The March-ers (2019) #2

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Eek! On thread 2 already...welcome over everyone!

Hi and congrats to all the newbies! And wow looks like we have lots of boy heavy families!

Hi all! I am home from my epic work trip. Jet lag coupled with tiredness and nausea has been horrific - perhaps it was always going to get worse about now (just turned 8 weeks), but oh. my. god. I don't throw up but I feel really awful all day long. Like, so awful. I have so much respect for those of you who are actively puking, I honestly don't know how you do it.

All good habits have gone out the window. Swimming is a distant memory, and my diet is a range of plain carbs. I had a bit of a cry yesterday at how horrible I felt.

Everything is all right really, this is entirely survivable and I'm just venting, but blimey why does nobody prepare you for how tough this first trimester malarkey is?! I don't know why I thought I'd breeze through it. Hope everyone is holding up a bit better than I currently am.

PS @Olivia2019 that is an AMAZING scan! It looks like a baby! Congrats - I'm going for a private one at 9 weeks, and am really hoping mine looks like yours. The 6 weeker was like a view of outer space.

@mostimproved my maternal grandparents have 5 great grandsons now, not one of my cousins has produced a girl. I think (I know) my gran would give her eye-teeth for a great granddaughter, but, hmm, it's kind of out of my control. I actually keep thinking of this bean as a boy, so I'd be quite interested to find out at 20 weeks just so it's not a complete surprise when it's born.

Thanks for the lovely welcome everyone!

@Newbie2703, we are date buddies! Very exciting

Who is planning on finding out the sex of the baby ? As much as I would like to know I would prefer the surprise even more .

With this being my first I'm just overwhelmed . New emotions every day . Wondering if I will ever cope. I know people do it every day and I was one of four and my mum managed fine but I just can't help but be so scared . Also is anyone going to be breast feeding ?

@Jenlou1992 I'll be finding out the sex and also plan to breastfeed. I was looking up pumps online just in case mine hasn't survived 4 years of storage. With DS I wasn't sure I wanted to find out but I was so glad I did. I'm not good with anticipation and made choosing names a lot easier lol.

@Jenlou1992 ... we're too impatient not to find out the sex so will do at the first possible opportunity. I also think that it will help to reduce some of my anxiety as I like to plan meticulously and you can't exactly do that if there's a 50/50 chance.

I'm feeling like you, totally emotional and on a huge learning curve - one that feels really quite surreal at the moment.

Also planning to breast feed if I am able to. Probably for about 9 months whilst I am on mat leave. I may have to go back earlier which will limit how long but will have to manage that hurdle when it arrives

@HidCat we've already started writing name lists OH is so concerned there's a possibility we could have twins he wants to have lots of options! (Twins run in my family)

Hey @Jenlou1992 yes I'll be breast feeding again. It's actually quite tough so be prepared for asking for lots of help. But totally worth it. Just rolling over at night and latching on a baby, or popping them on when they hurt themselves for pain relief is lovely. No making up bottles!
It is a scary time becoming a parent. I found it very over whelming tbh - but it's also wonderful. Best advice I got was to live in the present moment and take one day at a time. Life changes and it's hard, but it's totally worth it. X

HidCat yeah part of me wants to but I think we will hold out . Other half has already been sending me names, none of which I like obviously haha

TheWanderlust yeah I really want to brastfeed just don't want to be disheartened if I can't . Don't know if anyone else is a worrier like me but I can't help thinking of things going wrong . I am positive in everything I say and do but in my mind I run through worst case scenarios. Suppose it's natural .

Bought a pregnancy planner book today. £15 from hobbycraft if anyone is interested . From bump to birth it is . It's really good lots of spaces for photos and notes.

@Jenlou1992 its perfectly natural feeling that way! You have an unconditional love for your own child and adrenalin and protective instinct kick in immediately it goes you through. Just remember that each phase passes so quickly and even if sometimes it feels like hard work you get through it and onto the next stage of baby's life!

