hear that! Please take care of each other. I second a holiday xxxx

Oh @hayleyfx I'm in tears for you. How utterly devastating. I'm so so sorry. Your partner sounds like an absolute star as I'm sure he's completely heartbroken too. Sending you all the love in the world. Feel free to stay on the thread if you want to and need some ongoing support over the next few weeks.

You're so brave xxxx

I'm so sorry @hayleyfx. Life can be so cruel. Look after yourself and take comfort in spending time with your lovely partner. I hope everything goes as well as it can for you and definitely get a holiday booked. You deserve it. Take care, lovely, and please do let us know how you're getting on xxx

Oh @hayleyfx I am devastated for you. You sound so strong and I am so pleased your partner is supportive of you. Take care of yourself and best of luck for the future if you do decide to try again xx

Oh @hayleyfx I’m so sorry. Sending you and your partner lots of love x

@hayleyfx I'm glad you have a loving and caring partner to get you both through this.

Sounds like a holiday would be lovely,

Take care xxx

Oh @hayleyfx I am so so sorry to read this. Life really is so unfair sometimes. You were such a support to me when I came onto this board and am sorry this had to happen to you. Massive love and hugs to you are your partner and best of luck for the future