February 2019 part 3

[Bluebeee]

Part 3 already! And there is a split in the group. Hopefully everyone joins on this one. Shall we try and get a list of due dates going? I'm also interested to know where people live if they'd like to share. Not sure what other info would be needed. Also if anyone wants to join the fb group let me know.

Bluebeee EDD 10th Feb/ dc2 / Swindon

@DragonFlew
So
It just tells you about the position of your baby from
The pics you have and says which side a boy would be and which a girl would be etc etc :)

I am defo finding out I couldn't keep that a surprise lol and plus I'm
Super organised so would want to get lots of the right stuff for the gender

I'm the same as @Alicejj8x I'd like to know as I wouldn't want beige colours on the baby.

Impatient!!

I didn't find out with DS1 but we are this time. I have kept loads of boys stuff so want to know what I can keep and what I can pass on (my best friend has a 6 week old boy) x

Hey ladies! Sorry you are all feeling rubbish!! I finished last day of term yesterday (we had a trip to the farm) and I actually felt pretty good all day bar one last minute dash to the toilet with a wave of nausea! Luckily all my work ladies know which makes it so much easier! Averaging being sick about 3/4 times a day and heaving a couple of times between that but nothing actually coming up! 8 weeks today so like PP have said hoping this is the peak! I managed to eat a sandwich yesterday on the trip and it felt absolutely amazing to eat after being so hungry and not feeling sick! I can't wait for it to be over! Managed a croissant and a small toddler sized portion of pasta for dinner today so better than I have been!

I also got my booking in appointment through for the 30th July and my first scan is on the 15th August! Still seems like a long way away but I am sure t will come round quickly!!

I am also debating wether to find out the sex, we did with the others but it would be nice not to know, although it's so much easier to be organised if you do know and also the kids will probably want to know too!!

I absolutely cannot wait to find out the sex 😬 we found out with dd and loved knowing. I've never heard of that theory though it's interesting! Xx

I don’t think I want to find out the sex but DH does, largely as he really wants a girl!
Not sure how we will resolve that but don’t think one of us can know and the other not!

@MrsY87 I think if I was having twins I would want to find out too. Not sure why, maybe as you say as it’s a big enough surprise!

Interesting debate. What are some of the reasons people are choosing to find out or not find out? I want two know (although I am not fussed about buying gendered clothes, I feel a girl can wear blue just as well, and a boy pink). I just sort of want to know to help me bond? But hubby doesn't want to find out.

We found out the sex with DS1 and DS2, but we didn't tell anyone. It was nice having a little secret between us for the rest of the pregnancy. We just told everyone that we didn't find out - so they didn't keep asking us! I'm not bothered by clothes for 'girls' or 'boys' we bought loads of unisex stuff - theres much more than just 'beige' available now! Especially with gender neutrality being popular at the moment. I would love to be able to wait but I think it helped me bond with the baby more and narrow down my list of names!

We wanted to find out the sex with DD but the little tinker was asleep with her legs crossed at our 20week scan and she wasn't for shifting. Typically as soon as I got in the car she'd woken up 🤦‍♀️ so we had a private 4d scan at 28 weeks and found out then and just us and our mums knew and could be trusted to keep it to themselves.

This time we don't intend to tell DD I'm pregnant until we've had that 20week scan. Then thinking of booking a 4D one before xmas and bringing her along and finding out then.....we're finding out now as DD will want to know Ihave bags of DDs clobber and I want to know what's worth keeping and what isn't.

We’re definitely finding out! We did with the first two as well — everyone’s different, but it really helped me bond with the baby, like I kind of knew who I was waiting for!

Also yes, knowing the sex helps with the naming process in a big way. Our first two were named shortly after the 20w scan; this time I think it will take a bit longer since we’ve already had one of each!

Has anyone else already told older kids? It hadn’t occurred to me to wait until our first scan to tell DD (nearly 3) but now I’m wondering if I should have? She’s very keen for it to be a girl

I just think personally finding out makes it more exciting 😬
And I like the idea of doing a gender reveal to families with the ideas I've seen online :)

I personally would just be super organised and want to get them
Clothes to fit their gender or any personalised bits :)

I didn't find out with DS1 as I wanted a surprise. This time I think we will find out purely as I want to be a bit more organised and know if I need to give of all the boys clothes from the attic to my best friend who has just had a baby boy!! We won't be telling anyone we know though!

