March 2019

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Hello all! I got my BFP this morning at 10dpo and am apparently due 1st March with my third baby. Now feeling that familiar paranoia about what might go wrong, but hopeful all will be well. Is anyone else due in March yet? 😬

I saw my GP today who literally wrote on a note pad my details and said that the midwife reads through the notes each Friday... is it me or does this seem very laid back (or I'm just being super paranoid)

I've now got to sit back and wait for an appointment with the midwife and for her to book my 12 week scan. I wasn't offered an early scan,, think I'll end up paying privately as waiting another 7 weeks for a scan is feeling like torture right now. Would rather have an 8 week check to ease my anxiety if I can.

@sejohn congratulations. I'm so sorry to hear about your loss last year. I had a mc at 11 weeks in January so I'm feeling the trepidation too. Debating on an early scan as one thing that bothered me is that I don't have a scan picture for the baby I lost. If I'd had an 8week scan I would have had that picture, despite the outcome.

Been struggling with asthma today. Hoping that this won't be a regular occurrence through pregnancy. Does anyone else suffer with it?

TheWanderlust That sounds similar to how I arranged my booking in last time. I went to the GP and the receptionist hand wrote your details in a book and then the midwife collected the details every week and rang people on the list such a old fashioned way of doing things.

@hamandpease it's pretty standard practice to move over to a secret Facebook group at some point - it's much easier to follow conversations and it means we can share photos and real details and arrange m eet-ups etc. A few people mentioned upthread that they prefer to wait for 12 week scans, which is perfectly understandable. Though my 2016 group started super early - when we were all 6 or 7 weeks - but people moved over later too when they were ready.

@Wineandchoccy it's like a practice from dark ages. At least the GP explained shared care and seemed super happy for me 😅... I'll get everything except scans at my surgery unless any complications develop.

@thefirsttimer (yes I got it right!) it's been between 32 and 37 deg and finally it's pouring with rain. I don't know what to do with myself, I'm just pretty much sat in the heat feeling hungover. At least I'm not at work!

@frenchgal if everything is perfect and your baby has advanced textbook fast then it's just feasible to see the heartbeat that soon. The problem is, even if we know our ovulation we don't quite know when it was fertilised. So say you're a day off on the ovulation date and it took a full 48hrs for the swimmers to do their thing, you could be three days behind. Whilst that's not a lot, it's a huge amount with our little beans at the moment. They pretty much double in size week on week in the early days. It would mean you'd only be 6+2 which is pretty marginal for seeing a heartbeat as far as I can tell. If you are happy to go in and have the test knowing full well that you may not see a heartbeat and be able to deal with the emotional impact of worrying about that, then it's probably fine. I believe if you don't see a heartbeat they invite you back for a rescan in a fortnight.

That said if you're six weeks today you must be one of the most "advanced" on the thread so you'll likely be getting your scan before most of us anyway! Is anyone else at six weeks yet?

@Sarahandduckarehigh i like this article for stats although obviously it's a blog not the NHS.
expectingscience.com/2015/08/26/lies-damned-lies-and-miscarriage-statistics/

I'm desperately keen to have a scan but I'm going to try to wait until 8 weeks.

So I went to my booking appointment today. All good and midwife is lovely. However I’ve been having fairly bad crampy pain all day and it’s not settling down so she’s booked me an early pregnancy scan on Friday to check everything is still ok. I will be somewhere between 5+5 and 7+6 then (lmp was all over the place) so fingers crossed they can see something and it’s good news.

It is genuinely secret. But one has to have real names to set up the group and add people. Shall I give it a go? I guess we need to have real names sent via PM rather than on the board and ideally a few admin volunteers 👍 am I getting ahead of myself? 😂

@frankiefumbles we're only half way through March due dates so far, so it might make sense to wait until we have pretty much everyone joined? My experience from last time is that the mumsnet thread moves so quickly it's easy for people not to know there is already a Facebook group set up and try to set up a new one, and it all becomes hideously complicated!
Happy to volunteer to admin if helpful - I do it for my 2016 group.

Ooo @frankiefumbles I'll be an admin if you need another

How many of us are there?

@frankiefumbles In a previous group I joined we had to add the admin as a friend (real name sent in a PM on here), then get added to the group and then the admin deleted us from their friends list. Not sure if you can add someone if you aren't friends with them?

I'm on the fence about joining a fb group already. Would be nice to find out who you ladies are and put some faces to the names but at the same time I don't want to have to leave the group if things go wrong!

Okay. Understood. I only suggested because it's so hard to follow this thread and it would be lovely to have separate conversations slightly more organised conversation about scans and midwifes etc. I appreciate it's quite early for it to be "real". I was thinking it may be easier to gradually add people and comment each week to say there is a page, rather than ending up adding loads of people at the end?

I don't mind. Never done it before so don't know what's for the best. Maybe just give me a nudge and we (@hamandpease and @Sarahandduckarehigh) can get it set up in due course when people think it's appropriate? We will need quite a few people to get it sorted and set up but hopefully everyone will be nice after that (!).

To be totally honest I'm coming up for nap time so I'm somewhat pleased I don't have to do it right now 😂 I was full of enthusiasm a few minutes ago and now it's all gone to rats 😂

frankiefumbles happy for you to set a fb group

It is quite exciting knowing real people and going through it together from the beginning... and I suppose there's enough of us monitoring these threads to tell new people... I am anxious about joining so early but I also don't want to miss out 🙈😂

@Redrobin7 yes, you have to be friends with an admin to be added to the group. The way I did it last time was to send a screenshot of my Facebook profile pic and name and ask people to search for me on Facebook and add me as a friend. I then added them to the group and removed them as friend.

@frankiefumbles if you are keen to create one now I'm happy to do it if you'd like. Then those who want to move over now can do so, and we can just do a reminder every few days that there's a fb group and how to join so people can move over when they feel ready?

You girls are all so organised. A Fb group sounds good, will be lovely to share our journeys together.

Eek!! Should we do it? (Feel like I've been a bad influence now...!)

Yeah let's do it!

Sounds like @Sarahandduckarehigh understands how to do it 😂

But we need to call it something non descript!

@hamandpease It's okay nobody can see you're in the group unless they're in it so it can be baby related and safe 😊 It won't appear on your fb where your friends could see it!

I don't mind either way, understand what people are saying about jumping the gun but also makes sense to have the conversation a little more organised than this single thread! Happy to join a fb group if one is offered 😊

Also if anyone else is struggling with a cold/congestion I've just tried a natural homemade decongestant and it's the first time I've been able to breathe at night for nearly 2 weeks! Result!

Ive sent @Sarahandduckarehigh and @RedRobin7 PMed you both. My app doesn't seem to do PMs so had to go on the website to do it.

Was going to call it the March-ers as assume it will be totally invisible to the public.

It will be completely secret

Marchers
Daffodils
Spring 2019
Marching on to parenthood
??????

Any other ideas re name? It can obviously be changed at any point. Tesco Clubcard? I can't think of anything else 😂