November 2018 #2

[BadBadBeans]

Ante-natal thread for babies due this November, continued...

Stats spreadsheet is here - add and update yourself as needed!

@TheImprobableGirl Gosh that seems like a long time to wait. I hope you can be seen earlier, you must be really worried. Do they do private scans in the same unit maybe? Thinking of you.

so much sad news today. wishing you all the best

Oh @hellotoyellow I am so, so sad to read about your scan result. Hugs to you. What a horrid week this is turning out to be for this thread.

@TheImprobableGirl oh how awful to have to wait nearly a week. I so hope a slot comes up on Friday for you. If it's going to drive you mad not knowing, is there somewhere you could go for a private scan perhaps?

@toasterstrudle Yes, it's all too easy to forget to count one's blessing and we all do it! Although if you hate certain aspects of being pregnant then I think it's important to be able to express that and not have to pretend it's all rainbows and glitter! I guess the thing to keep in perspective is that it's only part of being pregnant?

I'm struggling a bit with anxiety this week. My DS is in disposable nappies and I have chosen now, when he is 20 months old, to wonder about what chemicals that means he has next to his skin 24/7. I'm almost afraid to start researching it in case I don't like what I find. Going to do a bulk order of Naty nappies later which I should have probably been doing all along. I just feel like it is so hard to get everything right!

I guess I'm feeling a bit run down and tired. I'm still having really vivid dreams pretty much nightly. And we are trying to break DS 's habit of coming in our bed at night which means I am spending lots of time out of bed settling him. I feel knackered and wonder if I'm a bit iron deficient (I'm veggie). Reluctant to take supplements as they constipate me, but might have to give it a whirl. I'm also a bit scared about the early scan we have planned for 10 ish weeks, especially with all the sad news we have had on here. Argh. I think I might need chocolate!

@Potkettleblack2 sorry I also meant to say i don't know anything about Group B Strep. Frustrating it has given you a UTI. Might be worth posting a thread on the Pregnancy board - you might be more likely to get information from people who have already been through it? X

@BadBadBeans thank you for your lovely message. And thank you to everyone else who has kindly posted - it's actually really comforting when hardly anyone has known in real life and everyone is carrying on as normal. Started to lose some bright red blood whilst at the EPU so my 'hope' now is that I miscarry without the need for any intervention. Sorry to be depressing - I really do hope you all continue to feel very sicky  and have healthy pregnancies.

@hellotoyellow so sorry to read your news too. I know it's not over until the fat lady sings but if she does I'm here to be a virtual pillow for you to shout into. It's so sad and horrid - I don't really know what to do with myself to be honest. Thinking of you.

Will miss you all - I know it's only been a few weeks on here but it's such a nice group. X

@Potkettleblack2

GBS is a really common bug that lives on our skin and around women's bits and bums especially. It's usually harmless / normal (and competes with thrush which is good!) but can sometimes cause UTI. Loads of women have UTI in pregnancy and they don't harm the fetus.

There is a chance your GBS will go away if you are re-tested after being treated for UTI. Otherwise, you may be recommended to have antibiotics in your labour, and your baby may be recommended to have extra midwife checks in the first day after it is born. It could mean some extra arrangements if you wanted a home birth so you could speak to your midwife about that.

If your baby or you show any signs of infection around the birth, and your latest results are "GBS positive", then the doctors will more likely to treat your baby with antibiotics. That's because GBS can cause serious infection in babies. But to be honest, if you or your baby have signs of infection around birth then antibiotics are likely anyway! GBS is very common, it doesn't affect most babies.

Hope that helps!

Thank you all, still coming out in drips and drops but not enough for a full pad yet- so feeling ever so slightly more positive, not sure if that’s the lull before the storm as it were though- I know that I have two gorgeous healthy girls already so it must be all the more heartbreaking to those of you on your first :(

I am remembering all that swimming yesterday and wondering if I overdid it, it could be my cervix just needs a rest or could be the worst case scenario, moping about and worrying isn’t going to help either way I suppose —a large glass of wine might but such is life! —

toasterstrudle you are more than entitled to have a moan and groan too, sickness is debilitating and affect (effect?) your day-to-day life! Nobody’s worries are less valid because someone has bad news. The world doesn’t stop turning unfortunately, it just seems like your little corner of the world has.

badbadbeans have you tried spatone? I was given some ginormous dose of ferrous sulfate last pregnancy and it clogged me up something horrendous, spatone is much kinder to the old digestive system!