We will be putting off telling DS who is 3.5 for as long as possible just in case something goes wrong. He's quite switched on though so don't think we'll make it as far as 20 weeks scan without him figuring it out!!

We're finding out. Last time we were convinced it was a boy. It wasn't. We spent the next few months completely disagreeing on names and only finally agreed when I was mid surgery!

We have a lot of neutral things - deliberately - but also a lot of girls clothes (presents) so from an organising perspective it will make it easier to know so I can wash and sort etc. My mum also knits (amazingly) so she wants to know too!

@hayleyfx is it you that lives in the Highlands? Will you be on the Highlands Midwife TV show?! 

I'm currently watching it on Channel 5

@jeanzbeanz what's your usual blood pressure? Mine is usually on the low side too and I'm struggling so I think it's dropped even further. I'm usually 108ish/60-70

@Alicejj8x interesting on ramzi theory! Have you tried the pee test? If it fizzes or not in bicarbonate that it's boy or girl? Was accurate for my DD 
We are finding out as soon as poss again too @hayley013 ! I loved knowing what I was having and it helped me bond with DD in the womb. Also there's no way I'm patient enough to wait 9 months to find out what I was having!!

The gender pee test: www.healthline.com/health/pregnancy/baking-soda-gender-test#process

There's also loads of videos/reveals on YouTube

Interesting reading comments re telling other DC. My DH has told our DD but she's only 2 so doesn't really understand. I would have rather waited but as I can't pick her up or anything it's easier to have a reason to explain...

@Susannach I'm not telling my daughter who is 3 and a half for a while. They have no concept of time so it's a long way away, also she will tell everyone!!!

I find out the sex before but didn't tell anyone and it was FUN! Everyone thought I was having a boy haha! I'm having the harmony test so will know at 12 weeks. Praying for another girl so I don't have to buy any more stuff!!!

@emoji my BP is 110/60. I'm not very clued up but believe that's fairly low? And yes I think it's lower atm.

@jeanzbeanz it's a little low but not too bad, but if lower than normal it will make you light headed or dizzy. Try to keep your fluids up it will help if you can eat little and often and have salty things will all help increase it slightly.
I have always had low BP usually around 90/70. I dropped to around 75/55 first 9ish weeks now back at 90/60 so still a bit dizzy but nowhere near as bad.

You're like me @jeanzbeanz, it's low but not dangerous. I do catch myself feeling lightheaded from time to time so we need to take it easy!
Bloody hell @twiglet I remember once I was in hospital (not pregnancy related) and my BP dropped to 90/60 and they wouldn't let me leave the hospital till I went above 100! Will you be closely monitored throughout your pregnancy due to your low BP?

I just loved knowing that it was a little girl, I felt a lot more bonded to her, could pick lovely things to buy, though there definitely are lots of gorgeous neutral stuff.

We haven't told DD yet, she is 4, would be VERY excited and would probably tell anyone that will listen, so until we're ready to tell everyone, she won't know 😂

I was 90/60 at booking but she said it was totally normal in pregnancy. I couldn’t kneel or bend at that point without feeling dizzy when I stood up and I was cleaning out under the sofa today so assume it’s gone back up now (10 weeks today!).

@AliceRR That’s good that you’ve had an okay day. The dizziness was much worse earlier as by 4pm all I’d eaten was a slice of toast 🙈

@Alicejj8x I know it’s just an amazing feeling! So nervous for my next scan 😬

@emoji yeah I’m from the Highlands but I actually only heard about that programme the other day, I’m going to have to give it a watch!

We're not planning to find out what we're having. We didn't with dd - everyone thought we were having a boy so it was a lovely surprise. We'd chosen names for both genders but I didn't want to tell anyone until we'd tested it out on her for a day or so. I'm usually really curious about things but loved the surprise last time and I don't think it affected bonding or anything.

I know it's rare (especially this way around) but I know someone who was told at the 20 week scan she was having a boy and went down the very gender specific route. When the baby was born, it was a girl.