The March-ers (2019) #2

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Eek! On thread 2 already...welcome over everyone!

@hamandpease I told my mum this weekend at 7+4 but that was because I was staying with her so she could help out with childcare while I worked and I didn't want her to think I was just being lazy having a two hour nap!

@peonylover22 no cravings but I've totally gone off chocolate at the moment - unheard of!

@Peonylover22 you’re not alone! I did 2 tests on the day we got our BFP, and it hasn’t even occurred to me to take more since! Starting to wonder if I should be?
I guess the way I’ve been seeing it is if you’ve got a BFP, and you haven’t had any bleeding then there’s no reason to think you aren’t still pregnant? But if it helps others to keep testing then do what’s right for you, anything that gets us through the first trimester is good for me!

@SuperSharpShooter82 I paid for 2 additional scans last time due to anxiety and sickness. I was so unwell I knew I had to tell work early and I felt I couldn't until I saw a blob. Then having seen blob at 7w I couldn't hold out til scan at 13w so booked a 2nd private one at 10w. . Despite health concerns being raised I didn't continue my scan addiction, it's definitely easier once you see midwife regularly, and once you start feeling the bean dancing about.

Looks as though I am out. I have had heavy bleeding and bad cramps since Friday and passed what may or may not have been a sac this morning. It's been a miserable weekend trying to be a useful bridesmaid at a friend's wedding while feeling crap both physically and emotionally. Have a scan at EPU tomorrow but I'm already certain what's happened so in my mind it's more to make sure it's all finished and that there's no underlying issues than anything else. Good luck to everyone else on here, fingers crossed for you all.

@crazyhorselady so sorry to hear that must have been a very hard weekend for you X x

@crazyhorseylady I’m so sorry, and what awful timing - that must of been extremely difficult. I hope you can take some time out now for you? Xx

crazyhorseylady Im so sorry that must have been an awful weekend. Take care x

I’m so sorry crazyhorseylady what terrible timing for you. Look after yourself.
Sorry for your loss kneesupgaston
MistakenHoliday I have totally gone off sweet foods, which is bizarre because I normally love them. I just got an ice cream out of the freezer but then changed my mind and put it back!

Peonylover22 I have done 3 tests, 2 frer because there was 2 in the box and I was in a state of shock after the 1st test and 1 ic. I was obsessed in a previous pregnancy with taking them but even though I had dark lines I still had a mmc so I’m taking it as I’m pregnant right now.

Peonylover22 sorry I missed your other question I was at home for the 1st test 2nd test in a caravan in Scarborough on holiday

hamandpease we haven’t told anyone yet planning on waiting until the dating scan at 12 weeks all being well. The blood results came through about 2 weeks later last time but they did indicate a low risk from the nuchal fold at the scan

Sorry to hear @crazyhorseylady 

Seems like @RedRobin7 and @frankiefumbles have a little sub group going if you need any support from those in the same boat.

@peonylover22 @Bluebelltulip @puravida31 I did 2 tests but within hours of each other, mainly because after 11 months of trying I didn't believe the first (boots cheapest) so went and got an all singing and dancing digital + weeks one!

I've had no real cravings, started to like fruit and strong meaty flavours more than ever but as yet I've not had to send out DH at midnight for a nectarine or KFC! Hahaha

My nausea has been just that, there was 2 days around 6 weeks where I was very close to vomiting but the rest of the time it's just been a background feeling.

@Wineandchoccy so you'll tell people as soon as you've had the scan?

I'm just a bit confused whether the sonography can confirm all is ok whilst we're in the room?

Thanks v much

I have done 5 tests . One before AF was due with a nice line. Another a few days later with a darker line. A few days after that I had a bad feeling and my symptoms disappeared so I did another test but the control line didn’t work so I rushed out to buy another and it was faint. Then I bought some Clearblues and got a strong line and a 3+ so decided to stop testing.
I should buy shares in Clearblue!

@hamandpease The scan can’t tell you for definite whether everything is fine, it can tell you the dates based on size and the presence of a heartbeat plus telling whether you are having one or multiple babies. The scan measures for nuchal thickness which is the width of a black line that runs down the spine on baby but that is then used with your age plus results of some of the blood tests they do at the same time to give you a risk ratio for certain conditions. The results can take up to a couple of weeks to come back depending on where in the country you are.

