May Mummies, w/c 14th May, What a lovely day to have a baby! Are you listening babies?

[Mrsjaffabiffa]

Morning............

It a bad day! Lg&t I want to be in your gang, I liked being 29.

Yep, everything has gone quiet. Still some niggly period pains and a few B-H's. I am resting during the day as sleeping at night is getting difficult. I can feel the baby getting lower and lower.

Distinct lack of gourds in the co-op today, lol.

Mrs.JB--Jorja is adorable.

Dizzy--congrats, can't wait to hear more details.

Well everyone I'm still here. Still pregnant. I've started getting the "Are you still pregnant phone calls" I'm still losing globs of mucus, but nothing to write home about.

One more week until EDD, so am very excited about that

I hope everyone is having a good weekend, and hopefully we'll get another baby soon.

My midwife told me that risk of tearing is least if you give birth on all fours and/ or in water... I know you had an epidural Scoot, so both were out, but see how you get on this time and see how mobile you are.

I actually think what Mars said is even more important tbh. We talked through all this in Hypnobirthing. The teacher reckons that none or just one (or something) of her clients have ever torn and she taught us what Mars said. About going with your body and they talk about "breathing down" the baby rather than "pushing". You breathe down imagining your exhalation making a J shape as it travels down your body and upwards at your pelvis with the contractions. Supposed to keep it all at a gentle pace so your perineum has time to stretch.

hello all.

i still here too..went to town today in pretent of walking baby out but ended up getting really pissed off with all the stares i keep getting!! (no ones ever seen a preg woman before)

been on a mission since i got back scrubbing my bathroom and toilet..nesting nesting.

Can't sleep...still pregnant....arghhh

Hey Sumsey - wish I was feeling nesty. There is mould that I've just noticed in the bathroom and I can't be asssed doing anything about it.

TYG - I've got a good mental picture about the J shaped breathing. I need to go back and keep reading my hypnobirthing book

Morning all,

Thanks re the advice-just glad to know that one tear need not equal a bloody great rip the next time..my midwife has been so dippy from beginning to end that I just figured she was more than likely to have missed something..

Will give it a go with the breathing and all-have been listening to the CD you sent Tam so hopefully something will have gone in...

Had crummy nights sleep, DD very restless and cat up at 4.20 am, then DH snoring..
DD asleep now though so back in bed with her..library shut today which leaves us with a problem when she wakes up however-DH is downstairs revising-so we will either be confined to upstairs all day or we will have to go out-I feel so knackered today that the latter does not appeal-but the weather looks nice so we cant stay in all day..oh the joys of mixing late pregnancy, a ratty toddler with a cough and cold, and a DH studying to be an accountant...cant even get my Mum down to help,(yes, thats how rubbish I feel today that I would even consider the parents coming)as then DH really would have no where to revise-he tried at their house once when we were home for the weekend only for my Dad to go up, sit on the bed where the desk is, and say'hard work this revision is it?', then read the paper for 2 hours whilst DH was attempting to concentrate-I just dont think they get the concept of revision!

Helllo...

Just in case anyone was under the impression that I might be off having a baby - no, still here. Went to the school First Holy Communions yesterday (I am in charge of the music, so I think novenas of the Rosary had taken place to ensure that the baby stayed put so I could play yesterday...) and then straight to my Dad's to have a "Farewell to House" party - they move and he retires on Wednesday, so my sister her family, my brother and step-sister were all there, and we really did have a lovely day, especially as my Dad gave us all huge cheques very unexpectedly!! My Dad is going to Spain on Wednesday, so is likely not to be here when the baby arrives unfortunately.

I am having really no signs at all of imminent birth - no Show, no leaking colostrum, not a trickle of waters, only some braxton hicks, which I've been having for ages anyway. I just think that this will end up another section, and I might as well have opted for it electively at 38 weeks and could be getting on with it now. I know I am a stuck record...

Morning all....

Heloooo MrsJB, so glad you and Jorja are home. She is such a cutie! The others look besotted with her You did do well to go from 5-10cm in 20 mins!

Scooter i had a third degree tear with dd but only 2nd degree with ds and it was nothing like the 3rd degree. Healed really well and no probs at all. I delivered dd on my back on the bed far too quickly with a doc hovering over me with the ventouse cup. With ds i was at home and on all fours listening very carefully to the midwife.

I had a proper false labour last night Started getting back turned in to contractions at about 11. We were up, me pacing and bouncing on the ball and dh watching 'The Grudge'(horrid, made him turn it off)I was sooooo tired i thought i would go to bed and try and sleep, so off we went and lo and behold it all stopped I think if i had carried on pacing and gone to the hospital for a VE it would have carried on

So here i am, a week over. Hopeful that something will happen today though, i still have that low backache. I see the midwife for a sweep tom so if im still here im pretty sure that will tip me over the edge >

How is everyone else today?

morning all. just read all your advice to scoot. very interesting to me too as a 1st timer...some very wise women here!

