October 2018 baby bus part 3

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I’m creating this thread so that we can continue the October 2018 baby bus. Only one page left on ours and once it completes we can’t share this link so getting this done now .... all aboard!

Sorry for the triple post, it said it failed the first two

@unicornchaser I was at the dr today as asked him about sleeping on my back, he said as long as it's comfortable there's no reason not too. He said you will know yourself when it's not comfortable to lie that way but to go a head and keep lying on it if it's comfortable!

That's great, thanks so much @Smithguy86
Was starting to panic I would do poor baby some harm lying on my back to late but will stick with how I'm comfy then

@unicornchaser I picked up my Bounty pack today and there was a leaflet in there from Tommy's which recommended sleeping on your left side from 28 weeks

Hope everyone is doing well. Finally feeling some movement which is amazing and we've picked names. 20wk scan Thursday very nervous but excited too.

Also the Tommy's guidance is to fall asleep on your side, not to worry if you wake up on your back. Just to roll back onto side to fall asleep again. Sorry you're in pain @unicornchaser :(

Scan tomorrow! I am v scare-cited.

@unicornchaser I was wondering and worried about the same, I read same advice, you will wake up if there is a problem. I'm just starting to try and go on side as I usually sleep flat on back. Congrats everyone on your lovely scan news. So happy for everyone and excited to try and pick names now! I think it will take us a lonnng time to decide.

@milknosugar1 oh bless you. I weed on my new carpet when I sneezed when getting dressed the other day. Oh the shame. Don’t hide yourself away for another 20 weeks though, don’t be ashamed of wetting yourself , get some tena and visit your gp about your piles. I had them after ds and got some uniroid cream which sorted them out after a while. But make sure you eat lots of fibre so no pushing involved! You’ll be grand, just try to chill and if all you want to do one day is put your feet up then do it!

We had our scan Friday and it’s another boy for us. The photos are almost identical to ds which is exciting as he’s just ace in every way.

I noticed at the weekend my foot is hugely swollen and hasn’t gone down at all - worthy of a call to gp? Obvs head is thinking early signs of preeclampsia but think I’m probably being a little ridiculous. Neither of my prior pregnancies have given me swelling so I’m in new territory here! Can’t wear any of my shoes!

Also, there was a huge sleep on side campaign from Tommy’s . Please don’t sleep on your backs! Drs often have old fashioned and out dated views regarding pregnancy and don’t keep up to date on new research.

From 28 weeks** but best to get into good habits now...

@milknosugar1 what a stressful time, of course you’re grateful for your baby, that is never in doubt but you should also not worry about feeling rubbish in yourself, it’s always best to share, and this group is fantastic for that.
I too have had a few wee incidents! I have major hay fever, uncontrollable sneezing stresses me out, even sitting down doesn’t help! In fact it sometimes makes it worse! Definitely get some tena, it takes the worry away. I keep doing the kedgels but I was never great before, I’d never go on a trampoline for example.
Good luck for your scan this week.

@penguina, I don’t know about the swelling but it’s worth a trip to your gp, or call your midwife. Do you think you’ve got a bad reaction to a bite? Although it sounds more extreme than that. My arm is really swollen from a mosquito bite. I got one of those clicky electric shock things from Boots which seems to be working and doesn’t have any medicine in.

@Milknosugar1 It's my first baby (well, furthest along I have got with any pregnancy) and you don't know half the stuff that will happen do you! I have been a bit down as well with things like that. Mainly just body changes I didn't know would happen and can't do much about. I've got anemia, so these iron tablets are playing havoc with my toilet habits (won't go into detail as it's just too gross), I'm constantly tired and I swear this mid pregnancy glow is a myth! Have you done pelvic floor exercises? I am trying to do mine but keep forgetting, as I'm told I won't be the same after a baby, argh! Also, developed eczema and severe nasal congestion. I am just thinking this little baby is going to be super strong and healthy as she is taking every last nutrient and bit of energy from me, there is nothing left for myself haha. Glad you have a lovely husband. Hope you can have a decent sleep and feel better in the morning. Sorry for the counter moan, but just thought you should know it's not just you who is not feeling this amazing, top of the world pregnant vibe we're meant to have all the time.

@Penguina a little boy! That's cute. Hope your foot swelling goes down.