If you want to tell people I would tell them after scan has confirmed that you have a normal sized baby with movements at 12 weeks. Personally I am telling some people beforehand as I want my support network to be there for me. In terms of further specific abnormalities I.e heart stuff and cleft palate etc these are looked for at 20week scan. Your 12 week scan is a dating scan/viability scan and a screening scan for three main conditions- downs/Edwards and Pataus combined with the results from your bloods.

Don’t mean to come across as harsh but I would do what feels right for you depending on family and friends etc that you want to tell! X

The sonographer will be able to tell you whether the measurement of the nuchal thickness looks within normal limits at the scan but can’t give you the results of the other tests x

hamandpease yes will probably tell parents, my brother and my boss after the scan but won’t tell many others until we get the results back.

Very tentatively joining. I’ve had three faint positives over the last two days but still getting negative on digitals. 🤞

@hamandpease with DS, I told two close friends immediately - there was no way I wasn't sharing it with them! We told parents and siblings and a few other friends at 7 weeks - mostly because we were spending a lot of time with my in-laws and I had just started feeling sick, and it was going to be patently obvious anyway. I waited till the 12 week scan and good test results to tell wider family / friends.

I've already told a good handful of friends about this pregnancy - my criteria is actually whether or not I'd be okay with them knowing if I had to terminate for medical reasons. I was so glad that several people (including family) already knew when I miscarried last time. It meant I had immediate support.

@puravida31 I think it's a very modern phenomenon to take lots of pregnancy tests. I didn't do daily ones with my last ones either but I really feel like I need the reassurance with this one - I want to see physical evidence that something is going on in there. That said, my last pregnancy I got a SUPER dark line at 6 weeks, which was about when everything stopped growing; I am very aware that seeing the lines progressing at this early stage obviously doesn't mean all is going to be well later. But I just cannae help myself... I've ordered 25 more cheap ones and I just don't care if it's silly, I'm going to do one every day until I feel confident that this is going to work out.

@crazyhorselady I'm so sorry to hear your sad news. You are an absolute superstar to have carried on with bridesmaid duties under the circumstances. I hope that EPU can confirm that everything has passed, and that you can now take some time to recover and look after yourself. x

@Peonylover22 I was in the bathroom at home at 2am, having just got my DS back to sleep. I was too scared that the noise of turning on the light would wake him up so I saw my BFP develop by the light of my mobile phone!

@Mathsymummy congrats! When do you think your due date might be?

@BadBadBeans I think 25th March based on likely conception date, 22nd March from lmp.

It’s a bit of a shock as we only decided to ttc on cd18 so were planning on just practicing this month 😂 and next month being our first proper month but I must have ovulated late.

This will be our third child, I have a 17mo and a 34mo, both boys

@BadBadBeans I don’t think it’s silly at all (im really sorry if my post implied that in any way), if it helps you and gives you reassurance then what’s the harm, stock up! I think for me personally I would drive myself round the bend with line comparisons, and create anxiety I perhaps wouldn’t of had otherwise. But it’s personal preference really, these early weeks are so hard, anything that helps has got to be a good thing!

Congratulations and welcome @mathsymummy sounds like your ‘practice’ went very well!!

@crazyhorseylady I'm so sorry. I hope it's a straightforward journey for you from here on out. Lots of love . xxx

@crazyhorselady You have had such a difficult weekend, I am sorry to hear your news. Make sure that you look after yourself xx

@peonylover22 I have done several tests!!! All in the week following my first BFP (It was at 3+3 so really early), and until I was feeling more symptoms, and definitely had missed my period I kept testing every day or two. I have stopped now.....but if I had more I would probably still POAS for the reassurance!
I was at work when I went out to buy a test (had a box at home, but once the thought entered my head it wouldn't go away!) and did it in the loo at work around lunch time.....and then had to wait til 6pm to tell my husband when we were both home from work! Such a long day! The day before I tested a client of mine asked me when my baby was due!!!!!!! And I answered "Unless you are psychic I'm not pregnant"!!!! Maybe she was! Or clearly I just looked chubby in my dress! (I have a big apron of excess skin after losing 9st and still have 2st+ to lose!)

Is there a Facebook group yet?