We won't be finding out. I love the surprise after all the hard labour! I had a strong instinct DS would be a boy. If it's another boy I have loads of clothes from DS. My instinct now is a girl and I have two options on names I'll know better when baby is born. We will struggle with a boys name- recent family births have used names we love also!

I will breastfeed as best I can this time. DS was bad with silent reflux my supply disappeared by 5 months!

@TheWanderlust I have a feeling about twins this time I cant seem to shake 😄 runs both sides of the family!!

We had a surprise last time and I have to say after a really tough labour having this baby placed on my chest and I got to announce it was a girl was amazing. We will not be finding out this time either.

I plan to breastfeed but it was very very tough dd had tongue tie which didn’t get snipped as nobody would believe me that’s what she had until she was 5 weeks old so lost quite a bit of weight. I bf until she was 10 months.

@Jenlou1992 I breastfed DS for nearly 18 months. It was really hard work for ages - we were a bit unlucky with undiagnosed tongue tie until 7 weeks and then again until 5.5 months! I was totally bloody minded about it and persevered when all around me were suggesting I should stop. By 8 or 9 months we had cracked it and I absolutely loved it. I would in no way recommend that everyone push through in the way that I did, but it worked for me in the end! Hoping that next time round I will be wiser and quicker to spot and fix problems.

We found out with the harmony last time at 14 weeks. I'm undecided whether I want to know or not this time!

@jenlou92 I had to mix feed DS from 7 weeks due to both silent reflux and my supply dwindling. I sobbed to the paediatrician but she and DH pointed out as long as baby is happy and thriving that's what's most important. I will not beat myself up if there are issues 2nd time around!!

Yes agree Mum guilt is awful I won’t beat myself up this time if it doesn’t work out - I say this now I won’t probably listen come March

@ladycarlotta Im sorry you are so nauseous it's not the best thing to have. I was the same 7-8 weeks with DS. It did pass after the 12 weeks but there were certain foods I would not entertain! Garlic being the worst 😂 You will be ok! No one prepares you for what happens after you give birth either!! Take all as it comes!

I'm the same @Wineandchoccy never heed my own advice 🤣 I cooked everyone of DS meals throughout weaning he never ate from a jar or Elias kitchen. Swore I wouldn't do that again 🙈

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Ha ha yes I did that as well then we went out one day and I forgot her lunch so bought Ella’s kitchen pouch she wolfed it down like she had never been fed

angelmiracle thanks i am so surprised how much I think of the pregnancy etc . It's on my mind every second . Which is a great thing but I never expected this . Can't wait till im 12 weeks and can share the news with my family.

wineandchoccy aww glad someone else is holding out for a surprise altho I am looking forward to everyone revealing what they are having on here I think it will be really lovely!

BadBadBeans wow sounds like you had a tough time but persevered through it . You have everything planned in your head before the birth and so if things don't go to plan which I suppose it never does you become disheartened . I just don't want to feel like a failure .

@Jenlou1992 we’re not going to find out. I’m a complete control freak but I actually loved the guessing game of not knowing and everyone else having a good guess and their reasoning. It’s such a lovely thing at the end of labour/birth to be told. I actually asked the midwives to let DH tell me and it was a really special moment. It will take ALL of my willpower at the 20wk scan though. It’s so tempting!

I plan to bf again if I can. I found it tough last time. Really tough. DS lost a serious amount of weight by 4 months and I didn’t get the support I needed from groups or professionals but I’m going into it with my eyes open this time and won’t let Mum guilt take over. I’ll do what’s best for baby and my own mental health.

@Orville82 I second that regarding breastfeeding!

Hi ladies, can I join please 😊

I'm 4 +3, so still very early
EDD 29th March
1st child

We're planning to find out the sex of the baby when we can. I think if it was up to just me I'd wait but DH doesn't like surprises so wants to find out.

I plan to breastfeed if I can but I've heard it's really hard so going to try not to put pressure on myself to if it is too hard. Not sure if I'll actually manage that though.

I'm up again in the middle of the night with tummy pain from trapped wind, it's every night and It's driving me nuts. Can't remember the last time I had a full night's sleep! 😔