3 days til my EDD but no signs at all...none of this mucus or waters leaking or anything that you lot been talking about. not sure i even had any BH!? just a heavy wiggly lump strapped to my front making me tired!!

tested out my TENS machine on DH yesterday and he LOVED it. Might have to buy him one! He's one of those who always got aches and pains (when really hes very fit and healthy...you know the sort) and imagines all sorts of life threatening illnesses every time he has a little niggle....hypocondriact!? (cant spell it) my brother in law calls him Dot Cotton!! haha
anyway...hopefully i will get a look in with the TENS when the time comes!!!

Went out last night shock horror..1st time in ages. managed to stand in bar chatting for 2 hrs with my healed boots on but gave up after that. and the state of my ankles when i got home!? opps... grim...
lots of lingering looks in the bar...pregnant women obviously dont go out...this place was great tho...no smoking..i for one cant wait for 1st July..being able to go out without eyes streaming and hair clothes stinking when you leave.

so what are we all doing today?

lg&t you did the best thing. No point in going to hospital only to have it all stop and them fill you full of doubts. Every thing helps. It's all doing something. Don't fret my angel.

Can't believe how much you May ladies have caught my attention lol

Well that probably expalins the tear then largegadnt as I had a ventouse with DD nad a consultant from hell screaming at me NOT to push after her head came out-but it was all very confusing and happened very quickly with the suction and all..not a good experience..If I see that consultant this time im going to tell her to get lost!She went beseurk at me afterwards, 'In told you NOT to push' she was yelling'kinda runined the moment I met DD!
Slow and steady seems to be the order of the day!

It sounds promising about last night though hon..Am SURE it will happen soon-and after al that a sweep must be the final hint the baby will need!

Well done on actually going out Madeindevon!And in heels!I have been in flats for a month now-oh for a bit of elevation..

your Dad will miss the baby Intheseshoes-but glad you had a nice day en famille anyway..nice to have something to take your mind off it..thats my prob now Ive too much time to think about it with DH otherwise engaged till Wednesday..

Im off to dry and straighten hair now, (approx 3 hours-but dont want t not do it lest I end up in hospital later with an afro), then going to try to take DD to Toys R Us, Pets at home for cat food, Tescos for our food and the park to allow DH to revise in peace..all that might be a bit ambitious TBH as it has just rendered me out of breath getting upstairs..

You don't want to see doctors and consultants unless you have to. Just trust yourself scoot and trust your body. Get your DH/birthing partner to repeat the instructions (eg don't push pant - like blowing out candles) quietly in your ear. Sometimes mums in labour, as you said, get confused by all that's going on.

mornign girls,

Way to going out when about to pop out a baby I too hit the bright lights last night. Had a great night then spent the 1 hour car journey home suffering from the most god awful pains thought it was it but i think I just danced a bit to much to the proclaimers!! Madeindevon how on earth did you manage to get your feet in high heels. So right about the stares from people at being in a pub and heavily preggers. But sod it had a fab night.

LG&T think this is it you are defo going to be next.

Scootermum take it easy find a cafe and give DD a cake so you can have a rest.

Marslady any advice for us first timers who are bricking it - please.

juliewoolie... who do you have going in with you?

Remember these 3 things:

It's going to hurt
It's going to be hard BUT you can do it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

All that I've said to scoot applies.

Trust yourself, trust you body. Ask for quiet and calm when you are labouring. Make sure you and your birthing partner know what you want. Ask the medical reason why decisions are being taken (get partner to do that). Allow yourself to go into your zone and breathe your baby out.

You will do great. Stay home as long as you can doing normal things or resting. Make sure to eat and drink when labour starts and go to the loo every couple of hours to empty your bladder.

Looking forward to your birth story!

hullo! am typing one handed whilst sleep deprived so forgive me for not going back through the whole thread! can see that we have some more may babies with us now - congratulations one and all! seems like just yesterday we were trading morning sickness tips and wonderimg when we should start wearing maternity clothes! i have to say that i really, really miss being pregnant. i don't know if this is because conor came early and psychologically i was geared up for being pregnant that little bit longer. or maybe i'm just mad! midwife visited for the last time yesterday and asked whether i'd like to be a 'customer' again in a year's time or so. i laughed and looked at dh, who was quick to say "no! no!". i just said that i'd like to but i think dh would go on the run to rio or something.