Sending love to all those that need it tonight x

@TheImprobableGirl Fingers crossed it's still only drips. Perhaps you've strained something and it's caused a little bleed? Hope that's the case.

I've busted out my maternity jeans today. They're a bit big but at least they fasten, unlike my normal jeans. Have been getting by so far with stretchy tights and loose dresses but all my tights are in the wash today and I'm going out so can't just lash on my yoga pants! 🙈 Feel a touch ridiculous but c'est la vie!

@TheImprobableGirl That should've said fingers crossed it's still only drips or gone entirely.

Do prawn cocktail crisps for breakfast is ok .. right ?

So not do

It has slowed right down overnight, nothing at all on the pad this morning, really hoping for the best! Also EPU just rang and they have a cancellation tomorrow morning at 9:20, which is amazing. I can just feel today is going to get better and better.
Happy Thursday y’all

@TheImprobableGirl got my fingers crossed for you

@confuddledconfuddle yeah, fine. Whatever works.

@confuddledconfuddle prawn cocktail should never be eaten at ANY time of the day. I have my eye on some cheese and onion McCoy’s though

@confuddledconfuddle Totally acceptable as breakfast. Mine was two bags of Wotsits yesterday.

@TheImprobableGirl Really pleased to hear that and so glad you can get a scan tomorrow. Got everything crossed for you.

@TheImprobableGirl glad to hear you've got an earlier appointment and hope bleeding doesn't get worse.

@confuddledconfuddle yep totally acceptable! I was eyeing up a mini cheesecake that is in the fridge but resisted!

@Theimprobablegirl that sounds hopeful that it's slowed down, glad you've got an earlier appointment too.

At the moment I think eating anything that will stay down is the way forward @confuddledconfuddle

I feel dreadful today, I've been awake since 3am feeling like I'm about to be sick. But not being sick at all. I'm at the point where I think it might make me feel better. I can't face any food, or tea even 😢.

Of course today DS has been running at 200% since he woke up at 6 and I just can't keep up. Today is going to be a long one.

Sorry to complain, but no one irl knows aside from DH and I'm sure that's not helping either!

@TheImprobableGirl great news about it slowing down and getting an appointment for tomorrow. Not long to wait.

@confuddledconfuddle now I want prawn cocktail crisps!

Just had my booking in appointment with my mw - she asked what my preference would be for giving birth this time as I had an emcs last time. I said I'd like an elective section and explained why and she said 'good on you!' So that's a relief. Have to have an appointment with the 'birth choices midwife' at about 22 weeks and then will be referred to the consultant and should have an appointment at 34 weeks where the csection will be booked. So feeling quite good about all that.

@LastNightsMakeUp oh that is good news. My dd was elcs and I would prefer another this time round. My dm has my head pickled that 'just because you want one doesn't mean you'll get one'. Hopefully the process is as simple here.

Wow, that's brilliant that your mw was so understanding, @LastNightsMakeUp. I mentioned an emcs to my mw because I had such a bad experience giving birth last time. She said that although it's my decision in the end, the care team would likely try to discourage me from it as I haemorrhaged so badly last time and the risk of bleeding is slightly higher with a section. Hopefully I'll be able to discuss it when I have my referral to the consultant mw.

*elcs

Fingers crossed for all of you who need it today, it's such an anxious time!

I had my booking in yesterday, agreed I should be ok for a homebirth if all goes like last time. My DP has agreed to it, he thought that homebirth meant no midwife just us at home so I realise now why he was so against it at first! When I explained that I will actually get professional care and then we can just go to bed afterwards he was all for it

Fx for you @TheImprobableGirl

Anyone else insatiably hungry? I'm so hungry my stomach hurts, but I don't want to keep eating and put in loads of weight in my first trimester...

@LastNightsMakeup I want your midwife!!!!!! Mine wouldn't even let me finish a sentence when I said I wanted an ELCS let alone encouraging me. Grrr!! So glad she was understanding and heard you out as they should.