@Milknosugar1 sorry it's a tough time, it's ok to feel rubbish and grateful to be pregnant at the same time. Pregnancy is so difficult, there are people who sail through it but I am clearly not one. I can understand why you worried about moaning, with my first he was unplanned I was using contraception and it failed. I hadn't been with my partner long (and although he is amazing and we are still going strong it was a worry) I had awful SPD my pelvis had gone completely out of alignment and I had never imagined how draining daily pain was until it was happening to me. However there was a lady at my work who is so lovely and I am really friendly with. she had been struggling to conceive for a long long time. I found the hardest thing was feeling like I had to be positive about the whole pregnancy constantly (although it wasn't planned, he was a very wanted baby), when actually I was worried, in pain and knackered.

You see pregnant woman on here getting slated all the time for struggling as they "should be grateful" but you can be grateful and still feel shit! So have a good moan if you need to. I wish I had moaned more with my first.

Also apart from the plies which took a couple of months after birth to shrink away (or whatever they do) all the other discomfort from pregnancy (spd, peeing etc) all went straight after birth.

Hope you feel better soon.

And good luck with the scans everyone x

@milknosugar1 sending huge hugs. Sorry everything is feeling so rubbish at the moment. Absolutely ok to feel like that and still grateful for the baby! I spent the whole week before last just crying and being shouty and angry with my husband, it was horrible but I think it must have been a hormone spurt as I did literally wake up the next week feeling calmer and better!

Also... I have piles too. Tbh I suffered with them before pregnancy as well, with chronic fissures to boot (sexy!!) and had to go to the docs about one when I was 6 or 7 weeks gone! I recommend anusol ointment, epsom salts in the bath, and fybogel sachets twice a day alongside as much water as you can muster. Piles are SO miserable but they do go away. you're not doomed to have them for the next 20 weeks.

When is your next midwife appt? If you're feeling faint, is there any chance your iron levels are a bit low?

Sending lots of love. Hopefully scan will give you a little boost and you can know you're more than halfway through so it's downhill from here... right?!

@penguina yes I think there are two aspects to back sleeping. One is that it can compress a vein that makes the mum feel faint. So that one you will know about as it will make you feel funny. But Tommy's research suggests a link between side sleeping and good oxygen levels to the baby, so they recommend falling to sleep on your side from 28 weeks for the baby. I think GPs maybe know the first one but the second is quite recent so they haven't caught up??

Hi everyone, another moany post for you all but I feel in a similar situation to some of you. I'm fed up of pregnancy now but I'm so grateful to be pregnant. I have been signed off work sick for over a month now because of pelvis pain. I work as a chambermaid in a hotel so being at work is not an option for me. My sickness doesn't seem to want to leave and the mood swings are getting worse.

On top of all this I'm currently moving house and my family have been great at supporting me and helping me out with things I've needed on the other hand my OH isn't speaking to me as he feels I wont let his family help which is not true, I appreciate anyone's help at this time as I can't do much for myself.

We're really struggling to get along at the minute and I'm not quite sure what to do. For the past few weeks I've been trying to get him more involved with the baby stuff by asking to go shopping for some things we need but he makes excuses every time. I know he's excited about the baby as he keeps talking about the scan on Friday which tbh I'm dreading going to with him because I feel like he's not as involved as id like him to be. I understand some men aren't really fussed which pram or cot the baby has but as its our first baby I thought it would be nice for us both to experience this together but he just doesn't seem to want to.

Apart from that I'm feeling more movement everyday which is making me happier.

Sorry for the long post, you're all so lovely here I thought you wouldn't mind.

@wednesday93 sorry to hear you're feeling rubbish. Feels like there are a few of us here just hoping and waiting for things to ease up a bit. Hope you get settled in soon, we just moved as well. Hope you start feeling a bit better once all your stuff is in and sorted, nice just getting a bedroom and the kitchen sorted.

@wednesday93 and lovely news about the movement

Hi everyone :) I've just come across this thread so thought I would jump on! First baby, currently 19+3weeks due October 27th! Having a baby boy! Congrats to you all on your bfp's :)

20 week scan today. Baby had his or her legs crossed the whole time.

Team Yellow!

Hope you're both ok @Milknosugar1 and @wednesday93, this pregnancy lark isn't easy!

@Ceebs85 did you want to find out? Maybe you could get a private scan. I'm team yellow by choice.

Welcome @ExpectingFirst, my EDD is 29th so I'll be here til the end with you!

@Milknosugar1 I saw this on BBC news http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/stories-44360756, I might set the accompanying image as my homescreen to help me remember...