i totally sympathise with everyone experiencing pre-birth nerves and jitters. conor's birth wasn't how i planned or imagined it at all, which was crushing at the time but it turned out positively. i think that the hypnobirthing really helped - even though i didn't get to finish the book and had only listened to the CD half a dozen times (falling asleep immediately each time), i felt more positive and less panicked and delivered him with much more ease than my other two. in a nutshell, proper contractions (as opposed to fairly benign 'Prostin gel contractions') kicked in with a vengeance immediately and one after the other. two hours later, conor popped out with ease using just two contractions and one puff of gas and air. it could have been really stressful - the hospital i ended up in was some throwback to the 1950s and wouldn't let partners on the wards outside of standard visiting hours unless you were at least 5 cms dilatedand on the labour ward. the midwife on the ante natal ward refused to believe me when i said that things had kicked off and wouldn't transfer me to labour ward or phone DH. half an hour later i snuck to the loo and phoned DH myself. i then persuaded her to do a VE and she found that i was 7 cms. she finally took me off to the labour ward and once inside a delivery room, i just had time to climb onto the bed, get on all fours and push him out. poor DH missed it all. he is gutted about that. i'm thinking about writing to the hospital to urge them to change their ridiculously out of date policies. tow other women on the ante natal ward were in the same position as me; labouring alone and without support. one woman almost gave birth in the room - last i heard was the midwife hurriedly wheeling her bed to the labour ward while shouting "don't push or you'll have it in the corridor!" the poor woman was in tears. even though all this happened, i still feel that i handled the actual giving birth part of it well and that hypnobirthing did help me in this. i'll be thinking of everyone who's feeling nervous right now and sending positive birthing vibes your way!

Finally, if you're still reading this stupidly long post of mine, you might be interested in seeing a wee pic of conor in my profile. he's still lovely and perfect and peachy! and that's what it's all about at the end of it - holding our lovely babies and marvelling at them.

hello all its official i am 41 weeks today just a tad grumpy. but at least the end is in sight.

hey cinnamontam...sure my nesting is just boredom induced...plus been meaning to do it for bloody weeks.

Creena - Conor is a cutie!! Congrats again

How bizarre Creena. Even 12 years ago, when I had DD in Dublin, partners were allowed on the labour ward. They were very strict about only letting one person on the labour ward - no multiple birth partners, but to say you can't have anyone! Weird. I would definitely write.

I'm still pregnant....

Oh, couple of un-painful, yet promising contractions this morning, but nothing since.

DH will be gutted if he has to go to work in the morning.

Hi all,

Still pregnant, still hoping not to be very soon.

Creena you have such cute boy. It makes me anxious to see mine soon.

Am officially 39+1. It's weird because Mateo was 1 week old the day I was supposed to turn 39 weeks in his pregnancy. Am currently wondering what 40 weeks pregnant will be like, and am hoping I don't hit 41 and am fearing 42 weeks.

I can't wait to give birth. I hate being pregnant, but it's all worth it to give birth.

MKG you are WEIRD! Looking forward to giving birth, are you mad??? Im looking forward to it all being done and dusted but thats as far as it goes.

Creena he is such a sweetie and so accurate to see the 3d scan of him in the same position! Awful way for the labour ward to treat you, defo write and help change it for others.

Sumsey we are in exactly the same position When will your hospital induce you? We are left 10 days here, but it depends on how busy the ward is and if you want negotiate

Obviously my baby is coming later today.......................

Mars im visualisisng this baby out like you wouldnt believe, it is in fact wrapped up and lying next to me in his crib.

TYG at least it may have done something this morning. N is the same, "i dont want to go in to work tomorrow...."

Hi all. Just a quick nip on between bathing kids to let you know i have finally added some pics to my profile! It's taken me this long to get it sorted!

Evening,

TYG, LG&T You still here? Sorry the most annoying thing to be asked but I couldn't resist. [smug, I'm a bitch but love you dearly emotion]

I know you are all totaly fed up and hate hearing it but in a really caring way "the end is close"

I know we've all said it but that woman is a saint, I've only had 1 full day of 3 kids and it's bloomin difficult. 6 beeejessus, OMG!
God I'm knackard, Jorja is fantastic, sleeping and feeding brill, but the other two dc's is what makes it so much more tireing. A back to work tommorow, No rest for the self employed. he is only next door though, lol

Creena, Conor is so sweet, very edable looking to me.
Abbylou, lovely to see the pics of your bundle too, your dc's are lovely.

Evening all,

Intheseshoes, I was about to ask if you had sneaked off and had a baby before me . Glad you had a good time with your family.

Scoot, you had a ventouse delivery and they didn?t give you an episiotomy? I thought that was standard practice? It sounds like you had a hell of a time of it the 1st time round. I had a ventouse with DS and they gave me the episiotomy, which wasn?t pleasant by any means but it did mean I didn?t get shouted at . I?m sure that this isn?t a reflection of what will happen this time. I mentioned to my consultant about not wanting a 2nd ventouse delivery and he said that if you needed one 1st time round, it was no indication of what would happen on subsequent deliveries. I'm nervous though. I keep telling myself it's only natural....

Creena, definitely write if you have the time/energy. What a bizarre policy! You and AbbyLou make very cute babies though!!!

I have been tired, hormonal b*tch-from-hell this pm. Poor DS and DH. I found myself getting really irritated by DS, which is so unfair on him ? he can hardly be held responsible for his terrible mother being 39+2 weeks pgt. It was like a vicious circle ? I?d be intolerant to the usual whims and demands of a toddler, feel terrible for not appreciating him and being more patient, which set my hormones off even more! Okay, winge over. Eating more chocolate may help ....